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Q: 16/F
So for the past 8 months I've been talking this guy on twitter. We used to roleplay as a fake couple. Well five months into talking with eachother I confessed I've grown feelings for him. He admitted the same to me. Then we started talking about real life stuff like our friends, family, school, and our past. Everyday we would talk about the most random things. Soon its been 6 months and we start saying "I love you." And I know the internet is never safe because you dont really see the person behind the screen and it could be some online predator but something felt right. I mean after seven months why hasn't he made a move if he is an "online predator?" He never asked me about my town or school or my last name. He straight up told me everything but never asked me once. So I told him everything and he put "Why did you tell me that? You didnt have to." sooo yeah. He always talks to me about school and homework and how he took his best friend to the dance for fun. And he always asks me to help with his math homework (lol) and I always do. I mean if this guy is a "predator" he's really good and sneaky and patient to meet me. I told my mom about this cause I thought she should know and she wasnt to happy about it. After everything I told her she is still uncertain..but I told Forest,the boy, that my mom knows and he did nothing...wouldn't he be scared and stop talking to me if he know my parents know?
I want to meet Forest cause its killing me inside, I live in Iowa and he lives in California. She says she will believe this when she meets him in real life and well I dont blame her. But how can I convince my mom to get us to meet him?
Sorry if this is long and makes no sense

To make sure he isnt an online old predator dude and he's who you think he is, ask him to tell you what he looks like (if he hasnt already) and then ask him to skype or ovoo or anything like that. mostly everyone has a webcam nowadays so if he rejects the idea, he may not be as trustworthy as you think. Good luck! and be safe

Q: what are the nice singles [old singles] from the -then- popular band BLINK 182?

the year ranges from 1998-2002?

Also:
Good Charlotte
Simple Plan

Blink 182:

adams song
all the small things
first date
the rock show
wasting time
what's my age again?

Simple Plan:

happy together
welcome to my life
perfect world
me against the world

Good Charlotte:

lifestyles of the rich and the famous
the anthem
girls and boys

Q: hey,
would you classify this as depression or something else.
*Wanting to be alone most of the time.
*getting really upset over nothing.
*self harming(cutting etc).
*not talking much when normally really social.
*pushing away friends.
*feeling excluded from people.
Etc. Etc.
Thanks heaps.

my best friend classifies himself as depressed and he is. he has many of those symptoms so the person you are talking about may be depressed as well. if its you, you should talk to someone about it..it doesnt have to be your parents cause i think that that would be the hardest people to talk to it about..but maybe your school guidance counselor, a friend, or ask your parents for a therapist..if its not you..then talk to your parents or someone you trust..try and get help for them. good luck

Q: ok i really really hope my friend doesnt see this . . .

ok by the way ! THANK YOU TO EVERYONE WHO ANSWERED THE ADVICED I ASKED BEFORE THIS !!

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ok i have a friend and she is very friendly, crazy, out spoken, LoVes pizza and candy !! like seriously ! and out of no where she'd be all "PIZZA ROLLAS !" or "CANDY !!!" with a very childish voice .

its annoying to me but i can 'bear' it . . . (?

shes is very smart and is easily ticklish and i always hangout with her . . .

this might sound mean but whenever i see her face i just want to SLAP it really badly cuz she annoys me 24/7

sometimes she doesnt know her limits to her immature childish like behaviour .

the number of us girls is 5 and we call our selves the 4 blind Azns + Glessy .. (its + glessy because she isnt blind [doesnt have glasses] !)

anyways~
we have days called 'Confession Days' so we can say what we could when we couldnt about each other. . . and we only do them on special occasions like birthdays or holidays . . today was suppose to be one but we ended up canceling soo we are doing one this coming up monday . . .and i was going to tell my friend about this but she is very fragile and i dont know how to tell her . . .

no matter how much i want to beat her up .
she is still one of my best friends .
but i really want to tell her so that she can at least know her limits to her behaviour and save the annoyingness for the rest of us whom feel this way .

i think my other friend feels the way i do about her .
but she is pretty much straight forward and dont hesitate because she knows that my friends will just laugh it off and propbably feel bad when she gets home . . .

soo waddya think ?
answer this one !

please and thx !^^

V(O.O)V

alright, i don't think you should slap her, haha that might be too strong. but the next time you girls have one of your confessions, i think you should open up about it. but do it subtly. don't say "your so annoying that everytime i see you i want to slap you across the face and beat you up" you should maybe say "i think you need to take down your level a little. i still love you, but sometimes you can be loud and childish..." and see what she says and then dont say anything else for that meeting. then, watch for a change in her behavior..if she does take down her level then you shouldnt need to say anything else to her. however, if she doesnt change at all, you might want to call her on the phone one night and tell her more bluntly and forcefully. she may get a little hurt from you saying that, but she'll be glad that you didnt do it in front of all the girls and that your being open with her..and hopefully she changes.

hope i helped, and good luck

Q: ok i was reading another question about ouji boards (or however you spell it) and i was wondering, where could you get one, and how much would they cost, or what?

thanx!

You can get them at target, wal-mart, kmart, toys r us i think, etc. for around $20

have fun with it =]

Q: hey i'm looking for songs about a boyfriend or spouse that has died (like gone away by the offspring and pictures of you by the cure). anything slow would be great, alternative music is really good too but i'm open to any suggestions. thank you so much.

when you're gone by avril lavigne
and
helena by my chemical romance

Q: Two questions:

1. How do you know when you orgasm?

2. Do guys orgasm? How can you tell?

1. when you get that crazy ass good feeling you know youve orgasmed. you get all tense and it feels amazingggg.

2.yes guys orgasm they cant do it as much as girls and cum shoots out from their penis. thats how you know.

girls can fake them cause cum doesnt shoot out. guys cant. and thats an advantage for us sometimes =]

Q: so. i like this guy but so does this othr grl. and she is going to homecoming w/ him. but she "says" she dosnt wanna go w/ him. whts your opionion on it?

-sara

well first off did he ask her or did she ask him

if he asked her: chances are he might have a crush on her. just flaunt what you got in front of him, flirt with him and then maybe flirt with other guys in front of him. just dont do it to the point that you seem like a slut

if she asked him: that would be the best situation. he might think they are going as friends [thats what the guy i asked thought] and he might have said yes so he wouldnt hurt her feeelings.

if she says she doesnt want to go with him then it sounds like he asked her and said yes. she could be lying but thats stupid to lie about. but hey girls are stupid.

if my advice isnt clear, sorry, ask any other questions if you need to

Q: Alright I purchased a dress to my homecomming
[which is on the 30th]
And it has a 50's feel to it. So I was thinking for my hair I could do a classic fiftys up-do or hairstyle in general.
My hair is kind of short
http://i8.photobucket.com/albums/a47/xRadPotatos/MADDYY4.jpg

so could any one give me any ideas
[preferebly pictures]
of styles that I could do with my length?

well i really like your hair and its kind of short to do an up-do to but if you didnt do the up-do you could put a sparkly berret in it or something.

Q: Okay I was just wondering are the Gossip Girl series real or fictious?
They include all these fan emails and sightings and things about the characters , and that seem like they could only be real. Does the author just make those up as she writes the story?

fiction. its under the fiction section in bookstores and libraries.

Q: Is it safe to sex during pregnancy?

yes its fine. and i agree with the advice giver below me...sex isnt a verb. anyways...i read that sex during pregnancy is good for your baby.

Q: i have a problem. a guys likes me i like hima nd my friend likes him. what now? thanks in advance

you should not go out with him if your friend likes him dont pick a guy over friends. friends last forever boys are whatever. if you pick him your friend will ditch you.

Q: okay well i like this guy and i know that he likes me so how do i talk to him. i am really shy.

write him a note, talk to him over the phone, instant message him, email him, or talk to him over myspace if youre that shy

Q: i need to know who sings this song- im havin a brain freeze and cant think i know a guy sings it its hiphop and the line that i can remember is cath em ridin dirty, muy musics so loud theyre hatin help please+

ridin' dirty by chamillionaire

thats my ringtone

i love that song

Q: no matter how i try to study... i just can't seem to be able to. are there any ways for studying?? i'm currently in the 9th grade and i passed every other grade 8 and under. but i think i should REALLY try this year. please give me some advice.

Mathematics: needs tons of work.
Social Studies: needs lots of work.
Spanish: i wanna get a head start on this language.
English: needs help with story writing.

thank you XD

i think the first answer you recieved was really good. so im not going to repeat it ill just summarize it,

math-do the homework and study your notes is really important. you have to study your notes. and know the formulas as well, write them on flashcards and study from that

social studies: use acronyms and other things to remember. you have to memorize a lot in that class so like the first person said, use different things it may be silly but it works

spanish: again, use flash cards and do your homework.

english: to me that would be the hardest one. writing is a very hard thing to do. you need to brainstorm, rough draft, edited draft, edit again, and then the final copy. for the editing part you should edit it yourself, peer edit (have friends edit it), parent edit maybe (your parents edit it) and then teacher edit. ask your teacher before or after class to edit your paper. she or he will be the best help especially if its your teacher, he or she knows the grading rubric and stuff. hope i helped

good luck, you can do it

Q: My sexually abusive boyfriend ripped me while trying to fist me. I told him it wouldn't fit, he doesn't listen to me protest. He did say he was sorry and that he didn't intentionally mean to hurt me. It ripped a good 2 inches long, between my labia and my clitoris. It was bleeding like crazy last night, and this morning when I went to the bathroom it is still bleeding. Should I seek medical attention? how will I explain something like this without telling them my boyfriend is sexually abusive?

you need to go to the emergency room as soon as you can. you need to tell the doctor what really happened. if you ask him not to say anything to anyone, like your parents, he wont. after you seek medical attention you need to dump him or you should even go to the police. i know it may be hard to dump him because i guess you love him and you think he loves you.but if he hurt you like that, honey, he doesnt. think about it, he's sexually abusive, meaning all he wants is sex and if you dont want to give it to him, he'll make you. get out of that relationship NOW! i donr care if you rate me down you need to dump him or he could end up hurting you even more. i'm sorry that you probably dont want to hear this, but you need to. im sorry you got into this situation.

Q: Ok, so I have this friend. She is like one year older than me. Well, today I got a lolly pop from one of my teachers, I showed it to her. Then I ate it. She got mad at me for eating it. I gave her the other half. She ate it, ew, I know. Then she told me something that I will always remember, heh. Still she's mad at me. Like what should I do? Should I still be her friend or what?

you should still be her friend but that was really stupid of her to get mad at you over eating a lollipop.

Q: me and my b/f have been datin for almost 6 months. hes means so much to me but a lot of the time she doesnt treat me that well. im a freshman thie year and was considering breakin up wit him b/c i never see him and just felt too tired dwon.but then i chagned my mind and figuared i really loved him. but today this kid who knows him and me came up ot me and said that he wasnt breakin up wit me because he wanted to move on...i was feelin the same thing but i like him so much still. i sent him a text saying that we needed to talk and he said ill pass! and i said..were over.ur friend jeff told me everything..and he said..yull get far listenin ot him...i mean i ended a really long realtionship wit this guy and im not sure if i should beg for him back or just move on....help me pleeeease =).thanks so much

hey jess (its lauren)

well you know what i think you should do. i believe jeff he would tell me he was lying. i know how hard it is going to be but honey i think you should move on. i love you so much your my best friend and i would never steer you wrong. he has like no respect for you. he didnt even talk to you when he saw you and now he wont even call you back i know you love him but does he love you back? i really dont mean that to hurt you i just never heard you say that he told you he loved you. if you do move on, it will take time, you wont feel right with other guys, hell you might not want to be with other guys, i know you said you could never feel this way about someone else but once you eventually get over him i think you can. i think there is a soul mate for everyone and he just isnt yours. i'm sorry this is probably hard to read but i'm your best friend and i just want whats best for you, i just want you to be happy and if you stay with him you wont be happy, if you move on you wont be happy for a little while, but eventully you will be. its better to end it now before its been 2 years of you going out and he ends it abrubtly if that happens you will be in much worse shape then you would be if you moved on now. i love you and whatever you do is okay but this is what i think you should do. ill see you monday...talk to you later...

Q: 17 female I didn't brush my teeth alot when I was little like I was suppose to and now that iam older i've been brushing my teeth 3 times a day and they are like really yellow and there is a big brown stain on my teeth how do I get my teeth whiter besides brushing them?

2 things.

1.go to a dentist. they can really clean your teeth
2.crest whitening stips they taste disgusting but it really works

Q: I'm 16 and i lost my virginity to my boyfriend of 3yrs. it was just 3 days ago. we didn't use protection i'm worried i could be pregnant. i wouldn't have done it if i didn't love him. but his phones been cut off. He has a cell phone but hasn't called or anything. Should i be worried or relax?

WHAT SHOULD I DO???