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Is it bad to want to have sex? OR Should I wait?
I have a very sweet boyfriend that wants to have sex. He is my first boyfriend and I want to , but im scared I will get pregnant. I know to use condoms but they can break. And if I were to get pregnant everyone would look at me like a whore. Should I wait?HELP
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You should have sex with him it's nothing bad just tell him to wear protection don't be afraid to have sex just because your scared you will come out pregnant. Just take the risk I'm pretty sure you two will enjoy it .Just try to relax and let it happen and if you get pregnant it's a precious gift that you should nurture. I'm sure that you will not come out pregnant if he does it right and with a condom.
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Only if you want to, then it is okay to have sex. You need to understand that because things are good in your relationship now, it shouldn't mean that you feel obliged to have sex with your boyfriend because of it. You seem very uncertain and fearful, and if thats the case then its sign that you are not ready. If you are willing, speak to your doctor or an elder about the best form of contraception in order to prevent pregnancies as we know, no form of contraception is 100%. In the meantime think about all the repercussions of sex and assess if its worth it. If you have adequate knowledge and understanding about sex and its consequences then you are mature enough to proceed from there! It all comes down to you, just make sure you are not feeling pressured or forced to do so since it should be from both sides. Good luck, I'm sure with great responsibility and care you will avoid the pregnancy circumstances. :)
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Condoms are good but only 85% effective at preventing pregnancy. If you are over 14 years of age a federal law called HIPPA gives you medical confidentiality over your reproductive system. This confidentiality allows for you to see a doctor with or without parental permission, without parental knowledge of why you are seeing the doctor. Meaning mom cannot be in the exam room with you and the doctor cannot tell your parents what you were examined or treated for without your expressed written permission.
Because of this you can ask the doctor to prescribe birth control medication. You can do so by seeing your own doctor or going to any free clinic.
This law was not written to give young people free right to have sex but to allow them to seek out medical assistance when needed or to have questions properly answered. The fact that you can get birth control medication is a byproduct of the law.
As to your question: Below is a website I have recommended every young lady look at before they engage in their first sexual intercourse. By virtue of your question I do not believe you are ready to have sexual intercourse. There are other ways of satisfying your boyfriends raging hormones without engaging in intercourse.
Fact is your boyfriend is being more lustful then loving. Boys his age confuse the two. The hormones of puberty are driving them to find a sexual outlet. This can be had without intercourse.
Look at the website below then decide. I think you can wait for a year or so before taking this next step. Make sure the boy actually loves you and is not just lusting for you.
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Providing they're used correctly, condoms are just about the safest method of contraception. Breakage is usually due to either getting air trapped inside the condom when he's putting it on, or perhaps accidentally tearing it slightly when it is put on (maybe a sharp finger nail jags it?). Both are easy to spot if you look carefully, so don't be in too much of a hurry to 'get started' (as you might say). Have a good check to put your minds at ease before he penetrates you. Or, to put it right. Obviously a nicked or torn one you discard and fit a new one. Naturally, it stays in place until he's ejaculated ('cum' or whatever you want to call it) and has fully withdrawn from you. Having him squeeze it around the base of his penis as he withdraws is good practice. Agree that if for any reason he feels it break of slip off (he'll be more likely to notice than you) than you stop immediately and put things right. Millions of people use condoms every day to avoid an unwanted pregnancy. Discuss all this with him plenty of time before you have sex. Make sure you both know and understand how important it is to use condoms properly and responsibly. Now, the decision of when you have sex with your first boyfriend really has to be yours. Condoms won't be any more or less safe in a month, or six months...or whatever. And you still won't want to accidentally get pregnant. I'd say if you feel comfortable and happy about the idea of a sexual relationship with him, sort out the safe birth control issue and do it. If you've got any doubts about starting sex yet yourself then wait. In all honesty, the only way to be more safe than using condoms properly is not having sex at all, ever. And I wouldn't think a healthy young lady would think much of that idea. You'll want to be intimate with some boyfriend, some time! Have a think about the relationship. About how you feel about each other. About progressing it to a new level. Remember it's YOUR body, and YOUR choice.
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