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Telling your boyfriend you were raped.
I asked this before but only to one person. I need more advice please. I recently told my b/f I was raped. His reaction? Oh I'm sorry baby. He doesn't really like it when I need to talk about things, or when I freak out when he does things. I am not trying to upset him or anything, but when I get to the point where I don't want to be touched, he acts like it pisses him off. I feel like he uses it against me too. I mean he knows have had sex, but I feel like he uses that to get more and more out of me. I don't like soingd certain things because I see my rapist. I told him that once and he looked like I slapped him. How do I handle telling him tihngs in a nice or gentle way? Please help me if you can
Female/21
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Thats pretty fucking insensitive of him. ditch the douche and find a nice guy.
-Gunner
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Your boyfriend needs to try and understand or the relationship will fail. Having something traumatic as you experienced isn't something that should be shrugged off as if it never happened. Perhaps he doesn't know what to say or how to act but he doesn't sound like he is really trying to understand nor support you in the situation.
If you aren't already, I suggest seeing a therapist who you can talk too and who can help you.
Communication is the golden key to making a relationship work, I would sit him down and explain to him that it is not easy for you to overcome what happened too you and you would like his support. If he can't do that, Then there is no point in being with him.
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Well first of all think about what you want to say to him just take a minute to think about what you want from him and what he can do for you and just sit him down and tell him im sure if you really take the time to explain things to him he will eventually understand. :)
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