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first time sex

Question Posted Friday May 25 2012, 8:06 pm

if my boyfriend is black with a big penis and im white and a virgin, will sex hurt extremely bad the first time or first few times?

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rainbowcherrie answered Sunday May 27 2012, 6:50 pm:
I'll start by pointing out that your ethnicity is irrelevant here. The stereotype that black men have large penises doesn't always hold true (trust me) and regardless of size, sex is almost always painful for the first few times.

To help things, make sure you are completely relaxed and comfortable with the situation - tensed up muscles will only make things worse - and consider using a water-based lubricant such as KY Jelly.

I'll take this opportunity to remind you to practice safe sex. It would be sensible to begin some form of birth control before you start having sex and remember you should ALWAYS use a condom unless you are 100% sure that neither of you have any STIs. You can read about the various methods of contraception available here: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location).

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SamuelinSampa answered Sunday May 27 2012, 2:48 pm:
The color of his penis or your vagina doesn't affect how much pain you will have.

Most girls experience some pain there first time or first few times having sex. This will vary depending on your age, weight, height, and a number of other factors that can be difficult to predict. As a general rule, the smaller you are, and the bigger he is, the more it will hurt.

To alleviate this consider using lubrication. Manually or orally stimulating the vagina/clitoris prior to intercourse may also help you relax and make the experience more enjoyable. Overall, make sure he takes it slow until you are comfortable, and don't be afraid to ask him to stop if it becomes too painful.

Ultimately it's just impossible to tell how much pain you will have ahead of time. Trying to relax and enjoy the experience should help. Good luck.

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