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I have been with a guy for 3 years. I am 18, and he is 21 years old and we recently broke up about a month ago. The way he was treating me was horrible and we've been through way too much to handle, yet we have so much love for eachother. He recently matured and changed alot, or so it seems. There is another guy I have been very close friends with for about 4 years and we recently confessed our feelings for eachother. We plan on remaining friends for now and taking it extra slow when we both decide we are ready to persue our relationship. My problem is that I am not sure what I want to do right now. I really really like this other kid yet I am still deeply in love with my boyfriend and am not ready to start anything yet. I am just really confused on whether to give him another chance or just let it go. Please dont say follow my heart because that's just the thing, I dont know what my heart is saying right now. This other guy is everything i've ever wanted...amazing(if that info. helps at all) . Please help me.
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wait til'l your ready and go out with the other kid .
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First of all, are you really really sure this guy changed?? Say you give him another chance and he still treats you bad. Then this other guy will probably think he's being blown off and might go away. I say think about it for awhile. Let everything really sink in. Maybe even talk to this second guy about the first guy. Ask for suggestions. If he really likes you, he'll understand and want to help. And you dont have to start or decide anything right now. You do have time. So take things slow and one step at a time.
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you have gone out with your ex for 3 years and you say he treated you horrible. yes he has recently matured but the question is : are you willing to go back out with a guy who treated you bad or give an amazing guy a chance? personally i think you should try the new guy. i mean you only live once. y stay with your ex if problems arised ... dont waste more time on someone who has treated you bad over someone who can treat you like a princess.
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Personally I seriously doubt that your ex has matured very much in a month. I may be wrong, but I think it would be a mistake to take him back.
Since this other guy is a friend, everything you ever wanted, and willing to take things slow, he sounds like the better guy anyway. I would suggest moving on from the ex, taking a break for you, then slowly getting into a relationship with your friend. Since you've already discussed how you feel about each other, remaining friends for now, and taking things slow, I don't see where your friend will have a problem waiting until you're ready for another relationship. Take your time and let your heart heal, then take it slow with your friend.
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You are only 18, and you have given your boyfriend 3 years. As for relationships - that's all you know - so of course you still have strong feelings. But I think you should see what else the world has to offer before even consdering taking him back. And this friend of yours is a perfect opportunity. See where things go. From my experience, relationships that start as friendships are always the best.
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