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I think my best friend is giving up on life
I am a 17 year old girl living in Iran. My best friend has very low self esteem, and she started cutting her arms recently. We are both not very happy with our lives, and we always wish we could get out and live a different life, but she has more problems than that. She is starting to starve herself because she thinks she's fat, and she always thinks people don't like her.
I always tell her that I'm there for her no matter what and that she's not alone, and I tell her she looks beautiful very often, but I feel powerless, I feel like there's nothing I can do, and since I've never considered taking my own life (she's been showing signs of considering suicide) I don't know what would be the right thing for me to say to her, I don't know how she would want me to react when she tells me she's been cutting, or how she's tired of her life and how it all seems pointless.
I try to tell her about the good things in life, about all the great things that are yet to come, and about all those people who love and care about her, including myself. I just don't know what to do anymore, I wish I knew how to help her, and I really hope you can help me.
Thanks in advance
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You seem like a very caring wonderful friend, and your friend is very lucky to have you! Encourage her to tell a responsible adult how she's feeling. Tell her that no matter how she looks, you'll always love her and be there for her. Make her laugh often, that's a very big healing factor, and brings life to a person. Right now she's not living! She's in terrible pain, and needs you to be there for her. You're young, and you shouldn't be dealing with this. If she doesn't want to tell a responsible caring adult, you'll have to. Good luck to both of you, and I hope you get out soon and start life anew!
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Tell her how you would react if she died. Tell her that if she was gone, the world will be different. And you said you tell her she is beautiful? Not a good idea. This will make her feel even more isolated. When she doesn't believe you, show her this;
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No one deserves to be going through such pain and suffering. What does she want to be when she is an adult? Remind her that if she ended it now, she wouldn't know what her kids would look like, and it gets better. If she still doesn't believe you, show her this;
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I admire you for actually stepping forward to help instead of sitting there thinking about how. It is a very good thing to ask questions. Do not be afraid to ask her. That is the best thing you can do now. Trust me, you will regret not trying to help later. You would remember her forever. She will always be in your heart from now on, dead or alive. I can tell you really care about her. Thank you for this question. I am so glad I could help you by seeing this in time. Some other websites:
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I sincerely hope I helped, and I hope you looked at all of these, and if they are not what you are looking for, please forgive me.
Good Luck !!! You won't regret it I promise!
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