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Realized feelings for best friend. Not mutual.
So i realized that i still like my ex. from a long while ago/ my best friend. It hurts because i know he does not want me, nor will he. I feel like i have a giant whole in my heart.
Yet.. I want him to be happy. I want to be his friend. I don't want to like him. I don't want to feel this way. I even sent him a link for top ten christian dating sites. just so that maybe he will find happyness.
I'm trying to not text him. I'm trying to tell myself he is just my friend. he is just a friend. I don't like him everytime i talk tohim.
Any advice would be very very very much appreciated!
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I don't think denying the truth to yourself or him is doing you any good. You cannot control how you really feel inside and trying to stop natural emotion is futile and painful. The thing is it's natural and you aren't over him yet.
It's okay to feel this way so long as you don't act upon it. The desire for him to be happy is a good one but he doesn't need tips, links etc. from you or texts.
The fact is he's someone who you had an intimate connection with so no matter what he's more than just a friend to you but you have to realize it didn't work out and you can't fix it and move on.
You can be supportive and a friend but distance yourself more. Tell him that it's hard to be friends and you're still recovering from the breakup and want him to be happy.
Over time you will meet someone new and be able to move on making him a friend will be easier but for now you need to find something that makes you happy and try to dull the pain because that's what he wants for you. Hang in there it does get easier.
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I can relate to your pain, since my boyfriend broke up with me recently. I have this awful pain at the pit of my stomach whenever I think about him. I know though, that if I would see him, I would be so angry that I would slap his face. Post break up emotions are very conflicting and unpredictable. It's totally normal what you are feeling. I sometimes feel okay not being my ex's girlfriend since obviously it wasn't meant to be, but at other times I'm heartbroken and long for him like crazy, and feel as if I lost my soulmate. The pain is really awful. Healmybrokenheart.com has wonderful lessions and tips on how to deal with these emotions, which I find very helpful. They explain and legitimize your feelings in an incredible way, and it's very healing. You can also try to distract yourself whenever you have those thoughts. Good luck and feel better soon :)
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