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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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Me and this guy have just started talking for like 3 months or so, but just recently weve gotton very close to one another. hes really sweet,he does basically everything a gentleman would do, he was never inappropriate and never crossed his limits.
now the thing is, he just broke up with his girlfriend a few months ago, and i just broke up with my ex boyfriend 5 months ago, we were both really heartbroken, we knew eachother back then but never payed much attention to eachother.I hear stuff about him from his best friend, typical guy things.. i heard he was like kind of over the top in his last relationship (controlling) but then when i come to talk to him, he talks to me about how much hes changed, and learned from alot of mistakes, ive heard things like him making out with this girl , or him flirting with this girl, so i dont really trust him that much.. now you see the thing is that, if were at the movies or in a cafe, hell start teasing me and like poking me , and id poke him back then hed hold my finger, then my other one, then my whole hand, and like intermingle our fingers together, and like the way he does it is SO affectionate, ever since we started talking i havent heard anything about him doing stuff with other girls, but i cant really know if it does or not cause i have no way of finding out. I dont know if hes playing around cause hes bored, or maybe he likes me and is on the rebound.. i dont know if i like him but all i know is that hes an amazing distraction and i think i may be falling for him, its a possibility. But how do i know the difference between him playing with me, or him liking me? if he was playing with me hed go farther, and he never did, i think holding hands is way more passion and affection. but i dont know if i should continue talking to him or not.. i tried moving my hands plenty of times but he just keeps trying (not forceful, but being sneaky about it) hes really nice and never did anything wrong to me,so i dont know if i should beleive what i hear or go with the flow. The way he tries to hold my hand, and like rubs my hands with passion is really cute and i dont really want to lose that.. so what do i do? :/ Im a girl, im 17 and hes 18 , thank youu.
If you don't trust him, I'd go with your gut feeling on that one.
It's hard to tell seeing I don't know the guy but I would take it slow whatever you decide to do as you don't want to get caught up with a master manipulator never mind someone who is out to control you. Controlling people are not only manipulative but if they know they can get away with it it could lead to violence. My advice......I'd go with how you really feel but take it slow and play it safe. If he turns out the way others said he was then I would take it as a flag and move on.
Okay, so. I promised my bf I'd send him some of my private stuff. I only promised because he sort of forced me into promising but then I said it was no big deal. So I told him I would send it to him by the end of the day. But it turns out that things went wrong that day and I ran out of time to send it to him. I was gonna text him a sorry but then he called me a bitch for not sending it. How should I react!?
Your boyfriend sounds like a controlling ass, If he is forcing you to do something you don't want to do then of course he is not worth it. Controlling someone is NOT a relationship.
Also, Assuming he meant send a picture via text message that is illegal and he can be charged with child pornography. Whether it is deleted or not, Data stores information in the phone just like a computer stores hidden files.
Dump him and move on he doesn't deserve you.
Hi everyone!!!I wish you a Merry Christmas and a happy New Year!!!!!thank you for your words of advice and I'm very happy to belong to this website!!!!kisses!!!:)
Merry Christmas to you also!
Ok...I decided to accompany my daughter and her father to a mini-christmas vacation and so we were about to eat dinner (reminder: with my ex). So I tell him "Are you happy we are here!" and his response is "Well, I am paying for it" with a certain attitude. I gave him 250.00 from his child support to help "US" with the trip expenses. I got upset and told him I would pay the 40.00 bill for the dinner. I did tell him those types of comments were totally uncalled for. He was amazingly upset saying I had twisted all his words around. It completely reminded me why I got a divorce in the first place, but I want to understand and get another man's perspective or woman's....did I over react...was my reaction uncalled for. I don't know please let me know.
Female 36 years old
I don't think you over reacted at all, His response was rude and ignorant. You stated that you put 250.00 towards the trip therefore you DID put some money towards the whole ordeal. If anyone over reacted it was him, Not you.
I feel like I am trapped !
My Husband and I are constantly arguing and I don't think that I love him anymore.
We bicker about stupid things and he constantly frustrates me.
We have been together for nearly 16 years and married for nearly ten. It is the second marriage for both of us and we are in our early fifties.
At first we loved one another deeply and had a good sex life. He was caring and understanding and was a really nice caring person.
Things started going wrong a few years ago...I can't remember when or why. It was probably a slow degeneration.
Although he seems like the perfect Husband from an outsiders point of view..as he helps around the house, doesn't go out drinking with the boys or gamble and works hard.....I am really bored by him, and don't feel like we are matched intellectually. We argue most, about the fact that he just doesn't listen to me, and this then turns me into a nag !
We went shopping yesterday, and we had a conversation in the car on the way into town...which by the time we had got home, he had completely forgotten what I had said ! This happens on a daily basis...and he doesn't understand how frustrating this is, for me. I have told him that I have concerns about the fact that he might have the early stages of dementia..but he doesn't think so. However, he has a short term memory problem..that is difficult to deal with on a daily basis.
We also argue about the fact that he has no ambitions or goals in life and very much lets life wash all over him. I am much more of a go getter and I often feel that nothing would get done...if I didn't do them. I seem to organise everything that we do, from days out, to meals to holidays and everything inbetween.
He knows there is a huge problem in our marriage..as we have talked about it loads, but he won't go with me and get any outside help. It feels as though it is always me that is trying to sort out our differences and I am getting emotionally exhausted by it all.
We haven't had sex now for nearly six months and sleep in seperate bedrooms...as he works nights and also keeps me awake with his snoring. He doesn't seem very concerned about this..but I am.
The marriage seems to be getting worse and worse and I don't know how much more unhappiness I can take.
I keep telling him what I think is wrong..but he sticks his head in the sand and hopes that the problem will go away, if he ignores it.
We own a house together, and if I move out (becuase he won't) I have nowhere to go. I don't have any family in the area...and I certainly couldn't go to his family.
I don't know what to do !!!! Help.
I would generally recommend marriage counseling but because you stated at the end of your statement "but he won't go with me and get any outside help" I am going to have to say I believe your last straw is filing for divorce. Relationships/Marriage should be 50/50 as a relationship is partnership were we help one another, support them and communicate. If your husband is no longer willing to put in the effort be supportive then the marriage is doomed.
You could try and a discussion with him and see if you can come to an agreement to go to counseling but if the conversations fails there is only one last route.
One of my best friends likes me, I wanted to tell him I didn't like him and I tried to but he just isn't getting the point. I just wanna be friends. I couldn't see him as anything more than that. He wants to take me out on thursday and I wanna say no but i don't wanna hurt his feelings and mess up our friendship, what do I do?
Be honest with him, If you two are best friends you shouldn't have a problem letting him know how you feel. If you feel you need to be more blunt about it you could tell him "I don't want to lead you on but I really value our friendship to much to make it into something more and I would feel more comfortable if we were friends" That isn't to harsh but it's pretty much to the point.
I am 17/female. I have only had one serious boyfriend and we lasted 3 months. I am a senior in highschool and we dated my sophmore year. We didn't do anything sexual so i am quite unexperienced. I kind of want a boyfriend now but i haven't really gotten close to having another one. Most people find me unattractive i would assume and i dont blame them. I want to loose my virginity and experiment as well as have a relationship i have had guys tell me if i want to sleep with them i can, but i dont want to just show up and say "lets fuck" that seems rediculous to me. There is one person in particular i'd do that with but i dont think they're up for it, and they're taken anyways. The only other person i'm slightly close to being in a relationship with is my guy friend, i kind of like him but i dont know if he likes me. And i don't know if we'd ever end up dating. expecially since its our last year in highschool. I'm shy around people i don't know so i don't see myself meeting up with people my friends suggest to me, or blind dates or anything else. but idk i just want peoples opinions on everything i've mentioned. anything helps. thank you. and please dont skip your opinion just because others have answered. i'd like as many opinions as i can get. thanks
I don't know if you realize what you said but I would hope you wouldn't just fuck anyone for the hell of "experimenting"
Relationships should be about more then sex, They are about partnership. Learning and growing together, If sex is all that seems to be on mind then you really won't last very long in any relationship. I'm not trying to be a full blown asshole, I'm being upfront. Flat out having sex for the hell of it is a good way of showing no self respect.
Best wishes too you......
EDIT: Sorry you feel pressured from the influence of others! lol
Hi, this may be a little sad, but i am having trouble finding a girlfriend. I go to school, work, and barely have time to get out. I am shy when it comes to the girls that i like. As far as girls who are my friends, i do just fine. I am 19 and i currently have a membership at the local YMCA. The problem is that i don't know how to approach and get a girl to go out with me. I had a "girlfriend" in my freshman year of high school, but we only went out on one date and we didn't even last a month. I would like both gender's perspectives on this. Please state whether you are female or male. THanks. Also, don't worry how many have responded to this already, i'll take as many as i can get.
P.S. how do you tell if a girl is single or not without asking them?
Sometimes the best thing to do when you are looking to date someone is just not try so hard to find the person. One thing that always scares off a women is when a guy comes on to strong, You don't really flat out ask them if they are single. How did you meet your friends? I suppose you had to start somewhere. If you have a membership to the YMCA then when you see someone just try being friendly and say Hi. Sometimes a good way to meet someone is to get together with friends and have them bring their friends along. Be casual about it, Try and get to know them and find similar interest. Once you get to the point where you have a good conversation going you could ask the person if they want to grab a coffee sometime.
Maybe this sounds cheesy but if you are a member of the YMCA and you spot a girl and don't know how to approach her you could act like you need some help with something and ask if she'd give you a hand. Sure, Maybe you don't really need the help but sometimes it's the way to get a conversation going. If the girl shows interest in you and is willing to hang out then the obvious signs that she likes you would be once she flirts with you, wants to really get to know you and spends a good chunk of time with you. If you feel the need, Once you get to know a little bit about her you could ask if she's seeing someone.
Ok i know this is going to souond stupid, but im willing to take that risk. ok how many holes does a girl have in her vagina? Because i looked and there was only 2 (counting your butt hole) but wen i wear a tampon i can still pee. Me and my friend were discussing it (i have NO idea why) so just give me an anwser please!
Women have 2 holes, The vagina and the anus. There is no second vagina...
So I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over two years now... and we've really gotten into a routine. I am SO in love with him and can't imagine my life without him, but at the same time am quite frustrated with the way things are going. He always wants to make out, but for me it's gotten boring. It feels like a chore now... and I don't understand because I used to love it. I would always want to make out with him but now it's not the same. I don't know what's happened. And it isn't just the making out... it's hanging out too. We do the SAME things all the time and it makes me crazy. I've brought this up before and we've done things to make it more interesting and it works for a while but we always end up going back to watching tv for hours. Since we are planning to get married, this really worries me. I know relationships lose the initial spark after a while, but if this is how it is after 2 years Im afraid things wont work in marriage.
In a way, it feels like we are already married. Like when we go out to dinner occasionally we can barely find things to talk about.I dont feel like we are completely in sync with each other. I dont know what to do. We have gone through this before and come through it and I cant imagine myself without him. I never want to break up with him.
Could it be that Im just not feeling attracted to him anymore? How do I get that back? How can we get the spark back?
Thanks(:
P.S. While I dont want to break up with him, I do sometimes catch myself wondering what it's like to have more dating experience etc. Im so lost, please help!
You really need to sort out how you feel before you even think of walking down the isle.
If you two do the same things everyday then come up with a game plan. While the winter is approaching it will be harder to do things together but if you both enjoy the outdoors maybe you could look into going skiing, snowboarding or even tubing together. My partner and I had the same problem awhile back, We would do similar things and after awhile we both were bored out of our minds. Try doing something you both don't normally do, You two could go to the mall and just walk around and talk. Find something you both enjoy doing together. Instead of going out to dinner go and see a movie you both have been wanting to see. Play board games, Plan a dinner at home where you both could make something together. If this is unmanageable then I would really start to rethink whether you should proceed the relationship with this guy as something like this could backfire if you two were to get married.
One thing I would recommend is also trying to spend some days apart, If you have friends then plan a day to go off for awhile and have some time to yourself. This will help the relationship breathe and give you two some time apart so you aren't overwhelmed constantly. They key to a healthy relationship is to know when to take a day off with family and friends.
my bf touches his sex organ with my sex organ..is any chances of getting pregnant???
If the penis comes in contact with the vagina then yes there a chance of getting pregnant.
Use a condom
Hi I am a 33 year old man, and I'm currently long distance dating a 21 year old.
We have been dating for over a year. And we text all day an mainly text during the night...
I love her she been there for me threw thick and thin... We have so much in common, we can talk for hours an never get bored...
An a while ago I found out she been talking to her ex via- email, im chat and phone convos... An she was still telling him she loves him, she wants too be with him... etc etc...
So when I confronting her, she told me the truth that she had been talking too him, and having sex with her other ex...
I forgave her...
And 5 months roll by...
And her other ex from Texas came by...
She lied and told me she was seeing the Twlight movie, and she met up with him, and went mia all night...
I found out confronted her...
And she told me she did, and she just kiss him and that was it, but she was gone all night...
I forgave her because I didn't have proof that she went beyond kissing... An 2day she sent a strange text too me like it was meant really for someone else, saying that she could be at some place in twenty minutes, an i asked her who was that text to, an she said her little cousin...
i need help... please give me the best advice about this siuation, im confused. and I don't know if i can continue to trust her...
Ps: I cheated on her, but way in the beginning an i've changed drastic for her...
End the relationship
She is cheating on you, She is continuing to cheat on you. I firmly believe that when someone cheats they shouldn't be giving a second chance. You keep forgiving her and because you do, You tell her it's okay to keep on doing so.
The girl is immature, If you want someone who is down to business I would suggest looking for someone else. The women already told you that she still loves her ex and wants to be with him and therefore there is no point in trying to be in a relationship that is no longer one to begin with.
I have been living with my boyfriend for over a year now things r not going so good.we argue a lot but usually we get over it pretty fast.in other cases we both flip out and he starts getting really violent. He hits me in my face knees me throws me amd mainly chokes me now.i pretty much have gotten used to the hitting it stops hurting fast now but I'm not sire i can handle the verbal abuse.he says he blacks out i love him a lot but im not sure what to do i have no famiky and I'm onoy 17.i need advice please!!
You need to get out of the relationship, "Blacking out" is a bullshit excuse. There is NO excuse for being violent towards someone whether it's verbally or physically.
Find a friend or family that will let you stay with them until you get on your feet, If there is absolutely no one that can then find a women's shelter that can take you in and help you.
Whatever you do, You need to leave. Staying with him isn't going to make the situation any better and FORGIVING him is only telling him nothing but that is is okay to abuse you and it's NOT.
I really believe you love the good times you had with him, Not him in general. Seriously are you happy being with someone that abuses you?....I hope the answer is no.
I am a victim of an abusive relationship of 5 years and I'm telling you right now if you stay in the relationship it will only get worse. The choking should be an alarm going off in your head. GET OUT BEFORE YOU END UP HOSPITALIZED OR DEAD. People don't just change because they fucked up, Abusive people need to seek professional help. You owe it too yourself to leave, You deserve better in life then this piece of shit.
Hello, my boyfriend and I just bought a new house. The outside is great but the inside is horrible. Actually, it really just needs new carpeting and a fresh coat of paint throughout (everything can be easily fixed!) but since we are making this house our own, I don't want just plain white walls in every room. My problem is, I have so many ideas for each room and none of them really coordinate! Plus, if they DO coordinate, I don't want everything to be too matchy-matchy. How can I create a good them for the whole house but still make each room unique?
Room decorating can be fun and overwhelming.
Your husband and you could try to come up with a style. Example: If you like country then you could agree that each room would have a touch of country. Traditional, Classy etc.
The walls would need color therefore you could decide if you want vibrant or softer colors or if you two wanted too you could do paneling.
I would recommend you both look at some brochures online to get a better idea of what you can do to mix it up. Walmart should even have a Home Decor magazine, I'm sure that will give you some great ideas.
Some of you may remember me asking this question: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=600363
If not, my period usually came on the 14 of every month. A week passed, no period; thought I was pregnant; took three pregnancy test; all negative; than on the 27th of November, I got my period until the 4th of December. It was like they normally was, really heavy, and a full 7 days. I was relieved.
Well today is the 14th, and i'm noticing some blood. It's not heavy, but I can tell it will become heavy as the day progresses. Why is this? Is it normal to have two periods in one month? Or is my cycle just trying to go back to normal?
Your periods could be irregular, Delayed periods are caused from a variety of things such as depression, stress, dieting, exercise etc.
Are you on any sort of birth control? If you are, This could be your body adjusting. Birth control can make our hormones go out of whack.
Sometimes periods aren't always exact, If you are concerned you should schedule an appointment with your OBGYN. We are not doctors and we can't really give you an exact answer. However, If you received your period I wouldn't worry too much, I'd worry more if you never got it at all.
hi, we have been together for 2 years and everything is going ok. we live together but as he used to be lot more touchy kissy with me before but now when i go near him, he always says,''he has nothing, nothing''? what the hell is that supposed to mean? i can not understand. i'm getting to be really frustrated by him as he's a stubborn, late 40's and single a father and i'm in my early 30's and i'm making every effort to make this relationhip work. he sometimes seems to be selfish as well. he used to say he will do anything for me but now he has completely changed his mind. i'm tired. guys. help. thanks.
Have you asked him what he is referring too when he says this? My guess is sounds like the guy may be either depressed or getting burnt out.
Communication is the key, You stated he is not as affectionate as he once was. You two live together, You are no longer in the beginning of your relationships and you are now sharing responsibilities. As I say, Relationship effort needs to be on both parties not one. If he is no longer interested in making this relationship work out then you already seem to know this is going to end badly. Talk to him, Maybe he is stressed? The winter can have an effect on people in all kinds of ways but you will never know if you don't talk about it.
me and my bf text or vidchat 24/7. its long distance and weve been dating for almost a year and a half. sometimes, like lately, he just gets on my nerves and does/says little things that peeve me. of course we love each other buy is it reasonable to experience this? should we cut down on talking or does this mean my relationship is failing
You likely are around each other too much, Maybe not in person but texting/video chat is basically the same thing.
A few things:
A year and half, You aren't new in the relationship.
I always tell folks that spending 24.7 together will burn your flame faster than you can begin to ask yourself what happened. My advice to you is to tone it down, If you are feeling overwhelmed then skip it too twice a week. Let your relationship breathe as the space between the two of you will keep your spark going. Constantly talking to one another of course will eventually lead to awkwardness and long mutes as you two have nothing left to talk about. Twice a week will give you both the opportunity to talk about things that happened while you were apart. Tone it down, You may begin to see a big difference.
hello all. i wrote a book and it got published and the publisher said that my book would be in stores by june 14th and there still arent any books in any stores. any advice on why i cant find my book anywhere or what to say to my "agent/publisher?"
Likely it was never published, Having a book published in stores has to go through an editor and a publisher and that alone can be costly.
If you are looking to get yourself out there a few good ways to start:
You could publish in the local newspaper
If your school has monthly papers, You could publish your stuff there as well. Even joining a club to be an editor of the yearbook
Also, If you are really wanting to publish a book the best way to get it done is to find a publisher or an editor. Almost every book has a page about that but like I said it can be very costly.
Good luck
So I am fourteen, and a guy. and about a month ago I asked out this girl who has been a wonderfull girlfriend. But lately I have been feeling angry or sad. Obviously I don't want to, and I don't know if there is a way to stop it. I always get jealous and angry when she talks about her old boyfriends, or when she talks to guys. thanks in advance :-)
I know you probably don't want to hear it but you two are both very young.
She is still getting the hang of the whole dating thing as so are you. It is never cool to compare past relationships with a current boyfriend/girlfriend nor is even talking about them a favorite topic. Communication is a big thing in relationships and if you feel overwhelmed and agitated that she constantly talks about her past relationships then you should ask her not to bring it up with you anymore as it angers you. Also, Have you been spending an excessive amount of time with your girlfriend? Being around each other 24.7 will cause tension in a relationship. Make sure you both are able to breathe, Take a day to go out with your guy friends and let her go out with hers. Being up each others ass all the time is of course going to be a ticking time bomb before you two explode at one another. Talk to her, If you think it would benefit the both of you then tone it down to every other day and if you constantly text then try to tone that down too. Remember, As long as you two have your own time once in awhile your candle will always have it's flame. As far as your jealousy goes, You need to learn to trust your girlfriend as she is with YOU not someone else. Jealousy is one of the main things that kills a relationship.
I'm a 21 girl and I have developed a thing for my coworker. We work in the same area of the store and we often talk in passing or share little comments and jokes. We share common interests and he has even told me that himself. I don't know if he is just being a nice and making friendly chat or if he has any interest. After the holiday I'm moving to another section of the store and I won't see him as much, so lately I've come close to asking him to hang out outside of work. I fear rejection and making our relationship awkward. Should I just ask, wait for him, or just do nothing? Any suggestions?
Unless you both or one of you plan on leaving the job it is never a good idea to date a co worker. In many places co worker relationships are against the jobs policy. If the relationship is kept a secret, I can almost guarantee someone will find out about it. Dating a co worker can cause both of you your jobs as in the eye of the company it is inappropriate. I would acknowledge the fact that it isn't the best idea and move on from it.