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Want to cut but scared to?
I'm 13 and I'm going through a really tough time right now. Sometimes i think about cutting myself, but every time i go to cut myself I get scared and stop. I will take a super sharp pencil and dig it into my wrist but the marks don't stay long enough to make me feel better, so my question is, what do I do to either get over my fear of cutting or get rid of the thought altogether?
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first of all inflicting pain on yourself is not just wrong it is a addiction. sence you havint cutt yet dont start. find something else that would get rid of your anger. i use to cutt and punch walls then it got to the point that it wasint enough pain. i saw i had a problum so i dicided to start working out. i got into a fighting class and i punched the punching bag. try somthing like that next time you get depressed go for a jog or go to the gym and run on the tredmill and do some workouts. after that if things still dont change then you should go talk to a school theropist and tell them that it needs to stay confidential. or go see a profecinal so you can get some things off your chest. all these things will work you just have to want to change your ways.
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I cut myself last year because I was so depressed. I think you need to find out what's making you so depressed and face your fears. Also, it's good if you have trustworthy friends to talk to, or a close family member.
Please don't cut yourself. It never leads to anything good. You need to talk about it with someone.
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i started cutting 4 and a half years ago i have ended up in hospital 3 times in 2 years it doesnt make the pain and fear go away it just subdues it i didnt think before i did it now i will have scars for the rest of my life mentally and physically u have the chance to help yourself i regret the day the longing to make the pain go away overcame the fear of cutting. it doesn't make it all better i know things are sooo difficult and stopping yourself is the hardest part you dont ave to go through that if u make the right choice and dont let yourself get taken over by cutting i did and everyday i want to die.Please dont make the same mistake as i did.
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I really think you need to seek professional help. You just need to let it all out and therapist is the way to go. They can get through to you. Hope that helps.
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You haven't said what the tough time is that you are going through. Whatever it is it is causing you to be anxious and most likely depressed over whatever it is. These are the two main reasons a person wants to cut themselves.
I would rather you not cut yourself. I'm going to offer you an alternative to cutting. It is something psychologists use when helping people with anxiety who cut themselves.
Find yourself a big thick rubber band and let it hang loosely from one of your wrists. When you have the urge to cut snap the rubber band instead; until the urge to cut passes. This is safer than cutting and will help relieve the anxiety attack you are having.
You also need to get help in dealing with the problem that is causing you to anxious. You need to talk to your parents and ask to be taken to you family doctor. Tell your parents you have had the desire to cut. Tell them you need to be screened for depression.
Should there be a reason you cannot talk to your parents then talk with a trusted teacher or the school nurse.
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Although you're in a toughspot right now, there is something that is keeping you going. It's keeping you safe and protected, willing you to keep going and reach the end of these difficulties, put them behind you and live the life that's waiting for you beyond.
No, I'm not talking about a guardian angel, although one may well be close by. I'm thinking of you sense of self-preservation which is behind the fear you feel of the consequences of cutting yourself. Cutting and other forms of self-harm are addictive and self-destructive. You don't need that. You need love, relaxation and fun which is what life should be all about at 13!
You mention nothing of your environment or background so all I can suggest is look around for support, friends, teachers, counsellors, anyone who will listen and help you sort your life out. If the first person you ask for help, doesn't for some reason, keep trying! Someone, somewhere wants to help you!
Hope this helps, keep in touch if you want to offload some of that tension you feel? Let me know how you get on too. Take care of yourself.
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You need to quit while you still have that fear, as soon as possible.
I used to cut. I had an on-and-off addiction for years and I'm sure it will come back in the future. I have permanent, ugly scars. I can no longer wear certain articles of clothing (like shorts) because then people will see the scarring, and when they see those scars they will judge me. The relief I got from cutting myself will never be worth it, and I wish I'd never started in the first place. But at this point, I've done it so often that it's usually not a choice anymore. You need to stop before you get there.
There are a few common methods that people use to stop. One is putting a rubber band on your wrist and snapping it until the urge to cut goes away. Another is to do something to distract yourself, like color in a picture, draw, or watch one of your favorite childhood movies. You can also go running; after a while you can get a runner's high much like the one you get through cutting, but you don't hurt your body so much. But be careful: you can run too much, just like you can eat too much or drink too much water.
You may not be able to get rid of the thoughts, but don't work to get rid of the fear. That fear is healthy. We're afraid to hurt ourselves because it discourages us from doing risky things, and getting rid of it literally damages your self-preservation instincts. Seriously, I can't stress enough: do not work to get rid of it.
If you want to read about people who are having the same problem or general advice on getting rid of the urges, here are two good websites:
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Good luck with this. The first time I cut I was 13. It wasn't bad at all, but it gradually got worse from there. I promise you, in the long run, self-harm is not worth it. And if distracting yourself and getting help through the Internet isn't enough, don't be afraid to talk to a therapist. Some of them don't know what they're doing, but a lot of them are lifesavers.
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You need to seek some help, Yes tell an adult of what you are doing.
Cutting yourself is a mental problem and it's not normal to want to self harm yourself. Cutting leads to scars and scars are not attractive.
Get into counseling, There are many other alternatives to cope with your feelings but cutting is not going to help you.
Something you could try to help you prevent cutting yourself is to take a washable marker and write the word "Love" on your wrist. Every time you look it will remind you that there are more things to life then causing yourself pain.
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