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So a year ago almost to the day my boyfriend of one year who was also my best friend of four years and I broke up. We had all the same friends and at first we just avoided each other. Well he dumped me and I got over it and got a new boyfriend (who I am no longer with) But every time I go to parties and he's there he tells our friends to make me leave, so I have to leave, and if I call ahead and he finds out I am coming he makes one of his friends call and say I can't come. So basically every time my friends have a get together the ones that are more his friends than mine make it so I can't come, and the ones that are more mine than his just ditch me. So I sit at home feeling upset I couldn't go. Why is he doing this? He has no feelings for me whatsoever and I feel like it's been over a year so why would he still be angry? I've never told any of his secrets or spoke badly of him. I've tried talking to him, and getting our friends to see why this is happening. But I am really sick of feeling this way and not being able to be around all my friends. Someone please help....
You need to sit down and talk with you friends, You have the right to be somewhere just like everyone else does. This guy has no right to control you or your friends nor can he MAKE you leave. If you don't want to leave, Then don't.
My honest opinion? Your ex is controlling and immature and I can almost promise you that as long as he continues to try and control people he won't have friends for very long. If your friends continue to treat you poorly because your ex insist that they do then these aren't real friends.
Maybe your friends don't realize how they are treating you? Seriously, I would sit them down and talk to them in a mature calm manner and let them know how it makes you feel. If the choose to be ignorant then it's their loss. You move on and make new friends but again like I said....He can't MAKE you do anything as he does no control you.
I'm 15 and male, my partner is 15 and female. We are both virgins. Is it impossible for us to contract STD's?
Yes it is still possible.
Make sure you use protection at all times, Better safe then sorry.
Can a college see your twitter profile if you have it set on private? And do colleges even check Twitter? I don't have have a Facebook (deactivated it months ago) but I'm always worried that colleges will find a way to check my tweets even though they are private. I don't have anything serious on twitter, but a lot of my tweets are basically complaining! If colleges can see that, I'm ready to deactivate that too.
No Colleges do not check twitter/facebook accounts. However I would suggest never add your professors on a social website same goes for bosses/supervisors at work.
I broke up with my guy a month ago, we both are 31. He said he's not 100% sure about me and said he needs time to think about our relationship.
He wanted to talk with me later, but I said no, because he always said I'm the one who spend his lifetime together when he's seeing me. I couldn't understand why he changed his mind and said that he needs time to think, so I said you'll not be sure as well in the future if you're not sure about me now. Then said I'll never come to see you if you don't say something now and he said nothing...I left.
I know I was so stupid. At that moment, I was mad and felt like he's betraying me, but now I understand we need time to think our relationship. Last week was my birthday, but he didn't wish me a happy birthday. We haven't contacted since we broke up. It's been a month.
His birthday is coming in 3weeks. I don't know what I can do, because I'm afraid of that he's already over me. I'm giving him a space and time to think even I didn't tell him. Will he think I'm over him too? That's why he doesn't contact me? Should I wish him a happy birthday?
He had engaged last year. I'm worried he's going back to his ex fiancé, but I don't know what he thinks so I don't know what I should do. Could you guys give me some advice? I want to know what guys think in this situation.
The reason why I'm confused is that I'm the one breaking him technically, but he was the one who needs time to think. Am I the one who have to contact him first? or should he contact me first? if I want this relationship is going to work again.
You dumped him, From the sound of it he moved on.
You really think he owes it too you to call you and wish you a happy birthday? You two aren't together anymore and he owes you nothing. To demand is selfish and immature. This man is obviously done with your games, It's been a month if he was rethinking of being in a relationship with you then he would of took the time to contact you.
Yes, He may of gone back to his ex fiance and if he did then you are in no place to try and get him back as he then clearly made up his mind. Trying win someone back isn't going to make them want to be with you it will make them resent you. Except it and move on.
My boyfriends parents like this other girl for him because his parents know her since she was little. And everytime i see him he tries to ignore me infront of his parents it feels like were complete strangers when we talk infront of his parent and his dad is always mean mugging me what should i do?
The relationship won't work out, It's pointless.
Why is it pointless? Relationships should never be hidden or have to act ashamed. To ignore your spouse is rude and disrespectful despite what others might think of the situation. Your boyfriends parents may not like or approve of your relationship but lets face it they cannot MAKE him date someone he doesn't want too date either. If you two make one another happy then that's all that should matter. If your boyfriend chooses to ignore you in front of his parents then I'm sorry but your relationship is just doomed.
Hey, 16/f
Okay so I've been friends with this girl for 5 years now, but now we've gone too college.
In one lesson two girls sit in between us. She has become really matey with these girls and ignores me, even when we're queing to go in outside.
It seems she only talks to me for the sake of having omeone to talk to. Like we're sisters on facebook but i'm thinking of deleting that. She lies alot of the time by overeggagerating, and she's very insecure and is scared to be seen on her own.
I want to be her friend but I also want her to stop ignoring me/using me. Any advice I'd be gratefull :)
You can try to confront her but if she refuses to listen/deny the entire thing then I would let her go. If you feel uncomfortable then you could write her a facebook message on how you feel. Least this way you will be able to say everything you need to without being interrupted or ignored. If she doesn't respond back within a day or two I would suspect that maybe she doesn't value the friendship as much as you do. If she wants to be rude, Let her. You go and find some new friends.
I am 13 turning 14 next month and I have been thinking a lot about sex but when I'm ready how will i be able to get the protection i need without my parents finding out?
Also does it hurt for most girls when its there first time and what's the less painful position as in girl and guy sex (not talking about a blowjob!)
Okay seriously Adviceman lay off the damn HIPPA law
You will and should inform your parents about being sexually active, You are young. If you really don't feel like you want too then I would suggest using condoms. Planned parenthood has some great sources that could also probably help you out with birth control.
As far as birth control itself goes:
Make an appointment with a OBGYN
They have Depo Provera shot which you can receive every 3 months.
The Mirena IUD (If you don't have insurance, It's not recommended)
They have birth control pills
They even have a birth control patch that I believe you change every 2 weeks.
Basically, I would make an appointment with a Gynecologist and take it from there. You being 14, Are old enough to go into a doctors office on your own.
Okay well I had a best friend up until 4th grade her name was Hannah but then this girl moved here and her name was Katelynne she ended up being my best friend. Well ever since then Hannah has always thought that Katelynne stole me from her. But I was messaging my best guy friend Makhi and he told Hannah after we were done that I called her a whore and so that started a lot of things. Well Anna, Hannah's best friend, started getting all mean and crap with me so she started stuff. So after a few days of all this stuff was starting Anna started calling me and threatening me so my dad ended up talking to those girls and thought he figured it out but they were still beeing bitches to me so I just gave up. Well then all of my friends wrote this note and it said that they didn't want to be my friends anymore because I have to much drama but all of them even Katelynne signed it. Well two days after aFter they wrote that note they all came up to me and appalogized. I don't know if I should believe them so did Hannah.
These don't sound like real "friends" to me, Friends don't go and back stab and betray friends. I don't blame you for not believing them, How do you know this won't happen again? I would be skeptical about the entire situation seeing everyone was on board with not wanting to be friends with you. Sometimes we just need to let karma play it's roll I say let them go and make new friends. Sounds to me they are the ones with the drama...
Okay, I know I should have respected his privacy, I feel bad about it, but I was just so curious! My older brother (I'm 14, he's 19- almost 20) is my best friend. We are super close, I love him more than anyone else in the world, and we tell each other everything-- EXCEPT things that involve our love lives (kissing and sexual stuff.) We never talk about that kind of thing because it would be too awkward. My brother is the nicest person in the world, and I would never have expected him to do some of these things... even though I guess he's old enough.
Anyway, my mom instructed me to read his texts if I got the chance while he was home from college, because she said that she should know what he's doing. He left his phone downstairs today, and to my horror, he and his girlfriend had been texting about how he "made her underwear wet and sticky" and how much she loved his "crisp, hard dick." Ahhhhh!!! I was actually horrified. I did not mention these texts to my parents or brother, nor do I intend to, but I am honestly emotionally scarred. I can't look at my brother the same way. I mean, I know people his age do stuff like that, he doesn't know what I've done with my boyfriend ( nothing like that!) but still. I'm just having a hard time coping with this. He's the sweetest, most innocent kid. I don't exactly know what advice I want... just something that will hopefully make me feel less disgusted and traumatized. Haha. I don't know how far this means they've gone... Ugh.
Your mother was 100% in the wrong, Your brother is an adult he is over the age of 18.
As an ADULT your brother is entitled to have a life of his own, He is entitled to have his own privacy without his mother or siblings invading it and he does have the right to make his own choices. If you are disgusted by his text messages then no offense too you that is nobody's problem but your own and your mothers. YOU invaded his privacy, You should of known enough that your brother has the right to his privacy.
Again, Why does it shock and surprise you so much? He is 20 years old. Get over it
For some reason, I am only attracted to older men. I'm 19/f and guys my own age are just so unappealing to me. I'm working full time and I'm also in school full time, so it's possible because I'm around older people so much that I just don't relate to guys my age anymore. But is this weird? My last two boyfriends were 22 and 24, respectively. And I've been talking to this 30 year old I work with and I just don't want people to think it's weird that I can't be with guys my own age. Anyone have any opinions on this? Can anyone relate?
Thanks!
Dating people that are older than you isn't weird to a certain extent.
You are an adult, You are technically free to date whoever you wish and please to do so. If you were under the age of 18, I'd say differently.
Some will tell you that age is just a number, However sometimes when we date someone 10+ years our age you should realize that this 30 year old man is going to be many stages ahead of you in life. Also, While you are looking for a relationship, This man is looking for someone to settle down with and a lifetime partner. Many relationships with big age gaps normally don't work out because they aren't on the same level in their life. You are young, You have yet to experience things in your life. The fact is like I said in the beginning if you really feel a connection then go for it but keep in mind he is much older and will always have more experiences.
Ok one day I went to the bathroom to urine and I notice something gooey and creamy looking n my panties so I was scared because I didn't know what it was.....and I still don't this started occurring right after I had sexual intercourse with someone what does this means why is this happening
You are experiencing vaginal discharge, It is completely normal and common in women.
Discharge can be brown, clear, or thick cottage cheese looking.
The only time to really be concerned is if it becomes itchy or burns.
If you are worried, I suggest you follow up with your OBGYN.
Well I went over to my boyfriends house who is 2 years older than me. I am 13 and hen is 15. I went over there and we were up in his room we were just talking and then he told me he loved me of course I told him I love you to. Well then he said if you really love me then you will do something for. I asked him what. Then he said will you suck on my dick? I told him okay but I warn you I have never done it before. Well while I was doing it he started grabbing my boobs and fingering me well I went along with it because he has done this stuff before and well I hadn't. Well afterward we just kissed and stuff. but please tell me was this wrong?
User below me is incorrect
It was wrong of your boyfriend to say that too you, It is wrong because he manipulated you into doing sexual favors for him.
If someone really loves someone or cares about them they don't black mail them. "If you really loved me" Clearly, he manipulated you.
My best advice is too dump him, If this isn't obvious proof that he is using you then sweetheart you will just end up being like the other teenagers who choose stupidity over common sense.
Well I started talking to this guy and all of a suden he asked me out well when we first started dating he told me he wanted to make out with me it was literally 5 min after we started dating but then he just stopped talking to me and I dont know why do you have any advice
The guy was obviously a pervert who wanted to use you, If he abruptly stopped talking to you then either A. He has other girls lined up or likely B. He just clearly lost interest in you.
I asked this before but only to one person. I need more advice please. I recently told my b/f I was raped. His reaction? Oh I'm sorry baby. He doesn't really like it when I need to talk about things, or when I freak out when he does things. I am not trying to upset him or anything, but when I get to the point where I don't want to be touched, he acts like it pisses him off. I feel like he uses it against me too. I mean he knows have had sex, but I feel like he uses that to get more and more out of me. I don't like soingd certain things because I see my rapist. I told him that once and he looked like I slapped him. How do I handle telling him tihngs in a nice or gentle way? Please help me if you can
Female/21
Your boyfriend needs to try and understand or the relationship will fail. Having something traumatic as you experienced isn't something that should be shrugged off as if it never happened. Perhaps he doesn't know what to say or how to act but he doesn't sound like he is really trying to understand nor support you in the situation.
If you aren't already, I suggest seeing a therapist who you can talk too and who can help you.
Communication is the golden key to making a relationship work, I would sit him down and explain to him that it is not easy for you to overcome what happened too you and you would like his support. If he can't do that, Then there is no point in being with him.
All right so me and my boyfriend having been dateing for about a month now. We have kissed and I let him feel me up while we were making out. Now though it seems he "hints" toward wanting to do more. Like when he is touching my chest, he will move his hand down and kinda linger on my belt. I know what he wants and he knows I want to take things slow, but I feel guilty when he doesn't get what he wants(my past b/f's made me think we had to do things). I eventually give in and end up feeling like s*** afterwards. How can I tell him no and stick with it? My self-esteem is not that high do to past experiences. I am always the one who has to say no. He has never said no, or "well we don't have to".
Dump him
If someone can't respect you then you shouldn't be dating them in the first place, Sure your self esteem may not be high but you need to find the balls to put your self respect before HIM. Never let someone push or pressure you into doing something. Pressuring someone is NOT love and it certainly isn't respecting the other half. If he pressures you, Leave him. If he makes you feel guilty again..Leave him.
Now on another note: You need to work on your confidence. If someone pressures you then you need to learn to say "No" and say it in a stern manner where you get your point across. Don't let people walk all over you. If he dumps you because you won't let him do more then you should realize he wasn't the one for you and he's nothing but an asshole who didn't deserve you in the first place.
Guys, I need your honest answer as to why you try so hard to be forward and let a girl know you're interested..only to go completely quit and distant one day??? I don't get it. I know this one guy who made it pretty blunt that he was into me, he was always talking and making the first text message move. And now it's like he just hasn't made any attempt to try and talk. I've texted him a few random times within the past week, and he doesn't reply. What can I do to make him go back to how he was acting? Thanks so much!!
If you have been attempting to contact him unsuccessfully then he likely lost interest in you.
Maybe he did like you at one time, Maybe he also was just trying to use you as a booty call I really couldn't tell you the exact truth as I don't know the entire situation. Anyway, I'd stop trying to contact him. If a dude is into a women he'd find a way to contact her so if he hasn't responded then don't waste your time.
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost four months now, and he wants to keep us a secret from his friends and family. I am 14, he is 18 - please no comments about age, we don't mind the age difference at all - and we live far apart. We text all the time, but barley get to see eachother. He doesn't want to tell any of his friends or family - and won't say we are dating on faceboook. He always says he is going to marry me someday and acts mostly like he means it. I don't know what to do anymore, but I love him with all of my heart.
I refuse to beat around the bush because you don't want to hear the damn truth.
This guy is too old for you, It is illegal for someone of age 18 years old to date a minor. It is WRONG, You know it and so doesn't he and this is exactly why he wants nobody finding out. What he is doing is pedophilia and if anyone where to find out that he is trying to date you they could file a police report and he can be arrested on the spot and as much as an asshole I come out too be I hope he does. This guy is too old for you, What the hell is someone 18 years old trying to get with someone who is only 14? You seriously see nothing wrong with that?
It's against the law
If charged he could be looking at: Register as a sex offender, Soliciting of a minor, statutory rape, Unlawful act upon a minor etc. Do you really want to risk it? Seriously, If you really like the guy then do him and yourself a favor by staying the hell away from him. It's sick and disgusting of him to be looking to date a 14 year old
Now stating you live far apart, Do you mean in another state? If you were planning on meeting him he could be looking at kidnapping charges, You as a minor could possibly fall as a runaway and land yourself in juvenile.
It isn't wise of you to proceed a relationship that is clearly not going to work out for either one of you. This doesn't really need to be on your parents behalf as if anyone becomes suspicious all they need to do is report it. Also, I hope you and your boyfriend are well aware that inappropriate text messages are illegal and traceable even if deleted.
Really, You are playing with fire
im 21 and me and my fiance have been trying to have a baby, im really good with children, have experience, just having some problems, i have a thyroid problem, taking medicine for that, is there any other ways, i never get my period, maybe like every 6 months i get it,it breaks me to see alot of my family having babies,we have been trying but just not working,please any ideas will help me
If you and your fiance are ready to have a child and aren't having any luck in the baby making field then I suggest you both see a fertility specialist. this may not have anything to do with you having a thyroid problem it could also be other things as well. Keep in mind that a successful pregnancy can take up too a year or long for some couples too.
A irregular period will make it more difficult but it most certainly is not impossible.
going to ask the doctor for a birth control, im on thyroid medicine for my thyroid,but i wanna regulate my period because i only get it like every 6 months,sometimes,every 3 months, please help, thanks=]
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0000278/
I had to do a lot of research as I know nothing about birth control but from what I cam across this is used to treat endometriosis so I'm not entirely sure if it is the right thing for you. I would suggest talking to your gynecologist as they may be able to provide a better answer for you. This medication also says it is known to regulate periods and is a form of birth control. However, Talk to your doctor and see what he/she says as we are limited here and we aren't qualified to answer certain questions.
Best luck to you
Me and my boyfriend been together for 7 months now but i just dont know if i want to be with him or not anymore. I mean i do love him dont get me wrong there. What do i do?
I'm 15 and hes 16.
If you aren't happy being in the relationship then there is no point in proceeding. However, You should keep in mind that relationships have stages. There is the puppy love stage in the beginning and once you both start to get used to one another that stage sort of begins to fade. You can care for someone but if you aren't happy then move on.
Sometimes everyone goes through periods of being overwhelmed, bored, etc. If you are feeling overwhelmed then maybe you two could try to spend a day with friends and even it out. It's never good to spend 24.7 with your partner as sometimes the time apart is what keeps the relationship going. Maybe ease down on the amount of time you two spend together? 7 months is a decent time, Do you really want to just get rid of the relationship? Try and work it out if you can but if you really don't feel you can do it anymore then it may be best to go separate ways.