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sexual abuse injury
My sexually abusive boyfriend ripped me while trying to fist me. I told him it wouldn't fit, he doesn't listen to me protest. He did say he was sorry and that he didn't intentionally mean to hurt me. It ripped a good 2 inches long, between my labia and my clitoris. It was bleeding like crazy last night, and this morning when I went to the bathroom it is still bleeding. Should I seek medical attention? how will I explain something like this without telling them my boyfriend is sexually abusive?
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It seems strange to me that you would readily admit that this behavior is abusive, and still be in so much denial. Why would you want to protect this "boyfriend" who is NOT your friend in any sense of the word? Go to the doctor right away and discuss openly all you have said here and anything else that concerns you. Doctors are there to help you without judgement. They generally see what you have described and much worse, so nothing will shock them. If you want to remain more anonymous, then see a random doctor at a clinic and not your usual doctor. You are seeing a regular doctor I hope! As for the abusive guy, being sorry is not good enough, nor is the fact that he may have a human gene in him that you haven't seen before. What montrous side of him are you used to? This is more serious than you now realize and you need to put an end to your relationship with this possibly psychotic guy before you become even more numb to the trauma he is infecting your mind and body with. See a doctor. Call a friend and ask for help. Go here and learn more that could save your life. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
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well, its never a good idea to lie to a doctor, since theyrwe looking out for your health, but id say the only way to do it would be to say it just happened with your boyfriend, and just dont relate it with him being abusive. the next thing you need to do is get away from this jerk. he obviously is only after one thing, and that is whats gonna damage you for the rest of your life. believe me, i know. its a tough thing to go through, and takes an extremely long time to get over. dont waste your time with people like that. good luck chica.
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As much as you probly dont want to go to the doctor you really need to get to the emergency room. if you were bleeding that much last night and this morning should have already gone. This is a serious situation and your losing alot of blood. Also DO NOT put any more neosporin on it. Neosproin is not meant for private areas. You need to get medicine from the doctor.
I know where you are coming from when you say you love your boyfriend. But even you say he is abusive. i dont know how old you are or how long you have been with this guy. But you really need to get out of this relationship. Being with him will only hurt you in the future. He will become more abusive toward you and im serious. He'll become as bad as not letting you out of the house, call any friends Or family members.
Even if he is only sexually active he can become Abusive in many ways.
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thats discusting.. yes you need to go to the doctor.. your losing blood, and it might be serious. also, if your boyfriend is abusive, why don't you be smart and break up with him. then this sort of thing wouldn't have happened.
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you need to go to the emergency room as soon as you can. you need to tell the doctor what really happened. if you ask him not to say anything to anyone, like your parents, he wont. after you seek medical attention you need to dump him or you should even go to the police. i know it may be hard to dump him because i guess you love him and you think he loves you.but if he hurt you like that, honey, he doesnt. think about it, he's sexually abusive, meaning all he wants is sex and if you dont want to give it to him, he'll make you. get out of that relationship NOW! i donr care if you rate me down you need to dump him or he could end up hurting you even more. i'm sorry that you probably dont want to hear this, but you need to. im sorry you got into this situation.
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EDIT: I'm really disappointed that you didn't go to the emergency room, but that's another story. I'm concerned about something else now, that's, sadly, more important than that. After you get this taken care of by a doctor I would suggest seeing a psychologist. Did you notice how everyone but you is very concerned about you? Doesn't that worry you at all? Maybe you are the one that is wrong here, ever think of that? Seeing a psychologist can confirm things for you. You can tell them all about your relationship and they will tell you if he really does care as much as you think he does. If your psychologist tells you that the relationship is fine, then you went and proved us all wrong and you can rest, knowing that there's nothing wrong. If they say the relationship is as unhealthy for you mentally and physically as all of us fear that it is, then you need to trust that. If you are in an unhealthy relationship you need to get out no matter what the circumstances. We're a bunch of kids with advice. A psycologist is a professional. Professionals know more about this kind of stuff than you do and they can help you get through it if you need that.
You keep saying that you love him, but does he love you back? Even if you love him, if he doesn't love you back, your love means nothing. If he doesn't love you, there's no happiness for you in a relationship with him. Are you happy? Don't say that just loving him makes you happy. If he isn't making you happy there's no point in letting this go on. The point of life is to find happiness. I don't think you are finding it with him. Maybe you found love and it feels good, but love without happiness is just a lot of pain. Love is a very painful thing. You can, if you let this guy go, find another love. One that makes you happy and treats you right. There is no such thing as "the one". There are lots of guys out there that you can love and be happy with. If this one is hurting you, don't settle for that. Find someone that won't hurt you. He is out there. Be strong and leave this guy. Be selfish for once. He is causing you so much mental and physical pain. No one deserves that. You are a very giving person. Find someone that won't use, or abuse you.
Please see a psychologist. I know you don't think that anything is wrong, but all of us do. That must mean something. Seeing a psychologist can set your mind at ease. Abuse is wrong and should never be allowed to happen. You said yourself that he was abusive. You must be worried to a point. Do it for the people that care about you. They want you to be safe and happy. You should want that for yourself too. Good luck. :)
Go to the emergency room immediately. That is a very serious injury. Tell them exactly what happened. The doctor isn't going to tell anybody else, including your parents, if you ask them not to.
After you get out, dump your boyfriend as soon as you get the chance. There is no reason for you to put up with that no matter how nice and wonderful he is to you outside of sex. He intentionally hurt you no matter what he says or tries to make you believe. You told him not to, he did it anyway. That is intentional even if he does feel a little remorse afterwards. If he really cared about you, he would have made sure that you got to a doctor himself. You can die from that kind of injury if you don't get to a doctor. His abuse is going to continue. People don't change. Don't wait around for him to change and don't make excuses for him. He doesn't deserve them and he doesn't deserve you. You'll find someone that is just as nice to you and likes you just as much as he does that isn't going to physically or emotionally hurt you. Trust me. There's lots of guys out there that are really great.
If you take anything out of this, it is that you need to seek medical attention right now. Good luck.
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First of all if he is sexually abusive to you...LEAVE HIS ASS! Secondly..seek medical attention. Third, why the heck did u let him fist u in the first place. Ouch! Seek the medical attention and then go talk to a counselor...its cnot cool to be sexually abused and its no joke.
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Go to the medical centre and get some medication. Just say you cut yourself with a knife while you were making your dinner. Then i suggest you ditch your boyfriend because if he hurt you like that i dont think he loves you as much as you think.
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First off...... You need to tell the Dr. the truth. Go ahead and hate me and rate me down, but if your boyfriend loved you as much as you probably think he does, he would NEVER of hurt you like that. Sex and all the other kinky stuff is fine as long as both of you want it, and I hardly consider having your vagina ripped open as being something somebody wanted.
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If it's STILL bleeding I'd say you should see a gynocologist. It could get infected or rip more if you don't have it treated. You really don't have to tell them anything you don't want to, but I think you should. Read what you said, "he doesn't listen to me protest." Why risk it being worse next time, you don't wanttt there to be a next time. You should tell whoever you see what he did and they can get you help if you like. If not, like I said, you don't have to tell them anything you don't want. Just simply say it happened during sex or something. Don't go into detail. But I think it would be stupid not to tell. Why be with someone who hurts you? Good luck!
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