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My best friend had phone sex with my brother and she doesnt want me to be mad. Do I forgive and forget, or stay mad at her and forgive her eventually or stay mad at her forever??
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Grossed out
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ummm well, first of all, she shouldn't have done that. and even if she did, i don't think she should have told you. i think that is gross....eww...narsty.
anyway, i think that you should forgive her, but ask her not to do it again. even if your brother may want to. it is wrong for her to do that when you are not ok with it. and its just plain wrong anyway.
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Is your brother off limits to your friends? Its ok to be grossed out (he is your brother and all) but to be really angry, I don't know about that. It's one of those things you could have lived your entire life without knowing, but you can't be too pissed off. It could have been worse. Much, MUCH worse. Let it go, and you could hi-five your bro for gettin some!
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Well talk to her about her relationship w/ your brother and if it is going to be serious or not. But if she doesn't plan to then tell her about you not liking what happened. If shes a true friend she will keep her private life with your brother quiet. But don't be mad at her forever.
And I'm just wondering...how'd you even find out?
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ok yea thats really gross but if you really love your friend you can either just forget about it and forgive her or you can wait a little longer and then forgive. Basically it's up to you on how you want to do it.
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I think that you should forgive and forget.She proboly just likes ur brother thats why she did it.
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It's her decision, and I don't think you should be mad at her for it.
HOWEVER, it is your decision about whether you want to be mad or not. Maybe you should figure out exactly why it bothers you. Is it because it's your BROTHER, ew, gross? Or is it because you have some underlying friendship issues and are worried that this will take time away from you? There are a number of reasons why you feel this way, and once you figure out why you'll know what to do.
That said, friends are forever. You shouldn't cut ties for a stupid decision. It's not worth it.
But it really is up to you and how you personally feel about the issue.
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I don't see what reason you have to be mad, unless you are dating your brother. I would suggest forgiving and letting it go. What your brother does in his privacy should stay in his privacy. Next time, just tell your friend, who obviously likes your brother, to keep it to herself. No one wants to hear about their family's sex life or anything remotely close to it.
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Well, what your brother and your friends do is really none of your concern. You have every right to be grossed out. My best friend slept with my brother. I don't give a damn that they had sex, but I'm still freaked out by it.
Sure, you should forgive her. It's really nothing to be mad about. Just think of the incident as something that happened between her and some random guy, or your brother and some random girl.
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I can totally see where you are coming from with this, and while I know your first instict (as well as others) would be to just blow her off and not forgive her, but why burned bridges? I mean what you brother does is his own business and so is your friends, but you are sort of involved in all of this. I think the best think for you to do is to just explain civily to your friend how you are feeling and it just makes you feel akward and tell her that you can't stop her from liking who she wants to and having a relationship, but when it comes to sexual aspects involving your brother to just not tell you about it. I think she will get the heads up with this and back down from telling you intimate details or such sexual stuff with your brother. If you feel the need to, you may want to talk to your brother also and just kind of tell him "well put yourself in my shoes-like if the tables were turned" I think he too will understand. Give you friend (and brother) some time to maybe clean up or change habits and resume to the way things were. Don't like something like this be the ruination of y'all. And besides, if you tell her you disagree with it and won't be her friend, she might continue just to spite you. Be the bigger person and forgive, but you don't have to forget. :)
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