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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.

I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.

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So today at school my guy friend walks by and goes into the bathroom and then I ask me friend who was sitting across from me if she has another sweatshirt cause i was cool and she said no and then he comes out of the bathroom and I asked him and he was like no and I asked if i could have the one he was wearing and he said no and i said please and he said y and i said cause im cold , please then he gave it to me ( he NEVER gives it to anyone!)then he just stood the and smiled and looked at each other then he went to class. Then later when he asked cor it back i went awww then he said i could have it again tomarrow and on the inside i was going YAY!!! And i was SO happy cause i have a crush on him but does he like me? Oh and by the way im a 13 year old girl and hes a 17 year old guy.

I also am not going to get into whether he likes you.

It all comes down to the fact that it's illegal, At 13, You shouldn't be looking to try and date someone who is in most states considered legally an adult. You don't think it's odd that someone who is 17 years old would be looking at a 13 year old in a romantic way?...Well it is.

If you want a boyfriend you really should look for someone in the 12-14 yr range. Not someone who is 4 years your elder.

Hi i'm from the philippines, i would like to ask how would i change how people perceive me? because a friend of mine told me that the impression or aura i give is that i'm an easy girl like they could bed me easily.

Just be yourself, Who cares what other people think of you.

There will always be people who are jealous, judge mental, rude etc. Life isn't about pleasing people, It's about being who you are.

If someone doesn't want to take the time to get to know you personally, Then it's their loss. Never change who you are and never pretend to be someone your not. Let them think what they want just pay not mind to them.

I am 17f and my bf is of the same age. We have had problems but we kept on getting back together. I have repeatedly been told that he had cheated on me with several girls, but he swears he didn't. I don't know if that's true since he wrote me a note saying "relationships are based on trust. Where's that trust?" which all of my supporters say as putting the blame on me to save himself. He has been suicidal whenever I tried to breakup with him. In doing so, I stayed. Its only been a few weeks since he was put in the hospital and I didn't know what to do. I am going back out with him once more. I don't know if I should stay with him or sever the ties once and for all. Any help would be grateful.

Dump him,

If he is threatening suicidal if you leave him then he is obviously too much baggage. Nobody should ever pressure someone into staying with them because they fear for the person's safety.

As harsh as this may come out you are not responsible if he chooses to self harm himself. If he is threatening to harm himself you should inform someone about it and let them handle the situation. Nobody is entitled to be in a relationship they don't want to be in. This guy obviously has his own mental issues he needs to sort out.

Also, If someone can't be faithful then don't be in the relationship with them. No relationship works out of their is no trust, Trust is the main factor in a relationship and without it the relationship will never work out.

Seriously, You are wasting your time with this one. Let him go and meet someone who is right for you.

My bf is 16 and im 13 every time we hang out he would ask me if i wanna have sex with him i would say no and he accepts that but what if he brakes up with me we love eachother so much .and sometimes he would kiss my kneck and try to take my shirt off . What should i do o;

You are very young, If he keeps insisting on having sex you break up with him. NEVER fall under peer pressure, That is how you end up regretting it. Your boyfriend does not respect your answer no if he keeps trying to take off your shirt. If he breaks up with you then you obviously would know that all he wanted was sex not a relationship. Don't give yourself away, Have self respect for yourself. Only an asshole would pressure you, Wait until you are older and then worry about that stuff. Break up with him and move on cause he isn't worth your time.

There is this guy I like and I thought he seemed interested in me to but as I'm now realizing he talks to many other girls too. He calls and texts me a lot but I'm not the only one. Maybe I'm over reacting but I don't like that. I don't want to waste my time if he's just going after everyone. What would you do?

If you want a guy that will show his interest in you and only you then you will have to find someone who is interested in only you. Like Jasmine said below this guy is a player, Most definitely not a suitable loyal partner. You want a real relationship then find a real man.

I'm kind of shy and quiet, especially about my love life. I don't know how to tell a complete stranger about the abuse that happened to me. I have told a few people, and still feel guilty and dirty about it. I don't know how to make sure that the person I am spilling my personal thoughts and feelings to is going to make things better or accidentally make it worse. Anybody got any thoughts or ideas?

It can take years to find the right therapist but finding one comes with taking the time to try and see which one is suitable for you. If you prefer a female then you can always request to see a female doctor. Yes, They are people we do not know personally but therapist are people who specialize in all kinds of things. They deal with these problems everyday and you wouldn't be the only odd one to stand out. They are there to help you, Listen to you, Help you find a better way to deal with your feelings and daily life struggles. Like a doctor, They are not there to judge you they are there to help you.

My pc has been acting strange lately, sometimes it takes about five miniutes to turn on once I enter my accout password, then when I turn it on I am used to getting a screen pop up that says "unable to establish a wireless connection" but it has popped up 59 times before. Its slow, and just doesn't act right.The memory on the hard drive is alot more full than it was a month ago. I use norton and avast and norton tells me I have 72 threats found and my perfomance is poor. Do I have a virus and how do I fix it. If I don't have a virus how do I remove those 'threats' and get my laptop back to normal? thank you for your time.

If you are unable to establish a wireless connection then you aren't connected to the internet, A wireless connection will make your computer naturally slower as you are using another connection rather then your own.

Microsoft offers a really good anti virus:
http://windows.microsoft.com/en-US/windows/products/security-essentials

I've been using this one for a few years and haven't had a problem at all.

Now doing this regularly is not recommended but try restoring your computer to an earlier date

Start-Program-Accessories-System Tools-System Restore this will bring your computer back the way it was to an earlier date. After doing so remove any free anti virus programs you have and download Microsoft.

Next try to defrag the computer again Start-Program-Accessories-System Defrag

This will defrag the files that are fragmented.

Good luck!

P.S. Stay away from porn sites they are known to create virus and hack computer information.

I'm 13 and I'm going through a really tough time right now. Sometimes i think about cutting myself, but every time i go to cut myself I get scared and stop. I will take a super sharp pencil and dig it into my wrist but the marks don't stay long enough to make me feel better, so my question is, what do I do to either get over my fear of cutting or get rid of the thought altogether?

You need to seek some help, Yes tell an adult of what you are doing.

Cutting yourself is a mental problem and it's not normal to want to self harm yourself. Cutting leads to scars and scars are not attractive.

Get into counseling, There are many other alternatives to cope with your feelings but cutting is not going to help you.

Something you could try to help you prevent cutting yourself is to take a washable marker and write the word "Love" on your wrist. Every time you look it will remind you that there are more things to life then causing yourself pain.

I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year and a half. We were fighting a lot over the summer, so we took a short break (it only lasted a week) during this time, I found out that he started to have feelings for one of the girls he worked with. The day before we got back together they kissed. Even though we were on a break, we were still technically together just without the label of being in a relationship. It obviously hurt me when he told me about the kiss and it made me almost not even want to go back with him. He apologized and said it would never happen again, but that happened in august and it's now november and it's still haunting me. I don't know what I should do about it. My friends tell me to get rid of him, but my heart tells me not to let go. Anyone have any advice? Thank you

Move on, If he is seeing someone else in the course of a week being separated then it is pretty obvious that he had feelings for her while you where dating him and never acted out on them. Of course he isn't going to willingly admit too you he has feelings for someone else, He can't even be faithful too you. I know it sucks but if he can't tell the truth then don't think for one minute that he will be faithful to this next one either. You are right, You should let him go. Don't even bother staying in contact with him as nobody who cheats or lies really deserves a friendship in my opinion. It's a lost cause

okay so ever since my dad moved my mom has been a total ass.she puts my rhodesian ridgeback pup outside in the cold and lets him starve until she feels like feeding him , she took my phone away from me even though my dad payed for it and i was charging it at a friends house then she blocks me from going to this years black friday with my uncle and i have been waiting for that for a while. i got in trouble for fighting with her and now i got a court date. basically can someone help keep me sane . thanks

Your mom may be having a hard time dealing with your father moving, Therefore by her actions she may need to seek some sort of counseling. Feeding a puppy whenever she feels like it is animal abuse and wrong. If your mother is showing signs of negligence then you should tell someone. A school counselor can help you or a close family member.

we have been broke up for almost 2 months we talk everyday still and kinda flirt and stuff but when i mention i wish i was good enough for her or something she will say why do you have to start? am i just being too pushy and just need to go with the flow for now?

You are being insecure, You are trying to get her to become sympathetic.

Yes, You are being pushy. If you want to try and win her back then be casual. Don't be forward and expect too much because many women find that to be a turn off.

ok ive been dating my boyfriend forabout a month now. and i get sooo nervous around him and i dont kbow what to say. how do i stop being soo nervous. and hes never nervous so he tried to make me feel comfprtable around him. and im 14 btw and f

Your relationship is still new, Comfort comes with time. Give it a few months and you will learn to loosen up, In the meantime try and get to know more about him. Go out and do fun things, Winter is approaching maybe you both could do snow tubing?, Snow boarding, Skiing. Ask him what he likes and see if you two can plan something together. Just take it slow

Okay, this may be weird, but everytime I go to pee I notice that there is a brown stain in my underwear. Its a real dark brown, but every single time I wipe, its clear. Nothin out of color comes out when I wipe. I'm very confused. This has only been happening for the past couple of days. I smelled my panties where the brown was at, and it doesn't smell like anything.

It just confuses me because if it was discharge, wouldn't it be coming when I wipe too?

Discharge, Very normal with women. The only time to worry is if it burns, itch etc.

Hello,

I was just wondering what age did you have sex and why?

Also if you're a virgin would you wait until marriage if so why?

I was 17, The person I was with we were together for 8 months before we decided we were ready and yes, We used condoms every time.

If you aren't ready then don't do it, Sex shouldn't be done out of pressure.

I have a rather large problem. I recently started a new job, and everything was going fine. Until our new teamleader arrived. At first I just saw him as a boss but..
He's so funny, he's really nice, he's ...well attractive. I'd rather not go into it.
Reason I don't want the crush?
A. He's my supervisor
B. If that wasn't bad enough, he's married.
C. If those two didn't cinch it, he's got a CHILD.
He's not that much older than me, though I try not to ask because I don't want to fuel this stupid thing.
I've tried to meet someone to get my mind off it but its not working. I can't leave my job. I need the income and I don't think 'i like my boss' is a good enough reason to transfer.

Your crush on your supervisor is a lost cause, It won't get anywhere nor should it.

It is highly inappropriate to date a boss at any job and in some companies it isn't tolerate and is against the rules of the company as well.

Yes, This man is married with a child. These are also two very good reasons the thought it even out of the question. Acknowledge that he is not right for you and move on from it. You are there to do your job and get the job done not too date your coworkers. Shrug it off, Get over it and move on.

Im 16/male and i want a friend like that
I mean like we can hang out and just chill together without any attachments and still do sexual stuff
Im tired of relationships that wont last so i decided maybe i should try this
I hope theres a girl out there willing to try it with me.

This isn't a dating site dude

Also, You should keep in mind that having a friend with benefits can sometimes really mess with you mentally and emotionally. Although you have no intentions it could happen and sometimes it's either a good thing or not. Instead of focusing so much on trying to find a girlfriend try and find a friend and keep it casual for awhile. The best relationships usually start off as being friends anyway.

The dogs leg is twisted and the bone was sticking out. They put bandages around her legs. will The shelter have to kill it? My brother took it to the vet today and she told him he would have to pay a lot of money to get the dog worked on and he doesn't have that kind of money. My brother had another dog we took to the shelter a while ago and they just killed it because they said it was too much money to take care of the dog. If we take it to the shelter ot humane society will she have to get killed?

I would bring her to the Humane Society, They won't necessarily put her down if she can be helped. They Humane Society helps animals and the only real way she will be enthused is if she has no choice. The dog is in pain, She deserves to be bought to a place where she can seek medical attention as no dog should have to suffer.

I would not bring her to a dog pound, The reason why is because nowadays most animal shelters are very strict. If you aided the dog, fed the dog...They are then probably going to tell you that you own the dog. If you really have nowhere else to bring her then I would find a no kill shelter and just see what they say anyway. They might end up taking her and they can care for her and aide her to better health.

There's a close friend of mine named Miguel who i reeeeeeeaaaaaaalllyy like. I mean, he gives me butterflies, and makes my heart shiver. He is bisexual and has a boyfriend. He gives me immense mixed signals. WHat do i do? :(

If the guy is in a relationship, He is not available. You should respect that. If you try to break him up with his boyfriend he will end up resenting you for it and you most definitely won't have a chance then.

hi guys, i've been dating a guy who is in late 40's and i'm in early 30's for a 1 year and a half. he has a daughter age of 5 with his ex girlfriend who just lives about half and hours away from we live. we love each other and also he never stops saying his daughter is main priority. i'm confused sometimes as i want to be with him and he says the same but i don't know, guys. i do not know what he's thinking. so, is he worth to date as he's a single father. thanks you.

Depends on how you look at the situation

Yes, Of course his child is going to be his main priority. Anyone who is a parent is going to put their children first, Just like I would hope you'd put your children before someone else.

This guy is a package deal, You knew that when you started dating him. Why all the sudden now 1 1/2 years are you questioning yourself? If you can't handle the fact that he has a daughter and she comes before you then yes I agree with the user below me leave the relationship. It would be extremely childish and wrong of you to try and come between a father and daughter relationship.

Then why not be together? The thing you should expect however is his daughter will always come before you. That his child and his ex girlfriend will always be a part of his daughters life so you can expect her to come and go as well. If you can handle and respect the fact that you aren't his main priority then continue on. I think it is misleading and wrong to date someone for a 1 1/2 years and still keep him thinking you want to be with him. It's dishonest

hi ya, my boyfriend seems bit jealous because whenever he sees me being on a msn chatting with my mates he asks, who you talking to, or is that your other boyfriend? i'm like, what? and yet he says he's not bothered AT ALL. NOT AT ALL. what does he mean? i've heard that if a guy is jealous or possessive that means he loves you or does he being jealous means he loves me more or is he just being a typical jealous man? help guys. cheers!

The guy may love you but there is a fine line between loving someone and being insecure.

No, Someone being overly possessive does not mean they love you more. Depending on the action of being possessive it is caused from insecurity, controlling, paranoia and lack of trust.

It apparently bothers him if he is constantly asking who you talk too he is just denying it. I would find it irritating to be asked constantly who I am talking too. It's rude and annoying

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