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cold feet?
hi... well im 19/f and I'm getting married 1 week from today.. I know it's only a little bit away and a stupid time to be asking this but anyway My fiance has been like accusing me of cheating on him because im involved with the football team at the highschool because i coach it... how can i stop him from thinking this? Also I've been becoming really attracted to this 1 guy where i work.. is this normal?
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I think the problem is that you are too young to settle down...You might think you love him but them you realize later in life that it was just "puppy love" Just tell your fiance that you arent ready yet and wanna wait for a while until you just KNOW! youll know when its time...
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- Samantha
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If in your heart your not ready to get married and your fiance is accusing you of cheating now there is a problem and they say if the guy or girl thinks your cheating really there the one that are and there nervous that their going to get caught. If your having problems now, you should hold off on getting married. Hoped I helped.
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♥ YOU SLUT!!!!! you're engaged..getting married in a week...use your brain..if you even have one!
x3-Janee'
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If he doesn't trust you, you shouldn't be marrying him. Without trust, a marriage is just an empty shell and doomed to fail.
If you are attracted to someone else, then there may be a problem. It depends on your definition of attraction. It's one thing to look at someone and think they are cute, as just because you are taken, doesn't mean you are blind. But it's quite another to look at someone and think about being with them.
If you are looking at any other man and thinking about being with him, maybe your fiance is picking up on that, and that's why he's accusing you of cheating. At any rate, if that's the case, you have no business getting married. Marriage is supposed to be forever, not just until something better comes along... And it doesn't sound like your fiance is your "everything" to you, because if he was, other men would cease to exist in a sexual way to you.
Basically, when you find the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, you won't be thinking lustful thoughts about other men.
Good Luck.
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well to that is this normal question well I'm gonna be straight with you! for alot of people it is but there are some people that don't have feelings like that but alot of people do.
and for the he thinks your cheating well if your really not and he saposedly Loves you then I don't think personally I would want to marry some1 who didn't believe me a week from the wedding about something aspeshally like that!
so its your choice but I don't think you should go through with the wedding cause if he doesn't believe you know then hes probably gonna think your lying later so do what you needs to do...
I hope I helped...
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ok to answer your first question, you need to tell your fiance that you love him and only him. and that your not cheating on him. also that if he loves you he would believe you. to answer the second question, it's normal to think other men are good looking but it's not normal to be attracted to someone you work with. your about to get married and you shouldn't be thinking about other guys. now if your going to get married to this guy you need to straighten things out wiht him before hand because it sounds like your having second thoughts. hope i could help -audreyy
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Keyword here is DON'T. I would pull out of this wedding immediately. Nobody needs to know why except your family and yourself. There is no shame nor guilt in pulling out. The guy is no longer worthy of your attention and you will be absolutely fucking miserable. He will always be accusing you of something and tens to have a jealousy thing going on. You are not cheating on him now is he cheating on you though? If he's accusing you of it now, jealousy will boil over and constantly be toxic throughout marraige.
This is not cold feet you have seen the light with this guy and what to expect. Do you want this shit your whole life with him? To be honest this one is destined to implode right before the wedding if not afterwards. Marraige's like this end in divorce or tragedy if he has a ton of rage he cannot harness over jealousy.
I would do yourself a favor, realize you are 19 and at this stage in your life not ready to marry or make a commitment to a guy like him who accuses you of infidelity a week before the wedding. There's something wrong with this guy. If mom, dad or anyone else says or said the same thing they know he's bad news. My advice DON'T DO IT and do yourself a favor as much as you love or loved this guy please find someone else. Who needs a divorce at 19 and or kids brought into a toxic relationship not meant for the alter?
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