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Friends and boys and relatonships
so i'm a junior and i've just been having some issues. I've never been kissed, all my friends are in relationships and i've never dated anyone. The weird thing about this is that i'm actually pretty popular, have a lot of friends and I'm pretty well known. People say I'm gorgeous (natural blonde, blue eyed, thin, nice skin). People also say I'm extremely funny, genuinely nice, intelligent, and have a really good personality. People have been shocked when they found out i've never dated anyone.
Its becoming more and more apparent to me that i'm alone with all my friends being invited to prom (which is seniors only at my school), with them breaking off plans to be with their boys and just family asking questions about my relationships. It really sucks. I don't enjoy it at all. I have the worst luck with guys, they tend to like me, but end up dating my friends. Any advice?
Next issue: there is a senior guy Milo. I actually really don't know him. I've only spoken to him twice, once because hes a student aide and came into my class to drop something off, the secnd was because he added me on facebook. I think he is really cute. He has the whole tall dark handsome and Greek thin going on(i love Greeks!). It just so happens that some of my pretty good senior class friends are really good friends with him. He isnt looking for a relationship and apparently he is really shy. I'd really like to get to know him, any ideas on how to get him to notice/approach me?
Thanks!
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Sometimes being a really beautiful girl can
scare guys off. Don't ugly up or anything,
just be aware of this. :)
I think they may avoid you for fear of being
rejected. They may not really believe you've
never dated and assume you have boyfriends
galore!
Once they see you with someone, it may change
their minds. Make them realize they have a chance.
What I think you should do is ask Milo to
prom. He's shy so ask him. He may have college
in his future and may not want to get into
a serious relationship, but hey, its just a
dance. Who knows how he might feel after going
out with you! If he isn't available ask someone
else. Find a lonely looking guy and ask him to prom. Make his day and let the others see you
are available. Good luck. :)
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Odd...you said they seem to like you at first but end up dating your friends?
I could be wrong..but know that..popularity comes with a price. I do hope that your friends aren't being ugly about you behind your back. And the scarier thought, maybe your friends are "giving up" more than you do. If so, GOOD FOR YOU! If I'm wrong, I'm terribly sorry to make accusations about your friends.
Milo..sounds like a nice guy so far...the fact that he added you to facebook opened a wide door. Send him some messages! Get to know him better..chat with him online..who knows what may happen??
And when you see him,wave at him!, be open about yourself, find things that you have in common and talk about them (maybe shyness?), smile at him a lot, let your soft voice, eyes, and body language tell him that you find him attractive without saying anything outright. You don't have to jump in his lap or anything *lol*..you could just stand a bit closer to him for instance. There is no rule that you have to look away when he looks at you..*grin*
I have a feeling he'll come around soon *big smile*. The fact that he is shy is what is probably making it more difficult in letting you know that he likes you too! I bet that once he realizes that you are a nice "non-threatening" person he'll become less shy around you. Who knows? Maybe he doesn't go on the "dating merry go round" either! I mean..he IS shy, right?
You have mutual friends, eh? How bout' a mutual hangout time and place? Talk to one of your mutual friends and mention casually that you think that he is cute! ..like "You know Milo right? Well, he added me to his facebook..ya know, he's kinda cute." It WILL get back to him and give him the confidence he needs to step up.
*twinkling eyes*
Keep me posted!
Jasmine Moon
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