about

I sometimes take long breaks from the site. I'm more than happy to answer anyone's questions, but just make sure they're not too time sensitive. :)

Facts about me:
*happy
*employed
*married
*large extended family
*bisexual
*advanced college degree
*no kids (yet)

advice

I know that 13-year-olds are too young to fall in love. But does that mean you can't say "I love you" to your boyfriend?

Nobody is too young to fall in love. You're not too young to love your family are you? You know very well what love is. At thirteen you won't have problems with love. You'll have problems with hormones and relationships because these things are new to you. Love isn't the only thing necessary to keep people together in a relationship. There needs to be combatibility and committment too, that's why breakups are common among people your age. There's less experience with relationships, it's got nothing to do with love. If you feel love for your boyfriend you should tell him. Here's another example...if you feel happy you don't keep it inside and not tell people about it just because in an hour you might be sad. Happiness is a feeling just like love is. It can come and go even if it will never die. If you love somebody tell them. There's no harm in it and only good can come of it. If you're not sure if you love him you can always tell him that. Say "I think I love you" or something like that. If you don't think you love him yet then it would be a big mistake to say that you do. Don't say "I love you" just because he says it or because you think you're supposed to. I hope I helped and good luck. :)

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I signed up for the school talent show. Suddenly today, I learned that it will be held at the assembly. And it's too late to drop out. I have a terrible case of stage fright. I'm singing a song from THE PHANTOM OF THE OPERA (Wishing You Were...), and it's going to be hard to liven up a beautiful broadway piece next to all the other singers, who are singing stuff like Ice Ice Baby and Alicia Keys. How do I relax?!

Don't worry, everybody will be nervous, even the people singing "Ice Ice Baby" haha. It's very normal to have stage fright, but I can tell you this: once you get up there you'll do just fine. You're singing a much better song than probably anyone at the talent show and you will really impress the judges. Don't liven it up, don't change it at all. People will really appreciate your musical talent. This is a talent show, not something to just fool around in with your friends and lots of people forget that. The audience will probably like "Ice Ice baby", but they will definitely think that you were better. What talent does singing "Ice Ice baby" really show? I don't know if there is a way to completely relax because you'll be nervous no matter what. Try to be as confident as you can. Look for reassurance from your friends and family. Here are my tips for the actual performance. I remember when I used to be on stage I wouldn't look at the audience. I would look at the back wall and that helped a lot. Another thing you can do is bring a prop. A bouquet of flowers to hold would be really great and at the end you can set them on the stage as if setting them on a grave to symbolize what the song is about. You can look at and kind of fidget with them if you get nervous. Pull a flower out and look at it, I dunno, just be creative! I know that you'll do a great job, I can tell just by the song that you chose to sing and how serious and committed you are to this. I wish you the best of luck and I hope you win! :)

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How do you stop being vain?

Liking yourself is different from being vain. Being vain is more of how others perceive you than how you perceive yourself. It's okay and actually very good to love yourself. It's when you start bragging and showing off that you become vain. Other people get really irritated by this. A lot of times people that act vain do it for one of two reasons. Attention is one of them. If someone doesn't get enough attention at home or have low self confidence, they may feel that they need to be vain in order to get what they are lacking. Another reason is because you are trying to be confident or extroverted, which are good traits. You can be confident, extroverted, and love yourself without being vain. I would say in order to stop being vain you would have to make a very conscious effort to stop bragging about yourself and showing off. Other people don't want to hear about how wonderful you are, they already know that! Tell them how wonderful they are, because not everyone has a lot of self confidence and you are bringing other people down by being vain. If you are nice to people and put them above yourself in their eyes they won't think that you're vain anymore and will be nice to you and compliment you back. So, in this way, they'll get compliments from you and you'll get compliments from them, it's a win win situation! I hope I helped and good luck.

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Would you take offense if your gf/bf said that although they find you attractive, they would never want to see a "Picture" of you, or see you in your underwear? I'm sure you can guess of what nature.

My gf said this to me and I felt offended. I don't really know why. I guess it's no big deal, really. We were only kidding around and she said that. I'm pretty insecure about my looks, which doesn't help I suppose. So would you take offense, or am I making a big deal?

A lot of people have a thing against pictures. Girls tend to be more emotional about intimacy than visual. I think the problem here lies with the difference between guys and girls. She didn't mean to hurt your feelings and she does find you attractive. I don't particularly want any pictures of my guy, I would actually think it was a little weird if he wanted to give them to me. However, I think he's very attractive. I feel that intimate stuff like that should be shared when you are with the other person...because I think more emotionally, being a girl. It was right for you to take offense, but she wasn't meaning to offend you. You two just have a little bit of a hard time understanding each other. I think that you should talk about this with her. Tell her how it made you feel when she said that and even though you're pretty sure that she didn't mean it, she hurt your feelings anyways. You two can work this out with nothing more than some good old fashioned communication. I hope you feel better about yourself and good luck!

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hey...alrite well anyone might be able to answer this one. um well i'm on the bball team at my school and we COULD be really good, but we have a bunch of people who wont play as a team. no one passes the ball, or cares about succeeding. we have lost almost every game so far because of this. what can happen so everybody participates, cares, and starts a "TEAM" i'll rate for good and helpful answers thanks

I agree with icey0990. You should talk to your coach about it. It's mostly the coach's fault that the team isn't working together. Your coach needs to hold a meeting and talk to the whole team about working together and caring and everything. Another thing, which is something that YOU can do is help promote team unity. When I used to play sports we'd have team outings. We'd all go out for pizza or go bowling or something just to be together and bond as a team. I hope that your team pulls itself together or it could be a very long season for you. Good luck and whatever happens just keep doing you best even if others aren't.

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15/f

I have been really sick lately with sinus infection. I woke up this morning with really bad chest pains. They are on the front of my body, in between my breasts. They only happen when I take a breath in, the deeper the breath, the sharper the pain, and when I puff out my chest. I'm kind of scared because I thought they would go away, but they arent, and its hard for me to breath. It hurts pretty badly. What could they be? What should I do. Please help me, its getting scary.

Okay...first calm down. Chest pains aren't always bad. It's probably just tightness caused by your sinus infection. I also feel that way if I sleep on my stomach. There are lots of things that can cause chest pain and most of them not harmful to you. However, if it doesn't go away, you should see a doctor just in case. It's probably nothing, but there's no harm in being safe. I hope you feel better soon. :)

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i thought my real dad was in prison but the other day this man came to the door saying he was my dad had my birth certificate and everything im just confuse he said do i want to come out with him to get to know each other. But why has he waited al dis time to come see me im 16 now so do u think i should go and wat would i say to him

DON'T GO ANYWHERE WITH HIM ALONE! Don't even talk to him unless you have another adult with you. He could be a really bad person and not your father at all. It could be a fake birth certificate. Don't trust him until you can talk to your mother. Meeting with him is okay just as long as you have another adult with you. Don't give him any personal information about yourself. Maybe he is your father, but there's a chance that he isn't and you don't want to get hurt!!! I hope everything works out okay and good luck.

EDIT: One more thing...if your dad was in prison what was it for? Even if it IS your father he could still be a very bad person with very bad intentions for you. Please be careful!

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i was dating this guy now first off i really love him. his personality and everything. hes a senior im a freshman. every morning he goes and gets high with a bunch of guys and at school he will ingnore me because he is high and it bothers me and hurts my feelings. because ill stand there be like hello nd he sitting there checking some one out. and then i no he doesnt mean it but when he is high he tends to hurt me like hit me or squeeze me till i bruse he is much bigger than me and muscle im only 5'4" ish and he is likr close to 5'10ish i supose. well i broke up with him yesterday and i miss him and he dont call me no more or anything

Being high is no excuse for hurting you. Drugs don't make a person bad. A bad personality is brought out by drugs. He was abusing you and breaking up with him was the right decision. It will take awhile to get over him, but you will don't worry :) I have faith in you. Love never really dies, but you can find love in so many different people. You need to find someone that you not only love, but who loves you back, and is a better match for you. He's out there, just keep your eyes open and soon enough you'll see an opportunity. I hope I helped you feel at least a little better and good luck!

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My boyfriend tells me he likes me and all this stuff and he like actslike it sometimes but other times he acts like he completly just doesnt care and never talks to me and when i ask him he tells me he likes me and gets mad sometimes when i ask him. but idk does he really like me??!

Of course he likes you, he's going out with you isn't he? If he didn't like you he'd break up with you. I think you need to lay off of him a little. Sometimes guys are shy about talking to girls and it takes some time for them to open up with you even if they are dating you. Give him some time and be patient with him. He'll come around. If you keep bothering him about it and getting upset he might break up with you because of THAT and you don't want something like that to happen. I hope I helped and good luck!

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Okay, i'm 13. I like my friends Josh and John.They are both 13 too. John has a girlfriend but Josh doesn't. Sometimes I think Josh likes me because one time when we were on the way home from playing a concert from school it was around 9p.m and I was tired. I sat with Josh and started falling asleep. Josh then started to hold my hand and tell me to lay my head on his shoulder. In school he would give me hugs and sit with me. The only problem is that I don't know if he likes me and I'm the kind of person who is shy to say that kind of stuff to guys. What should I do? Does he like me?

I don't see how John has anything to do with what you said...do you like him too? Anyways OF COURSE Josh likes you. A guy doesn't hold your hand and let you put your head on his shoulder if he doesn't. I think that you should ask Josh if he likes you. If he says no then that means he's not ready to date you yet. If he says yes, that means that he is and he probably will very soon. I know it's hard to ask someone a question like that especially because you're shy, but if you don't you might miss out on your only chance with him! He won't be single forever. I hope I helped and good luck.

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Can anyone tell me a personal experience they've had with dealing with tolerance? Why is it important to be tolerant of others? The reason I'm asking this question is because I have to write an essay and I would like your input on this so I can include it in my examples. All 5's to anyone who give serious, thoughtful answers.

My cousin has epilepsy and to keep her from having seisures, she is on medications that make her mentally retarded. I love her to death and have known her my whole life so things that she does don't affect me in the same way as they do others. Sometimes I see people looking at and staring at us when we're together and I know that they probably think that we are lesbians because she holds my hand and stuff. She's been in a situation where she was almost taken advantage of sexually, and I've seen people that get very irritated with her when she hugs them and hangs all over them. They don't understand how she is and are afraid of her in a way. I think that people need to be more tolerant of the handicapped. When an old woman is walking slowly in front of them, they just need to be patient and understanding. Who's to say they won't be in the same situation one day? Who's to say they won't have a mentally handicapped child? It really bothers me when people make fun of the mentally retarded because they're not stupid, they know that they're different and it bothers them. It's not something that they can help or change and they shouldn't be judged or punished for who they are. I hope I helped and good luck.

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I do not understand the double standard that a guy cannot say, "No" to sex with out the being deemed as having problems.

In my last three relationships the women have left me because I have wanted to take the relationship slowly. Each time it has centered around the fact that I have said, "No" to intercourse.

In the last two relationships I explained before it went anywhere that I would not engage in intercourse until I felt our relationship was solid and committed. Each of the women said they thought this was wonderful and understood. I made it clear up front because the first woman I said no to was hurt and rejected. We talked about it and she said she was ready and that she had never had anyone say no to her. This is why I explained to the next two, up front, front how I felt. I do not want to hurt anyone.

When the foreplay began and it went no further than oral sex they become upset and angry with me. In the second and third relationship this has happened after only two months. I do not want to have intercourse until I am sure that we know each other well enough and that the possibility of a future exists. One that might lead to marriage. I am at that point in my life where I would like to settle down and have a wife and family. It seems as though they do not believe I am serious because they attempt to take it further each time we are together. I have to keep saying, "NO". They have asked me if I was gay, impotent, or just didn't like sex. Each time I am made to feel as though I have a problem or something is wrong with me. None of these things are true. After this happens a wall builds between us until no communication takes place and then the relationship ends.

Please help me understand why it is wrong for me wanting to wait just because I am a guy.

It's not wrong at all. My boyfriend is the same way and has had problems with it in the past. I think that abstaining from sex for the emotional as well as physical consequences is a very mature decision and a very good idea. You just need to find a girl that wants you for who you are more than she just wants sex. Just as there are guys out there that don't want sex just yet, there are girls out there who care about nothing else. You will find someone don't worry. Don't change yourself, you're a great guy, I can tell. Good luck!

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I have been involved with a guy for over 2 years. We have a near perfect relationship. He is my best friend and the person I know God sent to me to spend the rest of my life with. My boyfriend says he feels the same way. We recently graduated from college and were lucky enough to have found jobs in the same city. We have been living together for over eight months and especially the last three months, we couldn't be happier. I now find myself constantly thinking about marriage and looking at dresses and engagement rings. Is that normal?
He says that he is ready to marry me but he doesn't want to spend the money it cost to buy me an engagement ring. The ring that I have chosen cost $3000 and he claims that is too much to spend on a ring. I told him that I don't care how much he pays for a ring as long as he puts a lot of thought in the ring he chooses. Lately, he constantly reminds me of the $3000 ring and makes me feel as if it is my fault that engagement rings are so expensive. What should I do or say to him to convince him that I just want a nice ring? Also, what can I do to convince him that this is not a time to be a cheap-skate and that a decent ring will cost over $1000?

It's very normal to be thinking about a wedding and be looking at dresses, but I think this is more of an issue of a greedy, materialistic girlfriend than a cheapskape boyfriend. $3000 is a LOT of money. It's not the expense of the ring, it's what's it means. I actually told my boyfriend that I don't want him to spend over $100 on an engagement ring and it was his decision if he wanted to spend more. It is his decision what he wants to get you, don't pick out a ring and tell him to get it. Sure, go ahead and look at them, that's fun, but don't tell him he has to get a certain one for you in a certain price range. Is it fair that he has to spend $3000 on you and gets "nothing" in return? Don't say it's his job or his role because that's ridiculous. You guys are young. You just graduated from college. You don't have a lot of money. If you want him to get you a ring that's that expensive you're going to have to wait like 5 years to get it or chip in and help him pay for it since you already picked it out for him anyways. Isn't getting married more important to you than a ring you'll wear for maybe a year? I think you need to rething your relationship and make a list of your priorities. I want you to read what you wrote again and think about how materialistic you really sound. I know you're not a bad person and I understand your concerns. Please though, think about how unrealistic you are being and how this may affect your "perfect" relationship very negatively. I don't want him to break up with you because of this! I hope I helped and I'm sorry if I sounded mean. I think that sometimes the best advice is what people don't want to hear. Good luck.

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for one and a half years. He still has his exgirlfriend's engagement ring in his drawer. When I ask him what he is going to do with it he just tells me he don't know. He says, "what should I do with it?" I am sick of looking at it. She has caused so many problems for us. I just want the ring to be gone. He says he doesn't want to just give it away because it cost too much money. At this point I am ready to throw the piece of metal in the dump. What would you suggest to do with it.

The ring really isn't a big deal. It was nice of her to give the ring back to him. You shouldn't be upset at him about it, you should look at it with a more practical angle. He's with you and he loves you. His ex means nothing to him and neither does the ring. What kind of problems can a "piece of metal" really cause? It is just a piece of metal as you said so yourself. Is it okay for it to bother you? Absolutely. It should. But is it okay for it to cause problems? NO! It's not worth it! I don't understand why you haven't talked to him about selling it. There's no reason to keep it around or give it away because it's worth money! What's the difference if it's in his drawer or if he gives it away? He's not getting money for it either way. Point that out and have him bring it to a jeweler and see how much he can get for it. If it still seems like he wants to keep it for some reason DON'T GET MAD. Try to be understanding even if you aren't. Pretend if you must. Be nice about it and things will get done. Tell him that he can take it to a jeweler and see how much money he can get for it, he doesn't have to sell it back right then and there. He can think about it and talk about it with you. Just accept that he still has it and be nice and encouraging about it even if it does bother you. It's okay if it bothers you, it would be pretty weird if it didn't. I hope that you can get him to sell it and good luck!

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I've been trying to figure this out since I've been with my boyfriend for the past 2 months. It's a new relationship but we feel like we've known each other all our lives. He is the greatest guy I've ever met - handsome, funny, smart, sweet, loving, sexy, treats me like queen. But the thing, before we got together, I NEVER would have thought I was his type. I'm a regular girl, take care of myself, care about people, not a hot babe or anything but I'm alright. So anyhow, I feel insecure to be with him because with how hot and great he is, he's bound to find a hot and great girl. Therefore, I find myself very very skeptical about this relationship lasting. I've talked to him and believe me, he reassures me like crazy that he wants to be with me and feels like he can love me forever. He really does have a good head on his shoulders. But what does add to it, is that he has a lot of female friends as well - all are just long time friends, but these girls are great as well, and I feel like he's bound to fall for one of them soon. It's so frustrating to be with such a great guy and not feel like you're the centre of his world (even when he treats you like it). What can I do?

It's very very natural to feel that way. I felt it and sometimes still do feel it with my boyfriend. He's just so great I feel like I can never be as good as he is. He could get any girl he wanted and there are a lot of girls out there that are better looking and smarter than me and all that jazz. The thing is, he's going out with you so you must be something special yourself. It doesn't matter what you or anyone else thinks, it's what he thinks. You are the best girl in the world to him, that's why he's dating you. He thinks about you and views you in the same way that you view him. That's what makes love so special. Nobody's perfect, but they can be perfect together. Don't worry about him breaking up with you. That kind of worry can actually cause a breakup! Be happy, feel special, and feel lucky because you are...and so is he. :)

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I have been with my boyfriend for 1 1/2 yrs. We moved in together about 4 months ago. And I asked him before I agreed to move in with him if he thought he loved me enough to ever marry. He said yes. But since we have moved in together I am scared he will never ask me. How do I know if he ever will or not?

If you don't break up he'll ask eventually. I think what you should do is talk about marriage with him. Don't ask him if you're going to get married just talk about how things would be if and when you do get married. Talk about future plans, the wedding, anything like that. This will probably inspire him and you can slowly get into talking about when you want to get married and such. Take it slow, but talking about stuff like this is important. Don't expect him to do all the work. Let him know that you're ready to be engaged. It's not all up to him, you're as big a part in the relationship as he is. Good luck and I hope everything works out for you! :)

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16/F
Well, I am currently a junior in high school and my schedule is jammed packed. I go to work (i tutor), go home to do my homework and if by some miracle, make it to bed before 2:30 in the morning and then wake up at five for early morning classes. I am currently taking: AP US History (early morning), Honors Chemistry, Accounting, Honors Algebra 3, Spanish 3, Band and Honors English.
So my question is, how do I deal with all the stress...or I guess, what are some ways to deal with the stress besides what I do...which is tone everything out while drawing, listening to music that really doesn't help my situation (Getting Away With Murder by Papa Roach) and just sitting somewhere and balling like a baby. I need other ways to deal with this, and my mind is drawing a blank. Thanks in advance.

-signed-
stressed to kill

That's a tough schedule. I think that you should talk to your guidance counselor about how you feel and see if you can get out of one of those classes. Don't put yourself in that kind of situation next year, just take it easy. You don't need to take all these AP classes. Even if you are smart and everything, you need to have a schedule that you can handle. Other than that, the best way that I've found to deal with stress is exercise. Remember that you don't have to aim for a 100 in every one of these classes. It's okay to aim for an 80. It took me a long time to learn this and to accept it because I used to be a lot like you. I had to do my very very best. There's a difference from doing your best and being your best. DOING your very very best isn't healthy. You need to BE your best. To be your best you need to get sleep, relax, and have fun, as well as do your work and get good grades. Good grades - not perfect grades. I know this probably sounds really dumb to you, and it sounded really dumb to me when someone first told me this, just think about it and consider it. You are overextending yourself and that's not good. Christmas is coming up and you'll have some time off. Use that time to relax not to study. Christmas break will help a lot with the stress you have, but it won't solve the problem. If you don't want to be so stressed, you have to change. Not your personality or your attitude, just your actions. You're having a hard time being your best because you're doing too much. I hope I helped you and good luck!

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I'm 13 && had discharge for almost 2 years. recently it turned to a light brown for about 4 days. now i barely have it. Is it normal to have discharge that long && what does it mean that it was brown for like 4 day?

If it's brown it may have been a very light period. Whether it was or wasn't, don't worry about it and see what happens next month. Good luck!

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Ok, I need some advice. Just words of wisdom to help me out. My ex boyfriend wants to get back together with me, but I am having a hard time trusting him and understanding him. So, I am going to let you read an AIM conversation between us and let me know what you think. Ok? Just give me whatever advice comes your way. Here it is:

Before you read it: Cory left me back in January for a girl named Allyson who is in California. He even went to see her over the summer. WE are in Indiana. Cory is in college and I am taking the semester off to work and be with family after the breakup. Cory was cheating on me with Allyson (telling her that he loved her and had already dumped me) for 4 months before I found out. He says he fell in love with her! He told me that he never loved me like he loved her and all of that. I was devastated. He and I had been together for nearly 3 years!!!!! Well, now, they are over and he has come back to me. He wants me back and is asking for my trust and wants me to be with him. we even made out a week ago and it was AMAZING! But, I can't seem to let the past go. Just read this. Now that you have a little background, you should understand!

Me: Hey baby! How are y?ou
Him: fine
Me: you ok?
Me: busy?
Him: a little
Me: Hmmmm
Me: who are you talking to?
Me: Laugh out Loud
Me: Just kidding
Him: no one
Him: working on this song
Me: Cool Beans Batman!
Me: My hair is BLONDE!
Him: ok, good
Me: you didn't like it dark?
Him: not really
Me: Laugh out loud, ok
Me: Well, its like almost white
Me: Kinda hard to get used to
Him: we'll see
Me: Ok
Me: I found some old pictures of us on a CD
Me: I ripped all of the paper ones
Him: ok
Me: Sorry!
Me: Did you take Allyson's pictures off your phone?
Him: no, just like i didn't take yours off my computer
Me: Hmmmmm....
Me: But hers are Nasty cause she is a whore and all and if you want to forget her, then why keep them?
Him: she's not a whore, and i'm not going to put up with that (insert my name here)
Me: ?
Me: with what?
Him: i am not going to put up with you bad mouthing my ex
Me: And I have reason to NOT do that?
Him: you'll lose some of my respect
Me: Well, ok, I wont bad mouth her, but, um, why keep the pictures?
Him: i want to remember
Me: you want to remember leaving me and hurting me?
Him: i want to remember her, and california, and the good times we had
Me: Why? Why does it mean that much to you if you are over her?
Me: I will tell you why, cause you still love her, and want her, and you dont love me, you only want me cause you and her are over. I am just a rebound! You dont regret ANYTHING that you did at all. You dont even think it was wrong, do you? I get it now!
Him: o my god, i am not going to put up with this shit, night
Me: I am not trying to be rude, I am sorry
Me: I am just hurt cause I see it now
Him: no, you don't
Him: cause that
Him: that's not it
Him: i am tired of your jealous attitude
Him: just fuck it
Him: forget everything that's happened the past couple of weeks between us
Him: bye
Me: How can I not be jealous? You left me for her.
Me: Sorry!
Him: do you WANT to lose me again, cause you are going to..
Me: I am sorry, what is it that I dont understand then?
Him: i just want to remember her! christ!
Him: jesus FUCKING christ
Me: Well, ok, but how would you feel if I had half nude pics of Nick on my phone and would not delete them? I mean, others, ok, I can see that.
Me: Is this really what you want? : forget everything that's happened the past couple of weeks between us
Him: it seems to be what you want
Me: No, it isn't Cory!
Him: then just shut up about the past
Him: i am not going to talk about it anymore
Me: I WANT YOU! But, I cant help it that I am jealous of her, Cory! You cant expect me to just let it go whenever it was something that hurt me as much as it did. You just dont undertsand that.
Me: And I am sorry that you dont want to talk about it, but talking about it helps my insecurities
Me: Talking is what we have to do to fix the problems
Him: well, i just don't want to talk about it
Me: So, you don't want to fix my insecurities? Cause thats about the only way
Me: I mean, you couldn't have expected this to all be easy? I thought we agreed to fix things together. Remember? You even said "Then let me heal you" when I told you that I was still hurt. And, I am!
Me: I can't help that.
Him: i'm just busy, and i want to just forget everything from before
Me: Then why r you mad at me
Me: ?
Him: i'm not
Me: I think you are
Me: I was just trying to talk to you and you blew up. AGAIN
Me: ?
Him: i'm just writing this music
Him: it's star wars
Me: Ok
Me: Well.....
Me: ?
Him: wanna hear it so far?
Me: Cory, I love you sweetie and I want to be with you again and make this work, but your always blowing up on me. And I am sorry that I am insecure, but I NEED YOU TO UNDERSTAND AND HELP ME WITH IT!
Me: Sure
Him: just a sec then
Me: ?
Me: you calling?
Him: yes
Me: You dont sound to happy to talk to me when you call
Him: i am just preoccupied here
Me: ok, so, back on the subject......
Me: Like I said:
Me: Cory, I love you sweetie and I want to be with you again and make this work, but your always blowing up on me. And I am sorry that I am insecure, but I NEED YOU TO UNDERSTAND AND HELP ME WITH IT!
Me: Thats EXACTLY how I feel
Him: well, not much i can do, you just have to get over things, and give it time
Me: get over what?
Him: the past
Me: and what about you blowing up on me?
Him: just cause i am busy
Me: Ok, well, I guess I can try to be more understanding about that, but you need to try not to
Him: ok
Me: But, you already said to foget everything, so.....
Me: and you said that I was going to lose you
Him: just stop
Me: ?
Him: i'm going to bed
Him: i'm tired of this tonight
Me: Ok, well, did you mean what you said?
Him: no
Me: If so, just tell me
Me: Ok, then, why did you say it?
Him: just tired of talking about all this stuff
Me: O My God! I am doing it AGAIN! This is what drove you crazy last time. I nit pick! Every word you say
Him: yeah, exactly
Me: UGH! I am sorry!
Him: going to bed
Him: to bed i said
Me: Laugh Out Loud
Me: Well, Sorry!
Him: night, love you
Him: night
Me: Just give it time, I will stop being so stupid!
Me: And I love you too!
Me: gnite
Him: is away at 11:14:18 PM.

Let me know what you think!

You need to give up on him and stop blaming yourself. You did nothing wrong. He left you for something that he thought was better. Who says he won't do that again if you get back together with him? He seems to be the type of person that is always looking for better and will give up what he has to get it. This time it turned out that it wasn't better and he realized that he messed up. He's not sorry for it, he just wants you back because now you are the best that he can get and because he's also the type of person that needs to be in a relationship. If you don't take him back he'll find someone else, probably right away. Another thing, isn't he the one trying to get back with you? He's throwing more guilt trips you way than he is throwing compliments and apologies. "Once a cheater always a cheater". It's not worth another heartache and he's being pretty mean to you. The pictures don't make any difference in the situation. He can keep them or get rid of them, whatever he wants to do. That shouldn't influence your decision. My boyfriend has pictures of his old girlfriends, not naked ones, but pictures just the same and I've learned not to let it bother me. It's just not important enough. I think it's also a guy thing that girls just can't understand. You're focusing on the pictures when you should be focusing on him, what he's done, and what he will do in the future. There's no way that you can ever fully trust him again and you shouldn't. I know it's tough to get over someone especially after three years, but you need to move on with your life. Get out and get back in college and meet new people. There's tons of great guys out there. If you're not ready for a relationship yet there's no reason why you can't take a little more time off from that, but you do need to get back into college. Don't let this cheater mess with your life as well as with your emotions. Remember that nothing is your fault and there's no reason for you to ever apologize to him about anything. He did wrong, not you. He's not worth all of this! I hope I helped you and good luck.

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hey my mom said i can choose any kind of car for my 2nd car. my last one i wrecked. since ill be getting a new one when i graduate. i want to get just a nice car now. and be able to get a fucking sweet car then. what would you get. ps im a 16 girl. so a girl car.

My mom drives a Honda Civic and I think it's a really great car. It gets good gas mileage, it's really easy to drive, it's small, and I don't think it costs that much money. Good luck!

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