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I dont want to be jealous!!
Ok well my best friend is really pretty and everyone loves to be around her. Alot of guys like her, its not even funny.
Well i would say i think im pretty but compared to her i dont feel pretty. It seems like everyone wants to be around her and not me.
I feel jealous all the time, and i hate it...i mean she is my best friend!!
What the heck is wrong with me and how do i stop feeling jealous??
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For 1 thing stop comparing urself to her...i mean i hve this bf thats like beatiful and is comstantly dating where im not and yea i do feel jealous. But then i think of how many things i hve that she doesnt hve. Just b/c she may look preetier doesnt make her ne better. Tell her how u feel and nothing is wrong woth u. Theres people out there who wuld give there life for you and thats all that matters.
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Omg This how i feel well first of all even though she is pretty does she have a great personality? And its good that you feel like you are prety cuz you probely are as one of my good friends say "We are buetiful in our own way"! So listen to that even though you feel jeaolus it may be good its part of life but you can help it by talking to her telling how you feel maybe she will hang low if she is realy a good friend hope i help AMBER MARIE CARROLL
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i have the same exact feeling. no one talks to me no one cares about me. nothing. exactly the same. anyway. forget it. it will pass. someday it wont matter at all. likeshell be pregnant when shes like 16 and youll be normal.
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I used to feel exactly the same as you did! These are some things that helped me lessen how I felt:
1.) Just remember, her life isnt perfect. You don't know what goes on in her mind...she could hate herself or something. You may be better off then her in the end.
2.) Look yourself in the mirror every day and tell yourself what you like about her better about yourself compared to her.
3.) Hang out with some other friends sometimes. That way you can feel like the "pretty" one once in awhile.
4.) Realize that its not just looks that matter. You could be cooler than her in other aspects that some guys might find attractive!
I wish you the best of luck with your predicament and I sincerely hope my advice helped!
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Dude thats totally normal theirs nothing wrong w/ you i dont what to tell you about how 2 stop feeling jealous just like think good things about urself when your around her probelly didnt help 2 much but oh well
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dont compare yourself to your friend cause if you compare yourself to other people your depending on other peoples unhappiness to make yourself happy....do you understand.....hope i helped ^_^
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I answered a questions almost exactly like this here:
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"I feel your pain. My friends always were more attractive to boys than I was, and so was my mother. Yes, my mother was a model, and I had boys come over and pretend to like me, just so they could hang out with my mother and brag about it to their friends.
As I got older, guys would be friendly to me, and then ask me if I thought my mother would go out with them.
It hurt. It sucked. It made me feel like the turd in the punchbowl, to use a local phrase.
It took me a long time to grow out of that. My mother is now an extremely sad person because her whole life was wrapped up in her looks. Now she feels like she can't go out and live life until she has a face-lift and a million different tucks. She won't even go out to check the mail unless she has on a full face of makeup. She's a prisoner in her own mind because her beauty was her identity, and now that she's getting old, she doesn't know what to do.
I met my husband on the internet. We chatted for weeks and knew we were in love before we had even seen a picture of each other. "Appearances" get in the way of life. We got to know each other without "looks" getting in the way or prejudicing our thinking.
When we met, one of the first things he did was make me take my makeup off. (Looking back, I realize I was trying to compete with mother by adopting her habit of wearing lots of makeup. I guess I thought that if she got a lot of attention, I would to. It never worked, but I guess I didn't know what else to do, so I kept on wearing full makeup.)
We bought makeup remover and he took my makeup off of me for the first time. I cried and cried, I was so afraid. But he was happy, and told me how cute I was without makeup, and that I should never hide behind makeup like that again. And I never did.
Later in our marriage, he told me that if I hadn't let him remove that makeup, he wouldn't have married me. He loves me the way I am, for who I am.
Now I have a wonderful husband who loves me, and mother is single and miserable because she relied on her "looks" to live her life, and I gave up on that. Beautiful people can be some of the most shallow, and when their looks are gone, there is nothing left and they don't even understand what happened. I feel sorry for them.
Of course I don't mean that every beautiful person is shallow or like my mother, I'm just going by my own experience. There are all kinds of people.
I guess this was just a long way of saying that looks really aren't important in the long run. Not for the important things like finding a man who loves you and will stay with you even when you get older and don't look the same anymore.
Think of is this way... If a guy is shallow and only wants to date HOT chicks, what happens when the chick isn't Hot anymore? He dumps her for a Hotter chick. Who needs that? The REAL thing will love you just the way you are! Hot chicks actually have a much harder time finding a good guy who likes them for them, not just for their looks.
I understand that it's fun to get attention, but I promise it doesn't matter in the long run. When that one special guy comes along who will love you forever, who cares how many shallow guys are hanging all over other girls, right? :-) "
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Well with this conflict it may ruin time with you and your bestfriend because they want to hang around with her and maybe you feel uncompfertable in the crowd, so maybe you might want to seperate from that and become more of an individual, but you can still be friends with her she may just be hanging out with you out of school , but when you get a new reputation of being more individual, and you start hanging out with her in public they will start recognizing both of yall
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some jealousy is normal..i know how it feels and stuff because my friends are pretty also.
what you should do is think about what U hhave to offer..like personality, humor, passion, etc. and you will find a guy dont worry! there is nothing wrong with you..soon the jealousy wont be as intense ..ive been in your shoes before..am i still jealous of my friends? yeah, i wish i could have their looks and everything..but i stopped being so jealous and i tried to focus on what I had to offer..
i hope i helped
-melissa
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there's nothing wrong with you, everyone has gotten jealous of somebody or something in their lives and the only way to get over that is to think that she probably has a ton of flaws that you don't know about and that i'm sure everybody thinks that your pretty too and that people liek being aroudn you too but you just dont know it. obviously your still friends with her for a reason, so she does liek you as a friend and basically you just need to think in your head that she's no better than you or anyone else. just be confident in yourself and i'm sure everyone will start noticing you from then on.
-audreyy
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Hi There,
Jealousy in your friendship is one of the strongest and most unpleasant emotions. You suspect there is a rival for the attention or affections of your friend.
If you are jealous about them:
Think about why you might be feeling this way. Are you being unfair?
it's fair enough to have an honest talk with them and say that you really want to spend more time together.
If they do spend lots of time with you already, ask yourself how reasonable you're being here. There's a fine line between wanting to be with someone, and trying to control them. If this is the case, don't sit around brooding when you're apart. Go out and get some interests of your own to take your mind off your jealous thoughts. You do not 'own' your friend.
Have they ever given you a good reason to believe that, If not, your own feelings of paranoia could be to blame, so don't take it out on them.
explain it gently to your friend, without making a big fuss or any threats.
People who suffer from jealousy are often very insecure, and their worst fear is that their friend will leave them. If there is no real reason for your jealousy, then your shouting, pestering or nagging could really drive them away.
it may be time to find a new friend.
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i know what your going through. i went through the same thing. my ex-best friemd used to be like that and well i allways felt jeous . but then i finaly got something that made me happy and i felt bbetter.And to answer your question there is nothing wrong wiht you. and you cant really stop feeling jelous . bbut you can talk to your friend and tell her how you feel . Hope i helped
~*Deb*~
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