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New Son in Law
I just found out my daughter is going to be asked by her boy friend to marry him. But before he does, he wants to talk with me and ask my permission. I respect his wanting to ask my permission before he "pops the question"
He is ten years older than my daughter, [30] and I have met him once. He is not from our community and I do not know that much about him.
Here is my question, What questions should I be prepared to ask of him when we do have the "talk?"
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You know..the first thing going through my mind is one does he love her, is she happy with him and can he support her.
Everything else is between them. The age thing only matters later on in life..about babies and money and stuff like that.
To me..the fact that he want to talk to you first..shows that he really respects you and..well i think it is a huge plus. Let HIM talk..in the end it is UP to your daughter.
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you can ask him about where he from?? how he was raise? does he really love yor daughter?? and here a tip from my dad to mention that your daughter is the most important thing to u. and u expected him to treat her with respect and like a queen. and believe me that day alot of question will come to your mind. just be honest and ask away. just be polite but honest. and hey he make your daughter happy that the important thing. right??
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hey..well i would want to know his background and wut he does for a living..get to know about his familiy and if you could have a police report done on the guy....just to be safe you know..but other than that..just ask him about him..and wut his plans are for the fututre..if they sound legit then hell...give him a shoot..you naw mean? well peace out!
--PinoyBoi
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Well what questions have you been scratching your head about? Don't be afraid and ask!
Ask him why he chose your daughter and then quietly laugh in your head at how much he will be so nervous on the inside, that he will treat it like a job interview.
I'm just joking.
Be prepared to ask about financial preparations of the wedding as well as simple questions like why he wants to marry your daughter.
Since there is a huge age gap, ask him if he is willing to face the troubles that such a relationship/marriage will face?
Ask him about his background. (Religion, country of birth, etc..)
What really matters is what your daughter thinks of him.
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I think one of the first things you should do is let him know how much you respect his asking you, that will sort of break the ice. You want to try and keep it casual, you don't want him to feel as if you're interrogating him for information. I'm only 20, and I'm a girl, but if I was in your position, a couple things I would need to know is what his job was, and where he thought he and my daughter would live. Besides that I'd just ask him a few getting to know you questions. Where'd you grow up, where'd you go to school, did you always want to be a *insert job title here*. Just so I could get better acquainted with him.
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I would suggest just talking and getting to know him better. Ask him about himself, but don't make it into a interrogation. It already sounds like he's half way decent since he has the courage to ask your permission first. Not a lot of guys do that nowadays. Some questions I can suggest:
Where'd did you grow up? What are/were your parents like? What are some of your interests? Get to know him and base your decision on that. I would try to avoid questions like, "Why are you good for my daughter?", "Why do you want to marry my daughter?", etc. But do what you feel the most comfortable doing. If you "must" know the answers to those questions, ask them.
You might even want to consider having a small get together of you, your daughter and his family so you can get to know them all. After all, if they do get married they're going to be a part of your life.
Best Wishes.
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weLL yOu shOuld deff. asK wHy is hE wOrthy asKinq for yOur dauqhters hand in marriaqe. He seems OKKKAAYYY since he`z askinq permission butttt since yOu dOn`t knOw that much abOut him I think maybe yOu should spend a little time with him. When yOu talk to him, dOn`t make him chanqe his mind abOut anythign just let him knOw you want what`sz best fOr yOur dauqhTer..-Tiffany
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