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bladder.
hi. i am in fact 13/f.
i have such a big bladder problem.
Like i have accidents sometimes.
my mom treats me like such a little kid because of it. She makes me wear pull ups every night!
embarrasing. =|
is there something i can tell her to stop me from having to wear these things.
i swear she thinks i'm like 3.
and i can't ever have a sleepover at my house.
gosh.
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i know its embarrasing. = /. when i was your age i had the same thing happening to me. Thats why i feel like i have to answer this. Well now i dont have these accidents but it all improved after i stopped drinking any fluids after 8pm. My mom had me wearing pullups also! which i never told anyone but now here because i know your missery. After i proved to my mom those accidents wouldnt happen thats when she stopped buying them. I didnt even notice but in sometime i was having them little accidents.
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Don't worry your bladder will get bigger and then you will be able to do all those things talk to your mom if you haven't already talked to a doctor to see if there are any other solutions. My brother had a small bladder and he grew out of that phaze in junior high. Lots of teens your age have problems like that so its not just you. Tell your mom about the respect thing and tell her what you've told us. Also ive heard that there are night diapers for older kids that are supposed to be invisible (you can't see them under the clothes)You might check it out and see if there are some different ones you could get so that you could have a sleep over.
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i feel bad 4 you. but you shuld prove 2 her dat you r not 3. show her dat you r masure enough 2 her 2 give you some respect.
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Okay, you need to separate up your problems.
PROBLEM ONE:
You have a bladder problem. You need to wear protection at night to handle this. That only makes sense!
It IS embarrassing, I’d feel embarrassed too! But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t wear them. I had to wear a head-gear for ages and it was absolutely shameful for me, but I did it, because it made sense to do it. The embarrassment you feel might make you not want to have sleepovers. HOWEVER, it would probably be far more embarrassing to have an accident when someone else was sleeping in the same room don't you think?
So in short, although your situation sucks, it's still the situation you are in and wearing those things at night simply makes sense.
PROBLEM TWO:
Your mother talking about things you rather not and is not being sensitive to your embarrassment.
This is a totally separate problem from the bladder issue, and this one you can deal with in a different way.
"Mom, I know I have wear these, and I will. Can we please stop talking about it!"
"Mom, I am not a baby. I won’t respond to baby talk."
"Mom, please stop the baby talk. It is embarrassing and insulting."
TO SUM UP:
Solve your problem by
1.) Wearing the damn things. It only makes sense that you should. No one has to know but you and your mom. Once you accept them and start working with her, rather then against her, maybe you and her and your doctor can look into some other solutions.
2.) Tell your mom you don't appreciate some of what she has to say and you want your feelings respect and the baby talk to end. Explain to her you feel disrespected.
Remember, when you accept, in a mature way, that wearing those underpants in a rational solution to your problem (and maybe discuss other rational solutions as well) your mother will likely be more sensitive to your feelings. It’s tough for her feel sympathy for you if you are fighting with her over something that makes perfect sense.
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