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Hi my name is Jen - I am 33 and married; a graphic desinger, a big sister, movie lover, horse rider, and board game nerd.

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hi. Ive got a boyfriend and i luv him to bits but should i be worried about the age gap? im 15 and he is 12. Do you think its wrong or what?
help
xxXxxX

No, you shouldn't be worried about age gaps. However this boy is only 12. He is still a little kid. My bother is 12. Believe me, boys his age are not mature enough for to handle relationships. They laugh when they hear the word boob. The only reason he is dating you is for the title and to feel cool. Little boys are not looking for a girlfriend to love.

My boyfriend just came over and I gave him head and he cumed and a little later I lost my virginity to him but he didn't use a condom. I'm scared I could be pregnate. Is there any chance I could be?

Yes, if you have sex without protection there is a very good chance of becoming pregnat. Please inform yourself about sex, pregnacy, and STDs before doing any more sexual activites.

I'm 29 and I've been dating a 27 yo girl for about 8 months now and I thought things were going great. However, recently she planned her holiday season (thanksgiving and christmas) without even asking me what I was doing. Her rationale was that couples only plan things together when they are engaged or married. She tells me she loves me and doesn't understand why I was surprised that she made all her plans (which exclude me) without even talking to me about what she wanted to do. I have no intention of trying to change her plans. I just thought it was common courtesy to discuss it first and hopefully find a way to spend the holidays together. Your thoughts?

You have every right to be upset and hurt. Ask her how would she feel if you excluded her from your B-day? Even though you are not engaged or married, you are still a couple. Holidays are meant to be spent with the people you love- friends and family. Being excluded would make me feel unimportant to her. Rather than being a part of her life, you are something on the side. Maybe it is time to have a talk and find out where this relationship is going and what you both want and expect. She seems to not be taking the relationship as seriously as you are.

Hey all!
I was wondering, I get a ''ROOM MAKE OVER'' and I need some new furniture, the point is, I don't have that much money, so does one of you know where I can buy cheap furniture (ONLINE?) But remember it has to be shipped over to europe, so not to much costs for shipping please.

THANKS A BUNCH!!

http://www.ikea.com/ This is one of my favorite stores!

Alright, first some background info. Im 16 and im a virgin, never done anything sexual with a guy. Ok now..my period is a week late for some reason and my mom is freaking out and asking me if ive gotten it like every 2 or 3 hours. Recently i have really cut back on like really fatty food, ive started running about a mile and half 2 or 3 times a week, and i started a job..which is a bit stressfull at times. Those things can make it come late right? Ive also felt like ive been going to get it, sore boobs, wicked bad cramps, headache that wont go away no matter if i take tylenol or not. I want to stop freaking out...so if you guy know anything that can help me out or at least help me chill my mom out..that would be fabulous. Thanks in advance.

I think it is a little strange that your mother needs to be so informed about your monthly flow. She sounds a little too controling. Besides that, I don't think you have much to worry about. It is VERY common for younger girls to have irregular periods. Changes in your diet, excersise, enviorment, and stress can all effect your period as well. All of which you are experiancing. It's no wonder you are late. Stop stressing, and tell your mother to get off your back.

ive been looking everywhere for that nair shaving stuff does anyone know where to get it?

You must not be looking too hard. Here in MN you can find it anywhere. Target, Walmart, Walgreens, even the grocery store.

Hey! Skool is about to start and i have a problem! Well I started dating this guy um.. 7-12-05 well he goes to a different skool and well i dont like long distance rel. b/c i always think they will cheat! Also now that we have been together for a couple of weeks he acts different then he did when we first started goin out like he dont care as much! And well i sorda never got over my ex like a year ago and i miss him i need to know what to do like i wanna break up with this guy but i dont know what to tell him! please help!!
ASAP
Love Kayla

Dating for two weeks is hardley a relationship. I don't think he will be heartbroken if you want to break up. Just tell him that you don't feel a connection and you don't think you should date anymore.

hi. my dad is a ass hole. he yells at me and i can never do any thing right. how can i tell him that i do not want to work with him.

I think most people would dislike working with their parents wether they are nice or not. Instead of starting another fight, look for a new job. When you get one, then quit working for your dad. The new job will be your excuse for leaving, then you won't have to tell him the painful truth.

Alright, so I work in this fast food place, and it's pretty horrible there. It's a shady company to say the least. Anyways, I've been working there as long as the manager, and that's longer than anyone else becasue they're always hiring new people since everyone's always quitting.

Anyways, I gave my two weeks notice on Sunday, and on Sunday night the assistant manager told the manager that he had had enough because something else had happened. So I had to go in yesterday because my boss wanted to talk to me, in other words, she begged me to reconsider.

Everyone loves the assistant manager, just because he's nice and fair, so I know two guys who are going to quit because he quit. So basically, this place is screwed. Now I feel really pressured to 'reconsider' even though I really don't want to work there anymore. It's just a bad place to be, but I feel bad for my manager. What should I do?

You are not the reason the business is in trouble, nor is it your job to fix it. Don't let them pressure you and make you feel bad. It's not your responsibility. Tell them thanks for the opportunity, but you really must move on - and leave it at that.

can L2 and L3 mods tell who asks questions?

Yes, but only for the purpose of moderating the site and tracking down abusive users. We can only see who asks the questions if we hit a link. It's not like we are running around seeing who's asking what just for fun. So unless you are asking suspicous questions, we'll propably never see what questions you ask. The L2 & L3 moderators are respectful of people's privacy.

is it wrong if you are 15 yrs old and have a 25 year old boyfriend??everyone tells me that its wrong..

Actually it's against the law. You are under legal age. If you do anything sexual with him, he could be arrested for it. Or if he takes you somewhere, and your parents disaprove. He could be arrested for that as well. It would be considered abduction, even if you went willingly. You are too young to be in a relationship with an adult.

I'm 14/f
I think im fat and I wanna lose weight. I don't eat breakfast or lunch and barely dinner. All my friends are worried about me and try to get me to eat but I just say i'm not hungry. My question is, is this that serious and that unhealthy? Thanks!

Yes not eating is very unhealthy. Your friends are justifyed by being worried. By starving yourself your body slows your metabolism and starts storing more fat cells. This is a bad thing to teach your body, and will haunt you the rest of your life. As you get older the harder it will become to keep off the weight - in the long run you may end up gaining weight. And by not eating you also loose a lot of your daily energy.

Honestly the best way to loose weight is to eat HEALTHY and excercise. Be active!

Hey, I'm taking AP Biology next school year, and the book is $92.00 in my high school office. I've searched a little bit online, but I can't find a cheaper price anywhere. Does anyone know where I can get this book cheaper? (Doesn't matter if it's new or used.) Thanks in advance, I'll rate 5's for anyone who can find something.
Nevaeh

We could help you more if we knew the name of the book you were looking for. If you Google "Used text books" you will find dozens of sites that sell used books. Have you tried even amazon? They sell used books as well. You also may want to try finding someone that took the class last year and buy their book; that's how I got most of my text books in college.

I'm seventeen and I'd like to get a job, but I am clueless on some places to apply. My previous job was VERY stressful, so I want a job where I'm not under a lot of pressure. I don't want your typical teen job (food places/restaurants, grocery stores, or movies.) Clothing stores, little shops, and tanning salons are more of the kind of job I want. Office jobs wouldn't be too bad either. Any ideas on where else I should look into?

When I was in high school I worked at a department store. It was great because it was a big enough company they were able to be VERY flexible with my hours. And your not stuck behind a counter all day, you walk around and help customers. I made a lot of great friends, and also had a nice discount. I worked in accessoires which I loved because I never got stuck folding clothes.

Okay let me warn you this thing will be like 2000 characters, but let me start by saying i met this girl when i came to missouri to visit my grandma, we like eachother, well we love eachother, i dont feel like i could live wtihout her...we dated last year and broke up and then i tried for a year to get her back and finally did, however i found these questions asked on advicenators..about her ex..while we were going out:

*well my ex boyfriend is coming over tomarrow and i made him a scrapbook of all our memories cause i want him to know how much i still care about him! he has told me 3 times since we've been broken up he loves me and hes said he misses me all the time! but theres also another girl that he likes and im trying to pretty much win him over..but anyways..i was just wondering if you had any ideas on how i could do like a scavenger hunt kinda thing to lead him to it cause i want this to be special!!! please help asap! thanks!*

i knew her ex was coming over to get the scrapbook but she said that was it and that she didnt have feelings anymore and what not...but the most painful is the next one...

hey! well me and my ex boyfriend mike went out for 3 months..i know its not a long time but we talked and dated for like 4 months before that! well anyways we have been broken up for almost 6 months now and we both have went out with other people!i have always asked him if he liked me and if wed ever get back together..well he never would answer the whole like you question but he would always say i dunno if we will ever go back out cause i dont normally go out with ex gfs so i thought ok fine whatever! well i tried moving on ya know and i finally got to the point i thought i was over him! i even had him over like 4 weeks ago..i could kinda tell he had feelings for me cause he would keep asking me for a hug and hed like put his arm around me and he gave me a hickey and we had a total blast together..but it kinda felt like we were just friends so i thought well maybe i am over him but yet i still missed him! so i went on vacation and didnt really talk to him for 2 weeks..the day i get back he ims me and was talking to me and said he liked me so that kinda made me feel good but then i also realied that maybe i wasnt quite over him and he had also asked if he could come over next week so i thought sure! well so the next night we stayed up til 3:15 in the morning talking and he had said he still loved me and always had, he missed me, and itd be great if we eventually got back together but he didnt want that right now and he wanted to keep things slow for right now! then the next night it was a repeat we stayed up til 3:30 and he said he missed me and my picture was his background on his computer and what not! well then things just kinda seemed weird! i just had this feeling it wasnt gonna be a good day but i kinda tried letting it go past me and i wrote his xanga past memories and i told him i still loved him..so i guess that was a bad idea cause he totally flipped and was like omg i cant believe u did that , you know i dont like my friends knowing everything, blah blah blah! so i was like ok im sorry and i showed him how to get rid of it! so then he wouldnt say i love you but he said i miss ya and your pic is still on my background so i was like okay maybe things arent that bad! but he also told me he didnt know if he was going to come over next week now because i made him upset and he couldnt believe i would do that which seemed kinda weird to me! but the thing is i want him to come over cause i wanna see him and talk all of this out in person and i even made a scrap book of us cause i want him to realize how much i really do care! well then theres this girl melissa that has liked him for about a year now! well hes always told me they were just friends and things like that! and the other day i said something how hes always with girls and calls them hun and stuff and hes like i hate when your like this cause you always think i like these girls when really we are just close friends! and i want to trust him but its so hard! and then like today i read his xanga and melissa signed it saying i cant wait to watch fire works with you tomarrow and then it had this quote that was like seduce my body blah blah blah seduce my soul and ill always be yours! and im so clueless on what to think about that! i know they both use to like eachother and they went to a dance together after we broke up and all he ever tells me is they are just close friends but he is with her all the time! and i dont know what to think of it! i just dont know why he would sit there and say all of a sudden out of no where that he loved me and missed me when for 6 months he wouldnt say a word to me! PLEASE HELP ME!

sent while we were going out yet again, i love her with all my heart and i dont know what to do, i finally won her back and i dont want to let her go but i feel like its just a game and she is playing me. Should i keep her or let her go? any advice?

~D3vY

Did you notice in her questions that she never once said a word about you or that she even has a boyfriend. She has only been "out with other people." She doesn't even consider you a boyfriend. It is obvious you are not an importaint part in her life if you are not even considered in the equation of getting back her ex-boyfriend.

As much as it might hurt, let her go and find someone worthy of your time.

well I've got msn and I'm always on the internet but my contacs are never on and I'm always looking for someone to chat to how can I make more friends on the internet

Join message boards, chats or groups with people with similar intrests. Then you have a basis to start a friendship. For example, the new Harry Potter book just came out and I wanted to disscuss it with someone. I went to a Harry Potter chat and chated with people for hours. I found they had other similar intrests with me besides just the book.

My question is: My eldest son is in grade 5 and has never had a problem with his school work until this year. We unfortunately had to move to my mothers house because of financial dificulty. In the begining of this year we had to put him in another school closeby sothat my mother can look after him and help him with his schoolwork. But he failed his first trimester. Me and my husband thought we will then put him in a bording school because my son and my mother does not get along very well. We talked to him and explained that it will be better for him and more peacefull. We got his report back today and he failed even worse. What do you sujest we do? How can we help him if we work from 06:00 to 19:30 every day exept saturdays and sundays.

Instead of pushing your son's problems on to someone else like your mother or a boarding school, take responsibility and start being a parent. He is acting out because you have moved him away from his friends and you don't seem to time for him. He's all alone! He needs your love and attetion. As a parent you HAVE to make time for your son. If you want him to make an effort, then you have to make an effort. Show him that you care and make the time to study with your son, and make the time to spend time with your son. Showing that you care, will make him care. Disciplining him or sending him away will only make the situation get worse.

My boyfriend & I haven't really talked about the subject of "love". We've known eachother a while & we were friends prior to dating & I think I love him. I know 13 is young so I'm not sure. Is there anyway to bring it up to him? Will it just come up in a conversation one day? There have been certain things he's said that leads to me thinking that. For example, we got into this big fight (just a few weeks ago ... yes, we were dating) & I said "Do you hate me?" and he said "no, the exact opposite... do you feel the same way?" and I said "ya." Does that sound like he was talking about love or just the common liking we have for eachother?

When you are young and experianceing new feeling such as love they are very strong. So yes what your feeling could be love. And your boyfriend has expressed that he obviously has strong feelings for you as well. But just to warn you that love at your age is diffenent to what love is when you are older. Don't start thinking that this it the boy you are going to marry and start planning your future. For now just enjoy what you have today.

I have been with a guy for 3 years. I am 18, and he is 21 years old and we recently broke up about a month ago. The way he was treating me was horrible and we've been through way too much to handle, yet we have so much love for eachother. He recently matured and changed alot, or so it seems. There is another guy I have been very close friends with for about 4 years and we recently confessed our feelings for eachother. We plan on remaining friends for now and taking it extra slow when we both decide we are ready to persue our relationship. My problem is that I am not sure what I want to do right now. I really really like this other kid yet I am still deeply in love with my boyfriend and am not ready to start anything yet. I am just really confused on whether to give him another chance or just let it go. Please dont say follow my heart because that's just the thing, I dont know what my heart is saying right now. This other guy is everything i've ever wanted...amazing(if that info. helps at all) . Please help me.

You are only 18, and you have given your boyfriend 3 years. As for relationships - that's all you know - so of course you still have strong feelings. But I think you should see what else the world has to offer before even consdering taking him back. And this friend of yours is a perfect opportunity. See where things go. From my experience, relationships that start as friendships are always the best.

I was wondering is there anyone out there who has ever gotten pregnant while on birth control..see im wondering if my birth control is even working right for me because the past 2 months i had my period for 2 weeks instead of one and this week i missed the first week now im scared that im pregnant !! Help!!!

Birth control is not 100% effective, so there is always a chance you could become pregnat. And if you are not consistant with taking your pills, the the chances are even higher.

My sisters best friend became pregnant twice while on birth control. I think it was because she didn't take her pills at the same time every day and she was a larger girl. Birth control is known not to be as effective in larger women. So yes, there is a chance you could be pregnant - take a test.

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