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im a virgin
hey this is kinda embarassing but im 18 and im a virgin! most girls my age have lost there virginitys at age 14! i feel so lonley and left out! so i lie and say im not! its not that i cant find someone its just that im so picky! i want it to be special and want to be in love! wat should i do? should i lose it with some guy i dont know? or wait for the special one? and is this wiered? i really need some advice! i lie to so many ppl and i feel bad! i want to be honest with my friends but im to embarassed!
-HELP
babyll873
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FOR THE SAKE OF JESUS WAIT!!!!
im a 14 year old guy and im tellin you to wait...now that means somethin lol
your gonna wanna wait till your married cuz the last thing you wanna do is look into the eyes of the love of your life and know that you couldn't wait for them nut ya know thats just me and my thinkin
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I think that it's a great idea to wait to have sex. The person you lose your virginity to your going to remeber for the rest of your life and it should be someone special. You shouldn't compare yourself to other girls, cause remember everyone is different and everyone has different opinions. Don't just go out and lose your virginity to someone thats not really special to you. You shouldn't have to be embarassed, yeah i know its hard not to be becuase everyone is always like "oh my god your stil a virgin?" but you gave to just forget about that and remember when you lose your virginity least you know its going to with someone you love and not someone that is just going to "fuck you and Chuck you".
I really hope i helped!
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Don't worry about it at all. You've played it safe and are waiting for the right person.
What happens if you give your virginity to some random guy, and you get pregnant? Do you want to trust that person to help take care of the things to come? I'd hope not.
And even waiting until you are 18 for sex is good, because that is an age which you can start working to actually support a child in case you became pregnant.
Don't lie to people, I am somewhat in the same boat as you - I really don't find a need to lie, I just try to stay away from the topic of conversation.
Something good and bad comes out of telling the people that you are still a virgin.
The bad is that they suddenly feel some great obligation to 'get you some.' And will round up everyone they know who has ever contracted a variety of other sexually transmitted diseases.
Which they don't neccescarily view as a bad thing. Here is an example of a conversation (which is a bit extreme, but i've heard a few somewhat close to it)
"How's it going?"
"Not too good."
"Why's that?"
"You won't tell anyone?"
"Of course not."
"I got herpes."
"From who?!"
"Hallie."
"How was the sex?"
"Until this part it was fine."
"You lucky bastard"
"How am I lucky?! I have herpes!"
"But you had sex with Hallie"
Just ignore people, if they want to be a whore - not much you can do but let them.
Like said before, virginity is not a hot potato.
Giftwrap it, give it a card and all that lovely jazz and give it to someone important.
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All those people that say wait til marriage are lame...OVER half of marriages now days end in divorce. If you wind up getting one is your husband really that special? Seriously? Then you're going to play the field, maybe get married again, and then what? Your virginity's gone. You can't offer it to this new man you want to spend the rest of your life with.
I say find some guy and do it. Virginities overrated. It's just something to make yourself feel good about not having sex. Lots of people use it to make themselves seem holier than thou, when they're not.
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Mate, your friends are screwed in the head. 14 years? Seriously!
Anydangways, thre ain't nuttin' wrong with that. Personally, I don't intend to finger, play, mess, or have fun until I'm married! Which will probably be college or after! There's nothing wrong with being a virgin, you're definitely not weird! Tell them to mind their own business, it's nothing to be embarassed about!
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Don't be embarrassed! most of the ones that lost their virginity at 14 didn't even have a clue what they were doing anyhow.
i lost mine at 18 and thought it was going to be special with my bf of a year. he was an idiot and i wish i had saved it for someone much better!
when you are ready it will be better if it is a mutual relationship where he wants to be just as wonderful to you as you are to him. find a good healthy relationship and it will go smoothly from there. Definitely don't just do someone to lose your virginity, you'll regret that somewhere down the road for sure!
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don't worry i don't think you should find a random person you need 2 wait until the right person comes along that loves you and you love them overwise you might regret it. i mean im 17 and most of my friends say they have had sex but it does not bother me i am waiting for the right person. ive never had sex and your 18 so its only a year older than me don't worry So wait for the special one.hope i helped gd luck x
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A person should never have sex just to get rid of their virginity. Your virginity is a gift that you can only give one time to one person. It's not a 'hot potato' that needs to be gotten rid of ASAP, like some people seem to think.
You are not alone, though I know sometimes it feels that way! My husband and I were both virgins on our wedding night, and we were 26. So there are others out there, they just don't tend to be as outspoken, perhaps... Or maybe they are embarrassed and lie about it. ;-)
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no definately dont just lose your virginity for the hell of it. do not be embarassed! be yourself..your friends wont just not be your friend because you havent had sex. save sex for when your so0o ready you wont have to question it. its common to feel pressure to have sex..i et your friends felt pressure so they went ahead and did it..do not copy them! once ur virginity is gone..its gone! wait for someone special
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Believe me. Being a virgin at 18 is no big deal. Those that lose their virginity at 14 probably regretted it or will regret it in the future.
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omg WAIT for the right person that you fall in love with. who cares what they think. just cuz your not a slut like them. big deal. wait for the right person and who cares what other people think.
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Well first wait until you get married..... Thats when you will know thats the one.......
Hope I helped
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you should wait. i, personally, think you would regret just fucking some random guy so that you can say you lost your virginity. and also people would think you were a slut for doing so. so......my personal opinion is that you should wait. and your friends should be understanding. if they aren't well then....you can get better friends than that. good luck with this.
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It think its better to just tell the truth. You may not be the only one not a virgin, other poeple could be lying too. And being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of... your safe from stds and pregnancy and stuff.
You should wait until the right guy comes to you, which WILL happen. If you don't wait you might end up doing something you regret.And plus 18 is still very young. Now if your 30 and your still a virgin then there might be an issue:-)
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