I'm a 20 year old guy who lives in Liverpool, England.. I'm an IT Dev and Support guy for a small local firm.. I've signed up for this because I'd like to do my little bit to help people through their problems.. I hope my answers are okay :(
I'm believe in equality for all.. no exceptions :)
To e-mail me, make sure you put Jafi98 in the subject line somewhere to avoid spam filters..
Website: Ckwop.me.uk - Blog and other stuff
E-mail: ckwop@hotmail.com
Gender: Male
Location: Liverpool, England.
Occupation: IT Dev and Support
Age: 20
Yahoo: CKWOP
MSN: ckwop@hotmail.com
Member Since: October 16, 2003
Answers: 11
Last Update: December 5, 2004
Visitors: 1645
|
| |
|
I have sung since I was about 6 or 7 years old. I have never been too bad at it but I have always lacked in confidence. I can sing fine on my own when no one is around to hear me, but when it comes to singing in front of people, I can't. My friend and I have to sing a verse from a song together for a christmas concert. My friend always has a sore throat so she is generally out of tune and she tends to start laughing. I then have to stop singing because I am too nervous to sing alone. How can I over come this fear of singing in front of people, so that if my friend laughs in the concert, I can just carry on? (link)
|
Bite the bullet and just do it. I used to play Clarinet for my high school band and the only way to defeat nerves is to meet it head on.
Don't be so nervous.. your not likely to be bad and you'll be a damn sight better than most of the people in the audience.
Simon.
|
|
how do you get a guy to like you if you are not a very pretty girl? (link)
|
Who says your not pretty? I mean, any guy who judges on looks alone isn't worth having.. It's cliché but it's true: "It's what's inside that counts"
The right guy will come along eventually.. it takes time for them to realise that good looks doesn't translate into a good girlfriend.
Simon.
|
|
What's a good way to meet new people? (link)
|
Meeting new people requires changing your scenery. Go to new pubs or clubs and don't be afraid to strike up a conversation with a stranger.
That's all there is to it really.
Simon.
|
|
I want to dye my hair blue... no... I MUST dye my hair blue! bright blue! the problem is that I have dark hair and I've never dyed it before and I think I have to bleach it blonde first then dye it blue for the color to show up. Is that going to ruin my hair and make it all crackly and nasty? (link)
| |
yes. Bleach before colour. Just use loads of conditioner after the treatment. Be careful though, in my experience, blue tends to fade quite quickly.
|
|
I'm an athiest, but i don't try to force people to believe what I believe. I don't challenge other people's beliefs. I've had this one guy bother me for 5 years about being an athiest. (I go to a PK-12 school distict). He's always asking me why I'm not religious, why I don't believe in God, etc, ect, and so on. i've done everything I can think of, including inflicting bodily harm on him (well - I dropped a book on his head. But I don't even think that hurt him) but he won't stop. how do I stop him? (link)
|
God is a personal thing. God can exist for one person and not another. There is, in my opinion, no such thing as a universal god.
The universe only exists because you're here to observe it. God is existential. If you believe in god, god exists. If you don't believe in god, it doesn't but what one believes about god doesn't detract from another person's beliefs.
The best approach I find, is to reason it with him from his perspective - starting with the premise that god exists.
Try telling him that god gave man the power to choose.. You can choose to acknowledge god or ignore it. If god wanted an army of unquestioning drones.. why bestow us with the power of free will?
Follow it up with the fact that they're are many different religions across the planet. Assuming a god want's to be worshiped.. how do you know to choose the right one? Is Jesus or mohammed right? What about the other religous faiths?
If god's had a purpose for the universe was the creation of a subserviant men then why make it 14-15 billion light years across? Is life really the purpose of the universe?
I'm an athiest too.. I say on the balance of probabilities.. god does not exist. I have no evidence firm evidence on which to support this claim but i'm not alone in that no-one does.
Simon.
|
|
sometimes i feel like my weight is getting to high ...although everone tells me i am not fat i feel it and i dont want it! i cant go running i never am able to keep it up....i cant help my self to foodS! i crave easy how can i solve this without those traits! (link)
|
The first answer is your size and shape don't matter. Humans come all sorts of shape and sizes and people and we should love each other for it. Rather than conform to some sterotype.
Most people, however, don't really like this answer in that it is easier to be one of the many then it is to be unique. So if you want to change I can offer a few tips.
Don't diet to slim.. it causes all kinds of problems (it produces a yo-yo weight loss-gai effect). Extreme diets, such as the atkins diet, could cause long term heath problems.
Change your diet to a healthier balance of the major food groups. A well rounded diet is what you need. Be sure to stablise the volume you eat.
Next, do tonnes of exercise. Swimming is good.. It's low impact and burns alot of energy. Exercise 3-4 times a week for an hour or more. This will increase you metabolism and burn those pounds away.
Exercise is the key. Don't burn yourself out but don't do too little either.
I hope that helps,
Simon.
|
Why do web sites send so many cookies?
I have my browser set to notify me of cookies, and on some sites, I'm clicking "refuse" like 10 or 12 times before I can view the page.
I have lots blocked, but it seems that each site sends its own cookies in addition to those of the ads.
Ugh. (link)
|
Cookies, in my opinion, are a deprecated technology.. Cookies were created because HTTP is a stateless protocol; it can't remember who you are between the times you visit a site. Cookies solve the problem by storing stuff on your local hard-disk. This information is then passed to the site each time you visit it. It can use the saved information to customise content.
Sites tend to store user profiles to in databases these days. Any site that doesn't is a bit silly :)
I suggest you block all cookies :)
Simon.
|
Okay, there are a couple of guys that I like, and I've never had a boyfriend before (I'm a junior in high school). I keep getting hints from other people that they like me, but I just don't have any clue whether or not they like me, and I really am getting tired of trying to listen to people who have no clue what they're talking about when they say that someone likes me. Any suggestions on how I can figure it out for myself without asking them straight out or asking their friends or mine?
(link)
|
Nope.. short of spying or bribing their friends.. :)
To be certain, you have to ask.. but there are a few clues.. Generally, if he pays more attention to you than your peers than that's a good sign.
There is no simple way out i'm afraid. ASK THEM! The worst they can say is NO.
Simon.
|
|
My best friend really upset me tonight. He told me he thinks I slag him off behind his back and stuff, and thinks that I see him as a shallow bastard. None of this is true and I'm really angry about it. I can't talk to him about it either because he says things like "whatever" in response, or just shouts at me and makes me feel even worse. What makes it worse is that when I told him how made me feel he said that I say that all the time and now it's been de-valued. He also said things like "oh it's always you who's hurt" as if i'm the victim, but in this case, how am I meant to feel? I can't feel nothing but hurt and disappointment when I'm being spoken to like that. I hurt him aswell, by joking abotu calling him shallow, I didn't realise it had really got to him and feel really bad about it. I should have known judging by the way he's been feeling about his other friends lately, but he was laughing along with me so I didn't think he was taking it personally. I was really looking forward to spending time with him and watching movies and stuff tonight, and now it's all gone to waste over something completely fabricated. I feel really down and have been crying over it all night. He's my best friend in the world and I hate to see him sad, especially when I'm the cause of it. How can I make him see that people value him as their close friend and that he is an incredible person, with a big heart, and full of kindness, patience, sensitivity and intelligence. (the first 3 are vital when dealing with me..) I just thought I'd ask for some totally unbiased advice.. (link)
|
This person, whoever he is, sounds like he means alot to you..
Sometimes, we can't know the consequences of our actions before we make them. Perhaps he just feel frustrated because his life is filled with things that he feels powerless to fix. The frustration is likely to boil over with people he cares and trusts.
People often laugh to disguise emotion aswell as to release it. As a friend to this guy, you will never get itt right 100% of the time.. so it's all about adjusting. The essence of life is adjustment.
Just offer a supportive ear to him and try to talk to him a sensible and calm way. Clearly, your hurt too and he needs to understand that.. He has a lot of sucking up to do :)
Arguments are never nice but if you get through them then your stronger for them..
Simon.
|
Everybody in my school has already had like 10 boy/girl friends... I've had none. Thats right... zip, zero, zilch! They all say how great it is to be hooked up, and they always have someone to dance with at activity nite. I have nobody!
Sincerely,
BoyCrazy (link)
|
I thought the same at one point in my life.
"I NEED A GIRLFRIEND.. AND I'M A FREAK FOR NOT HAVING ONE"
You already know the answer to this question but your heart wont listen..
"You don't need a boyfriend"
To realise the full implications of this answer takes a long time.. this is part of the adventure of growing up. The problem I find is that the only way to learn what it is to be *you* and why you *don't* need a boyfriend is by having one and realising that it isn't the silver bullet you once thought.
However, this is all water under the bridge.. So let's focus on the task at hand:
======================
Obtaining a boyfriend
======================
You need to first seek out someone who you think might fancy you. Go with your gut.. your gut is probably right (evolution would suggest that we evolved a good sixth-sense for this purpose).
Next, you need to be assertive. Let them know that your confident about yourself and that your proud to be you. Guy's like that.. be forward too.. Ask guys out.. The worst they can say is No.
I'll repeat, the worst they can say is No.
Most guys will be flattered.. Those that aint aren't worth bothering with..
Don't take rejection to hard. Rejection is not an attack on you. The person that rejected doesn't know much about you.
They might reject what they think they know about you.. It just shows a defect in the way you marketed yourself.. not of the product itself.
The key is just to believe in yourself and you should bag a guy quickly..
Simon
|
why does god hate me?
(link)
|
Why should god like you?
Why should god hate you?
God is goes by many different names in many different cultures. God is something personal to you as well as something for everyone.. Some choice to embrace the concept of god.. other's do not.. In the end I don't think it really matters as long as your content
If you believe the notion that god created man in his own image then you can conclude that god *is* you. You are god's reflection. God is all of us. Love yourself and god will love you too.
If you don't believe that.. then take solace in the fact that everyone around you is in the same position. All we have in life is each other.. Friends, Family and lovers are the lifeboats that we cling to in the rough and tumble of this world.. Speak to them if you feel down.. they'll understand..
Simon
|
|