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Since the last time I had sex with a guy only one text
I was having a purely sexual relationship with a young guy who had just come out of a five year relationship (he ended it). He slept over practically every night since the first time we hooked up for about a month. He cried in front of me, he held me all night, the only thing he refused to do is go out. We seemed happy in our time one on one though. This made me fall in love with him but he only wanted friends with benefits. So he stopped pursuing me the moment I said I love you and we had some drama but then we reunited on Monday night - went out and had a casual night by the lake. It also happens to be the same day he saw his ex for the first time since their phone breakup and he ended it in person and had the talk with her. When he walked me home that night I'd never felt so close to him. He also requested we take a picture together and I sent it to him on his phone. When he walked me home he said he didn't just want to walk me home he wanted to stay over and we had an incredible night. We had sex twice more in the morning on Tuesday before I left for work. I didn't get a text or a phone call until Friday! He texted "what's up?" at 1:30 in the morning. I didn't get it until Saturday morning because I was asleep. Told him I was going to yoga and to have a good day. Now it's Sunday (and a long weekend so we both have Monday off) and I haven't heard from him at all. I'm afraid we're in a no contact zone. What happened???
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No one can be sure, but maybe you were the person that he could lean on when he desperately needed someone. Now that some time has passed, he probably has moved on, but felt guilty that one time and asked you to take a picture together.
Or, he could be prepping you as a future 'booty call'.
It is always difficult getting serious with someone who JUST gets out of a really long and serious relationship. His relationship with his ex was 5 years long! It is going to take him some time to heal - even though he initiated the break up. Give him some time, it'll do you some good too. You would like someone who has no strings attached, and is purely with you for you, and only you - as a person.
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Sometimes after having sex men pull back to see how you will react. Do you freak out? Or do you remain calm? Don't give into his little game. Don't be clingy by sending him 1,000 text messages. Show him your time is valuable and you will not give a second thought to someone who doesn't want to give you the time of day.
Now are you making it clear you want a relationship and not just a friends with benefits situation? If not, then you can't really blame him for not acting like he wants to date you. I don't mean to tell you that you should straight up tell him you want a relationship NOW; judging by the situation you have going on now, that would probably seem a little out of left field. You can tell him, however, that you have developed some feelings and want to see where they may lead. You need to show him you're interested in becoming serious. Spend time together during the day, instead of waiting until 10 PM to hang out, when you know that will only lead until sex. When you have conversations are they purely about sex or have you made an effort to get to know him as an individual? If you really don't know much about him outside your sexual agreement, can you really be sure you can maintain a relationship with him? Try casually dating him as you would any partner before you attempt a relationship.
If he just doesn't see you as someone he would date (which there's a great possibility of, considering he just got out of a relationship), abandon ship immediately. If you have feelings for him, continuing the friends with benefits agreement will only lead to heartbreak.
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He's not looking to be with you, he's looking to satisfy his sexual cravings. I suggest you don't ever talk to him again. He's a disgusting pig, who views you as an object for pleasure, not a lover. He doesn't love you, he's just using you up. Don't let him get away with it!
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He used you, that's what happened. Don't you see? He didn't want to be with you, he just wanted friends with benefits. He used you as a crutch to get over his ex. Now he's done with you. Those kind of guys are assholes. My advice to you is, pick different kinds of guys than that to fall in love with, not someone who will use you as a rebound. I hope you can learn from this, because this sounds like a virgin losing her virginity to an asshole who avoided her after he got in her pants.
Good luck
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