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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.

The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.

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do boys get hickeys

I don't wish to rain on your parade but I would be remiss as an adult if I didn't give you the following warning.

Do not give a hickey on someone's neck. Hickeys can be dangerous especially when given on the neck as the blood vessels there may lead to the neck. as has happened you can damage a blood vessel, a clot forms and the person getting the hickey can have a stroke. Read the following story. http://healthomg.com/2011/01/22/how-does-a-hickey-land-you-in-the-er/

I know it is fun to give a hickey but honestly they are a little gross. There are other less dangerous ways to show someone is your lover interest.

So, it seems as if I'm never able to please my family members. I always end up disappointment them. I'm 14/f and the school year is almost over and I'm under a lot of stress and pressure of getting my grades up and finishing final projects and regions too. My mom doesn't understand that all I want to do when I get home is just sleep and calm down. My older brother said that I'm a lazy bastard that just abuses my mom and grandmas assistance around the house. My mom calls me names like pig, useless, a disappointment, and I can never make her happy no matter what I do. I want to tell everybody how I feel about their hurtful remarks (at times I end up crying but they don't care) but I'm a shy person who's kept to herself and I fear that they'll just laugh at me and look at me even lower then they do now. They even tell me what would my dad think of me and that just makes me want to just die in a hole because he was a good man and he died from cancer. I just want to die and maybe everybody would be happier and not have to stress about "The disappointment" of the family. I don't know what to do anymore. I'm just physically and emotionally exhausted of it all. I'm slowly giving up on everything and nobody notices or cares anymore.

I'm sorry that this is so long but i didn't know how to fit this into a few sentences

Don't apologize it sounds like you have good reason to vent. Venting is one of the reason we are here.

First my condolences on the passing of your dad. Not knowing how long ago your dad passed may I ask if it was close enough that mom the rest of the family, as well as you, may still be in mourning for him. The reason I ask this is mourning is a form of depression that we all must go through when we lose someone close. We all mourn in different ways.

From what I'm seeing in what you wrote I can see child abuse or I can see someone in mourning lashing out and you happen to be the person in the line of fire. Your older brother just picks up on what your mother does.

The other side of what I see is just plain child abuse and that is illegal not that the other isn't as well. One is understandable to an extent while that other is not. Yes I know this is a little confusing.

What I would like you to do is tomorrow discuss what is going on at home with a trusted teacher or your school principal. Once you inform them of the abuse, this is mental abuse which is a valid form of abuse. They must by law step into help you by notifying the proper agencies such as child protective services (CPS)to come and talk with your family.

If I am correct in my thinking that in some manner you mom is still in mourning for your dad. CPS will find her help to better deal with her loss than lashing out at you. If there are other reasons for lashing out at you they will help correct those problems as well. CPS does not always remove children from the home unless they are in imminent danger. This does not sound like your problem. So talk to either a teacher or your principal and get help to fix what is broken at home.

Im in relationship with my boyfriend for 6 years now. Im 24 years old, kinda peak age for a person like me who wants to settle down. But my father dissaprove ny boyfriend. He thinks that i dont have better future with my boyfriend. It hurts me when he judge my boyfriend. My father is really strick, well at some point i understand him, he's away from us coz he's working abroad. He was just protecting us and he wants us to be in a better place. If he only knew that my boyfriend is a hardworking person, he buys me anything, treat me right, especially respect me.

As children our parents raise us to get their approval and to do things to make them proud. The need to get approval is a protective system and the desire to make them proud is a motivational system parents breed into their children almost from birth. These are ties that bind are very hard to break when we become adults.

You are an adult and have been in the eyes of the law for the past 6 years. You do not need parental approval for choices you make. If your father is judging your boyfriend without ever meeting him he is being very wrong. It is wrong to judge someone you have not met.

As parents of an adult child are jobs switch from telling you to advising you. Once we have given you our advice we must sit back and be therefore you should you decide and go against our advice. Be there to help you recover should are thought become true. For at the end of the day you and you alone make the choices you wish to follow not your parents.

If you believe this is the man for you then my advice is to follow your heart. Tell you dad he you appreciate his advice but feel he is being judgmental of someone he has not taken the time to meet and get to know. If he had or would he would feel differently.

You of course use your own words. Though what I have written sounds about right from what you have told us. Again my advice is if your heart is telling you this is the right man for you then follow your heart.

I am 14 year old gal i want 2 start having sex i just feel insequre and i fuck my self with a toothbrush.this man was wiling 2 pay me for it wat must i do i mean its worth it cause i need to break my vigirnity hardcore

The things that jump out at me are. YOU ARE 14 AND A MAN WANTS TO PAY YOU FOR SEX OR YOUR VIRGINITY. THE WORD MAN DISTURBS ME.

BACK STORY: I was with a boyfriend for many years, and I was on oral birth control (daily pills). Well, I suffered a burst ovary because of some sort of hormonal imbalance caused by the pills (don't use Micronor!) and was told that particular ovary may be 'gone' and not functional. About 2 months or so later we broke up (super stressful situation for unrelated reasons) and he moved out of town.

Approximately a month thereafter I was having severe lower abdomen pain and started a quick-onset super heavy period after not having it in the previous 3 months (it was becoming very irregular with spotting here and there around when it was supposed to arrive). I was informed by the clinic that it was probably because I had gone through extreme wight fluctuation (really skinny to larger, back to skinny and then bordering fat because of the hide-in-a-corner depression and then overeating), but they sent me for urine & blood tests just in case it was something else (cancer, heart disease and diabetes runs in my family). Since I was in a don't-eat-anything phase, I was able to immediately go to the lab, where they discovered that I was pregnant and sent me to an ultrasound clinic later that day. Basically within the 2-4 between my appointments my mind was racing trying to figure out how the heck I was going to get through this as 'dad' was now out of the picture, I was along and broke, about how much relief I felt that I was able to carry a child after my medical condition earlier that year, and how much I already loved it, and the stress of explaining this to my parents (i was 23 and live on my own, but am very close to my parents). I was once again confused/relieved/sad when the ultrasound tech told me that what I had experienced overnight (the whole reason why I went to the clinic) was very likely a miscarriage. Enter even more emotions of guilt, thinking it was my fault. I 'got over it' in about a month or so and didn't tell anyone, basically tried to block it out. Well, like 8 months later the emotions came back as it would have been the approximate birth week. That was hard as hell. Until I went through the emotional trauma of exactly a year later and it killed me.

I am currently with someone new, whom I love very much, and we are in a very good place and moving forward. I was able to hide the emotion (or successfully blame it on something else) but I just keep getting super depressed despite my life being very happy right now every time I think about it, which is increasingly a lot because we are making future plans including marriage and family. We've talked about my concern of not being able to have children because my ovary issue, and he's been super sweet about it, but he doesn't know why it worries me so much...

I guess my question is, should I tell him about it? Is it relevant to our relationship if we are not trying to conceive any time soon? Is he entitled to know? Or can I keep this to myself forever? Or at least wait until if we even do encounter conception problems? I am just confused and sad and can't think rationally.

I agree with most of what rainhorse68 has said. What I don't agree with is that you have been able to deal with this loss in a manner that will allow you to move on with your life. This and the fact that you are unsure if you need to disclose this to your future husband needs to be resolved before you enter into a marriage.

It is unfortunate that some of us have traumatic events in our lives that we must deal with. Most all of us try to push them to the back of our minds and lock them away hoping that we never have to deal with them again.

I was just one of those people. While I thought I had dealt with this problem it affected me more than I realized and almost cost me my marriage. Then unfortunately I had a life threatening event and needed help to get past it as it changed my whole manner of living, I was disabled in an auto accident hit from behind while stopped at a light. In therapy my therapist realized there was more than just the accident bothering me and she worked with me until I unlocked the compartment I had hidden away the problem that had plagued me for years.

Now you may be different from me and be able to lock this event away and never think of it again. I don't think so, not from what you have written. I believe you would be better served to seek the assistance of a qualified psychologist you can relate to and discuss this with. By talking it out with someone not involved with the trauma can help you resolve the issues. Your therapist can also help you decide if you should tell your future husband and help you in how to tell him. Possibly in a therapy session which is how we informed my wife of what was the original trauma in my life.

If you are working ask your employer or if you know you have and EAP program contact the them and ask them to help you find a Psychologist. In this way the initial visit and maybe others will be paid for by the EAP program before your health insurance kicks in.

Your visits to a therapist are totally confidential. What is said in therapy stays in therapy. Only you by written permission can give your therapist permission to release information and them only to those you want it released to.

I'm 11, and i seriously think i am bi. I remember being young, not knowing what gay or bi meant, and I would play family with friends, sometimes i wanted to be a mommy with another mommy, or i would like to be a mommy with a daddy, or i would see men and women and think i wouldn't mind dating either. I like seeing guys shirtless, and I also have watched the Anaconda video a few hundred times because it turned me on. Not sure if it is because Nicki is more developed, or I'm bi. But i know i am not straight. I knew forever i wasn't into just boys. I've tried to tell my mom, but i feel she would prefer if i was straight and would only like guys, because she is constantly trying to find more evidence to shut it down. I've also been a little possesive of a certain friends. She has been getting close to a guy, and I want her to sort of not date him. Tbh, i could go either way, but not any women with man genetials or men with fake girl parts, that is gross to me (no offense). So what should i do/think?

While I think it is possible that you maybe bi I think it is way too early in your sexual orientation to slap a label on yourself. You may or may not have even entered puberty yet and without the hormones of puberty it is really hard to say just what your sexual orientation will be.

Now if you were to tell me you think you were gay and justified it as you have tried with saying your bi I would believe you. For scientists and doctors now believe that people who are gay and lesbians are born that way and know this from very early stages of their lives. They also believe that being bi is something that is developmental or a chosen sexual life style developed during sexual orientation. Having no better answer I will agree with the experts.

Since you may not be or just starting puberty give yourself a chance to develop your own sexual identification. Just being attracted to someone does not delineate your sexual orientation. Because we are attracted to something or someone is not how we or anyone else should define us.

By placing a label on yourself at this age you are setting yourself up to be hurt as people your age and up through high school are not very accepting of gays, lesbians and bisexuals. There is nothing wrong with being any of these if that is truly what you are. As a society we are still not as enlightened and accepting as we pretend to be. So my advise is not to label and keep an open mind on your sexuality.

This is what your mother is trying to force you to do. You appear to be an intelligent young lady with a reasonable level of maturity beyond her age. I would rather present you with the facts and let you decide for yourself if you are in a rush to grow up and label yourself.

Your teenage years are still ahead of you and they are a wonderful time in your life. It is a time for growth and yes sexual experimentation not necessarily intercourse but other types of experimenting. While you parents may not tell you this most all teenagers will at some point experience some type of same sex experimentation. There is nothing wrong with this for the most part it is done because it is safe this and less embarrassing. what it does not mean. is you are gay, lesbian or bi.

My advice forget the label, enjoy being who you are and enjoy growing up and experimenting with your sexual orientation.

I swear I'm not doing it anymore, I hated it. I wanted to see how it felt to cut myself. I tried only twice, one on the bottom of my wrist and one on top. The bottom one is bumpy, Is it going to leave a scar? The top one is just a normal cut that will heal. The bottom one is the one I'm worried about. Please don't lecture me on how I shoulden't of done it, I know and I feel guilty. All I want to know Is will the bottom one leave a scar? Thanks!

Whether a will leave a scar or not depends on a number of factors. Your age is one factor and being young is a favorable factor as the older you get the more chances a wound will scar. You did not need stiches to close the wound, this is also favorable as stiches generally leave a scar. I suggest you rub a good skin cream over the cut as it heal to keep it soft. This should help heal and do not pick at any scabbing. Let the scab fall of naturally.

What bothers me more than any scaring is your reason for cutting, "I wanted to see how it felt to cut myself." I feel there is more to this then
just wanting to see what it feel like. Looking back over some of your other questions you seem to have some problems at home. Which may or may not be the underlying reason for cutting.

I feel you need to talk with someone who may be able to relate to some of the problems you are having and offer some help. Their is an organization called Kids help phone who take Anonymous & Confidential non-Judgmental calls from people under 20 years of age. Trained
counselors take the calls and will speak with you on any and all subjects that are bothering you and offer suggestions or help .

Their number is 1-800-668-6868. They also have a website kidshelphone.ca. I suggest that you call and talk to them before you do something else to see how it feels.

One my friends is moving away and I want to write her a goodbye letter. I honestly don't know what to say. What are somethings that I can say to her? I also have a crush on her soo
I'm a girl btw.

Saying good-bye is one of the hardest things we will ever do. The French never say good-by I'm not sure how to spell the word but what it means is "Until we meet again."

If she is this good of a friend that you cannot let her leave without saying something to her; why not say something like this.

"Rather than say good-bye for it hurts to much to loose a friend I value as much as you." "I'd rather say, lets stay in touch." Let's set a time each night that we can chat over the internet and catch each other up on our day and things going on in our lives." You can tell me about you new home and town and I can tell you what is going on back here" "Then maybe one summer we can visit each other or take a vacation together." "I know it won't be the same as having you here I just don't want us growing apart your to good a friend for that to happen."

Of course you use your own words but something to the effect of what I have written. Fact is depending on your age, if you a teenager most of the friends you have know you won't have as an adult. The reason is that once you leave high school you part ways and go off in different directions. Most go off to different colleges in different parts of the country and even different parts of the world. Some go into the military and a few stay at home and get jobs.

Because of this you will all grow and mature differently and make new friends based on where you go to school and your changing interests. It would be nice and some people to manage to stay in touch with some of their high school friends but the friendship does change over time.

I'm tired of this world and all the pain. I have battled with my demons and I am still not better. Can someone just tell me HOW to commit sucide?

You have come to the wrong place for the answer to this question. What we do here is help people like you pull back from where you are now. I have been very close to where you are now and I know you feel this is the only answer. This is depression talking to you and that we can help you fix.

If you are feeling suicidal please call this number. It is the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. No matter what problems you are dealing with, they want to help you find a reason to keep living. By calling 1-800-273-TALK (8255) you'll be connected to a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area, anytime 24/7.

Please trust me when I tell you suicide is not the answer. As a former, now retired, first responder I have responded to many suicide attempts. There is no painless way to commit suicide.

Whatever is bothering you there is a solution. Doctors can help you chase away the Demons but you have to give them a chance and you need to cooperate with them. Life is worth living once the veil of depression is lifted so please call the suicide life line and give yourself a second chance.

I have a very sweet boyfriend that wants to have sex. He is my first boyfriend and I want to , but im scared I will get pregnant. I know to use condoms but they can break. And if I were to get pregnant everyone would look at me like a whore. Should I wait?HELP

Condoms are good but only 85% effective at preventing pregnancy. If you are over 14 years of age a federal law called HIPPA gives you medical confidentiality over your reproductive system. This confidentiality allows for you to see a doctor with or without parental permission, without parental knowledge of why you are seeing the doctor. Meaning mom cannot be in the exam room with you and the doctor cannot tell your parents what you were examined or treated for without your expressed written permission.

Because of this you can ask the doctor to prescribe birth control medication. You can do so by seeing your own doctor or going to any free clinic.

This law was not written to give young people free right to have sex but to allow them to seek out medical assistance when needed or to have questions properly answered. The fact that you can get birth control medication is a byproduct of the law.

As to your question: Below is a website I have recommended every young lady look at before they engage in their first sexual intercourse. By virtue of your question I do not believe you are ready to have sexual intercourse. There are other ways of satisfying your boyfriends raging hormones without engaging in intercourse.

Fact is your boyfriend is being more lustful then loving. Boys his age confuse the two. The hormones of puberty are driving them to find a sexual outlet. This can be had without intercourse.

Look at the website below then decide. I think you can wait for a year or so before taking this next step. Make sure the boy actually loves you and is not just lusting for you.

http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/virginity/readyornot.html.

Sir,I'm having a cough for about 5 days and I'm coughing followed with a pain on my right chest like blowing up.I was given clamovid by my doctor but there was no improvement. My question is what caused the pain. Thank you.

None of us are doctors so we cannot give you a definitive answer to your question. clamovid is an antibiotic medication approved for the treatment of many bacterial infections. Many antibiotics take several days before they start to work. Since you don't say how long you have been on the medication it is possible you have not given the medication a chance to work.

The pain in your chest could be from your coughing or it could be from the infection itself. It could also be a combination of both. Since I am not a doctor I really can't say.

My suggestion would be if you have given the medication 4 or 5 days to work and have taken it as directed. Then I would suggest you call your doctor and see if the doctor wants to change your medication.

If you go to the courthouse to try to set up a payment plan to pay off traffic tickets will they arrest you because of warrants?
The tickets are over $5,000.

This is a tricky question to answer. I'm going to assume there are already warrant out for your arrest for failure to appear and the traffic tickets; in which case you will be arrested. The clerk of the courts to whom you will be paying the fines has no choice but to notify the police of your presents and that you have warrants.

What I suggest is that you contact a lawyer and as the lawyer to help you clear the warrants and set up a payment plan to pay off the traffic tickets. While I can't be certain a judge will accept this kind of plea it is reasonable but should be submitted to the judge by an attorney.

If you cannot afford an attorney contact the legal aid society in your court district and they will appoint one for you. If your attorney is successful in getting a judge to agree to this type of plan; make damn sure you payments are made and made on time each month until you have paid in full.

If a guy gets a girl pregent n then waits for 24 hours to have sex again n cums in the girl can the same guy sperm kill the other sperm

What are they teaching in sex education today, or is some line some boy is feeding you to get you to have unprotected sex with him? SPERM DOES NOT KILL SPERM. What happens is sperm race each other to get to the egg to be the first to fertilize the egg. No the more sperm the better chance that one will make journey all the way to the egg for what does kill the sperm is the females natural defenses against foreign intruders and the natural bacteria within the vagina.

If this is a line some boy if giving you to have unprotected sex with you. He is not in love with you and he is not really lusting for you either. In fact he has little respect for you at all or he would use a condom.

Condoms not only protect against unwanted pregnancy when worn correctly but they protect against many of the STDS and the HIV/AIDS virus. Remember whenever you have unprotected se you are having sex with every partner you and your partner have had unprotected sex with in the past.

A god motto to have is; "No rub, no loving," and mean what you say. IF you were going to have sex with a boy and he won't use a condom put you panties back on, get dressed and leave.

I am in amazing relationship, one that I've always wanted and dreamed of. Both of us are in our 30's, were were married before to other people and now both divorced, but head over heels in love with each other. There is one problem, he cannot get over my dating past. Before meeting him, I was in two long term relationships ( marriage and one for 6 yrs) and then became single and dated for two years. I met him before he even had the chance to date again, we hit it off immediately and fell in love over time. He said he loves how sexual I am, but hates my past, his resolution is to 1) swing with him and let him have sex with someone in front of me, or 2) participate in a 3 some and let him do his thing in front of me. This kills me, and I don't want to. I love him sooo much and if I saw this it will hurt so bad. My past means nothing to me, but he doesn't get it, because he didn't get to date after his marriage with his HS sweetheart. Instead he went on a date with me and we have been together for almost a year and we live together. He has given me this ultimatum to continue with our relationship. I don't know if I can do this, I wish I could move out and let him try the single life he says he missed out on, but I am afraid of losing him and I don't want something to happen, but I'm tired of being ridiculed. I want him to see me for who I am today and what I offer, not my past. Please help! Should I put my feelings aside and take the torture of seeing him have sex with someone or should I get out of his life and let him do his thing and pray he wants me back. 30 ish female.

He is being a ass. We all have a past. Just because he was fortunate enough to find you right after leaving his marriage does not entitle him to devalue you or your relationship by demanding you participate in sexual hijinks with him so he can consider himself to have sowed some oats.

He is not only trying to control you but he is also sexually harassing you. Sexual harassment is illegal. Once you say no to something that's it end of discussion. Any type of sex has to be mutually consensual otherwise it is not done. It is really that simple.

Some people can live in a swinging relationship or have other people join in their sexual relations. It is obvious this is not the type of sexual relationship you wish to have. You only need to have one discussion on this. Once you have told him no this is not something you want or can do then it is over.

To my mind as much as you believe he is the man you love. I cannot see him loving you the way you love him. If he truly loved you your past would not bother him. As I said we all have a past, the object of a loving relationship is to plan for and to see if you can have a loving future together.

My mother would tell you there are plenty of fish in the sea. Throw this one back and rebate your hook. There are better fish to catch then him.

When I [15/f] get mad I go off, but does that make it right for my step dad to tackle me, and steal my stuff, and break them? I tried to call the cops, they said he had those rights. I can't stand him, so what should I do?

I agree with Danicus there must be more to this story then you are telling us. Even at 15 you do have certain rights and if the cops are taking your step-father's side. No parent has the right to physically or mentally abuse you this would include tackling you without good reason. Good reason would be you being out totally of control and him tackling you to calm you.

Why not write me or us back, you can do so in a private message if you would like, with a more complete story of what is going on. There are two sides to every story so to be helpful to you we need to hear more of what is going on then what you wrote.

19/Male i am from Nigeria. my best friend beat up my little brother violently, and now my dad want's me to get back at him,but he's been my best friend for years. part of me want's to get back him,part of me still sees him as a friend.am very confuse,don't know what to do.

Nothing is ever settled by fighting and it was in my view wrong of your father to tell you to beat up your friend. Instead be a peace maker. Find out what caused the fight in the first place then work to resolve the issues between them.

Hopefully you resolve the issues, you and your friend remain friends and your little brother doesn't get beat up again. You should also caution your little brother not to do things that would cause a fight as fighting resolves nothing.

I recently asked the question about whether or not I should wait for my boyfriend who was involved in a prostitution sting...I should have been more specific. It was a child prostitution sting, that's why he's looking at up to 7 years in prison. The ad says 19 year old girl & then when the "john" gets there they make little hints insinuating that she's actually underage. I'm not sure about all the details, & it makes me sick so id rather not know. I've had more time to think about it and obviously I didn't know the real him, only who he pretended to be. I have to move on. But the second question that's been bothering me is should I put him on the birth certificate? I want my son to have my last name for sure. But if this really is the sort of evil person he is I don't think I want him to be an influence on his life. And I know if he wanted rights he could fight for them later on, but I doubt he would get much visitation when he is most likely going to have to register as a a sex offender..please let me know your opinions, and thank you all for your advice from the first part of my question. I just want to do what is gonna be best for my son.

No I would not put his name on the birth certificate or let him know when the child is born. as for having a last name your son will have a last name, YOURS. As for visitation, the father can try but if he is a registered child sex offender he is going to have a problem getting them, especially if he has trouble finding you.

Now you are entitled to child support from him even while he is in prison. He will be assigned a job in prison that pays some money not much it depends on the job, how much the prison earns from his work, less what it cost the prison to house, feed care and guard him. Usually the prisoner is left with $1 to $2 an hour. You would be entitled to a portion of this money
and the justice system would see to it that you are sent it.

IF he is paroled or on a sex offender list he has to make regular visits to either his parole officer or local sheriff. They would also see to it that funds are withheld from his job and sent to you. This could be done through the courts or family services so he has not contact with you.

I suggest you contact an attorney or the legal aid society for help with this.

Hey, so is going to be a bit long, I'm sorry. My ex and I split up about half a year ago and we decided at the time that I would keep our dog Spot because she would be moving in with her dad and he and his wife have like 5 cats. I didn't want any complications so I asked her to give me full custody of her and I would give her visitation rights. Well, after we split up, the break up got really difficult. I gave her more than two months to move out her things and it got to the point where I had to start threatening to throw her stuff out so that she would come get them. We had a lot of arguments after the break up to the point that I don't want anything to do with her anymore because every time she came by to pick up her stuff, which was more than several occasions, she would make things really difficult and hard. I really didn't mind being friends with her then, but her attitude just made it really hard and I've never considered ever beings friends with my exes because of the drama. I'm a bit traumatized by the negative interaction that we had after the break up and I just cannot and do not want to associate with her anymore, but she insists on seeing the dog. The more often she wants to see the dog, the more often I have to see her. I feel like if I already have to deal with her presence and if she wants to be more involved in my dogs life then she's going to have to start paying up the costs to care for a pet. Since we've broken up I've been paying for all of her food and taking care of her. I really don't understand her desire to see Spot at all because when we were together I was still the one that took her out when she needed to be outside, fed her, and gave her baths. Whenever she was home and my dog was in the way she was yell at her and say "Move!"
Why is she so keen on seeing my dog? Every time she visits she only spends 15 minutes outside with her and comes inside my apartment and will sit there for almost an hour.
Recently I told her that she can see the dog, but I don't want her in my apartment anymore. What are my options and what should I do? I've considered giving her my dog as well if she gets the chance to move out of her dads, but I think I'm better suited for my dog because she is a golden chow mix and can be headstrong sometimes. My dog only listens to me and I don't know how Spot will be with her. Since she left, Spots attitude has changed for the better for some reason. She doesn't pull as often as she does on the leash and she listens to me better when I tell her to "leave it" and "lets go", she use to be a bit aggressive with strangers being within visible sight, but now she can walk away from them and I really love it.

I don't see any legal reason for joint custody of the dog, especially if the dog was yours before you two moved in together. She also has no legal right to enter your apartment without your permission even to visit the dog.

From what you have written I believe the quickest way to put an end to all this is to tell her that this. In the future if you want to visit and play with the dog I can meet you at the dog park. Then when and if she does call do not always be available when she wants to visit the dog.

Should she call and want to visit say on Saturday afternoon. Tell her I have company this weekend but I could meet you Monday after work. Things like that. Slowly make the visitation time inconvenient for her and at times more convenient for you or at least times that you can plan for.

If you still live in the same apartment you shared. Ask the apartment manager to change the locks just incase she made copies. This way you are sure she can't get in and make sure the manager knows she is no longer living with you and has access to your apartment for any reason if you're not at home.

OK so I didn't do so well on my last math test, I got a 41%, but I am going to do an extra credit assignment that'll raise it to the 80% range. She was still reallly mad, and is making me go to extra help every day before school at lunch and after school on tuesdays until my grade raises. Is it just me or does this seem extreme?

It is not only hard for us to weigh in on how a parent reacts to something like this; it is not right for us to do so. While we might think it is extreme or maybe not extreme enough, in some instances. They are your parents and as long as they are not physically harming you it is not for us to say or advise you on.

If a parent was physically harming a child as punishment for a bad grade or something else then we would and should advise you as what to do. Making you or as you see it forcing you to get extra help in math is just good parenting.

I don't know why you did so poorly on this exam. Is it you just didn't study for the exam or are you a poor math student. There is nothing to be ashamed about if you are a poor math student

My son was a poor math student. Actually he was a poor learner. After a stint in the Army and being taught a new way to learn by the Army. HE came out went to college took remedial math plus his college level math courses and graduated as the honor Graduate from his Paramedic Class with a degree in Emergency Medicine. Today he is a Paramedic/Firefighter and many people are alive today because he was their paramedic when they needed one.

Keep an open mind about the extra work your parents are asking/demanding of you. It is quite possible that like my son; you too will find a new way to look at and learn things.

Good luck, bring that grade up so you can have a great summer.

okay so this is so awkward but i am 16 and me and my boyfriend want to have sex but i am scared because sometimes when i cum my vagina smells like fish, i wash it everyday at least once or twice and still nothing, im scared because we have planned it for this saturday but i dont want to smell or taste nasty, and i do not want to go to the doctor about it

You should not be washing your vagina multiple times a day. Once a day in the shower is all you need to do and wiping yourself after using the toilet is proper hygiene.

Now every woman has a scent which emanates from her vagina especially when she is sexually excited. These are pheromones and just like are four legged friends they are meant to attract the opposite sex, when we were still walking on all fours. That scent still does attract and make the opposite sex attracted to you and plays a very large part in foreplay and intercourse.

How this scent actually smells differs somewhat day to day depending on different variables. Not getting to personal but my wife's scent is stronger in the morning and when we have the time we have a good time. It is also much different in the evening, not as strong more musky and some may say fishy smelling. It really depends on what she has eaten that day. What you eat during the day may be why you have said that "some time when you cum your vagina smells fishy."
I suggest the following:

First, stop washing your vagina multiple times a day; you are supposed to have a scent from there especially when excited.

Second, do not douche especially with over the counter products. Women do not need to Douche unless there doctor tells them to and only then and for the period of time the doctor says to. Douching destroys both the good and bad bacteria. Also you really do not need those feminine hygiene sprays. They are a waste of money.

Since you are concerned and if you are not already having regular GYN exams or have not had one recently. See your GYN and make sure that your incessant washing has not caused any type of bacterial imbalance or infection.

Note: As a parent and grandparent I would be remise if I did not comment on 16 year olds having sex. I'm not that old fashion enough to tell you not to have sex at your age. What I will tell you is to try and wait a bit longer. There are other ways of satisfying both yours and your boyfriends’ sexual urges without actual intercourse.

Sex for teenagers is not what it is meant to be especially for the female. Why, mainly because what a female needs to relax and enjoy sex can't be had by teenagers. Teenagers always worry about being caught, being intruded upon as well as finding someplace comfortable and safe to have sex. Then there is the worry about pregnancy. It is truly worth it to wait 2 more years until you are of legal age to at least rent a motel room.

If I have not given you pause to reconsider having sex now. Then when you’re visiting your GYN ask your doctor or rather tell your doctor you wish to be seen under the rules of HIPPA.

Being over 14 years of age and being seen for something that is part of your reproductive system. By Federal Law called HIPPA you have the right to confidentiality. Meaning mom cannot be in the exam room with you and can never see you medical records for these visits or be told why you are seeing the doctor or what you are being treated for. Because of this you can ask for birth control medication and the doctor must prescribe it. You do not need parental permission.

Having birth control medication does not relieve you of practicing safe sex. Your partner still needs to wear a condom as this protects both of your from many of the STDS and the HIV/AID virus.

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