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We talk 24/7 and he is getting on my nerves. Is this normal or is my relationship falling apart?
me and my bf text or vidchat 24/7. its long distance and weve been dating for almost a year and a half. sometimes, like lately, he just gets on my nerves and does/says little things that peeve me. of course we love each other buy is it reasonable to experience this? should we cut down on talking or does this mean my relationship is failing
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Girl, your relationship isn't falling. Shockingly, this is perfectly normal. After 5-7 months of being with someone, you begin to exit the "Honey Moon Stage"; you've been with this guy for a year and a half- this behavior is very much normal.
I live with my boyfriend(not by choice; but because he had nowhere to go); we've been together for a year and I experience this alot. I get so annoyed with everything he does, and everything he says just makes me wanna explode! I felt like you did, I thought it meant I was losing feelings for him, but it just meant that I was tired of not having my own personal space. Unlike you, I can't cut down talking to him; because I see him every single day, of every single moment.
But you, luckily, you can cut off some contact with him. Just make sure when you do it, he understand completely why you are doing it. You don't want him to think your taking a "break" from him, losing feelings for him, or don't want to be with him. Let him know that you enjoy talking to him, but you wanna go a couple of days without talking to make yourself miss him like you use to when you guys first started dating.
Good Luck girl! It'll all get easier in time! I promise!
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This is normal-in most relationships you get to the stage where you almost get 'too comfortable' because all the exciting getting to know each other part has gone.
I'd say cut down on the talking slightly-limit it to five days a week, then 4 etc. Its up to you, but don't talk constantly otherwise there'll be nothing to say when you meet up with him in person again. Afterall, absense makes the heart fonder, but communication is the key to a succesful relationship.
Let him know that you'll limit the contact so that he doesn't think your breaking up with him. It's strange, but alot of the time by doing the opposite of what you want you get what you want in the end!
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I don't think it means your relationship is falling I think it just means that you don't need to talk to one another everyday. When you talk to a significant other everyday it causes a lot of tension and what else left is there to talk about when you talk everyday. Maybe have a day or two without talking and that might help. Love doesn't mean you have to talk to him everyday. I don't talk to my boyfriend everyday but I love him and I know he loves me. Try cutting down on the talking time with him and see what happens.
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You likely are around each other too much, Maybe not in person but texting/video chat is basically the same thing.
A few things:
A year and half, You aren't new in the relationship.
I always tell folks that spending 24.7 together will burn your flame faster than you can begin to ask yourself what happened. My advice to you is to tone it down, If you are feeling overwhelmed then skip it too twice a week. Let your relationship breathe as the space between the two of you will keep your spark going. Constantly talking to one another of course will eventually lead to awkwardness and long mutes as you two have nothing left to talk about. Twice a week will give you both the opportunity to talk about things that happened while you were apart. Tone it down, You may begin to see a big difference.
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