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talking to my girlfriend
ok well me and my girlfriend have been going out for 10 months today actually and we are beginning to encounter a social problem. it seems like its getting harder to just talk to her like we used to and its getting dull. please help
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It really shouldn't get harder to talk to
someone after 10 months. I've been married
32 years and there is always something to
talk about.
To save the relationship you will BOTH
have to try harder to make conversation.
This isn't something you need to take on
by yourself. Have a talk with her and see
if she has noticed it too.
It could be you are simply outgrowing this
particular relationship. That does happen
sometimes. But, if you have similar interests
and want to continue to date, it can happen
if you both try to make conversation.
Discuss movies, music, politics. You don't
always have to agree. That too can make for
a dull relationship. Good luck. :)
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Disconnected is SO on the money on this one...most relationships begin in the "infatuation" stage, and once this stage is over..this is the prime time to find out whether it's really going to last.
A good relationship needs to be treated like a garden..you have to put a lot of effort into it EVERY DAY to make it work (pruning out the bad, re-planting the good, and daily watering with love). Some people never realize this, it's fortunate that you have! This way you can ensure the longevity (if it's meant to be) in a mature and rational manner. IE. Don't play head games! And it looks like you aren't! *gives kudos*
As a woman, I can give you a little advice-- most women by nature crave romance. Maybe it's time to plan a little romantic surprise for her, so you can find that "exciting" feeling just for a little while again? Maybe go somewhere new to you both so that you have something more to share and a memory to keep.
Like Disconnected implied, this is the way of relationships..the media, most times, gives us this impression that it is always exciting and romantic..but in reality a good (and actually more rewarding) relationship takes work, and lots of love, to become ever-lasting.
Good luck to you both!,
Jasmine
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Things like that usually happen after a relationship has lasted for a long time. Sorry to say that.
What I'd suggest is talking to her about this, ask her whether she feels like the relationship's getting duller, or you two feel distant between each other.
Maybe she just hasn't noticed this, but if you bring it to her attention, they maybe things will improve.
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