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Popular.
Alright, I have a question about being popular.
Well, not exactly. You see, I'm not obsessed and crazed and having my whole life devoted to becoming popular. Its just, the popular people are all so out-going and aren't afraid to do anything and they speak their minds. How do I do this? I'm so shy in real life, but I'm actually out-going online. But in real life its just like, "woah, who's that girl? She's so shy." nobody knows me.
How do I improve this? I just wish I could be out-going and be my real self without being so scared all the time.
Please help?
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Okay, well, I'm a shy person too. Seriously, do you really want to be the popular girl who is the topic of discussion everywhere. I know that you are probably thinking "YES YES YES" but really, being "popular" just means that everyone knows who you are, and that just lets people think you're a snobby biatch. So don't worry about it. Just be who you are and you'll be popular with who really matters...your friends.
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Well I can't exactly give you tips to be "popular" Because honestly, who are u popular TO? Yourself? Yeah. If you wantto be more well-known, join some clubs, make some new friends. Talk to the "popular" girls. That's sure to get you noticed. Good luck!!
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ok well being outgoing is easy i was the same way like last year but i've really changed well outgoing is like being fun and speaking your mind and stuff like that well here is what i did
1.i started being more fun and loud and i spoke my mind (i only have one life to live so live it well)
2. i tried to talk to more people i (i know that not in your Q. but it helps that you talk to people instead of being shy because the more ppl you know the more opoular you get)
3.i just did all those things and i became popular like that! (take chances,come out of your shell,)
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ihave the same problem and eventually being sooo shy and scared of the world made me depresed but now im popular but for all the right reasons....
i had to get professional help but since you caught your "problem" early you wont...
try it at home first go meet some new people in the neighborhood, if you succeed and feel proud of yourslef talk to people at school make new friends, trust me it works,.....
<33
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My professor gave me and my theater class some very good advice: "Fake it till you make it." You're not out-going? Pretend you are. Convince yourself you are. You need convidence to be out-going. If you don't have any, pretend you do. Fake it till you make it. If you step into that mindset, you'll soon start to believe that you actually are outgoing, and if you believe it long enough, you will be.
Also, think about this: What is there to be afraid of? Being shy is a defense mechanism. Don't worry so much about what will happen if you say something. Chances are, it will be for the better.
Hope this helps.
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hey hun, well best way is join a club in your school or sport (if your into that kinda stuff). or if one of the people in your class is popular become friends with them like if you sit near eachother or at the same table talk. and if you become his/her friend you can hang with them and through them hang with his/her friends who are popular.
xO. jessica
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You should just become friends with a lot of popular people and then you will because wayy popular. Just be crazy and more outgoing and make up jokes.
i really hoped it helped !!
xOx ash-
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I knew a kid who was just like that, he spent his entire most of his life trying to become “popular” and liked. He eventually became “popular”
The point I want to stress is that he discover the secret.
1) he was Persistence
2) he liked himself and didn’t care what everyone else though.
3) He was friendly to everyone (or at lest almost everyone)
4) He got involved in school actives and stuff
What helped him to overcome his fear of people; he took up writing, and later drama. He learned to express himself. And that help.
I hope this helps you. let me know if it does.
If u like more info on the subject just drop a line.
Best of luck to you.
~Teen Guru~
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You just cant change youre personality from shy to outgoing overnight. Youre outgoing online because you arent face to face with people. Dont try to be some1 your not. Popular people arent all that, trust me. They like to drink and smoke pot. Sorry, but how does that make some1 popular?
Being nice goes along way. Your choice!!
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i think the reason you are outgoing online is because you can hide behind the computer. like, you're protected in some way. i used to be like that, but now i'm pretty outgoing all of the time. you might not be comfortable with yourself yet, but that's pretty much the first step. you have to put yourself out there and you could be accepted or you can be rejected. but you have to put yourself out there if you want to be noticed. just get really comfortable with your group of friends, and then you can just talk to people in your classes and be nice. then try to join student council or a club.
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It is hard but i mean if you look at life as a posotive thing it will help being out going. I was in this situation before but its waring off so i think its also something that eveyone goes through one time or another in your life. Once you get the feeling like "hey i want to meet more people and i want them to know that wild side of me instead of the shy" that will also cure it some what. But its basically confidence that boosts your out-going ness. But the shy should wear off soon depending on how old you are. Me guessing around 13-15 it will most likly be gone before 17.
h.i.h.!
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