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I was having a purely sexual relationship with a young guy who had just come out of a five year relationship (he ended it). He slept over practically every night since the first time we hooked up for about a month. He cried in front of me, he held me all night, the only thing he refused to do is go out. We seemed happy in our time one on one though. This made me fall in love with him but he only wanted friends with benefits. So he stopped pursuing me the moment I said I love you and we had some drama but then we reunited on Monday night - went out and had a casual night by the lake. It also happens to be the same day he saw his ex for the first time since their phone breakup and he ended it in person and had the talk with her. When he walked me home that night I'd never felt so close to him. He also requested we take a picture together and I sent it to him on his phone. When he walked me home he said he didn't just want to walk me home he wanted to stay over and we had an incredible night. We had sex twice more in the morning on Tuesday before I left for work. I didn't get a text or a phone call until Friday! He texted "what's up?" at 1:30 in the morning. I didn't get it until Saturday morning because I was asleep. Told him I was going to yoga and to have a good day. Now it's Sunday (and a long weekend so we both have Monday off) and I haven't heard from him at all. I'm afraid we're in a no contact zone. What happened???

He's not looking to be with you, he's looking to satisfy his sexual cravings. I suggest you don't ever talk to him again. He's a disgusting pig, who views you as an object for pleasure, not a lover. He doesn't love you, he's just using you up. Don't let him get away with it!

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I am seventeen years old and most of friends ad adults from church. I prefer adults over kids my age, I don't know why, but I do. I view most kids my age as associates. Anyway I invited. My adult friend, Kim , to my house for memorial day with my parents ' permission. But my mom keeps nagging me that I should be friends with other kids my age, but I do not want that. I feel so frustrated and bitter. What can I do? Who is right in this situation?

You have the right to choose adult friends. I believe you should have a conversation with your parents about why you like to hang out with them. Open communication is crucial in every kind of relationship. You probably like adult friends because you can be yourself with them. I personally like to hang out with guys, because my nature is very masculine. My parents couldn't understand me until I explained to them why I couldn't be myself with female friends. Talk to your parents, and see what happens... As long as they're not a bad influence and you explain yourself, I don't see why there should be a problem. Good luck :)

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I need advice on how to commit suicide. I am 62 yo female soon to be divorced. We were previously involved in chapt 13 bankruptcy. Husband stole $16,000 of my money that was to pay house payment and b/r payments since 8/2011. I learned 2 mos. ago that mortgage co. had requested foreclosure on our home last 7/2011 of the b/r attorney. I knew nothing. Husband forged my name on document at b/r attorney to increase the b/r payment. When I confronted attorney, he threatened to fire me and I would have to start over and pay more money. Attorney separted the chapt. 13 and allowed husband to file chpt.7 owing no debts. I am now responsible for over $100,000 due to the joint debts and his business debts after attorney sent out notifications of objections to all husband's debtors with my name on them. House is now in full foreclosure. Husband approved for full VA disability last month--$3,000 per mo. plus $1,000 Social security retirement. He pays no bills except his cable. I cannot pay all these expenses although I work. He is abusive and has threatened to kill me, calls me names like "whore" and other names. Husband stole $67,000 from my brother's and my inheritance from our parents by forgery and embezzlement. We had 2 rental properties. They are now up for sale in hopes I will be able to get the bankruptcy off my back. But, real estate agent has made no effort or progress. Now I am soon to be homeless, no credit, no ability to pay all the bills, no future, no life, and no end in sight. Each day there is more bad news from someone. I have no way out. There is no one who can help me (I've talked with lawyers). Each day is more painful than the day before. I don't eat, sleep, can't think, can't make decisions, and pray for death day and night. I tried to cut my wrists but stopped because it hurt too much. On meds, but there is not enough medication to improve the amount of hurt and misery of each day that I live. This is a cancer of my soul with no healing or recovery--it's too late for me. The pain and misery is unbearable. Can someone please tell me how I can commit suicide with minimal pain? My life is already dead--only I'm still in pain and despair.

You shouldn't be dealing with all of this pain alone! Go get help, and you yourself will realize that suicide is not the solution! Life is! Don't kill the zombie in you, bring yourself back to life! Give yourself a break from the pain! I was suicidal a few months ago, and I believed with every ounce of my being that my life was over, and I'll never be happy again. I was wrong! Thanks to the help I received, my life is awesome, even though I'm bipolar! Your brain isn't functioning right, and that's why you think that the way to end your grief is to end your life. The way to end grief is to go get help, fight for your rights, and reclaim your place in the world! You deserve the best life you can have, and you don't deserve to die! Besides, there's no easy way to commit suicide. Get a life! Don't end it! You're a queen, and no one should ever treat you lower than one! Good luck, and I hope you feel better soon :)

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my WIFE OF TEN YEARS ISNT IN LOVEWITH ME

Be frank with her about your feelings. It might even be that she is in love with you, but doesn't know how to express it, or maybe she thinks that you don't love her! Good communication is crucial to any relationship. You are dealing with a lot of pain right now, but be a fighter! Don't give up on your life! If you're not strong for yourself, how can you be strong for your loved ones?! I strongly urge you to go get help for your suicidal ideation. You're life will become so much better and more meaningful! You shouldn't feel forced to live, you should love life! Good luck, and hope you feel better soon :)

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I am a 17 year old girl living in Iran. My best friend has very low self esteem, and she started cutting her arms recently. We are both not very happy with our lives, and we always wish we could get out and live a different life, but she has more problems than that. She is starting to starve herself because she thinks she's fat, and she always thinks people don't like her.

I always tell her that I'm there for her no matter what and that she's not alone, and I tell her she looks beautiful very often, but I feel powerless, I feel like there's nothing I can do, and since I've never considered taking my own life (she's been showing signs of considering suicide) I don't know what would be the right thing for me to say to her, I don't know how she would want me to react when she tells me she's been cutting, or how she's tired of her life and how it all seems pointless.

I try to tell her about the good things in life, about all the great things that are yet to come, and about all those people who love and care about her, including myself. I just don't know what to do anymore, I wish I knew how to help her, and I really hope you can help me.

Thanks in advance

You seem like a very caring wonderful friend, and your friend is very lucky to have you! Encourage her to tell a responsible adult how she's feeling. Tell her that no matter how she looks, you'll always love her and be there for her. Make her laugh often, that's a very big healing factor, and brings life to a person. Right now she's not living! She's in terrible pain, and needs you to be there for her. You're young, and you shouldn't be dealing with this. If she doesn't want to tell a responsible caring adult, you'll have to. Good luck to both of you, and I hope you get out soon and start life anew!

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Kay I'm 13 btw.
My ex-stepmom was just horrible, and the way my dad handled her upsets me. So much I started cutting. It's been a little over a year and when I think I'm over, a burning rage just consumes me, and I can't think. I get snappy with everyone and I always end up cutting. Like whenever I see my dad or he talks I get so upset, and I've had thoughts of killing him. Like I'll be cutting my dinner and he turn around and the thought " I could kill him" just enters my mind. It happens alot lately too, like I was babysitting and the kid was shooting my bow and was getting the arrows, and i thought about how I could kill him. My friend thinks i'm bipolar beacuse one second im happy the next I'm biting my tongue so i dont scream.
Lately i can't talk to anyone about anything though. thats explained in a adifferent question tho

You seem to be in really awful pain, and you shouldn't be dealing with this alone! You deserve to be loved and cared for! I highly suggest you go get help. There are lots of people out there, who really care about you, and want you to be happy! You can take out a book from your local library about DBT. DBT gives you a lot of pointers on how to deal with pain, and avoid cutting. Being happy one second, and feeling pain the next, doesn't mean that you have bipolar. It could mean that you're in a lot of pain, and you're trying not to let it get you, and at other times you just resolve yourself to the situation. I'm bipolar, so I know what it's like, and it's far worse than that. If you think you might have it, you should discuss it with your doctor. You're very brave, and I'm sure that with the right help, you're going to be very successful in life. You're young and full of opportunities, and you deserve the best life you can have! Don't let anyone bring you down! Fight for your rights! Good luck :)

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My boyfriend wants me to have sex with him tomorrow but I don't know:-/!! he is 3years older than me and I love him soo very much but I don't know what to say to him,help please?!

Never have sex if you are not 100% okay with it! It is your body, and only you decide what is done to it! Tell your boyfriend you are not ready, and if he truly loves you like you love him, he'll understand! Good luck :)

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I am 30 as of may eighteenth of this year. I was a recovering drunk and addict in aa for 1.5 yearz intil a month ago. I live in atl ga. I lost the great job through no action on my part on friday and the girl the next day. My beautiful flower. I have neen a fuckup all my life. I put forth great effort this time to have the world snd the people in it take a sbit on my face. I am going to kill my self in the am. I am going to steal alot of money. Get alot of crack and alot of booze. I am going out into a small.patch of woods near my place vet really f'd up and cut huge chunks out of my wrists. This is no joke nor is it a cry for help, if anything this is a declaration of intent. To wbom ever reads this our world is a nasty place and full of nasty people. We dont cberish anything but greed and deception. We use words and emotions carelessly. Be true, kind and genuine. Dont tell.someone that you love them unless its a certainty. I love you mom D.C. and i love you to brother....... sorry but i will.not alow my self to be a piece of loser shite any longer. I R.H.C. have had enough. Bye

I was at the verge of killing myself a few months ago, so I understand your despair and grief. But today I'm really happy and I love my life. If anyone would have told me I would be this successful, I wouldn't have believed them. But it's true that life can be wonderful and you can be happy again, no matter how awful you feel. I'm a living example of it. Yes, there are many evil, vile people in this world, but there are many many awesome people as well who want to help you, and make you feel happy again. Go get help immediately! You don't deserve to die! You deserve to have the best life you can have, and when you kill yourself, you are admitting defeat. You are admitting that you let all those awful people break you forever. Don't let them! Be tough and be a fighter! I don't know if you'll get to read this, and I don't know what you're going to decide, but suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. You seem like a wonderful very very hurt person, who doesn't know how to handle his awful pain. You shouldn't be dealing with this alone! I agree that you shouldn't allow yourself to be a "piece of loser shit!" You should fight for your rights, and prove to all those losers who want exactly that, to break you, that you won't be defeated and you'll prove how awesome you are! Good luck!

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I wanna cut my wrists,and all because my boyfriend doesn't love me anymore,I need help because I know it doesn't make any sense.

People who want to self harm are in really awful pain, but self harm is not the solution. It's really great that you realize that it's not normal and you need help. I congratulate you for being very smart and seeing beneath the pain. It's really painful what you're going through, and I suggest maybe you should have a talk with your boyfriend about this. If he really doesn't love or respect you anymore, than he doesn't deserve to be with a special person like you. You deserve your boyfriend's unwavering love, respect, support, and trust. If any of these is missing, there's something wrong with the relationship. My boyfriend broke up with me a few weeks ago, and I'm rolling in unbearable pain. I can understand what you feel when your boyfriend doesn't love you anymore, but it might not be true. I highly suggest you go get help for your self injurious ideation. Even if everything works out with your boyfriend, you need to learn the DBT skills of how to deal with pain without cutting. You'll be so happy you did. They are skills for life, and once you start applying them in everyday life, you'll be a new person! You'll know how to cope with things from losing $10 to losing a loved one. I'm studying them, and it really helps. Always believe in yourself, and don't let anyone treat you any lower than a queen ever! Because you are one! If you have any further questions about this, you can e-mail me at alexisgirlie@gmail.com. Good luck and feel better soon :)

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So i realized that i still like my ex. from a long while ago/ my best friend. It hurts because i know he does not want me, nor will he. I feel like i have a giant whole in my heart.

Yet.. I want him to be happy. I want to be his friend. I don't want to like him. I don't want to feel this way. I even sent him a link for top ten christian dating sites. just so that maybe he will find happyness.

I'm trying to not text him. I'm trying to tell myself he is just my friend. he is just a friend. I don't like him everytime i talk tohim.

Any advice would be very very very much appreciated!

I can relate to your pain, since my boyfriend broke up with me recently. I have this awful pain at the pit of my stomach whenever I think about him. I know though, that if I would see him, I would be so angry that I would slap his face. Post break up emotions are very conflicting and unpredictable. It's totally normal what you are feeling. I sometimes feel okay not being my ex's girlfriend since obviously it wasn't meant to be, but at other times I'm heartbroken and long for him like crazy, and feel as if I lost my soulmate. The pain is really awful. Healmybrokenheart.com has wonderful lessions and tips on how to deal with these emotions, which I find very helpful. They explain and legitimize your feelings in an incredible way, and it's very healing. You can also try to distract yourself whenever you have those thoughts. Good luck and feel better soon :)

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I'm an introvert, and I just got back from a four-day trip with a friend of mine. We spent a lot of time together on the trip and I didn't have a moment to myself. Now that we're both back home (we don't live together, but nearby), I really need a break. Not only was I with this friend the whole time, I saw a side of him I'd rather not see (angry, mean, critical, selfish, proud). Although I know he can be a really good person and I want to remain friends with him, I need space now and I also kind of want to distance myself from him since I've seen this side. The problem is that he thinks the trip has made us closer and he's not the easiest person to talk to.

He's very, very confrontational over the most trivial things. He keeps inviting me over for meals and asking if I want to hang out, even though we just got back yesterday... I need some ideas on how to distance myself in the most peaceful way possible.

I believe you should tell him that you need some space right now. Always stand up for yourself! It might be hard sometimes, but ultimately it'll make you feel so good! If you don't tell him, you might feel smothered and start hating him, and that won't be good for either of you. I used to be very afraid to stand up for myself in abusive relationships, and the results were awful. If you tell it to him in a nice way, he'll probably understand, and if he doesn't, I don't think it will be a good idea to continue with this friendship. Good luck and treat yourself during your time alone! You deserve it :)

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24/f
ok, to start off, im not sure if it was sex or rape.
i said yes to my boyfriend. he did NOT pressure me into it. later before it, i changed my mind, but i forgot to tell him. so we did and now i feel violated.

was it sex or rape????

This was sex, not rape, even if you felt violated. I believe you should talk to your boyfriend about it, but make it clear that it was your responsibility to let him know that you changed your mind. But if he could please help you out next time, and make sure that you are really okay, during sex. It is normal to think that you want something, until you actually do it. He should respect your change of mind, even if he will be very upset. Remember that it is your body, and you have full right over it. I hope you feel better soon :)

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Is this possible? I'm 165 pounds and want to be 105 pounds. What do I have to do? How many calories should I eat each day? And what can I do to curb sugar and salt cravings (especially around "that time of the month") so that I don't binge eat? What sorts of foods should I be eating? Is it healthy to eat plain oatmeal everyday (with bananas) and occasionally omelette? What work out plan should I do, too? If I ran for 30 mins before breakfast and 30 minutes after dinner would that be good enough to produce the results I want? I just want to be skinny, not buffed out! Thanks for the help! And btw, for my height, 105 pounds would just be slightly underweight. How do I discipline myself to not give up, too, like when I want to pig out on Pizza Hut after a bad day, or drink soda at a party? How exactly do I moderate these impulses? I'm doing this for health (so I don't get type 2 diabetes, or other illnesses from eating too much processed foods) as well as for looks. I've always wanted that skinny look. Not anorexic, just skinny. Thanks so much if you can help!

I was at the threshhold of diabetes two years ago, and I went to see a nutritionist. She told me to be mindful not to eat more than 40 grams of carbohydrates during a meal. It really helped me, and that together with exercise I lost tons of weight, and I'm healthy again! Here are some great weight loss tips: Rule #1: READ NUTRITION LABELS! You'll be surprised at how the same foods vary in their caloric content. Rule #2: fill yourself up with lean protein and vegetables before you tackle the starches. Protein builds your muscle mass, which in turn burns more calories throughout the day, and melts fat. A bowl of vegetable soup before a meal will fill you up with very little calories. Rule #3: when you crave sugars, try to have a "power" smoothie made of fruits. You can add some nuts for protein. (A personal sized blender which sells for about $20 is a great choice for on-the-go easy preparation.) Having one of these shakes before an event will help stop cravings. The idea of execising before breakfast is great, it will stroke up your metabolism, and help you burn more calories. Go for it! Exercise plays a key role in weight loss, and in spiking energy levels. You can try working out on the the eliptical at the gym, which burns almost twice as many calories as a treadmill, with much less impact on your joints. Exercising after a meal can cause nausea and indigestion, so you're better off exercising before a meal. If not possible, than just opt for a walk afterwards. I just started on the Herbalife program because of it's ease of use in getting high quality protein. The stuff is so good, it crushes my cravings. For more info about Herbalife and getting a couch, you can contact me at alexisgirlie@gmail.com. I cannot promise how much weight you will lose, because each person's metabolism is so different. But hey! You never know! Just keep doing it, and you'll be surprised! Caution: when starting an exercise regimen, you might see an increase on the scale, because muscle weighs more than fat. But once your muscle mass is build up, you will be burning more calories throughout your day, even while doing nothing, and your fat will start to melt away. If you have access to a fat measuring scale, you can actually see amazing results even before you start dropping pounds. If you see that all efforts fail, have your thyroid checked. It might even be something you would want to do right now if you've been battling weight for a long time without results. Wishing you lots of luck! Been there, done that... Always believe in yourself that you can do anything if you put your heart to it :-)

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And how I could have done things better, so I wouldn't be this stressed out and unhappy. I basically have ruined my life. I feel like my life only progressively gets worse, because I allow it. I was happiest in early childhood, things started progressively getting worse after elementary school, all because I allowed it. I allowed myself to procrastinate and not participate in enough school events and have enough hobbies and that's been my downfall. I'm 18 now and i'm just so mad and I have dreams but how can I just forget the past?? but I want to but it's just so painful looking back, because as a kid I thought I'd have the typical teen experience with friends and everything and yet I didn't do that. I know some things are out of my control but I feel like I mostly could have prevented it. I just don't know how to move on even though I want to, but its like I'm just having this stupid mental block. I think this is due a lot to me being a perfectionist, and my parents basically expecting perfection even though they deny it (love is only conditional. now that i'm failing one subject they don't like me as much) and it just makes me like.. shut down, basically. i don't even have good social skills cause i've spent so much of my childhood on the computer. cause nobody really invited me for stuff and etc. and now i procrastinated applying to colleges so i'm going to community college even though my grades could have gotten me somewhere good, so now i have to do really good in CC and transfer. but i just need to get rid of this self sabotaging mindset and it's really hard cause i can't go to anyone, i dont have any best friends or anything, or even good friends. i don't think i'm this crazy weird person, i just have bad intimacy issues. i greatly fear getting close to someone and then them leaving me because they don't want to hear my problems so i keep my problems to myself. i've started going to a therapist but i hate how it's only once a week. i really hate being a human, i wish i could be more in control of my actions and not be led by emotions like I allow myself to be

You can't change the past, but you can start building a wonderful future, even if the past was difficult. You seem to be suffering from low self esteem. Start believing in yourself, and your ability to make this world a better place just by being here. You are a priceless gem, and deserve the best life possible! If you are confident in yourself, you will attract others to you! Never settle for less than you deserve! Write a list of great things about you and what makes you special, and read it when you're down. It's great that you're seeing a therapist, and for more help you can start learning about DBT online, or get a book about it. It's really helpful, and will change your life! Good luck, and always remember "Carpe Diem!" It's a very important to apply in your life :)

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i was going out with a girl and then she broke it of ignored me for days and then turned around and said she has a new guy hes amazing better then me this devistated me then next day come up i love you wel be back together after me and him wel be fine and then ignored me compltley and dident wanan know me why she was with him and then she did same next day and again ignored me .. :/ n then come up and said i hate you in a long time i said it because i felt sorry for you the truth is i never loved you
now for me this has had me upset for a long time i have had her mates oh she had sex with him the next day she stopped talking to you hes the best there going out there going cinema there doing this there doing that ive attempted suicide :/ cut my self over and over :'( overdosed :/ :'( and i feel like i should keep doing so until it is successful i dont know what to do anymore please help :'(

First of all, you're a wonderful person, and your girlfriend doesn't deserve you if she hasn't realized that. Call 911 or go to your local emergency room, and tell them that you're suicidal immediately! Do you rather want to cut your life short, or do you want an incredible life, with a wonderful girlfriend, and all your dreams coming true? I'm a survivor of suicide, and today my life is really awesome! I know though, that without my medication I would be dead. It's not your fault that you're suicidal, but it's possible, with the right treatment to love life again! I know that right now it's impossible to believe, but I'm a living breathing example that it's true! I really care about you, and so do so many others! Your girlfriend is an awful person. You deserve the best girl out there, so fight for it! Don't let your brain rule you! You are going to be happy again if you get help and give it the chance. Your true lover is waiting for you, don't let her wait forever! You deserve to be loved and respected no matter what, and she'll do that! Remember, you were born with the strength to survive this, but no one can do this alone! You deserve to be happy, so fight for your rights, and if you need more help, please e-mail me at alexisgirlie@gmail.com. Be a fighter! Good luck :)

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Lately I feel like my friend just complains to me about everything. She has it really bad, to me at least. She's anorexic, and is in a "relationship" with a guy across the country. She sexted him and her mom found out and it's not so good. She's been going to thereapy btw.
Well I cut myself, because of alot of things. I hate my stepmom, myself, I'm worried about my friend. My mom knows I used to cut, but doesnt do anything about it. But I have no one to talk to because they all seem to have it worse than me and I feel selfish talking about myself. So instead I cut and hide my scars. It's really hard to explain. I wrote a poem, explaining it better
You always tell me I should talk
But I feel selfish, so I walk
I refuse to burden you with me
It's locked inside under lock and key

When you ask if I'm okay
I'm dying to come out and say
"No I'm not" but you can't see
The pain revolving inside of me

I stay as silent as a ghost
As the pain feed of its host
My fingers close around a knife
It glints and threatens to take my life

I refuse to look in the mirror
I hate myself and my tears
I hate the scars made from the hurt
But love the blood that stains my shirt

As time passes I grow weak
Tears slide endlessly down my cheek
When I'm around people I wear a smile
But I'm dying all the while

So I'll tell you every lie
So you'll never see me cry
I'm so sorry if I hurt you
Theres not a thing I wouldn't do

I would run a thousand miles
If all you'd ever do was smile

Your poem was very moving, and really well written. From what you wrote in there, I could see myself a year ago. I can understand what you're going through because I went through that kind of pain, and it led me to a near suicide attempt. Please go get help immediately! You are in so much pain, and you don't deserve to die! You should be having an incredible life, because you deserve it! I understand very much what you mean that you hate that the pain causes you to harm yourself but you like the blood. The reason so many people self harm is because when you bleed from a cut, your body releases hormones that make you feel better, but it's not the solution. Self harm is very dangerous, and the lives of people who hurt themselves or others are unbearable as they are currently being lived. You shouldn't be dealing with all this alone. There are people out there who can really help you. It's not your fault that you feel like that. You might have a chemical imbalance in your brain that causes these things, and it can be fixed! With the right treatment, you'll start to live again. When I was hospitalized for suicidal ideation, I wrote a message to the world. It's just like your poem. I know your pain, I've been there, and I've survived it! You will too, but no one can do this alone! You are so special, and you deserve to be happy, do yourself the biggest favor, and tell a responsible adult how you're feeling, and if you ever feel you cannot maintain your own safety, call 911 immediately. It is possible to love life again! Feel free to e-mail me at alexisgirlie@gmail.com if you need any further advice on this. Good luck :)

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Hi,
I am in a relationship with a guy form last 2 weeks. We never talk to have a sex in this period. In this weekend he calls me in and hotel for a diner. After diner I come to know that he booked a room in that hotel for us. I refuse to go with him. After that he can't make any call from last 3 days. Is my decision break our relationship? Sex is essential for any early relationship?

Congratulations on a very smart decision! You have every right not to want sex so early. It is up to you only to decide what is done to your body. If he doesn't want you anymore because you do not want sex so early, this relationship should be ended immediately.

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So I'm not a bad kid. I'm a 15 year old girl. I'm a good student, I got all A's last year and I do not smoke, drink, or do drugs and no sexual contact. I work hard in school and horse riding. I try hard to please my parents. My parents did hit me and spank me with a belt when I was younger. I'm not bad to my parents, sometimes I may talk flippant however the meanest thing I've said to them is that they are annoying. They get mad at me and offended by the smallest silliest things. They hit me and insult me, and I have lost a lot of respect for them. I cannot take it anymore and I've started cutting as of late. I honestly never thought I would I thought that it was stupid and pointless but I guess now it somewhat helps as stupid as that sounds. I have contemplated suicide a lot. I'm so depressed and alone and I have no one to talk to. I don't know what to do but my realtionship with my parents really sucks and there's not much to do to make it better and I don't like living this way.

You sound like you're missing meaning in life, and that's a key contributer to depression. I just came across a very inspirational quote that you really need to apply in life "sometimes you have to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve". And what do you deserve? You deserve the most meaningful and incredible life, with lots of love and wonderful friendships. You deserve the recognition of your every dream. Fight for your rights! I was hospitalized twice for suicidal ideation, I suffered from severe depression, I used to harm myself out of the unimaginable suffering, and I was put on suicide watch multiple times. Today, thanks to the incredible help I've received, I'm really happy and love my life! So I'm here to tell you that you will survive it, but it's impossible to deal with this alone. Please go get help for your depression. You shouldn't be living like this and aching so so badly that you take it out on yourself. Self injury is never a solution, and the lives of people who do that are unbearable as they are currently being lived. I am a living example that even after facing death in the face so many times, and every muscle screaming out that you will never love life again, it is possible to love life and actually look forward to the future! You won't believe how the right medication and therapy will change your life! You owe it to your very special self to get the help you need so that your life is as wonderful as you! If you need further advice on how to survive this, feel free to e-mail me at alexisgirlie@gmail.com. Good luck :)

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do you want to know why I am so fucked up? the reason is because my mom is the most horrible person who ever existed in the face of existence!

every inch of my soul was destroyed before I was even fucking born! every inch of my soul was destroyed! ever fabric of my reality! every essence of existence! every molecule in the fucking spectrum! everything was annihilated before I was even born!

I was victimized tortured abused subjugated fucking annihilated.

total obliteration of the human psyche.

the end.

It really really sucks to live with a person you don't like. It sounds like you're really suffering, and can't think clear. You shouldn't live like that! You should be enjoying your life. You're not very specific about what your mother does, so I don't really know what to suggest. It might be something that can be worked out, or she might be charged with child abuse, depending on what's going on. You can e-mail me with more exact details of what's going on at alexisgirlie@gmail.com, and maybe I can help you more. Good luck :)

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PLEASE HELP URGENTLY PLEASE What does it mean when a guy asks what are you up to tonight or what are you up to?
Hey, I went to a restaurant five days ago with a friend of mine. I know a guy that works at the restaurant. When I went to that restaurant I had no idea he was going to be working there at that day. I hardly speak to him and whenever I do, I always ask him to help me out or ask him for his advice. That day he saw me and asked hey, Julia how are you? and I said hey Johnathan and smiled. And I continued talking to my friend. He then asked so what are you up to tonight or what are you up to? I can't remember exactly which one it was but it was one of the what are you up to tonight and what are you up to? I have hardly seen him around and this was after a long time I had seen him but before that I had asked him to help me out with something and he tried helping me out he did not mind. So I just said to him oh just with a friend and yeah. And he was like oh okay. So I would like to know what did that mean? Did he want to do something or ask me to do something with him or was he just asking a question as we were just standing in a line and he wasn't serving he was just behind the counter and then walking around serving other customers and cleaning up dishes from the tables. So what does it mean? Was he just being customer friendly or he wanted to do something or what? How would I know if he likes me and stuff? Does he like me or what? Please help me thanks in advance for anyone who answers my question... :)

Also how can I tell he likes me? And also tell me if he was being customer friendly or what please please please I really do like him but I am scared to ask him about anything and I don't want to ask him if he was just being customer friendly ...... How can I tell him I am wanting to be with him and how can I tell if he is really into me? He hasn't asked me if I wanted to do anything with him or anything like that just that question that I had asked you all to answer me please and thanks :)

You sound really anxious! First of all, calm down. If this relationship is meant to happen, it will! A lot of times when guys ask you that, they want something, but sometimes they're just asking! It may be that he's into you, but I would guess that he was just in a good mood. If you want to get together with him, start showing interest. He can't read your mind! The fact that he asked you, might be because he secretly likes you, but he won't show it at work, or he's too shy to initiate something. There are many possibilities, and the only way to find out is to go back, and show him that you're interested. Don't overdo it though! Good luck! Feel free to e-mail me if you have more questions at alexisgirlie@gmail.com

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