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Infants having crushes on the opposite sex
You know that stage where babies start to recognize people? Well what if an infant has a crush on someone at that early age? Does it even start that early? I highly doubt it, but I think that is what happened to me... I know it can't truly be named a crush, but something like that. I know that an infant is too small to even talk, let alone know what having a crush feels like. But at the same time I am not sure...
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I don't think you can talk about it as a crush at all if you were an infant. Infants brains are not capable of recognizing that other people are not just objects - they just haven't learned how to do that yet.
Sure, the recognize faces, and they certainly know that some people (like their family) help them when they are in pain and make them feel safe - but they don't know that other people have feelings or thoughts and have no concept of personality. Children are three or four years old before they even begin to recognize that other people have feelings and thoughts like they do, before then, other people don't really exist except as tools that makes them happy or not.
An infant might find a particular person more pleasant then others, either because they are familiar, or just because the infant really likes their voice or face, but I don't think can call something a crush when an infant doesn't understand that other people are more than bodies in space.
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I really can't say if an infant can form a crush let alone have a crush on someone or anyone regardless of sex. What I do know is that infants have certain instincts. These instincts allow them to form the basic attachments they need to grow and mature. To learn who is mom as apposed to say the day care provider.
They also learn who they like as opposed to whom they don't like or care for based on these same instincts. An example of this would be say grandparents. One set of grand parents live close by and another live several hours drive away. The grand parents that live close by see the children at the very least weekly from the time they are born. While the grandparents who live further away may see them only on certain holidays.
One would think the grandparents that live close by would form a closer bond with the grandchildren. This is not always the case and was not the case with my son. He formed a very strong bond with my wife's Aunt who lived 200 miles away. While not forming much of a bond at all with my mother who lived less than 2 miles away. In fact as an infant he screamed every time my mother picked him up. He prefers being placed in my fathers lap.
My opinion is that infants can form relationships and bond with different people just as older children and adults can. As for having a crush on someone; I don't thin so I think it is just a preference for them. They feel safer with that person. If that is a crush then maybe so, though not to my definition of a crush.
This was a good question. I would really like to know your reason for asking. If you wouldn't mind writing me a private message as to your reasoning I might be able to expand on my answer.
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