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Hi young grandma. Am responding to your request that I let you know if my girlfriend's mother knows that husband is cheating on her. No she doesnt know he is cheating on her, but according to my girlfriend, she might have had her suspicions, because she (my girl's mother) had been telling her (my girl) that marriage life is not easy for her lately. But we dont think she (my girl's mum) knows about the extramarital affairs. Thanks a lot young grandma. Looking forward to hearing from you. Cheers!
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I think your girlfriend may be right.
Her mom may already know about it and
prefer to ignore it.
I don't think she should tell her mom
about it. Her parents have been married
a long time. I am going to guess with
him being gone a good deal of the time,
this may not be the first time this has
happened. Her mom may be quietly ok with
it. She is being taken care of financially,
She has her freedom to do what she wants,
when she wants to. That may not be whats
happening, but it shouldn't surprise her
if thats the way it is. She (mom) may not
want to accept it, but on some level she
probably knows.
What she could do is encourage her mom
to talk to her. When mom says married
life is not easy for her right now, your
girl could ask mom why she feels that way.
She could even ask her mom if she feels
dad is having an affair. She might open
up to her and she may not. Either way,
the best thing your girl can do is be there
for her mom to talk to when she needs to.
The thing is if mom knows about it, and
your girl confirms it, it then becomes
something her mom would feel she needs
to do something about. She may be
avoiding that. By doing so she may lose
the lifestyle she now enjoys. I know
that is a hard thing to understand and
sounds horrible but it is a reality for
a lot of married women. Its hard for
them to start over when they are in
their 40's.
If she does tell her, it also could make
her the "bad guy" in moms eyes instead
of her dad. Your girl doesn't need that.
If she wants to get involved the one
she could talk to is her dad. He's the
one who has the answers she wants anyway.
Like why is this woman living in the same
town with his family? Did he move her here
from somewhere else? Does he intend to
tell mom?
I know this is probably really making
your girls life miserable. If her
depression gets worse she should see a
doctor. There really isn't a lot she can
do about her parents life. As much as
she'd like to it is theirs. She can't
let it consume her life and happiness.
You can be there for your girl. She
will want to talk things out with you
I know. Try to get her to understand
that while they are her parents, She
can't let their problems be her problems.
All she can do is be there for them when
needed, lending support.
I'm sure I wasn't a lot of help. I do
wish your girl luck with all this. Just
try to keep her mind off of it as much
as you can. Best of luck. :)
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