What happened to me wasn't exactly like this, but I was pretty darned scared.

My heart didn't race, it skipped. Basically it would stop beating for a little bit and then have one BIG beat that basically was like "Ka-Thump!" throughout my whole body. I was about 20, and it was horrible. It nearly drove me mad. (I eventually found out they were called PVCs "PreVentricular Contractions")

I know these aren't your symptoms, but since I had this for a year, I found out quite a bit about heart problems.

First thing I did was cut out caffeine. I only drank non-caffeinated sodas and no caffeinated coffee or tea. That might help for some people. It might help for you. It didn't really help for me because mine were caused by something else.

After a year of suffering, I finally figured out that it was NutraSweet causing the heart problems. If you drink or eat anything with NutraSweet in it, I recommend that you stop for a while and see if you get better. Actually, I recommend that you stop forever. NutraSweet aka Aspartame also caused me hearing problems and memory problems.

See the following link for more info on NutraSweet/Aspartame:

http://www.dorway.com/badnews.html#symptoms

We had a dwarf hamster who had babies. They're so cute! ;-)

First rule, don't touch the babies. Touching the babies can make the mother kill and eat them. (I know, awful)

Here is a good site that I used for info when we had dwarf hamsters:

http://russiandwarfhamsters.tripod.com/hams/id13.html

(Read the "Moms-To-Be" section too)

And here is the other site I had bookmarked for hamster info:

http://www.hamperhams.co.uk/

Basically for the first two weeks, don't touch the babies or clean the cage. I offered our mother hamster little pieces of bread soaked in milk, some cheese, and some peanut butter to give her some extra nutrition & protein.

If you have another cage to put the other hamsters in, it would probably be best to keep them separate from mother and babies. Other hamsters might kill the babies, or stress the mother out to where she kills them. First time mothers are especially sensitive to being stressed out this way.

Good luck! Once they start toddling around the cage, there's hardly anything cuter! ;-)

Well, it depends, really... Is he spanking your butt, or is he punching you in the face?

You can find the answer to that question and much more on the following site:

http://www.coolnurse.com/

Hmm... Take a number? ;-)

You need to crate train them.

No matter how old a dog is, if they mess in the house, they need to be crate trained.

This is a great site which just happens to be by a guy who trains German Shepherds, but this info works on ALL dogs! Even Chihuahuas. ;-)

http://www.leerburg.com/housebrk.htm

Here's another good section of that site:

http://www.leerburg.com/articles.htm

And a great Q & A on housebreaking:

http://www.leerburg.com/qahouse.htm

Get your dogs crate(s) and read the first and last link especially.

If, after you read these, you have any specific questions, feel free to ask.

I answered a questions almost exactly like this here:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=358938

I'll copy and paste it below, in case you don't feel like clicking the link:

"I feel your pain. My friends always were more attractive to boys than I was, and so was my mother. Yes, my mother was a model, and I had boys come over and pretend to like me, just so they could hang out with my mother and brag about it to their friends.

As I got older, guys would be friendly to me, and then ask me if I thought my mother would go out with them.

It hurt. It sucked. It made me feel like the turd in the punchbowl, to use a local phrase.

It took me a long time to grow out of that. My mother is now an extremely sad person because her whole life was wrapped up in her looks. Now she feels like she can't go out and live life until she has a face-lift and a million different tucks. She won't even go out to check the mail unless she has on a full face of makeup. She's a prisoner in her own mind because her beauty was her identity, and now that she's getting old, she doesn't know what to do.

I met my husband on the internet. We chatted for weeks and knew we were in love before we had even seen a picture of each other. "Appearances" get in the way of life. We got to know each other without "looks" getting in the way or prejudicing our thinking.

When we met, one of the first things he did was make me take my makeup off. (Looking back, I realize I was trying to compete with mother by adopting her habit of wearing lots of makeup. I guess I thought that if she got a lot of attention, I would to. It never worked, but I guess I didn't know what else to do, so I kept on wearing full makeup.)

We bought makeup remover and he took my makeup off of me for the first time. I cried and cried, I was so afraid. But he was happy, and told me how cute I was without makeup, and that I should never hide behind makeup like that again. And I never did.

Later in our marriage, he told me that if I hadn't let him remove that makeup, he wouldn't have married me. He loves me the way I am, for who I am.

Now I have a wonderful husband who loves me, and mother is single and miserable because she relied on her "looks" to live her life, and I gave up on that. Beautiful people can be some of the most shallow, and when their looks are gone, there is nothing left and they don't even understand what happened. I feel sorry for them.

Of course I don't mean that every beautiful person is shallow or like my mother, I'm just going by my own experience. There are all kinds of people.

I guess this was just a long way of saying that looks really aren't important in the long run. Not for the important things like finding a man who loves you and will stay with you even when you get older and don't look the same anymore.

Think of is this way... If a guy is shallow and only wants to date HOT chicks, what happens when the chick isn't Hot anymore? He dumps her for a Hotter chick. Who needs that? The REAL thing will love you just the way you are! Hot chicks actually have a much harder time finding a good guy who likes them for them, not just for their looks.

I understand that it's fun to get attention, but I promise it doesn't matter in the long run. When that one special guy comes along who will love you forever, who cares how many shallow guys are hanging all over other girls, right? :-) "

If he doesn't trust you, you shouldn't be marrying him. Without trust, a marriage is just an empty shell and doomed to fail.

If you are attracted to someone else, then there may be a problem. It depends on your definition of attraction. It's one thing to look at someone and think they are cute, as just because you are taken, doesn't mean you are blind. But it's quite another to look at someone and think about being with them.

If you are looking at any other man and thinking about being with him, maybe your fiance is picking up on that, and that's why he's accusing you of cheating. At any rate, if that's the case, you have no business getting married. Marriage is supposed to be forever, not just until something better comes along... And it doesn't sound like your fiance is your "everything" to you, because if he was, other men would cease to exist in a sexual way to you.

Basically, when you find the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, you won't be thinking lustful thoughts about other men.

Good Luck.

Well, I don't think it's like that. If there was proof that God existed, then everyone would 100% believe in Him. And if everyone believed He was watching, they might not show their true natures.

Kind of like when you think the boss is looking at work, or the teacher at school, you act better than you would if you thought they weren't watching.

Life is like a combination boot camp and test. We're being tested to see how we behave when we're unsupervised, and also to see if we will have faith and believe on our own. If God proved himself by walking around down here or something, that obviously would mess up the whole test.

Edited to add: If you could point me to the scripture you are referring to, I might be able to see in what context it was written. I tried looking it up on http://www.blueletterbible.org but didn't have any luck.

Loud colors. Loud patterns. Colors that clash. Patterns that clash. Most things from the 70's, LOL!

Not necessarily a lot of jewelry, but HUGE jewelry is pretty tacky.

Actually, the whole "pimp" look is considered pretty tacky, or it used to be. But then again, some granny clothes can also be considered tacky, so it really covers a lot of ground. ;-)

You can also take a look at one of the so-called Christian networks and look at some of the sets there with the gold and stuff. (especially the one that has the lady with the purple hair) I think that's pretty darn tacky. I think tacky and gaudy are frequently interchangeable, actually. ;-)

I know it sounds corny, but try an internet personals site. My husband and I met on one, and we have been married for nearly 9 years now. We were 26 at the time.

If you do place an ad, be honest about what you are looking for in a girl. If you want her to have certain moral values, say so. If you want her to be smarter than average, say so. Sure, you'll get fewer responses if you are brutally honest, but the responses you do get will be targeted and won't be as likely to waste your time.

Let your REAL personality show through in your ad. If you put on a fake persona, you'll both end up disappointed, as nobody can keep up a fake persona for long... It's not fair for either of you.

I think hubby had maybe 2 people answer his ad and it was up for over a year. (of course that was 9 years ago and the internet wasn't quite as well trafficked as it is now!) I was one of those people who answered his ad, and the other was a feminist railing on him because he expected too much of a woman (his ad said he wanted a Christian virgin with a high IQ, who understood that diamonds are a scam, etc...) But here we are, married nearly 9 years later.

Ok, change of subject:

The kind of girl you are attracted to can sometimes make it harder to find a good one. For instance, "hot" babes have a much higher percentage of being flakes, gold-diggers, selfish, and shallow. (not all of them, of course, but the good ones are usually long taken) I've seen some guys who have complained about not being able to find a nice, loyal girl... But in the same breath would be like "Oh, I wouldn't date HER, she's fat!" So sometimes shallow begets shallow.

Or some guys are attracted to wild, dangerous girls, and then are surprised when the girls run around and cheat on them wildly and dangerously.

I'm not saying you have any of those problems, as you didn't mention being restricted to any particular type of girl and only wanting to date that type, I just thought I would mention it in case anybody reading this answer might be helped by it. ;-)

Welcome to the adult world. Life is messy, and things very rarely go the way you want them to, or think they should.

You've already told him how you feel about this, and he knows it. The fact that he's going ahead with it means that he feels very strongly about it. You *could* try to convince him not to go, but you risk having him resent you for not being supportive of something he obviously wants to do.

True love knows no distance. If you two are meant for each other, then the distance won't make a difference in the long run. It's only temporary, though I know when you're young it may seem like a lifetime. If he's not worth waiting for, then he isn't the one for you, anyway.

Yes, it's dangerous. But people die in car accidents driving to nice "safe" office jobs too. Why not find out more about why he wants to go, and what part of the military he wants to be in. Some parts are a lot safer than others. If he's determined to go into the military, maybe you can steer him to one of the safer areas of it.

But the bottom line is that love means compromising. If he really wants to do this, I'm sure he'd be happier (and more likely to be able to keep his mind sharp and stay safe) if he had your support.

Good Luck.

You are not pathetic. It's *easy* to lose your virginity... Find willing guy. Lay down. Spread legs. End of story.

[twirls finger in the air] "big whoop"

In this day and age, it's harder to keep your virginity. I don't understand why some people want to get rid of it as fast as they can, like it's a poisonous snake or something. The ones who are pathetic are the ones who follow along with the crowd because they think it's the thing to do.

My husband and I were both virgins until we were 26, on our wedding night. So you are not alone, it just sometimes seems that way.

If you find the right guy, and you know he is the One for you, I don't think you'll have too much of a problem. Sure, you'll be a little scared because it's a new experience, but if you have 'Mr. Right For You', I don't think you'll have to worry about being scared of him just because he is a guy. ;-)

I don't know what any of the advice you have already been given is, but I can tell you one thing that may not be common knowledge.

My mother used to get horrible headaches. Well, there is a long involved story where I find out that some major health problems I was having came from diet soda (NutraSweet) and when I told mother about it, she stopped eating or drinking anything with NutraSweet in it. Her headaches went away.

So if you eat or drink anything with NutraSweet, you may want to try not having any for a while and see if that helps.

For more info on NutraSweet aka Aspartame, see this link:

http://www.dorway.com/badnews.html#symptoms

To the best of my knowledge, this is the scripture that many people point to in order to say that masturbation is a sin:

(Genesis 38:8 - 10) "And Judah said unto Onan, Go in unto thy brother's wife, and marry her, and raise up seed to thy brother. And Onan knew that the seed should not be his; and it came to pass, when he went in unto his brother's wife, that he spilled [it] on the ground, lest that he should give seed to his brother. And the thing which he did displeased the LORD: wherefore he slew him also."

See, Onan's brother was dead, but Onan was supposed to marry his brother's widow and make her pregnant and the resulting baby would be raised as his brother's baby, not his. Some people translate these passages as saying that instead of making her pregnant, he masturbated, then got killed for it because he "spilled [it] on the ground" (his seed).

If you read it, it's pretty obvious that's not what happened because it first says "he went in unto his brother's wife". So basically, he had sex with his brother's wife, then pulled out at the last second in an effort not to make her pregnant. He didn't want to "donate" his seed to his dead brother, but he still went ahead and had sex with his brother's wife, you see?

That's the way, I read it, anyway.

If, however, you are a Catholic, there may be some other reason why the Catholic Church thinks it's a sin. If they have a different reason, it might be from one of the exclusively Catholic doctrines.

The Catholic Church believes that the Bible is not the only authority. Their teachings include such documentation as Catechisms, and Papal Encyclicals (defined as "authoritative teaching instruments from the Vicar of Christ" (the Pope)) which have been written and added to throughout the years of the history of the Catholic Church.

Because of this, the Catholic Church has many teachings, beliefs, and traditions which are different from a Christian who believes the Holy Bible is the exclusive authority of Christianity.

Their belief that masturbation is a sin may come from one of these other authorities, rather than the Biblical scripture I quoted.

For more information about the differences between Catholicism and *exclusively* Bible-Based Christianity, see the following link:

http://www.russpickett.com/apolog/catindex.htm

You're not the only one. I hang out on a lot of internet forums, including Bible Prophecy forums, and there are quite a few people who are feeling the way you are.

If you want my honest opinion, I think we are feeling Christ's return getting closer and closer.

"My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me: And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any [man] pluck them out of my hand." (John 10:27-28)

The way things are going in the world, it wouldn't surprise me if we were getting close to the Tribulation. For more info on that subject, you can see my answer to this question: http://advicenators.com/column.php?u=DangerWench&mode=qview&q=362175

And, of course, praying about it and asking Yahweh (God) about it is a good idea. ;-)

A person should never have sex just to get rid of their virginity. Your virginity is a gift that you can only give one time to one person. It's not a 'hot potato' that needs to be gotten rid of ASAP, like some people seem to think.

You are not alone, though I know sometimes it feels that way! My husband and I were both virgins on our wedding night, and we were 26. So there are others out there, they just don't tend to be as outspoken, perhaps... Or maybe they are embarrassed and lie about it. ;-)

I see everybody has already answered you, but I thought you might want to find out more about tumbleweeds or see a picture:

http://www.desertusa.com/mag01/may/papr/tweed.html

As soon as you find out about your homework, write it down in a notebook. Of if you have a PDA / Palm Pilot, enter it into that.

And if you drink a lot of diet soda (NutraSweet), stop drinking that because NutraSweet is bad for your memory, among many other things.

http://www.dorway.com/badnews.html#symptoms

Don't diet. Dieting can make it worse. But do drink lots of water, dehydration can make your metabolism sluggish and fat just sticks around.

Find some activity that you like to do, and do it regularly. Like swimming (some places have indoor pools so you can swim year-round) or tennis, or a team sport, or bicycling, or even weight lifting / body building.

Activity will burn fat and build muscle. Building muscle will pretty much take care of everything, in time. Muscle burns fat, raises your metabolism, and just makes you feel better, period.

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I'm DangerNerd's wife. We met on an internet personals site back in December, 1996. He flew across country to meet me for the first time in late February of 1997, and we were married a few weeks later. We've been together 9 years now. :-)

If you want to mail me, my email is DangerWench@gmail.com

Yes, I do sometimes copy and paste my own answers to answer different people's similar questions. I still personalize/edit them when necessary... but for instance, my advice about diet and exercise it going to be pretty much the same every time, and that's a very common subject for questions here... so there's no point in typing the same thing over and over and over again. ;-)

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Yes, hubby and I were both virgins on our wedding night, at the age of 26. Yes, we are both Christians, but we greatly dislike what "Christianity" (or "Churchianity") has come to represent in many people's minds these days... Hypocrisy, greed, pride... Things which the Bible says we are NOT supposed to do. We are supposed to be a good example, not a bad one. :-(

If you have a Christian acquaintance who is hitting you over the head with "Jesus will bring you peace and joy and happiness" tell them to listen to this:

http://www.dangernerd.com/kirkcameron.mp3

(It's 9 megs, so it may take a bit to download)

If you can't download MP3's for some reason, you can download the zip file.

http://www.dangernerd.com/kirkcameron.zip

If they are an actual preacher/pastor, this one is geared more towards them:

http://www.dangernerd.com/raycomfort.zip

Send them the link, or burn it to CD and give it to them, whatever it takes.

If they really listen to that, they will see how the Bible itself says the way they are annoying you is wrong. :-)

If you are a Christian, please listen to it, even if you aren't beating people over the head with Jesus. I promise you, it will give you a new perspective. It's totally awesome.

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I'm also fascinated by prophesy, and I do think we are living in an age where we are seeing many things come true that were prophesied 1,000's of years ago.

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There has been a lot of hubbub lately regarding my views on the differences between Catholicism and *exclusively* Bible-Based Christianity... Mostly due to my not making myself clear. I did have a big long explanation here, but this time I will opt for the KISS method (Keep It Simple, Stupid). Yes, the following is the simplified version. ;-)

The Catholic Church believes that the Bible is not the only authority. Their teachings include such documentation as Catechisms, and Papal Encyclicals (defined as "authoritative teaching instruments from the Vicar of Christ" (the Pope)) which have been written and added to throughout the years of the history of the Catholic Church.

Because of this, the Catholic Church has many teachings, beliefs, and traditions that are different from a Christian who believes the Holy Bible is the exclusive authority of Christianity.

A Catholic Christian believes in the Catholic doctrines, teachings, and traditions which include, but are *not exclusive to* the Holy Bible.

Most non-Catholic Christians believe the Holy Bible is the *exclusive* authority of Christianity... No other documents.

Much argument comes from this, as quite a few non-Catholic Christians (myself included) believe many of the man-made Catholic doctrines to be un-Christian and not corresponding with Biblical scripture. And obviously, Catholics disagree.

For more information about the differences between Catholicism and *exclusively* Bible-Based Christianity, see the following link:

Roman Catholic Doctrine vs. The Holy Bible

And a final note about that link... That e-book isn't written by Jack Chick, I have a lot of problems with Mr. Chick. Some of his tracts are great, and some of them are way "out there" if you know what I mean. I do not support Jack Chick. This e-book is written by Rick Jones, who was a Catholic for many years, not Chick.

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"This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away. For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts, Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth." (2Timothy 3:1 - 7)

"And there shall be signs in the sun, and in the moon, and in the stars; and upon the earth distress of nations, with perplexity; the sea and the waves roaring..." (Luke 21:25)

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Yahweh is my God, Yeshua is my Savior.

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