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So the other night I got home from a concert and my boyfriend said he "knows for a fact" that I am cheating on him. I work late hours (til between 12am and 3:30am) and go out with friends maybe once a week, and sometimes grab a beer if I get off work early. I have no desire to cheat on him...but no matter what I say he does not believe me, I told him I love him and have no interest, check my timecard for work, etc. Still he thinks I am lying. I really just like to go out and have a good time with friends once in a while. Its gotten to the point where he makes sure I wear plain cotton underwear to work. How can I convince him to allow me to keep hanging out with my friends at night and that i am not cheating? he doesnt drink or like going out so I cannot invite him with, plus he works during the day so when i go out he is just sleeping anyway. I feel like I have said everything to him I possibly could. (link)
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You shouldn't HAVE to convince him of
anything. If he can't or chooses not
to go out with you then he needs to trust
you.
Honestly, I doubt he ever will. He sounds
like he is trying to control your every move.
Down to telling you what kind of underwear
you can wear.
I think the smart thing is to get out
while you can. I'm not saying that to
be mean. I really think this guy has
some problems you can't fix. Men like
this usually wind up either controlling
you or being abusive. Please consider
this advice.
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i was at my friends tonight, she lives right around the corner from him.
and we took the back road home, which is faster..which passes his house..which is the corner house on this one street and his room is the back left...and we came up from the left side of his house..i couldnt help but to stare at his bedroom window as we drove past, i didnt stop looking at it for some reason till i couldnt see the house inless i turned all the way around..i stared at it..and i think i felt myself cry a bit..but i dunno..it didnt help much that i passed by his house..but whatever.
i pass by the street all the time..just the house and his room..and knowing he was right there, i think i saw his shadown through the curtain..not sure..but yeah. whatever.
the city was good =] i saw the naked cowboy. =D out of the group of 30 i was the only one to spot him across the street at times squareeee. yay =] hahah (link)
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I've heard of that naked cowboy!
So, if you now feel you have closure
you really need to move on and stop
torturing yourself. Don't drive by his
house unless you absolutely have to.
Avoid him as much as possible at school.
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Well whats the definition of thrash? n can it be caused because of stress? thnks a dozen! (link)
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Do you mean thrush?
Because yes stress can be one of many causes of thrush. Here is a small part of the info to be found at...
http://www.medicinenet.com/thrush/article.htm
What causes thrush?
Small amounts of the candida fungus are present in the mouth, digestive tract, and skin of most healthy people and are normally kept in check by other bacteria and microorganisms in the body. However, certain illnesses, stress, or medications can disturb the delicate balance, causing the fungus candida to grow out of control, causing infection.
Medications that upset the balance of microorganisms in the mouth and may cause thrush include corticosteroids, antibiotics, and birth control pills. Illnesses or medical situations that make candida infection more likely to develop include uncontrolled diabetes, HIV infection, cancer, dry mouth, or pregnancy (caused by the hormonal changes that occur with pregnancy). People who smoke or wear dentures that don't fit properly also are at increased risk for thrush. In addition, babies can pass the infection to their mothers during breast-feeding.
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Hey, I had sex with my boyfriend friday night (I'm on the pill, we had a condom, it didn't break, he pulled out, ext.) And I know forsure I'm not pregnant. Well, my vagina really hurts, and it feels like, swollen maybe? And when I pee, it's weird smelling, and I'm having discharge stuff. This happened in November, and my friend said she thought it was a U.T.I. (urinary track infection) Well, this is pretty much the same as it was then, and, it went away on it's own last time, but, I was just wondering what it was for sure, and if there's anything I can do with out going to a doctor until I have to next month for more birth control. Thanks! sorry it was so long. (link)
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You really need to see your doctor. If you
had the same thing in November I will guess
that it didn't get cleared up completely
with over the counter medicine. To be honest
OTC cures rarely cure anything unless you
catch it way early.
Since you are due to see the doctor next
month anyway, see if you can get the exam
for your pills early. Take care of both at
once. But see your doctor before it gets
more painful for you.
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i have an appt for may 1st to see the gyno. the reason is birth control. when i go will i have to go back to get bc or will i get it when i go for my first appt? (link)
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You will get your prescription after your
visit. So you can start on them right away.
Since this is your first visit for a pelvic
exam, Here is a site that explains to you
what you can expect. I know first exams can
really make people nervous! While on the site
take a look around. There is lots of useful
information on it.
http://www.coolnurse.com/pelvic_exams.htm
You will have to have a yearly exam in
order to have your prescription refilled.
Most doctors give you 12 month refills.
No need to take in a RX every month, your
pharmacist will keep in on file for you. :)
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How do you graduate your junior year? I noticed that a few people are doing that in my high school but doesn't every highschool require four years of English, so how do they manage that? (link)
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I don't know if it still works the same
as when I was in school, but it probably
does.
You can take more than one English
class in any given year. You might take
Creative writing in addition to a regular
English class for example. If Creative
Writing (or some similar class) is
counted as an English credit you may
have enough English credits to graduate
early.
Talk to your school counselor. He/she
should be able to tell you how many,
and what credits you need to graduate
early. :)
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I was on my cousins labtop this past week and i was talking to my friend using 'talk' on AIM..I was just curious to know where i could find a place to buy one because my computer didn't come with one in it.
Thanks in advance,
Gina (link)
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You can also get them at walmart and
most stores like that. If they sell
computers or computer accessories
they will have microphones. :)
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omg me and this girl almost got in a fight one day and i told me so called "friends" then today i was like about to fight her but i didnt. and then i get a call like an hour later my so called "best friend" was like come up to our school and i was hanging with my soccer buddy (shes like my bestest friend also) and i went up there and the girl i was about to fight was up there and my friends were like shes up here, fight her and i was like no im not just going to fight her and my so called "best friend" was like over by her talking to her and stuff. then one of my friends came up to the school like 2 hours later and no one was there but the guys playing basketball, soccer, and lacross. so my friend came over and was like so u fought that girl and i was like how do u know about that, and she was like well then "jane" (we will call my bestfriend" jane and the other one "kate" and my friend who is telling me this now, lets call her "maria") was at my house when she called you. and kate was like shhhhh dont talk i dont want jess(that what we will call me) to know shes where. and i dont know why they would do that. and then they say they did nothing. and maria was like, yeah there going to be giveing my shit all day tomorrow. and im not going to fight this girl. im going to be the big person. shes always been kinda mean and stuff to me. but she has always wanted to be my friend so i dont know what her problem is. please help. (link)
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When "friends" act this way its best to
find new friends. Sounds to me like they
just want to stir up trouble. You don't
need people like that in your life, and
you need to tell them so. Let them go
stir up drama with someone else. :)
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15/f
i have an eating disorder, bulimia. i don't really eat lunch and people are starting to bug me about it. i haven't eaten it since like 7th grade but anyways i know i need help..i just haven't actually said it or convinced myself fully yet. i don't want to die but i don't feel that i will. also i have realized i don't want to live with this for the rest of my life. feeling like crap all the time, feeling guilty for throwing up food and wasting it, feeling guilty for eating, and everything. i don't know why i have this. I guess my question is what should i do? how should i tell someone something like this?
i was thinking of going to a school counselor, i'm not sure.
any advice about anything, related to this would be great =] thank you so much. (link)
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I agree with Mousy. Your parents need to
know whats going on too. If you are more
comfortable having a counsler tell them
then do that. Just tell someone so you
can get the help you need.
You probably won't be able to just stop.
If you have doing it a while your body
gets sort of programmed to throw up what
you eat. You will need help from a doctor
to get back to normal.
Keep in mind too that while death is
the worst thing that could happen,
there are other awful things that can
happen too. You don't want all your
teeth to rot or your stomach or
esophagus to rupture. So, don't put
it off. Get some help soon.
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My boyfriend and I had sex (WITH A CONDOM) about a month ago and I realized my period was late. I mean I was stressed about A LOT and sick on top of that so I realize those could be a factor to it being later than normal... therefore I didn't panic too much.
But I kept getting normal stomach aches... not exactly cramps but I felt like my period was about to come. Although it was a few weeks late it eventually came, although it was extremely light... should I be worried?
I mean usually my periods don't completely end for an entire week. They start off kinda heavy and gradually lighten up... but it's like this one started kinda light and then stopped completely within 3 days...
I heard periods can come right after you have sex sometimes, even if you are pregnant. should I be worried? I mean my next period shouldn't be coming until the end of this month but I'm concerned that somehow something in the condom could have seeped through and entered me.
Do you think I could be pregnant? Or is this normal? I mean my periods been late before but not where it's been extremely light like this.
are there any symptoms I should look for?
My breasts haven't been sore
I haven't been having morning sickness
I haven't been having cravings out of the ordinary...
but I have been having vaginal discharge. I get that every once in a while anyway but I mean is this a sign of pregnancy? It's creamy and white but I mean I seem to be getting it more than normal...
please help. thanks. (link)
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I don't think you are pregnant. Its
perfectly normal to have periods
that are lighter than others. Its
normal to have some that are very
heavy. None of those things you
mentioned having are signs of
pregnancy.
Here is an interesting site for you
to visit. It will answer all your
questions and many more. Its info
you should have if you are going to
be sexually active.
http://www.coolnurse.com/
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i think..i did it...i wrote him a letter..2 pages front and back..it took me 2 hours..i was up till 11:30 writing it when i planned to go to bed at 9:30..but after i got off the phone..erhh yeah.. so instead of giving him the letter myself..i gave it to his 1st period teacher..bahaha. yeah...since i know his first period teacher and what not..but the note explained how i think why i keep acting the way i am now..and the calling and the letters...is me just looking desperatly for closure...after 1st period i was right behind him but i didnt say anything... after 2nd period he saw me..and he was staying far back on purpose...and then he passed me.. 4th period..i went to guidance..well on tuesday i made an appointment with my guidance counsler to find closure in this..and yeah..she helped me a bit..but she wasnt sure what to say..after that i saw him..and i gave him another note saying i appericate how he doesnt say anything to me and that he isnt helping the closure im looking for..and he wouldnt take it and said no more notes....and so i grabbed him the arm to stop him from walking away..and hae told me if i wanted to make this work, i have to give him what he wants..then he took the note... after 5th period he saw me as usual..and kept his distance and walked right by me not looking at me..or saw me from the corner of his eye....but as he passed i stared at him..after 7th period i finally got enough in me to talk to him...well he saw me and went into his class and right as he was in the doorway, i called his name and he turned around..the first thing that was said was him saying something along the lines of me needing to stop..then im like..i understand what you want but your not understanding what i want..and after talk ad all that we walked away..and i felt so much better after the note, and that talk. that after school..i started to skip and sing "im walking in sunshine" since i was in a good mood..and its finally getting warmer here..and that i get to go to the city tomorrow and not see him..since spring break is next week..i was beyond happy, though i had a killer migrane... yeah life is good..i thik i finally found the closureeeee. =] (link)
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WooHoo! Glad you feel better.
Have a good time in the city
and on your Spring break!
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I was reading a recipe where it said to temper the egg, what does that mean?
Thank You (link)
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Taken from http://www.practicallyedible.com/edible.nsf/encyclopaedia!openframeset&var=encyclopaedia
A great cooking reference site. :)
Temper can refer to moderating the density of one half of a soufflé's ingredients. The fundamentals of any soufflé are two mixtures, a light fluffy one of beaten egg whites, that provides lift, and a second heavier mixture, that provides the body and the flavor. If you were just to stir the heavier mixture straight into the beaten egg white, you might deflate a good deal of the egg white that you just labored to beat. What you do instead is Temper the heavier mixture -- moderate its weight -- by stirring into it a few spoonfuls of the beaten egg white, and then folding the two together.
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I have two daughters one is eighteen and the other is twenty-three. They both live at home and they haven't gotten along for quite some time now. The older one thinks that we cater to the younger one way to much. The younger one is still in high school and has a dominating personality and is argumenative where the older one doesn't talk and is very distant and pretty much avoids life and confrontations. They are totally opposite in every way. They both work but they don't make enough to be out of the house and being that the younger one is still in high school we do not require that she be out or the older one for that matter. The older one is very angry and feels she is never comfortable or a part of the family. I don't know why she feels this way. She claims that she can't stand the younger one 90% of the time. The younger one feels she is always second when ever the older one is around. I always feel I'm in the middle because I tend to get attacked when I try to intervien when they argue and fight. The younger one is putting so much stress on us financially and mentally because of her demands. I know that it is our fault, but because she has always struggled in school and now she is finally excelling and we are pretty much spoiling her because of it. My older daughter is very angry because of it. She feels the younger one doesn't deserve anything because of her bad attitude and rudeness. We are afraid that if we don't give in she will not further excell, she has done so well and we are afraid she won't try no more. The older one never received things and really never asked for anything as near as the younger one has. When the older one was younger we were not as financially set as we are now. I feel so drained in everyway and I cry because I don't know what to do. I have always prayed that they will get along but it doesn't look good. I worry so much about the older one because she feels so left out and thinks everyone in her family treats her like crap. I have so much guilt about both of my daughters for different reasons. My husband steps in if he's home, or if he sees that I'm getting upset. Most of the time these arguments happen when he's not home. I have so much more to share but that would probably take alot more space. What should I do for my daughters? I'm so proud of the fact that they both work and are doing good for themselves but I just wish they could get along and not make me feel that it's all our fault and that they feel they are not treated equally. (link)
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There is no reason for girls their ages to
be dragging you into things.
The 23 year old needs to grow up. Parents
don't usually spoil or pander to 23 year olds.
Unless she has a reason to be in your home,
she should probably be out there on her own
living her own life. She will remain a
demanding little girl as long as she lives in
your home.
For the 18 year old you need to do this...
Just sit her down and tell her it stops
today. If she wants extras she will need
a job to pay for them herself. Time for
her to start on the road to being an adult
too. It wouldn't be a bad idea to talk to
both at the same time.
There isn't a lot you can do about the past.
You can get yourself some peace in the
future though and teach your daughters that
adults have to work hard for things they
want. If they have problems with each
other, they need to deal with those on
thier own. You no longer want to hear
about it. :)
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what are some simple ways to flirt without being obvious and just kinda being friendly? and then some that are more obvious and stuff. i am just worried that if i flirt with a guy who isnt interested he will be like "that girl is stupid why does she keep flirting with me??" (link)
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Here is a whole ton of sites that have
flirting tips. To many to pick one so will
let you look them over. :)
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my "best" friend, who has been my "best" friend since 5th grade, which is about three years, moved somewhere else last year. she and this girl named sarah weren't close, until this year, when they started talking. they are now really good friends, and they both seem to have so much more fun together than she would with me. like, sarah is into guys, and so is my "best" friend, and they talk about it a lot. sarah has a boy friend so i guess it makes their friendship more interesting. also, ive told her so many times, she either denies everything or just says sorry. but nothing works. im really jealous, like seriously jealous. its making me hate sarah for no reason at all. i dont know what to do. PLEASE dont tell me to talk to her, well, if you do tell me to, please write out exactly what to say, because ive tried so many ways. i dont wanna tell her im jealous, unless i really have to. and i always send my "best" friend emails telling her how i feel, but she seems to not care. i wanna tell her, "okay, this is why i dont talk to you much. please dont get mad at me. nina (nina is my "best" friend), im jealous of your relationship with sarah. and i think that its been causing me to treat her differently. ive tried so many times to have a friendhsip liek you guys, but i dunno, i feel like our friendship is fake. like we have nothing left of us anymore, or hardly anything. you may not feel that way, but i do. i know that ive sent you so many emails telling you how i feel, but ive been being honest about everything. i cant let this let me down, because it is, and it has been. and im sorry, i am, im just jealous, and i dont know what to do about it."
SHOULD i tell her that? tell me what to say please or tell me what to or what not to say from that thing i said up there. (link)
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The truth of it is like this. You are still
friends. It is almost impossible to maintain
the same level of friendship with someone you
don't see all the time. You have to move on
to a different kind of friendship for now.
She's done this, you haven't. You are jealous
but there isn't anything your friend can do
about it. She sees her other friend everyday.
They go to school together and do the same
things.
Don't get mad and give up your friendship
over this. Just realize it isn't ever going
to be the same between you. I know when
someone moves we think everything will stay
the same but it can't.
Find another friend to do everything with.
You will be much happier. Keep in contact
with your old friend. She will always be
your friend. :)
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so i have this guy friend. and we liked each other not too long ago he probably still likes me i probably still like him.. whatever. anyways he always tells me that im mean and im a bitch and stuff and like i dont really know if he just wants attention so he picks fake fights with me or im really being mean to him. what can i do? (if i confront him about it he will get really mad) (link)
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Ask him how he feels you are being mean.
He could be teasing or he may really
think you are being mean in some way you
don't realize. Its the only way you will
find out for sure what he's talking about.
If he gets mad then he is just mean, and
you can tell him so. You can't fix it if
you don't know what he is talking about. :)
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"There's a guy I like at work, and I think he might like me, although he already has a girlfriend. We're friends, and I think we flirt a bit (I know I do), but I'm wondering how I might take it to the next level. Any suggestions??" (link)
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Just continue as you are for now.
Wait until he no longer has a girlfriend.
You don't want a guy who would cheat,
if he cheats on her he could cheat on you.
So continue to flirt and if he seriously
likes you it will happen. Be aware that
some guys flirt with girls with no
intentions of taking it further. :)
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Hi, I am Diya from India.I am 19 years old. My periods are quite regular and last month my periods came on 20th march and lasted for five days .I had sex with my partner on 28th march and i had sex again today on 18th april just two days before my periods are due.We always use condomn as a precaution and i havent used any other contraceptive pills before.Are there any chances of getting pregnant because i dont know if my periods will come again on the correct time or not ?Please help me out as i am really worried due to this. Thanks . (link)
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Anytime you have sex there is the
possibility of getting pregnant.
Using a condom correctly, chances
are that you are NOT pregnant.
But there is always a small chance
of pregnancy even using birth control.
Try not to stress about this to much.
The chance is small. Stress can cause a
delay in your periods too. :)
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okay. I am going to go get tested for and STD. my brother says that when I give my insurance to the people..this kind of stuff will show on a insurance bill. is this true? i really do not want my mom all in my buisness. i hear 16 years and older you can go to the doctor by yourself. so taking my insurance card in to go get tested and it showing up on a bill is not what i want. cause then my mom will find out. i'm just trying to keep this to myself..atleast. Is there anything about a bill I should worry about? because I talked to the one of the employers that works at the clinic and she says I they need insurance info so they can see if it will cover what needs to be payed. Can some one please help. thanks. (link)
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Yes. If you use insurance it will show up
on the bill. Actually, you won't get a bill
from the doctors office, you will get an
insurance EOB (explanation of benefits)form.
It is against the law not to give detailed
information of whats being paid for to you
and your insurance company. It prevents
insurance fraud. Since every single test
given costs a different amount, it lists
them all.
You can go to your local health department,
or planned parenthood in your town. Tell
them you want tested for STD and they will
do it or tell your where to go to get it
done for free or for a very low cost.
I know all the answers you've gotten will
have you confused. I will tell you that I
have worked in a doctors office and have
done insurance billing for that office. I
have also gotten my share of bills over the
years. :)
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so last night, i accidently called him by mistake..and i didnt mean to..i was doing something with my phone..realized i called him and hung up as he picked up... hoping he wouldnt pick up...
today..after school, my friend pulled his pants down outta no where..and i saw that he wasnt thrilled at it..and he walked to the other side of the room to get away from everyone then walked outta the room...and i felt bad because now the ones who saw this..arent gonna leave him alone about it.
on the bus he was like 3 seats in front of me...and i gave him this note apologizing for last night for the outta no where phone call and i know he doesnt enjoy when i give him notes on the bus since..why should i give him a note if im right there.. but i only give him a note because i dont want to get into a whole conversation.
anyways..i justed called him to see if he was mad at me for it..-_- and i was going to say i felt bad for what happened afterschool and i was going to ask him how his field trip to the bronx zoo today was as well, i just had this thing in me to ask.....but when i called and he answered the phone after the hello and i said hi, the first thing he said was "why are you calling?" and i could feel myself starting to cry.
i dont know if i should go ahead and tell him tomorrow the rest of what i was going to say. -_-
yeah this closure thing isnt working...is me wanting to ask him how his day, kinda a sign to me that i want to be friends again? im so lost -_- (link)
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It sounds to me like you want to be friends
again. I don't know if you'll get him to thinking
the same way, but you know it is worth a shot
if you want to talk to him about it. I mean
the worse he can say is he doesn't want to be
friends. You'd be no worse off than you are now.
If that doesn't work out, for your own piece
of mind you may just have to put some distance
between you for a while. I know it will be hard
for you to do, but you can't dwell on it forever.
Its not good for you. Some things just aren't
meant to be at the moment. You'll find someone
else just as good if not better. :)
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