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I Am Only Attracted to Older Men
For some reason, I am only attracted to older men. I'm 19/f and guys my own age are just so unappealing to me. I'm working full time and I'm also in school full time, so it's possible because I'm around older people so much that I just don't relate to guys my age anymore. But is this weird? My last two boyfriends were 22 and 24, respectively. And I've been talking to this 30 year old I work with and I just don't want people to think it's weird that I can't be with guys my own age. Anyone have any opinions on this? Can anyone relate?
Thanks!
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First, different strokes for different folks. You gotta do what is right for you since it is your life.
HOWEVER, I went out with a 19 year old when I was 26. She was a great girl in a lot of ways, but there was such a big disparity in life experience and maturity, even with just a seven year gap, that it didn't work. Her parents wanted me to marry her since I was the most stable boyfriend she ever had, and actually flew off the handle when I dumped her, wondering what she had done to blow it.
Moreover, it is generally true (that means 50% of the cases plus one) that if one hasn't had an exploratory phase to one's life they would regret it later. Therefore, there is no hurry for you to be tied down. Graduate college, go live overseas for a while and figure out who you are and then you can revisit longterm relationships after that.
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well damn. 80s music? you're quite the rare one indeed. Dudes are like whisky. when it first comes out of the still, it's immature, tacky, and unrefined. let it age for a while, and it turns into a delightfully mellow after-dinner drink(and for some of our friends, a morning eye-opener). I was a Jackass for a pretty solid block of my post-high school life, and now, I'm a bit more refined and mature(or at least I hope).
I've dated chicks in a range of 8 years older to 7 years younger than myself. While a younger woman certainly livens up the party, after going through a few of those, I left the phase for two reasons, one- they're for the most part, more illogical and insane than the average woman, and two- explaining how everything works gets really annoying. Though it is nice to have a neat little vixen for arm candy, does an older chap like myself really want to go dancing every weekend? I think its all about finding a person on the same level of maturity as yourself.
-Gunner
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I am 20 (just) and my boyfriend is 34, before that I was casually seeing a man who was 38 (just two years younger than my stepfather). I have always felt more comfortable talking to older people in general, my best friend in the world is a woman I met at University who is into her 50s.
I tried being with men my own age, I even almost married one but for some reason it is like they are on a lower level to me, I can't talk about things like 80s music or theatre shows without being seen as a snob.
It isn't your fault if you prefer the older man, I didn't realize until I was at work and met my boyfriend and realized I was into another man in his 30s, before that a 26 year old when I was 17/18.
My boyfriend and I have always said age is just a number but at the same time I have found it does come with draw backs. Like my boyfriend only goes out once a week, he spends alot of time in his living room and with his parents. There is also the fact that if you make it last with an older man you have to be able to expect that he is going to need physical help before you do and stuff like that.
Some people don't like it, that is fine I understand their opinion even if I don't agree with it. I am more likely to put our happiness before basic maths because that is the way I am.
Personally I think you shouldn't worry about it, its just like how you prefer your steak as far as I am concerned and I guess when it comes to men we prefer it medium to well done.
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I have always been interested in older men as well, it seemed like the right thing for me. Though at the time I was seeing older men that was against the law we never broke the law. I am married now to a man that is 7 years older then me and we are very happy together. Age gap or not. The one problem that I did face when I was 19 was my boyfriend at the time was 22 and was wanting to go out drinking and all of that and it ended up causing problems. But once you pass that and can go out and be with them then there really isnt a problem.. remeber.. half their age plus 7 is a very well known age gap approval..
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My dad is about 8 and 1/2 years older than my mom, and they have had a good marriage for 27 years now! Eventually, age differences don't really matter (unless they're HUGE) because people age and it becomes less noticeable. You can date whoever you like, and as long as you are comfortable with them then the age difference won't matter.
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I think it's perfectly acceptable because it shows your mature enough to make your own decisions, and guys will respect you for that. It's not like your underage or anything so I thnik it's fine, and it's also no one's place to tell you otherwise, because who are they to make a judgement?
If it feels right it must be right. Cheesy as it sounds but if your in love then age doesn't come in to it. I think its almost better because the guy would be more protective. Plus when you're at school you spend all your time with people your age so they're more mates than relationship material.
Be proud of your decision-good luck :)
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Dating people that are older than you isn't weird to a certain extent.
You are an adult, You are technically free to date whoever you wish and please to do so. If you were under the age of 18, I'd say differently.
Some will tell you that age is just a number, However sometimes when we date someone 10+ years our age you should realize that this 30 year old man is going to be many stages ahead of you in life. Also, While you are looking for a relationship, This man is looking for someone to settle down with and a lifetime partner. Many relationships with big age gaps normally don't work out because they aren't on the same level in their life. You are young, You have yet to experience things in your life. The fact is like I said in the beginning if you really feel a connection then go for it but keep in mind he is much older and will always have more experiences.
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