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I'm 15/f
Way too many guys like one of my best friends. It's just so annoying how many boys like her, and the ONE person I like likes her too which really sucks because whenever we all hang out together he doesn't even notice me. IM NOT JEALOUS! It just bothers me, and sometimes if I tell her that someone else likes her she'll be like who doesn't? Or something like that and it's just soo annoying. What should I do?
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keep being you!!!
i bet lots of guys like you too, and maybe just dont know how to make it obvious.
an if the guy you like does not seem to notice you then you dont worry about it because plenty more will over the years.
just focus on who you are and what you like about you, realise what you have to offer people and work out how best to show your qualities off
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I feel your pain. My friends always were more attractive to boys than I was, and so was my mother. Yes, my mother was a model, and I had boys come over and pretend to like me, just so they could hang out with my mother and brag about it to their friends.
As I got older, guys would be friendly to me, and then ask me if I thought my mother would go out with them.
It hurt. It sucked. It made me feel like the turd in the punchbowl, to use a local phrase.
It took me a long time to grow out of that. My mother is now an extremely sad person because her whole life was wrapped up in her looks. Now she feels like she can't go out and live life until she has a face-lift and a million different tucks. She won't even go out to check the mail unless she has on a full face of makeup. She's a prisoner in her own mind because her beauty was her identity, and now that she's getting old, she doesn't know what to do.
I met my husband on the internet. We chatted for weeks and knew we were in love before we had even seen a picture of each other. "Appearances" get in the way of life. We got to know each other without "looks" getting in the way or prejudicing our thinking.
When we met, one of the first things he did was make me take my makeup off. (Looking back, I realize I was trying to compete with mother by adopting her habit of wearing lots of makeup. I guess I thought that if she got a lot of attention, I would to. It never worked, but I guess I didn't know what else to do, so I kept on wearing full makeup.)
We bought makeup remover and he took my makeup off of me for the first time. I cried and cried, I was so afraid. But he was happy, and told me how cute I was without makeup, and that I should never hide behind makeup like that again. And I never did.
Later in our marriage, he told me that if I hadn't let him remove that makeup, he wouldn't have married me. He loves me the way I am, for who I am.
Now I have a wonderful husband who loves me, and mother is single and miserable because she relied on her "looks" to live her life, and I gave up on that. Beautiful people can be some of the most shallow, and when their looks are gone, there is nothing left and they don't even understand what happened. I feel sorry for them.
Of course I don't mean that every beautiful person is shallow or like my mother, I'm just going by my own experience. There are all kinds of people.
I guess this was just a long way of saying that looks really aren't important in the long run. Not for the important things like finding a man who loves you and will stay with you even when you get older and don't look the same anymore.
Think of is this way... If a guy is shallow and only wants to date HOT chicks, what happens when the chick isn't Hot anymore? He dumps her for a Hotter chick. Who needs that? The REAL thing will love you just the way you are! Hot chicks actually have a much harder time finding a good guy who likes them for them, not just for their looks.
I understand that it's fun to get attention, but I promise it doesn't matter in the long run. When that one special guy comes along who will love you forever, who cares how many shallow guys are hanging all over other girls, right? :-)
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Sounds like your friend is really full of herself. So don't think much of it when she starts annoying you. About this guy. Try talking to him more and showing him who you are instead of letting him hang all over your friend. Good luck!!!
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♥ hey sweetheart. Its normal to be jelous & i know you dont think you..but you might be =/ . I get jelous, everyone does..theres nothing to be ashamed about. & unfortunaltely theres nothing you can do except accept the fact. But I bet a guy will come around & like you. Just make sure your being yourself & being a good friend to you. I promiss everything will work out. G00D LUUCK! XOX-Lauren
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You're jealous. Come to face with that. You can't stand the fact everyone likes her. What should you do? What do you want to do? This question doesn't fit with the story you've given. You can't to anything about her being pretty.
Get used to the fact she looks better than you do. Maybe you'll stop caring. Get used to the fact all the people you like will like her. Stop caring.
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There isn't a lot you can do. Since she is your friend, you should be happy for her. It is hard seeing your bestfriend in the spotlight (I know how you feel, trust me) and she sounds like knows how much people like her. Whenever your friend starts talking about it, just change the subject. Get to know the guy you like more, and maybe when he gets to know you more, he'll ask you out. When people talk about how much they like her, just ignore them and change the subject. There really isn't anything else you can do.
Hope I helped,
mystical_breeze
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