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My best friend had phone sex with my brother and she doesnt want me to be mad. Do I forgive and forget, or stay mad at her and forgive her eventually or stay mad at her forever??
Signed,
Grossed out

ok yea thats really gross but if you really love your friend you can either just forget about it and forgive her or you can wait a little longer and then forgive. Basically it's up to you on how you want to do it.

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ARGH.
So I'm trying to learn guitar, but I can barely stretch a comfortable octave on the piano.
Are there any finger stretching exercises I could do to get my fingers to...you know, like, work? Lol...
I find myself using my middle finger a lot (right now I'm just working on memorizing which notes are where), so the other fingers don't really get a whole lot of streching.
I had a friend laugh out loud when he watched me play Moonlight Sonata 'cause my thumb and pinky fingers were like straight lines trying to stretch the octave.
So yeah. Small hands, wanna play guitar (electric, not acoustic...not even gonna try that), need finger stretches.
No chatspeak, please!
-Siren =)

well once you play the guitar long enough your fingers automatically begin to stretch more so just play alot. Even i can't reach all of them with some of the cords they have. But i figure i'll learn those last lol.
h.i.h.

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this is really mebarassing but..you know how people make jokes about buttt hair? is it normal to have it?

yea everyone has it. Its a part of nature. And its there for a reason that i can't remember at the moment lol but i hope i helped.

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Hey advicenators! =P

What do you think should be the curfew for a 15 year old girl? I'm asking this because I'm going to the movies with my guy friend and my parents want me home at 10pm. I'm a very trustworthy person and I WON'T have sex with him, that's for sure. He's only a friend. I'm kinda pissed about this because I want to stay out later, but they're strict & say only 10pm. I know I'm lucky because some kids can't even go out with friends yet. But, what do you guys think? Thanks.

10pms not that bad of a time but i think that if they trust you really good that maybe you could convince them for 11pm.

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((sorry if this is long!!!))
okay he's the background of whats happening ::
i was talkin to the guy i liked online and he asked who i liked. i said i didn't know and asked who he liked he said he didnt know. so im like well you have to like someone -a little-, and he still said no and asked who i liked since i had to liek someone a little too. and i said it'd be kinda pointless. and he asked why n all that stuff. i told him it was obviuos and he's like why do you like me a little? and i said yeahh and he's like well i kinda like you too. and i was happy and stuff.

soo that was like maybe a month and a half ago and i've heard all kinds of rumors. like he just wnats to sleep with me and that stuff. so i confronted him and everytime i talk to him (which is pretty oftne latley b/c im getting pissed) he's always like dont believe anything i really like you a lot, but he wont ask me out and he "doesn't know why". he says he'll call and stuff but he wont tlak to me at school and he hardly ever calls when he says he will. like seriously if he didnt tell me he liked me i'd have NOOO idea!!!


i mean you think he'd be giving me the hint to let it go and stuff by not calling but when i ask him if he just wants me to forget i ever said i liked him and just stay friends and things would be a lot better. but he says every time no please dont i really like you .. well how am i suppose to react to him ignoreing me .. i told him if to be HONEST with me and tell me to give up or not and he like is really clear that i shouldn't. but i dont know. i used to get the butterflys and all that stuff when i saw him, like i'd get nervous. but no im just plain mad, mad beats pissed!

well guys are confusing. but to be honest it might be true that he just wants to use you. alot of guys do that because they cant conrol them selves. and maybe hes not calling or asking you out because he doesnt want to hurt you that way and he knows that if he would that it would turn out all wrong.

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heyy i asked earlier about icons--- how do u get photoshop? thanks! and i LOVE your layout! cute! cute! cute!

heres one thing that might help http://www.adobe.com/products/photoshop/main.html
im not sure if its something you have to order or download.
And photoshop you can get at any computer store that sells soft ware.
and thanks :) I did it my slef.

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Alright, I have a question about being popular.

Well, not exactly. You see, I'm not obsessed and crazed and having my whole life devoted to becoming popular. Its just, the popular people are all so out-going and aren't afraid to do anything and they speak their minds. How do I do this? I'm so shy in real life, but I'm actually out-going online. But in real life its just like, "woah, who's that girl? She's so shy." nobody knows me.

How do I improve this? I just wish I could be out-going and be my real self without being so scared all the time.

Please help?

It is hard but i mean if you look at life as a posotive thing it will help being out going. I was in this situation before but its waring off so i think its also something that eveyone goes through one time or another in your life. Once you get the feeling like "hey i want to meet more people and i want them to know that wild side of me instead of the shy" that will also cure it some what. But its basically confidence that boosts your out-going ness. But the shy should wear off soon depending on how old you are. Me guessing around 13-15 it will most likly be gone before 17.
h.i.h.!

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how do you make icons for xanga and even set up an icon site for xanga. i've tried so hard and it doesnt work! help please! 5's!!! ♥

photoshop is what most people use. U can creat icons/avatars on there. If not you can try on paint. and then upload the one that you have made onto http://www.photobucket.com where u can get the code or link to add it in your blog. If you're trying to make animated one, i can't really help you with that. but Good luck!!

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Okay, I'm having this Halloween party and I don't know what to do, I told them to ware their costumes, and to bring some warm clothes incase it is cold, but I don't know what to do! There are going to boys and girls, along with my parents, little sis, and my boyfriend;) I don't know what we should do that would be fun for kids our age. We are all 13/14 and we want to just have fun, do you know what we could do? ( please don't make it expensive, my family doesn't have verymuch money right now.) thanks!

well you could do like an that apple in the water thing where you try to fish it out with your mouth lol. thats always fun :D. Maybe soe creepy but good music to dance too and like a table with nice snacks on it that fit in with the halloween theme. You could also have a contest of like who has the best costume. Have candy dishes around the house so the guests can enjoy some candy. For more games, maybe some card games or what ever you and your friends like to do when you hang out.
hope i helped!!

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I'm gonna try out for Cheerleading which is really out of character for me. Its like an image change thing but what kinds of things do i work on?

well you definatly have to be able to stretch so like stretches for your legs and arms are good. and weight lifting is good too because it helps you with the flips and all that. Running is a need because you're dancing and jumping around. Basically anything that will keep you in shape. And thats about all!
hope i helped and god luck to you!

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Okay, My name is melissa, and i'm fifteen. Theres this guy at my school who keeps calling me fat. He says that i'm obese and that i should just stop eating!!! The problem is, that i'm 5,4 and i'm 105 pounds. I dont think that's fat, and all my friends say i'm stick thin....but, i dont know. If he calls me that, do other people think that? And...if not, how do i get him to stop?

Please help! I rate high!

~Melissa~

you are not fat at all! and some guys are asses and they use these New* frazes that are like fag, fat, fatty and all that. Just ignore it because he's probably the fat one anyway. But yea your around the normal weight so dont listen to him.

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ok so theres this 6th grader whos really cute and i want to introduce myself to him
(im in 8th grade)
should i just go up to him and say hi or what?

and would it be weird if a 8th grade girl dated a 6th grade boy whos way shorter then her?
fyi this is for a friend

no i dont think its wrong. i mean thats only about 2 years difference. and i mean he will eventually grow later so he will be taller. i at the moment like this 8th grader (im in 9th) and hes still shorter than me but its totally normal. Some women marry guys that are like 5 years younger than them.. so yea it should be fine. tell her to go for him :)

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OK. I'm 16 and I'm male. I made myself throw up twice about a week ago, and got a killer sore throat. Never doing that again.
Anyways, is it possible that my stomach shrunk because of it? Because I have found that less food is needed to make me full. I used to be able to eat 3 slices of pizza, but I'm getting full after 2, and today, I got full on 4 mozzarela sticks. Is my stomach shrinking, not allowing me to eat as much? Is there something I should know?
Thank You!

-PS: I am NOT throwing up ever again, it was an awful experiance. Please don't critisize it or anything, it is done and over with.

well yea its possible that it did shrink. but i mean you can always stretch it out again by stuffing yourself, which isnt the best thing. but yea i dont think theres really anything you dont know. lol it should adjust soon. just keep eating regularly.

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okay well on my progress report i got a 75 in 1 of my advanced classes. well my mom told me to pull it up or no more football games(which i love) & i would be grounded forever..well on my AR tests i got an 80/300 so it pulled my grade down to a 50 & i have this paper my mom has to sign with my grade average on it. i got it on thursday but ive hidden it because im scared to show her. my scores arent really my fault though. the books i read 2/3 of them werent AR. so it led me to have to take 1 test on a book i never read & i got a 20 & the other i was almost finished but not quite & i got a 60. what should i do? im really scared to show her..

i hate how the skools putting school first because some ppl are just better at other things. but i would just show your mom and get it over with because if she knows youre hiding it you could get in more trouble. but i mean if you wanna be on the sneaky side get her autograph and if you have a copyer tape it on the paper and copy it makeing sure that the teacher cant tell that you taped it on the real copy. That way your mom wont know. but if you dont want to take that risk then id tell her. i mean you cant help it. skool gives alot of work and its hard to keep up with.. im about in the same mess..
hope i helped and god luck!

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if you have ever had laughing gas like when you had stuff done on your mouth, can you tell me what its like please?! FAST

its nothing to be scared of. its actually quite nice. all it does is calm you and it smells like regular air, actually does make you kinda giggly (well at least to me it does) but its nothing magorly scary.

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sorry for being so long just need to know wat it means I RATE 5's !!!!!i had this realy weird dream were these evil rock people were trying to kill me so then finaly we got them in a room and was filling it with deadly gasses and i got locked in side so then i started dieing slowly finally somehow someone gave me a gun slow i pointed the gun to my stomache *bang* *bang* *bang* *bang* *bang* but i didnt die just made my pain worse then i shot my heart *bang* still didnt die shot my head i still didnt die!!!then i woke up

i think you might feel like your stuck in something that you feel you can get out of. Usually dreams that you keep trying to run away from or try to kill your self can mean that your trying to escape from something start back with something new.

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is it alright to have a crush on an actor as long as you dont go bananas??? like a small one not too serious??? i feel guilty because i do>>>> sorry that this question is properly punctuated> the shift key has suddenly been deactivated

:) hollis

yea thats fine lol i have a few crushes but i dont like go crazy about them lol

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hi so i had my first period, well yea, for the first time you kno, for 7 days nd then after i had that normal brown stuff nd then the past two days with nothing nd now i have the brown stuff again. normal. . .right?

yea thats normal. its always a little different the first few years.

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At what ages to guys and girls stop growing. I knew..then I forgot haha. Thanx

well girls usually grow at least until their 18 and guys.. umm im not sure but usually they are grown around the age of 18-19 or so. but they start later so im not sure lol
h.i.h.

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im new with this whole period thing. ive had it for about 6 months. i was supposed to get it a week ago, but i didnt. i havent had sex or anything, is this normal ? Will i get it soon, again?

[ not like i want it anyways :-p ]

well its always irregular the first year or 2. so dont worry itll come soon enough.

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