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i dont want my parents to find out when i become sexually active
I am 13 turning 14 next month and I have been thinking a lot about sex but when I'm ready how will i be able to get the protection i need without my parents finding out?
Also does it hurt for most girls when its there first time and what's the less painful position as in girl and guy sex (not talking about a blowjob!)
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Sweety, I ain't no prude, but you shouldn't even begin thinking about having sexual intercourse until you're at least 16. So be patient. Guys your age are not psychologically capable of making sex with them satisfying for girls. They are immature and more focused on putting points on the board to prove something to their buddies and you are merely the vessel for that. So just relax and give yourself some time to grow up. The sex you eventually have will be a lot better for it.
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your at the age where you start thinking about sex alot. if you feel like you want to you can just be safe about it. you can go on the pill and tell your parents its just to reduce the amount of periods you get. and always use condom. no matter what the guy says cause you dont want to be put at risk of being a teen mother. your parents would really be dissapointed ( they would still love you ). if you dont want to tell your parents then you dont have to but its always nice to reasure your parents that your practicing safe sex.
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Okay seriously Adviceman lay off the damn HIPPA law
You will and should inform your parents about being sexually active, You are young. If you really don't feel like you want too then I would suggest using condoms. Planned parenthood has some great sources that could also probably help you out with birth control.
As far as birth control itself goes:
Make an appointment with a OBGYN
They have Depo Provera shot which you can receive every 3 months.
The Mirena IUD (If you don't have insurance, It's not recommended)
They have birth control pills
They even have a birth control patch that I believe you change every 2 weeks.
Basically, I would make an appointment with a Gynecologist and take it from there. You being 14, Are old enough to go into a doctors office on your own.
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I found the website, shown at the end, while answering a very similar question for other young ladies. I believe you should review this website before making any decision about having sex, starting with “Am I ready?”
On the subject of are you ready: all I will say is sexual intercourse is a beautiful thing between two loving responsible adults. Sex for you as a woman is different than for the boy. You are more emotionally mature than a partner would at your same age by about 2 years. Sex for a woman most always have a loving relationship, meaning women usually do not hop in and out of bed. Where for a boy of the same age sex is more of a conquest, away to satisfy raging hormones.
The odds are against you marring the boy you give your virginity to, so be selective as to who you chose to be your first. Make sure you find someplace you can have your first sexual experience that is safe, relaxing and that you will be undisturbed. You should be on birth control for at least 30 days and always have him use a condom. When you are of age 14 or older, by law, you have medical confidentiality. This law called HIPPA, a federal law, provides you the right and the protection to see any doctor in private. Meaning mom or dad cannot be in the exam room with you during the examination or treatment. The doctor cannot tell your parents what you are being treated for without a written release from you signed in front of his nurse or someone in his employ. This is to insure you are not forced in to supplying this release. This law specifically covers a women’s reproductive system. Under this law you can ask your doctor for birth control medication. He can only refuse you on medical grounds.
As someone who is old enough to be your grandparent I should be telling you to wait. I am sure your parents have already given you that advice and it is good advice. It is also hypocritical of most of us, as most all of us my age and younger engaged in sex long before we were married. What I will say is there are ways of satisfying the sexual urges without having intercourse. There is masturbation, mutual masturbation, which is generally apart of foreplay, BJ’s and HJ’s. At your present ages you can have all the intimacy of sex using these alternatives without running the possibility of an unwanted pregnancy. Remember no birth control is 100% effective. End of lecture.
My advice is to wait a few more years, let you and your body matures a bit more so that you can fully enjoy a sexual relationship. Don’t let pear pressure force you to do something you may not be fully ready for.
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It is natural for females to start to think about sex at this age.
I am not like most adults that will tell you don't do it, so I will give you advice.
Firstly think about whether you are ready for it or not.
If you are being forced into it, don't do it.
It is most important for the guy to get protection, so leave it up to him.
You could always get your friend to buy you something.
It does hurt the first time because it really depends on the size of his penis and your vagina.
You may bleed without pain for the next day.
There is no RIGHT position. It will hurt a bit the first time but it will get better.
I hop ethos helped.
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