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Problem with child
My question is: My eldest son is in grade 5 and has never had a problem with his school work until this year. We unfortunately had to move to my mothers house because of financial dificulty. In the begining of this year we had to put him in another school closeby sothat my mother can look after him and help him with his schoolwork. But he failed his first trimester. Me and my husband thought we will then put him in a bording school because my son and my mother does not get along very well. We talked to him and explained that it will be better for him and more peacefull. We got his report back today and he failed even worse. What do you sujest we do? How can we help him if we work from 06:00 to 19:30 every day exept saturdays and sundays.
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First off, i wouldnt have put your son in a bording school because i know if i went to one of them schools i would practicely died! or try killing myself! Anyways, maybe you should put him back in the public school and get him a tutor so that way he can get even more help outside of school. Or talk to the teachers and ask them if they can give your son extra help! i dont know what to really tell you but im sure someones advice will help and good luck!
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Well i dont know if you want an advice from 14 year old girl but i think i would help at least a little so here i go.
well i have a cousin who was raised by my grandmother and she has gone through similar situation. she was getting bad grades and stuff. and from what i think, that would happen to most kids who just changed their living environment. but i think it would be better for you because she didnt get to spend any time with her mother.
so here is what i think that can make better.
1. during the weekends, talk to your son about school and offer to help him with homework.
2. if you think his lying about the homeworks, like i finished already, i dont have homework today. and trust me , he might. (we all said that)
then talk to his teacher about it and ask them to send the assignment to your email so you can check. he might not like it at first but he will get used to it.
3. have a little parent-son time. go out to mall for ice cream. catch a movie.
Most importantly talking is good. tell him some stories when you were his age so he can relate to you and i hope i helped ~
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Your son is probably going through a phase. Sometimes when they get that age they just become unmotivated because they don't understand why they're at school and everything. And the situation with your mother probably isn't helping. If i were you, consider looking into getting a home or an apartment for a cheap rent so the boy feels like he has his own space and home. I know that can be expensive but there's places out there that aren't as expensive as some others. Just find creative ways to inspire him to work harder. Get him some books on things he likes. Even offer small rewards for good grades. Don't spoil him, but reward him!!!
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You say you put him in a new school. Did he have a lot of close friends that he hasnt seen?Has he made any new friends.Is he bullied or teased? Have you talked to his teachers? Does he not know the information, not pay attention? Or just not care? Maybe, if he is missing his old friends, try to set up a play day with them. Or get him involed in school activies, interact with the other kids. If he is really against going to boarding school, i wouldnt send him. You dont want to make him more upset, because then it will get worse.(not to scare you)Maybe you could get one of the teachers, or other students to tutor him after school or even during lunch or play time. You could hire a professional tutor, but those companies cost lots of money and he may not get the help he needs. You also said your short on money so that may not be an option.
Maybe he is developing a learn disablity. Like Dyslexia. So i think you should also get that checked out, even more so if family members have history of learning disablities.
I hope i helped and things get better. Please rate me if i did anything for you.
The best of luck, im sure everything will be fine in time.
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my grades started dropping a little when i was in 5th grade as well because my parents started expecting more and more out of me. the classes got slightly more difficult and challenging and i tried too hard too fast to please them. so maybe your son is acting out and trying to tell you something. instead of having your mother help him, maybe you and your husband should sit him down and help him with his homework. or atleast talk to him about why and what is so difficult about the work. if it is clear already that your mother and your son do not get along well, how well do you expect their teaching lessons to go? an open communication is your best bet into your child's life. sending a child off to boarding school will not help, it will seem more like an abandonment to the child and lack of attention (which will probably cause him to do more extreme things than failing classes). take this as a warning now because if a wall is built up this early, it'll be impossible to break down through his teenage years. take it from a teenager ;)
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Instead of pushing your son's problems on to someone else like your mother or a boarding school, take responsibility and start being a parent. He is acting out because you have moved him away from his friends and you don't seem to time for him. He's all alone! He needs your love and attetion. As a parent you HAVE to make time for your son. If you want him to make an effort, then you have to make an effort. Show him that you care and make the time to study with your son, and make the time to spend time with your son. Showing that you care, will make him care. Disciplining him or sending him away will only make the situation get worse.
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