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Hi ive been finding it really hard to sleep for the last few days, can anyone give me some advice on how i might be able to get a few hours at least of sleep thank you..
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Drink either some chamomile tea or some warm milk with honey and a little bit of cinnamon before you go to bed to relax you. You could also have a bath with lavender bubble bath or salts to relax you. Try not to eat, especially foods high in protein, before you go to bed - like 3 hours before.
When you do get into bed, don't panic that you can't fall asleep or think, 'damn, I HAVE to get to sleep!' because that will just keep you awake. Just lie down calmy and think about something, anything that doesn't get you angry or whatever, something calm, or listen to a calming CD or a radio station that plays slow, quiet songs at night, and you'll eventually drop off.
Also make sure that you're not too warm or cold, your bed clothes are clean (if you have any allergies you don't know about, then dust mites could be causing you problems) (but remember not to wash stuff in too strong a detergent because the smell will keep you awake), you're not thirsty, and your PJs or nightie or whatever is comfy.
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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i went to the beach last weekend and got VERY sunburned. my right leg and foot are swollen and hurt very badly, and i have to drive for 2 hours tomorrow. Any way to take down the swelling from my burn on saturday, or to help the burn heal faster? (i've already used aloe multiple times) thanks!

You could put a little bit of lemon juice straight on to your skin, or soak a flannel in cold tea and place it over the affected area for instant relief. If it's really bad, you know, the kind that keeps you awake all night, and tow tablespoons of bicarbonate of soda to your bath. Mash an avocado and apply it to the affected area. Grate up some potatoes and put them ont he burn - the starch soothes the burn. Mud or clay (the cosmetic kind) can help to ease the stinging.
I think moisturising, or buying some 'after-sun lotion' would probably help too.
(Seriously...all that above stuff works. It's home remedies and stuff, but it does all work).
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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hi i was wondering if there were some good home remedies out there that anyone would like to share? it could be related to health, sickness, beauty, etc. thanks

Look on Amazon for 'The New Guide To Remedies'. It features Homeopathy, Essential Oils, Crystals, and Home Remedies, seperate sections of 'healing' that you could also look up yourself.
Here are a couple of home remedies just to keep you going, kinda thing -
*For bruises on children, soak a cottonwool ball in witchhazel and a couple of drops of lavender. The lavender smell will soothe them, the witchhazel help get rid of the bruise, and making it will take their mind off their recent fall or injury!
*Make up a paste of Avocado pulp and apply to any dry skin rashes, spots etc to soothe them.
*Eat frieds eggs when you have a hangover - they contain a chemical which helps to neutralise alcohol.
*Drink chamomile tea with added honey to build up an immunity to pollen.
*Grate some horseradish and sniff it to clear the sinuses.
*Reduce cold symptoms with elderflower tea or juice.
*Warm milk and honey sprinkled with a tiny bit on cinnamon can help prepare children for sleep.
Hope that helped!!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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I was great friends with this lad ages ago, but then he moved stage school so I don't get to see him a lot, only when hes in shows and my parents don't let me stay after to wait to see him. I also found his number the other day but you know people they change phones so I don't know if it is his number or not!
Please help!

Becky
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StarSeeker

Hiya (:P),
Why don't you text it and see? Just be, 'hey, this is Becky, I'm just wondering if this is still your number or not?' What have you got to lose if it isn't? Mobile phone numbers generally don't get 'recycled' so you'll either end up texting nothing, someone in Africa or his little brother.
Could you get to Stage School early to see him instead? Say you need to be there early to make some 'final alterations' to your costume, and tell him to be there earlier as well.
Blessed Be,
Rach xxxxxxxxxx

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k well i want to get a lipring. i dont know how it will look though, so i was wondering if theres a way to get a fake lip ring (that actually will stay on my lip) so i can see how it looks...i dont wanna go thru all that pain for something that will look tacky. any help or suggestions is appreciated!

You can buy fake ones. A good costume or jewellery shop will probably sell them. Or even just one of those adjustable rings that you can pull apart to suit your finger width. You pull the edges apart enough for it to go over you lip and see how it'll look :)
Oooh, or you could upload a picture of yourself onto paint and draw a ring on your lip.
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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So me (15/f) and my best friend (17/m) were talkin last night, and we got onto the topic of sex, like we always do. Well I asked him what he thought about me waiting till marriage to have sex, and he said he thought it wuz good. And then he turned around and said he would love to be my first. So he says wait till marriage, and he wants to be the first...So is he sayin he wants to marry me? or what? Cuz it sure sounds like it to me, but I'm not sure, and don't wanna get my hopes up too high, cuz I am in love with him, if I haven't mentioned that already. He wuz my first love, and I believe he is the one...So what do you think he's tryin to say? Thnx for any advice you can give me, sorry it's so long.

Signed,
In Love And Confused

Yeah, I think he's saying that!! You're right to not get your hopes up, but...you know how damn difficult guys are to get anything emotional out of. That is amazing! Maybe you should talk to him a little though - don't be all, 'OMG does that mean you want to marry me?' but say something like, 'you know what you said yesterday? Were you joking? Because, if not, would you like to go out sometime, as more than friends?'
He sounds like such a sweetie. Hang on to him hun! I wish you all the luck in the world :)
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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What would you do if the guy you used to have a crush on that had already moved away, and you didn't think you had feelings for him anymore called your house at 10 pm and asked for you. But you trult thought you didn't have feelings for him because you already had a boyfriend. Me and my boyfriend are in love. I can't stop thinking about what I am going to tell Michael tomorrow(my old crush) when he calls! I don't want to hurt his feelings because my grandma said he was about to cry. I don't want to not pick up because thats mean. There's nothing lft to do but the wrong thing and I don't want to do that either!

OK, just because you love your boyfriend, doens't mean you can't have feelings for someone else. It's a bit like how you can have more than one friend at once.
Michael could have called you because he wanted to chat - it might not have been anything relationship-related. I think you should tell your boyfriend that Michael called you - be all 'hey, guess who called last night?' - so that you don't feel guilty about talking to him.
Sometimes you have to do what's best for YOU, whether that seems morally right or wrong. Hurting Michael's feelings may be wrong, but it may also be the lesser of two evils, so to speak - hurting his feelings temporarily as opposed to cheating on your boyfriend and hurting both of their feelings for a very long time. Pick up the phone and talk to him - explain that you have a boyfriend if he is asking you out or something, but really...that shouldn't be too much of a problem considering he lives such a long way away. You two couldn't, practically, go out anyway. You have to ask yourself what you would rather do - go out with someone because you pity them and don't want to hurt your feelings, or stay with the guy you love and wonder what could have happened with Michael.
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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What do I do when I am trying to get over a guy that I am not sure ever loved me but dated another girl across the country while dating me and I try to ignore and try to not show that I still have feelings for him but I know I still do and he has been in all my dreams lately? What does it mean? How could I get him back and keep him from lieing and cheating on me if I did want him? Do my dreams mean anything?
(I am 13 female)











Your dreams probably just mean that you're missing him, and that's perfectly natural!
You can't ignore the fact that you still have feelings for him - sweetie, bottling it up isn't going to help you. The first step to a cure is acceptance of a problem. What will help you is accepting that you still like him and that's OK - it's perfectly fine and normal to still have feelings for a guy, even when he's been a complete jerk! Once you've done that, you can have a good cry about it, or get angry, or anything you want - weep into your pillow or punch it, it doesn't matter, just get all those feelings you've been bottling up inside out!
Trust me, you don't want this guy back. You might think you do because you were happy with him and now you're sad, but just remember - you could never get that happiness with him back again because you won't trust him, and trust is an essential element in any relationship. That happiness is, however, something you could find with someone else. For now, let out all those feelings, maybe chat to a friend or a diary (www.opendiary.com hosts online ones). After that...just try and forget him and move on. Do some stuff like going shopping to get him off your mind but remember that it's OK to be sad when you think of him again.
Good luck!!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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ok, me n my boyfriend went to the movies over the weekend wit some people and we were makin out right, well everyone was like watchin n by school today everyone knew about it and were like makin a big deal about it and it like gets me so0o mad, like the people i thought were my friends were talkin about me and sayin i'm like a f'n b**** n were like "if she didnt want people to find out y'd she do it in public" but it's like we had the back corner, these people were watching me, thats weird to begin with, i told them to stop and they didnt, its not my fault if i wanna do that with him but see the thing is if i tell my friends i wanna see a movie alone wit him they get mad that i'm goin without them, so like they're pretty much saying we're goin with you or we're gonna get mad at you but if u make out we're gonna talk about you. what do you think i can say to them b/c it gets me really mad, i'm on the verge of ditching all of them for completly differnt people, please help me.

OK...well, if you see people watching you while you're kissing your boyfriend, try and stop. It will make you uncomfortable to carry on, therefore ruining the kiss, and just give them stuff to talk about. You can always hold his hand.
Or, you could sit in front of your friends so you can't see them staring.
I think your friends are probably just worried that they're gonna lose you to this guy. Reassure them that that's not going to happen - next time they say 'we're comign with you', tell them that you need some alone time with your boyfriend for a change. Tell them that you're not ditching them but you'll have to if that's the only way you can get away from them. Arrange to go out with them the next day for a meal or a shopping trip, or even a girly night in some of the times that you go out with your boyfriend for something special so they don't feel left out. And for now, strengthen your friendships with other people, or make new ones - you can never have too many friends and you will have someone if you do end up having to ditch your current friends!
Good luck hun!!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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I was just wondering..... Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 4 months now and i know that may not seem like a long time but i really and truely love him. And it may sound weird but i feel like god is telling me that he is the one i am supposed to spend my life with. Can he be the one? Is it true that i can find someone in my junior year of high school?

Yeah, you could, but you won't REALLY know it until you've dated a few other guys. Just wait this one out and see how it goes - if you stay together until the next year or something then maybe he is the one! Please don't get your hopes up too much though, because if you two break up, it's really gonna crush you. Keep in mind that while he could be your one, he also might not be, and your REAL one could be just around the corner :)
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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how do i tell my boyfriend that i really like him and enjoy being with him but he can be a little to hyper? i know this is really shallow but it kinda annoys me! thanks again!

When he's being hyper, just say, 'it'd be cool if you calmed down a little...I love how bubbly and fun you are but it's hard to keep up with sometimes. Don't change drastically or anything - I think we'd just have a better relationship if you weren't bouncing off the walls when I'm trying to be serious and tell you that I love you and stuff.'
You don't have to say all of that, that's just a few sentences I've thrown together to give you a couple of ideas of the kind of thing you could say.
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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I have this friend from Washington State, and she showed me pics of what she claimed was her. Well a month or so later, I was on a picture site that you can have friends- no its not myspace- [she had like a pic of her puppy on it] and then I saw a little icon of a friend that looked like her. Well guess what? IT WAS "HER". She obviously stole her friends pics and claimed them to be hers. Should I be somewhat offended? I mean that she wouldn't trust me- I'd rather her say that she'd rather not show her pic.

I wouldn't be offended exactly, just...a little hurt that she doesn't trust you to show her your picture. Bring it up with her and ask her why she won't show you her picture - just be like, 'hey, your friend looks a lot like you' and if she says, 'umm yeah' or whatever, say, 'look, I know it's you. Why won't you show me your picture?'
The thing is, she probably didn't trust you enough at the start to show her picture and now she's lied about what she looks like, she can hardly take it back. Reassure her that you will always think she's beautiful no matter what she looks like. If you do get to see her picture and she's looks awful or something, then compliment her hair or her straight nose or her blue eyes or whatever.
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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My mum and dad have had one of those 'loveless' relationships and now they have separated but theyre still living together. From what Ive been told my mum only married my dad because she was 31 and wanted to have kids. They were together for ages before they married.
My dad didnt treat my mum that good and when it came to bringing us up he left it down to her. He would never really look after us.
Anyways my mum told me that she started seeing her 'highschool sweetheart'. I dont know if theyre actually together together. I kinda had my suspitions before.
My mum asked if I would like to meet him. I said I didnt know. I told my boyfriend about the situation and he said why did u say that for, you shouldn't see him. My brother said the same thing.
I love both my parents a lot. My mum hasnt been happy for a very long time. Now she seems alot happier and that makes me feel happy. From what Ive heard he's nice guy. But I feel that if I see him or am nice to him then im gonna be kinda betraying my dad who knows nothing about it. Im really confused.

You're NOT going to be betraying your dad - not even your mother is doing that, she doesn't have to tell him anything now that they're divorced. You can always meet this guy on the grounds that you can leave whenever you want to. You can like this guy AND your dad - just like you can have more than one friend. Your father will always be exactly that, your father, and no-one is going to replace him or expect to be able to. You should try and persuade your mother to tell your father what's going on, so you don't feel stuck in the middle - say you'll only meet this new guy if your father is told what's going on. Don't listen to your brother or boyfriend - I see NO reason for you to not meet this guy, and besides, this is all about how YOU feel, not them. If they're good people then they'll support your decision no matter what. If they don't like it, say you're just checking the guy out to make sure that your mother is dating a creep or something.
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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I've always been told that I am a talented actor. Lately though, I have been restricted from acting by my parents. This is due to my average and not superior grades. I've been trying for nearly 7 months to get the great grades my parents require so that I can do the thing I love most. I just can't get focused enough, I come home and just forget to do my homework after my chores. I am smart, and know that I am capable of good grades, I just can't get my brains together. I would like to go to a study group, but my parents won't let me do that either. How can I get back in my honor roll tactics, and into theatre acting again?

You have to persuade your parents to go to study group - why can't you? It'll help you loads! You could also write important notes on post-it notes, or sticky paper, and stick them up around your PC or whatever. Make a work timetable, stick it where you will see it. Maybe you could get one of those write on, wipe off shiny white board things so you can write your homework on it every night. Make a homework log or planner and write down all your homework. Check with your friends when you go online if there was any homework. Another thing you could do is create your own study group with your friends - it's always more fun revising with other people than by yourself!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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ive got my exams in less than two months and i feel like ive learnt nothing in the last two years. i must have.. but we were given practice papers in maths and i couldnt do hardly any of it.what am i going to do??and im not telling my mom so dont suggest that please. please reply soon. xxxx

Buy some revision guides - if you live in the UK, get the CGP ones, if not, look on Amazon for something appropriate and read the customers' comments on it to see how good it is - and do some online revision. Google a site, or if you live in the UK then you can check out www.bbc.co.uk/schools, which has stuff for GCSEs on the English board, Scottish board and even in Welsh.
Also, can you ask your teachers for extra help? You and your friends could have revision sessions too, and they could show you how to do some of this stuff. You might know how to do it but have just forgotten - I do that all the time - so going over it with a friend might help! Ask around and see if anyone else is finding the work difficult too, too check that it's not just you.
Good luck!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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ok me and my bf broke up because he found that i was talking to another boy but that boy really dont mean nothing to me i love my bf so much. anyway he took me back but i no he dont trust me! what can i say to him to get him to belive me? plese help me im so sorry i didnt mean for none of this tohappen
shaiina

Your boyfriend sounds WAY over the top. He broke up with you just because you were talking to another guy? You have to tell him that there is nothing going on, and he HAS to realise is and get over these issues he has, because you can't have a relationship where's there's no trust. You deserve to be trusted - you've done nothing wrong. Tell him that you understand it's hard for him but he's going to have to learn to trust you - however long that takes - because you're should never stay somewhere where people don't trust you. He'll just be suspicious all the time and that will make you unhappy. No trust = no relationship. Tell him how much you love him, too.
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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This boy asked me out the other day for this friday. I really, really like him. But the thing is, I'm afraid I might say something. I don't want to give away his name...he's actually "famous" or w/e (my dad's a prop manager for the show he's on).
So we're supposed to go out this friday and its going to be hard. I know he's a normal guy...and so far I've treated him normal, when I see him for like 2 minutes at a time... and thats just on the set. Whats it going to be like out in the public with other girls everywhere?? And what do we talk about? Should I bring up the fact that he's on tv? That my friends want to meet him? IDK!!!!

DON'T bring up your friends or the TV - it'll look like your sucking up to him. This date is about the two of you, so don't bring up anything about your friends liking him. You could talk about the other people on set you know, or maybe how cool it is seeing behind the scenes of everything because your Dad is a props manager. Maybe ask him what it's like to be famous or what he thinks of the TV industry or whatever on the second or third date, but say nothing about your friends - EVER. Just go to the cinema with them and him or something. Make sure there's at least one other guy there though so he doesn't feel swamped by giggling girls though, lol.
You could talk about pets, school, siblings, music, movies you've watched recently, anything - just don't talk about the weather, lol.
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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Well i am a girl 14 and i have a boyfriend. Hes serious and everything but i dont like kissing him. it kinda feels weird. but i was out with my friend, whos a lesbian, ane she started getting all touchy feely w/ me...and i kinda got worried..then she was all..do you really like kyle? (my bf's name) and i was like yes i do. and she got really close to me and said, are you sure? and i said uhh..and she kissed me. right there in her living room. i was like totally grossed out at first, then i decided, its better than kissing kyle, and so we started making out, it got hotter by the minuite first just kissing then she was eating me out. it was like heaven. but i dont know how to tell anyone. b/c they'll be all weird if i do tell them. but every night i go over to her house and she just like strips and then helps me and then we get it on. idk what to do!

Hi,
Well, like a couple of other people have said, you could be bi-sexual. You don't have to tell anyone until you're ready. If I was you, I wouldn't tell anyone until you're at least 16 because (esp. if they are adults) they will just say, 'oh, it's just a phase' or, 'how do you know if you're so young?'. You might not like kissing Kyle because you just don't like him - that doesn't necessarily apply to all guys. And you might have liked kissing your friend because it's 'dangerous' (i.e. if you get caught) and unusual. The only thing that I think is clear is that you don't really like Kyle - whether it's because you're homosexual or because you just don't like him - it would probably be best, for everyone, if you broke up with him. You can't lead him on like you are, it's not fair, and it's not fair on you either because you're having to cheat on him to be with this girl and you're obviously not happy with Kyle. At least you'll feel a little less guilty if you're only with the girl. Maybe you could try going out with a couple of other guys (just short-term, fun relationships) or really looking at guys in the street and thinking, 'am I really attracted to him or am I just pretending to be to hide the fact that I'm gay?' to determine whether you are bi or homosexual.
Good luck!!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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My best friend and I got in fight like a month ago and it awas the stupidest fight ever I cant even remember what it was... well we kinda lost communication cause she just started ignoring me(and what sucks is we hang out with the same ppl so I will be standing next to her but we wont talk) and then like last week i was aim and we started apoligizing and got everything worked out... but at school its like we still arent friends cause i will be standing right next to her and we wont say one word... it feels really awkard... but i miss her so much and I dont know what to do I mean Ive told her how much I miss talking to her... I feel like Ive been replaced... I just want my best friend back and I dont know how to do it? I have cried so much just because of the fact that i cant talk to her and tell her everything anymore... it hurts me so much at school to be standing next to her and not talk... i cant really tell anyone how im feeling cause I just want to cry... I am trying to make my self realize that were just not bestfriends anymore but its way too hard... i need advice do I need to make myself realize were just not the same or do i gotta do something and get My BF back and if so HOW???
PLEASE HELP!!!
SIGNED:I WANT MY BF BACK!

Hiya,
Well, if you two have been ignoring each other for so long then you can't expect everything to go straight back to normal. Just remember that she probably feels exactly the same as you do about how awkward not talking to you is. One of you has to make the first move, so to speak, so why don't you be the bigger person and go up and say 'hi' first? You don't have to have in-depth, best friend-type conversations right now - 'how are you?' or 'how is your dog?' would do for now. If you once shared a really big interest - for example, dogs, or Johnny Depp (lol), be all, 'Aww, I saw the cutest dog in town yesterday...' or 'Have you seen the trailer for the new Johnny Depp movie?'
You CAN be best friends again...it'll just take a while to get the trust and communication going again. Try and take an interest in stuff that she does apart from you too (for example, if she goes to singing lessons but you don't, ask her if she's still doing them or how they're going). If she's a good friend she'll do the same with your interests. If she doesn't seem to be trying...well, it's just not worth it. You deserve better than a friend who gives up on a best friend after the first hurdle.
Good luck!!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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What do you think are must have items for Spring or Summer? I need more cute clothes for my closet! Thanks!

The whole boho thing is in still. You know, shrugs (those seriously short cardigans), long floaty skirts, brown and beige stuff, cowboy boots...camisoles are pretty big right now too. Pink stuff seems to be coming in too, I've seen a lot of it around recently.
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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