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i am almost 15 and female and my mom wont let me hang out with my best friend any more because she is a bisexual but i am straight and she wont let me talk to her stay the night with her or even go to her house my mom is afraid that she will have sexual thoughts about my and she will wont to get with me but again she is my best friend and i dont like girls like that what should i do please answer.(truthfully) (link)
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Have you came right out and told your
mom all this? If you haven't now is the
time.
I can understand why your mom feels she
is being protective. To her it probably
ranks right up there with having a boy
spend the night. Let her know that you
have no intention of experimenting
sexually with your best friend. Let her
know that she is blowing this whole
thing out of proportion.
I am going to assume you and mom have a
good relationship or she wouldn't know
your friend believes herself to be bi
in the first place. So just talk to her.
Most parents have a real hard time with
how open teens are about sexuality today. :)
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There's these two guys who I'm good friends with.
One of them is my ex, but now my best male friend.
The other one is just a really good friend.
I admit that I flirt with the second one quite a bit, I kinda like him..in THAT way..but I'm not sure at the moment.
Now quite a few people have been asking me whether I'm getting back together with my ex, since we hang around a lot..and I tell them no.
But what's bothering me is that a lot of people have asked me if I'm dating the second guy.
Would you say they assume that from the way we behave towards each other? Would it be a good sign in a way if people thought that we were together?
Thanks. (link)
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Don't let it bother you. Just simply tell
them you're friends, which you are.
It probably wouldn't be wise to let them
think you're together. For one thing it
might get back to him. If he thinks you
are telling them that, it might make him
mad. You want to avoid that.
Tell him what they are asking you. See
what he has to say about it. If he does
have those kinds of feelings for you, he
may get the courage to say so!
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so i'm a junior and i've just been having some issues. I've never been kissed, all my friends are in relationships and i've never dated anyone. The weird thing about this is that i'm actually pretty popular, have a lot of friends and I'm pretty well known. People say I'm gorgeous (natural blonde, blue eyed, thin, nice skin). People also say I'm extremely funny, genuinely nice, intelligent, and have a really good personality. People have been shocked when they found out i've never dated anyone.
Its becoming more and more apparent to me that i'm alone with all my friends being invited to prom (which is seniors only at my school), with them breaking off plans to be with their boys and just family asking questions about my relationships. It really sucks. I don't enjoy it at all. I have the worst luck with guys, they tend to like me, but end up dating my friends. Any advice?
Next issue: there is a senior guy Milo. I actually really don't know him. I've only spoken to him twice, once because hes a student aide and came into my class to drop something off, the secnd was because he added me on facebook. I think he is really cute. He has the whole tall dark handsome and Greek thin going on(i love Greeks!). It just so happens that some of my pretty good senior class friends are really good friends with him. He isnt looking for a relationship and apparently he is really shy. I'd really like to get to know him, any ideas on how to get him to notice/approach me?
Thanks!
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Sometimes being a really beautiful girl can
scare guys off. Don't ugly up or anything,
just be aware of this. :)
I think they may avoid you for fear of being
rejected. They may not really believe you've
never dated and assume you have boyfriends
galore!
Once they see you with someone, it may change
their minds. Make them realize they have a chance.
What I think you should do is ask Milo to
prom. He's shy so ask him. He may have college
in his future and may not want to get into
a serious relationship, but hey, its just a
dance. Who knows how he might feel after going
out with you! If he isn't available ask someone
else. Find a lonely looking guy and ask him to prom. Make his day and let the others see you
are available. Good luck. :)
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ok well me and my girlfriend have been going out for 10 months today actually and we are beginning to encounter a social problem. it seems like its getting harder to just talk to her like we used to and its getting dull. please help (link)
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It really shouldn't get harder to talk to
someone after 10 months. I've been married
32 years and there is always something to
talk about.
To save the relationship you will BOTH
have to try harder to make conversation.
This isn't something you need to take on
by yourself. Have a talk with her and see
if she has noticed it too.
It could be you are simply outgrowing this
particular relationship. That does happen
sometimes. But, if you have similar interests
and want to continue to date, it can happen
if you both try to make conversation.
Discuss movies, music, politics. You don't
always have to agree. That too can make for
a dull relationship. Good luck. :)
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I've recently been trying to lose weight but I drink a lot of water. Like I'll drink a lot of water and I feel fat and stuff. Does water make you gain weight for a period of time or something because of the weight of all the water? I don't know I feel full and stuff when I drink a lot of water. (link)
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I did some reading and studies have shown
that drinking water can help raise your
metabolism. That will of course help you
lose weight. I also read that drinking cold
water could cause bloating. I didn't know
that! They suggested drinking warm water
to prevent that. You might want to try that
and see if it helps. Just don't use ice
or drink water that has been refrigerated. :)
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Hey! Okay so i really like this guy. I have known him for probably about 5months and we've been friends... we talk casually and whenever i'm on myspace he always says hi to me before i say hi to him. and yeah i get the vibe that he kinda likes me. well.... i need advice. should i tell him i like and risk the friendship? but tell him i like and tell him i dont want it to hurt the friendship? ugh... please help me. if theres a guy reading this i would like ur opinion too.
try to answer by 4/7 (link)
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Its obvious he likes you. People don't usually
go out of their way to talk to people they
don't like.
I don't think you should come right out and
announce that you like him. If you are talking
back, he knows you like him too.
You can like each other and be friends, even
if you never date each other. He may not be
ready for a girlfriend yet. Let the relationship
you have with him mature a little. If he asks,
tell him you like him. If he doesn't, wait
and see where it goes. :)
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two years after nose job. would a person be able to snort things if neccessary without causing any damage? (link)
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2 years after a nose job I would assume you
can do whatever you want to do. As the user
before me has already said. Snorting illegal
substances will result in damage to your nose
past surgery or not.
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FROM:Remember the time you had a huge crush on some guy or girl?
i can understand that women do that but she only does that to me. she even told me "time will tell for the both of us" she is sexualy confused herself. and she told she was PISSED that i was geting hook up with a guy.
yeah girls are touchy. but she is still flirty. i want to move on to just get over her. she toys with my heart. my best guy friend told me she likes me about denys because she is afraid. i am too. something odd is going between me and her, but we both deny it. she gets close to me i move away. she flirts i do it back and she keeps flirting. i think guys are cute too as she also. but the atention between me and her is just different than me and my other friends/
but i do need to move on to know who iam. she is the frist crush i ever had. i just need time away. i love her in all my heart. but it is time to let go... (link)
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You probably really should. For a while
anyway. Who knows what the future holds.
It could be she will really miss having
you around. You never know.
Either way, it certainly isn't fair for
her to tease you. Thats pretty cruel.
I wish you only the best. :)
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it whistles a lot.
that's all i know, lol.
not helpful. i know.
but yeah.
and no it's not get silly & it's not the whistle song by the ying yang twins. (link)
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This probably isn't it, but on the off chance
it is...
Could it be "Don't Worry, Be Happy" by
Bobby Mcfarin? There is a lot of whistling
in it, though they don't show it in the
lyrics. You can check them out here.
http://www.lyricsondemand.com/onehitwonders/dontworrybehappylyrics.html
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Yeah me too but I still do,
The thing is I told my best friend/crush (that I been drooling over for 8 years and still counting) that I like her more than a friend. I wanted to let her know because to get off my chest, I never thought she will like me back in that way because she is straight. But she Lara always is a close; touchy, leaned her head on me, flirts, tease, and looks at me with a huge smile. She did that before I told her how I felt and she still does after. When she did those things it made me have deeper feeling for her because I thought she liked me back. I study her body language and it never matches of what she is saying. She will lean on me but then say “I like you as a friend” then star flirting. When I told her my feelings she respected it and that I am bi sexual. But she said she doesn’t feel the same way because she is unsure of her sexuality. I knew I had to move on. But when I did she got jealous of the guy I was getting hooked up with. She told me she was jealous of my last two boyfriends. She said “I don’t know if I should be happy or pissed” and “we wouldn’t be close any more if you had a Boy Friend.” and “time will tell for the both of us.” those words run over my head million MORE times that drives me mad! This is her fault! I try to get over her and it still continues she shows me mix signals and I fall for it and hoping she will turn around and say “lets be together!!” its all in my fucking head! All I wanted was just to tell her I like her and move on! The Things she told me were from an email and chartroom. I first told her about the guy in the chat room then she told me she was pissed. Then I emailed her and she explains it was jealousy. Then in 2 months I got the fucking courage to tell her face to face because she ignores the note! And asked “do you like me more than a friend?” she said “no“. So the whole thing is that she toyed with my heart that she literally lied to me saying that she was jealous then turns it around saying she was just being over protective!!! I can’t take this anymore. I m still pissed at her because she STILL is flirting with me. And showing me mix signals and all I want to do is to get over her. In July she will be gone in college to tell you the truth I am happy about it because I want that time to MOVE ON! I just want to be friends without issues and remembering that stupid useless talk we had. I sometimes wished I never told her…
Please reply on what your thoughts are…
aka:lost_lilo (link)
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You can't really blame the way you feel on her.
You said she always acts this way around you.
She hasn't really changed at all. I think you
were hoping she would be attracted to you. Since
she wasn't, you're now reading her all wrong.
Something in the relationship changed for
you when you told her how you felt. It made
you vulnerable. Its making you see things that
may not be there. Probably because you're still
hoping she will change her mind.
Lots of girls are the touchy feely type. It
doesn't mean they are attracted to girls.
They can also get jealous when thier female
friends get a boyfriend, or start dating guys.
It takes time away from them. Its actually
very normal and happens to everyone in thier
teen years.
I think if you just accept that you and her
are never going to happen, your relationship
will get back to normal. Be happy that your
friendship was strong enough to withstand
your confession to her about your feelings.
It could have turned her off and made her
avoid you. It didn't and she is treating
you just the same as always.
Now, if I misunderstood and she is more
flirty and touchy feely than she was
before you said anything, thats just wrong.
If it continues and bothers you, it may
be best to put distance between you for
a while. If you can just blow it off and
tease back like it isn't bothering you. :)
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im 15,almost 16,and was wondering if there is anyway i could buy a ticket for transportation
plane train dont matter
to new jersey from california
and if so the costs (link)
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This will probably depend on the airline.
A 15 year old girl did this very thing at
the beginning of last month. She took off
without parental permission to meet up with
an online boyfriend.
A senator from Alaska believes it needs to
be made more difficult for this kind of thing
to happen again. So, unless airlines fix
the problem on their own, they are likely
to have the government do it for them.
What airlines are now making it tougher
I don't know. I'm sure many are though.
Same with other modes of transportation.
Best you can do is call before going to the trouble. :)
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40/M
I've known this woman for many years. In fact, I am and always have been very much in love with her, but since she was happily married I have always kept my stronger feelings to myself.
I say "WAS happily married" because about six months ago, her husband died after a long illness. I have comforted her as a friend, but so far that is all I have done. I want very much to tell her of my deeper feelings, but I'm not sure when it would be appropriate.
Let me stress that I'm not thrilled that her husband died - he was a good person who made her very happy. It's just that I also want to make her very happy, and though it happened in a tragic way the fact is that she's available now (I know that sounds really awful put that bluntly, but it's the truth). I have to admit that it's getting very, very hard to keep a lid on my feelings - especially since when she IS ready to start looking for a new relationship, I want to be sure she looks at me first!
My questions:
How long should I wait?
Would it be appropriate for me to tell her NOW how I feel, but also that I am willing to wait for as long as it takes for her to be ready? (link)
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From what I have read old tradition
and modern day medical say that 2 years
is the proper time to wait.
That being said, I think it depends a
lot on the individuals and perhaps even
the circumstances of her husbands death.
The fact that she was very happily married
may be a factor too.
She needs time to grieve. My mother-in-
law died 6 months ago. There is no way
my father in law is ready to move on.
They were married 50 years. Every holiday
is painful for him & he talks about her
all the time.
I think the best thing you can do in
your situation is be a friend. Don't
tell her your feelings right now.
When she starts to move on you can
tell her.
You will be able to tell. His things will
be put away, talk of him will for the most
part stop. She won't compare everything to
how he did it, or what he would have said,
etc.
You can take her out for coffee and talk.
Don't let it go further than that for now.
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I'm a 16 year old girl. You'd think I'd be responsible by now...but I can't even call and arrange things. I think it's a social phobia or something. But if I were to, lets say, call an office...I wouldn't do it unless I absolutely HAD to ..I wouldn't feel comfortable, I'd start getting extremely anxious...sometimes sweating....and I'd think about that phone call in advance for a long time. When really, if I think about it AFTER...it's just a little phonecall. Well, today..I have to visit an office and give something to a doctor...And I have to do it all by myself. I'm all anxious and scared and I don't know what to do. Is this social anxiety? Whenever I have to make appointments, I get freaked out as well. And talking on the phone isn't my thing at all...
Ahhh. O_O (link)
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I know exactly what you mean, I do this too!
I hate the phone, talking to strangers makes
it even worse. Like you I do it when I
absolutely have to.
I think it probably is a social anxiety.
I'd never walk into a place alone unless
I had to either. I make myself when I have
to, so as long as you can do that, I wouldn't
let it worry you very much.
It would be a problem if you just froze and
didn't do anything out of fear to. :)
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if im on birth control and me and boyfreind have sex, its okay if he busts in me right and i still wont get pregnant? (link)
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Chances are very high that you WON"T
get pregnant. There is no 100% sure
thing as far a birth control goes,
unless you have your tubes tied or
a hysterectomy. However you are as
protected as you can be short of those
more drastic measures.
Condoms are still recommended for
protection against STDs. :)
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i have a huggeee problem with binging and eating and eating until i feel sick then i make myself throw up. i feel out of control. how do i stop myself from binging? (link)
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With this problem, seeing a doctor for advice
would be a very good idea. Vomiting a lot can
cause a lot of damage to your stomach,
esophagus, and teeth. Not to mention your
lack of normal nutrition. See a doctor and
get it under control. :)
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So I've had a few issues with blood. It wasn't that bad at first, but still alarming. It started in high school shortly after I had my gall bladder removed (at 15) and I was told that things wouldn't change much at all, but I might want to watch my diet). I had tests done for possible problems back then, but nothing came up. It was assumed that I was just straining too hard.
In the last couple of years there has been a lot of blood in the toilet, but only on rare occasions. Each time it happens, there isn't much pain involved, if any, and it only lasts for a couple of days. I'm starting to think that it happens when I have a lot of dairy products. I'm kind of hoping it's just a result of the gall bladder being removed and it's nothing serious. I notice I've eaten a lot of things with cheese or ice cream in the days right before it happens.
I guess I'm wondering if I should just try to change my diet or if I should just go to a hospital. I don't have health insurance, so I wouldn't be able to afford anything like a colonoscopy. I imagine without insurance, that type of procedure could be out of my range.
Does anyone have advice? Any advice would be helpful. (link)
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See if there is a free clinic somewhere
close to where you live. If there is it
can't hurt to go have it checked out.
Blood in stools can be anything from
very minor problems to big ones. Since
you do have a history of this, it may be
nothing serious. However, hearing someone
with a medical degree tell you its
nothing to worry about, goes a long way
toward peace of mind. :)
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I've been seeing this girl for about 5 months online. Before then, we did all kinds of stuff for about 9 months. I'm not completely sure how I feel about her.
Before I started seeing her, I was in a horrible relationship. I had those sparks you're supposed to have when you kiss, but that was about it. It became obvious that she was crazy and I was scarred from it ((convincing me to have unprotected sex after making me incredibly depressed, then saying she wants to get pregnant and doesn't care who the father is. Treating me poorly in public. Lying to me and several important things and lying about me. etc...)) She came onto me a couple of months ago and the sparks were gone.
Anyway, I saw the girl I'm seeing now for the first time last week. I kissed her and there weren't very many sparks. It was nice. For the longest time, I was worried that I simply wasn't attracted to her enough. Sure, I thought she was pretty, but I wasn't sure if that was enough. She stayed a week with me and left today. I wasn't sure how I felt about her, but I knew I cared for her more than anyone else.
After I got back from dropping her off at the airport, I noticed dishes that she left out and her bed was still unmade. I broke down into tears and have been crying off and on since. It wasn't just because she is gone, but that's what set it off. I'm not the type of guy who cries because my best friend leaves, so I think my feelings are far deeper than friendship.
I want to stay with her, but I'm afraid that I'll always be afraid of getting close. Other things scare me about the whole thing (We live 27 hours away from each other, she's only 17 and I'm 23) and probably contribute to my fears. But I cried so hard for her. Harder than I can remember ever crying before. It's more than friendship. Most of the time I'm comfortable with her in my arms.
I'm wondering if anyone else thinks the same. Is there no chemistry or am I still just scarred from my last horrid relationship? I should mention that she's the only girl that has gotten me to cum with a condom on. Sex seems to be great, but kissing is only just nice. I have plans to go to her house for a month this summer. I think I might love her, but I'm still confused. Is there any advice on how to deal with this situation. (link)
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Don't worry about the lack of sparks. Sparks
are not necessary for a good and loving
relationship. As far as feeling like the
kissing isn't that great, she probably
lacks a lot of experience you may have.
That could easily change over time.
Since I was married at 17 I do know that
some 17 year olds can be mature enough
for a relationship. She will do more
growing up and leaning & have changes
of opinion over time. That doesn't mean
she couldn't be the one for you.
I encourage you to visit her this summer.
If all goes well during the visit, you can
decide where to go from there. Try not to
compare her to past relationships. :)
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my boyfriend and i live in a town with nothing to do. every time we hang out we just argue for 30 minutes about who has to decide what to do.. then go eat or sit at starbucks for a few hours.
what are some other ideas? especially for a town with nothing to do! and maybe even some things to do that don't cost money but are just really fun (link)
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I decided to hunt down some things to do cheap.
Here is the search I used, there are surprisingly
quite a few ideas! Hope this helps you out. My
town didn't even have an eating place!
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im a junior and i am supposed to create a rusumee. but the thing is since i moved here this year and i have to do it on my own. i have some teachers help but i want to write it before i show them so that they can help me further improve it.
I need samples and thing i have to include in it.
thank you! (link)
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Here is a search that brought up a lot
of sites with tips for writing the best
resume. There are a lot of them so I will
let you choose the one that would be best
for you. :)
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Hi young grandma. Am responding to your request that I let you know if my girlfriend's mother knows that husband is cheating on her. No she doesnt know he is cheating on her, but according to my girlfriend, she might have had her suspicions, because she (my girl's mother) had been telling her (my girl) that marriage life is not easy for her lately. But we dont think she (my girl's mum) knows about the extramarital affairs. Thanks a lot young grandma. Looking forward to hearing from you. Cheers! (link)
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I think your girlfriend may be right.
Her mom may already know about it and
prefer to ignore it.
I don't think she should tell her mom
about it. Her parents have been married
a long time. I am going to guess with
him being gone a good deal of the time,
this may not be the first time this has
happened. Her mom may be quietly ok with
it. She is being taken care of financially,
She has her freedom to do what she wants,
when she wants to. That may not be whats
happening, but it shouldn't surprise her
if thats the way it is. She (mom) may not
want to accept it, but on some level she
probably knows.
What she could do is encourage her mom
to talk to her. When mom says married
life is not easy for her right now, your
girl could ask mom why she feels that way.
She could even ask her mom if she feels
dad is having an affair. She might open
up to her and she may not. Either way,
the best thing your girl can do is be there
for her mom to talk to when she needs to.
The thing is if mom knows about it, and
your girl confirms it, it then becomes
something her mom would feel she needs
to do something about. She may be
avoiding that. By doing so she may lose
the lifestyle she now enjoys. I know
that is a hard thing to understand and
sounds horrible but it is a reality for
a lot of married women. Its hard for
them to start over when they are in
their 40's.
If she does tell her, it also could make
her the "bad guy" in moms eyes instead
of her dad. Your girl doesn't need that.
If she wants to get involved the one
she could talk to is her dad. He's the
one who has the answers she wants anyway.
Like why is this woman living in the same
town with his family? Did he move her here
from somewhere else? Does he intend to
tell mom?
I know this is probably really making
your girls life miserable. If her
depression gets worse she should see a
doctor. There really isn't a lot she can
do about her parents life. As much as
she'd like to it is theirs. She can't
let it consume her life and happiness.
You can be there for your girl. She
will want to talk things out with you
I know. Try to get her to understand
that while they are her parents, She
can't let their problems be her problems.
All she can do is be there for them when
needed, lending support.
I'm sure I wasn't a lot of help. I do
wish your girl luck with all this. Just
try to keep her mind off of it as much
as you can. Best of luck. :)
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