I just found out my daughter is going to be asked by her boy friend to marry him. But before he does, he wants to talk with me and ask my permission. I respect his wanting to ask my permission before he "pops the question"
He is ten years older than my daughter, [30] and I have met him once. He is not from our community and I do not know that much about him.
Here is my question, What questions should I be prepared to ask of him when we do have the "talk?"
I would suggest just talking and getting to know him better. Ask him about himself, but don't make it into a interrogation. It already sounds like he's half way decent since he has the courage to ask your permission first. Not a lot of guys do that nowadays. Some questions I can suggest:
Where'd did you grow up? What are/were your parents like? What are some of your interests? Get to know him and base your decision on that. I would try to avoid questions like, "Why are you good for my daughter?", "Why do you want to marry my daughter?", etc. But do what you feel the most comfortable doing. If you "must" know the answers to those questions, ask them.
You might even want to consider having a small get together of you, your daughter and his family so you can get to know them all. After all, if they do get married they're going to be a part of your life.
Best Wishes.
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Hey! Ummmm, ok here's my story. I dislocated my knee on May 24,2004. And sometimes when I run around I feel like my knee is dislocated again. But it's not. Is that normal? !~*Steph*~!
I had sort of the same problem, but mine was where my ligament that holds the bones together disintigrated. I didn't have a cast, but I wear a brace. I was told by my orthopaedic surgeon that it would take two-three years to get full use of the leg back, even after therapy. This might be different for someone younger, since they tend to heal faster than us old folks. You might want to give your doctor a call and ask him/her about your concerns. They might have some suggestions as to why it would be doing this, and/or what you can do to correct the problem. Just remember to keep up strength training in the leg and it should get better over time.
Good luck and best wishes.
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My girlfriend of one and a half years left me for
another guy. She said if I move out the flat she
would break up with me but I moved out anyway
because of her disrespectful children and loafer
brother. She did nothing to rectify the situation
but instead got the first guy she met to move
with her into another flat. is she trying to
spite me and make me jealous or is she just
using another guy to help her pay the rent? She
says she loves me but she hasnt called me for
days now and we havent been out for weeks?
I dont take shit from her children but she is so
soft on them. What should I do? Just play it cool?
If I were in your shoes, I'd be finding me another girlfriend. Here's why:
1.) She sounds like a control freak. And no one should give ultimatums in a relationship.
2.) You have no right to her children. You have no right to disipline her children. And they are her children. They come before you do. If you have a problem with the way she is raising her children, try talking to her about it in a nice way, tell her how you feel about her parenting methods and ways she can improve them. If she doesn't want to change, she isn't going to.
3.) She's got another guy living with her now. No matter if he's there only to help her pay the rent, I would be extremely paranoid and suspisious that she found someone to move in with so fast.
4.) Lack of communication. And I say this almost all the time when giving relationship advice. If there isn't open communication in a relationship it tends to fall apart after a while. And from what you are saying she hasn't even tried to pick up the phone and see how you are. You might want to try reaching out by picking up the phone and asking how her and the kids are getting along.
I know it's hard giving up in a relationship after any long period of time, but it just sounds like you need to be moving on.
Good luck and I hope everything works out for the best.
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I've noticed on some profiles, people have words that move across the page. Someone told me to type marquee with around it, type what I wanted to say, and then type marquee with around it again, and I did that, but then when I looked at my page..EVERYTHING on my page was moving...How do I get only the things I want to move to move? HELP!
Thanks!
-Nik!
Fern is correct in saying that you needed to end the tag. To put a marquee where you want it you would type it like this (without the spaces of course):
< marquee > Look at me I'm scrolling! < /marquee >
It's like any HTML tag that you do. Whenever you open something you have to close it or everything will do it.
Good Luck!
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I don't think I react to things the way I should,
I lost my father in 97 and I didn't cry all the much and I loved my father very much, then in 2002 I lost my Brother to A Car Crash, and I just don't think I was as sad as I should have been I know you guys are probally think I am cold hearted and made of stone. I fear the same I mean I feel regular emotions like LOVE and anger, and Joy. But when it comes to sadness I just kinda of go numb is something wrong with me, or am I just worrying too much?
Everyone deals with grief in a different way. Some people hold it in, some people don't. I don't think there's anything wrong with you, it's just how you manage your sadness. I wouldn't let it worry you too much unless it's effecting how you live day to day.
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my plant, gromie, just winked at me. it kidna scares me. i am really upset with his behaviors! what should i say to my naughty naughty venus fly trap? should i tell him to be a good boy, or just ignore the cute little guy?
Feed it some flys!
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My boyfriend is very experienced sexually. He's 16 and I'm 15. We've been going out for a while now but have broken up a couple times before. The most important thing is though, is that we love eachother to death. He wants to go farther than what I'm comfortable with right now. I've always been a good girl and haven't done anything really 'sexual' with a guy. He wants to finger me, which I know deep down I am not ready for. How do I tell him this without sounding like a scared little girl or sounding dumb? All my friends have done these things with guys, but I do not want to give into pressure like that.
Don't give into the pressure. If he loves you as much as you say he does then he will respect your wishes and wait until your are ready. If he pressures you more after you talk to him about it, and I do suggest that you tell him how you are feeling uncomfortable about it, then he isn't worth being your boyfriend or even your friend. Love should be given and taken unconditionally, which means you shouldn't have to give into things that make you uncomfortable.
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hey you know how on most peoples advice columns they have their name and age and where they live and all that stuff on the side. how do you do that? please help.
Click on Profile Settings in the left hand menu and fill in your information. After you fill all that out, click ok and it should then appear in your advice column unless you are using a edited style that has taken out the info tag.
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but i was wondering how you can make the salsa out of those jars for like tostitos and stuff not as spicy cause we bought medium spicy but its to hot for me and my mouth is on fire!!! but its sooo good so i wana know if theres a way that you can make it not as spicy. thanks.
If you have any fresh or canned tomatoes in the house you could always dice them up and add it to a really spicy salsa to take the kick out of it. If you don't have extra tomatoes lying about the house you could always have a cold glass of milk handy and take a sip after each bite, drinking water will only make it hotter where milk will cut the burn.
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How do you take a pregnancy test like at home? No im not pregnant im just wondering.
You go to the store, buy a pregnancy test, then follow the instructions on the box.
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wat are good sites for quotes besides fire hot quotes?
http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=quotes
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whats a hover link?
I'm going to assume your asking what a hover link is in CSS (Cascading Style Sheets). A hover link is a link that when your mouse goes over it it changes in one way or another. For example, on this site, the top menu options are white when you look at them, but when you point at them or go over them with your mouse cursor it turns a pale yellow color. This would be the most basic element to use when using a hover link.
Some other effects would be, for example, the left hand menu of this site. See how it's black when you just look at it, but when you mouse over the link it not only changes color, but is underlined. You can also change the background color of the link when you mouse over. The only way I know how to make hover effects is by using CSS, but if there's anyone else out there with information how to do it differently, I myself would be willing the learn.
And, just as an after thought, if you are using IE (internet explorer) you can change the hover link colors by going to: Tools-->Internet Options-->In the Internet Options dialog box: General tab-->Colors button-->Click the Use hover color check box-->Click the Hover button-->In the Color dialog box, under Basiccolors: Click the color you want-->Click OK-->Click OK twice.
Hope this helps.
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Sorry.. didn't know which catagory to put this in.. but here goes:
Its kind of hard to explain this.. but like when something upsets me.. at first im fine with it.. like i can accept it.. but just a little while later.. i get depressed about it. Like seriously depressed. Or sometimes.. i can be in a great mood.. and just all of a sudden.. im depressed for no reason at all.
One of my friends said it could be a disease called Bipolar... Does anyone know anything about bipolar? like what it is.. and what it does to you.. or anything like that...
Or if u could find me a good site about it.. i'd appreciate it!
THANKS!!
http://www.mentalhealth.com/dis/p20-md02.html
Bi-Polar Disorder, also known as Manic Depression, is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. Your best bet, if you think you may have it, is setting up an appointment with a psychologist, psychiatrist, or psychoanalysist. They can put you in testing and determice whether or not you are afflicted with Bi-polar or if it's another type of mental health disorder.
It can range from extreme depression for a long period of time to mania for a period of time. The site above will give any and all information to help you learn and get a better understanding of the illness.
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Everytime i leave my 1 year old puppy alone, like when i take my brother to work in the mornings, and there is nobody up to watch him, he always gets into things. Like this morning, he chewed my clock, and my medicine *was way out of reach* was in the floor chewed on. Thankfully he didnt get any of it though. My question is, 1. how can i stop him from chewing on things that he is not suppost to, and 2. is there other way other than locking him up in his carrier?
There are several things you can do. First there's obedience training. You would want to do this if you aren't planning to crate train your dog. If training is impossible or out of your price range I would recommend locking him up when you are not there. This doesn't mean sticking him in his carrier but putting him a safe place like basement, bathroom or outside in a secure yard.
If you are having problems controlling his actions when you are at home you might try putting him on a leash and dragging him along with you through the house. That way you know what he is doing at all times and it's easier to train him not to chew things up.
He's still a puppy, and it's in their instinct to chew. Treat your dog to some pig ears or rawhide to stave off his urge to chew other things that he shouldn't.
Good luck
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Okay here's the deal: (sorry if it's long but i really need advice w/ this)
three years ago i dated this guy Dave for three weeks. after those three weeks he dumped me cause i wouldn't sleep w/ him. loser. anyway; i moved on and started dating his friend. almost three years later we're stil together. they're not friends anymore tho.
so lately wherever we go and Dave's there, he'll totaly hit on me and he won't leave me alone. if we're at a party he'll follow me around all night asking me stupid questions and completely stalking me. this weekend we were at a party and my boyfriend and i were just in a corner talking and kissing and he comes up right between us and starts a convo w/ me. my boyfriend thinks it's funny cause Dave is being such a loser. my boyfriend wants me to tell him off but i just can't be mean to someone, i've never ben able to tell anyone off but i CAN'T stand Dave. usualy when he's talking to me i just walk away and totaly ignore him but he doesn't get the hint. what would you do?
You don't have to tell him off in order for him to leave you alone. Try telling him that you are feeling uncomfortable about the way he acts around you (i.e. "You know what, Dave, I'm not interested. Not interested in you, not interested in you following me around, not interested in your conversations. So please! Just leave me alone."). Also, talk to your boyfriend about it and let him know how uncomfortable you feel. Worse case scenario, you tell Dave that if he doesn't stop following you around you will go to the police and have a restraining order drawn up.
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Ok, technically, this SHOULD be under some sort of Technology thing, but they didnt have a sub-category for it.
Ok, the last couple days, someone will leave me a voice mail, but I can't access it, because when I dial my voice mail I get a busy signal and the screen says "Call Failed: Network Busy"
Last night at almost midnight I was able to finally get through after shutting my phone off then on again. Today, however I have no such luck.
Any suggestions?
My suggestion would be, either call your provider (i.e. Cingular, Verizon, AT&T,etc.) or call the phone manufacturer (i.e. Nokia, Samsung, Motorola, etc.). Your best bet would be to start with the provider first just in case they are having network problems.
Good Luck.
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Sorry it's long, but it's VERY important to me.
Okay, me and a bunch of friends were at this party, and there was alcohal (i'm a freshman in high school, 13 years old.) Well anyways, my boyfriend can drive, but he decided to leave his car there(it was a friends house.) and so we decided to split the cost for a taxi ride, about 10 of us squeezed into a taxi, well my REALLY good friend, didn't seem drunk, but we offered countless times for her to ride with us, she kept saying NO, so we gave her the walk test, and she did in a strait line. So since we couldn't talk her into it, she drove home, and ended up driving off a mountain, and she died. Well I felt so bad, and guilty, and I still do. So now I'm trying to stop drinking, after what happened, I decided I better stop. Well I was wondering, I want to get over the guilt, and stop drinking. One of my teachers knows that I drink, and I was talking, with an attitude saying it's not like you can die... and the next day my friend passes away. She is the only adult that I know, but I'd feel really akward talking about it to her, and I wouldn't know how to bring it up, neither of my parents know, and I don't want to upset them, I mean I'd get my butt whooped. So does anybody have any Ideas what I can do? None of her friends besides me want to talk about it, my boyfriend will change the subject each time we bring it up. She was sort of a loner, and she didn't go to my school, niether did my bf, and I met her through him.
So if anybody has any ideas, I'm open to everything EXCEPT telling my parents, or naybers!
Thanks in advance for any help, this is VERY hard for me, so please TRY to be sympathetic.
I'm very sorry for your loss. I would suggest talking to maybe a guidance counselor, youth group leader, social services, ANYONE. I know you don't want to talk to your parents about it, but you might want to anyway, since you need help and that's what parent's are there for (most of the time, don't really know what your home life is like). You might also want to try finding a group counseling session to sit in on and maybe joining as well.
P.S. As per your comments in the rating: Look into the counseling, they can point you in the direction of places like Alcoholics Anonymous, Al-non, etc. for your age group.
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my shoulder came out during my football game yesterday ( we still won cause were beast like that ) but anyway how long do u think it will talk for me to be able to play again it will talke atleast a week ( league rules u go off tot he hospital u gotta miss a game )i also gotta concusion form it
I hope you are seeing a doctor for your injury, being that even though you might have popped your shoulder back in you might have tissue damage that needs to be treated. Seeing as you have a concussion on top of that, a doctor is a must.
If everything turns out okay and you don't have any permanent damage, I would say a couple weeks of rest should do you good. But you should really go see a doctor and listen to them about it.
Hope you feel better soon.
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ok this questions are all about my birthday party they ARE seperate questions but they relate to my up coming birthday.
I think this year im going to just take a few people out to a place to eat or invite a bunch of people and tell them to bring like 20 - 30 dollers. ( its my 15th birthday btw )
1. what are some good places to go to eat ex: applebees. and that doesnt cost like 100 dollers by the time ur done eatin! but isnt like a fast food place! likk mcdonalds.
2. how many people should i invite
3. should i just go out to eat and then home and have cake or what?
thanks! and tell me if you think this is a good idea!!
1. Outback, Chili's, Olive Garden, Pasta House, any Chinese Buffet, O'Charley's, anykind of neighborhood grill, etc. Or why not have a BBQ at home?
2.If you are going to go with the restaurant route I'd only invite four-six friends. If you have a food party at home invite as many as you want and have everyone bring something to eat.
3. Do what you are most comfortable with, most restaurants have nifty desserts to choose from, so you probably wouldn't even want a cake.
It's a good idea if you have a limited amount of friends or only want to spend your special day with the fewest amount of people possible. And remember if you take a large party to a restaurant to tip at least 20%.
Have a good Birthday!
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I am looking to buy some fun socks, with simple patterns and stipes, mostly black and grey. So far I have found that 1 pair cost 3-7 dollars, even at Target. Does anyone know where I can find really cheap socks?
You might want to try the dollar stores in your area. I know some of them around where I live carry socks. You might want to try outlet stores, Big Lots, or resell it shops/thrift shops as well.
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