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Hello! I am studying esthetics at an Aveda Institute after spending years in retail. I am proof that nothing turns out how you think it will, and that's a good thing. When you think you've got it figured out, you don't. Life would be boring otherwise, right?
Makeup, skincare, and psychology are my passions and I'm also happy to give advice on relationships, particularly for teenagers (so many things I wish I could have told myself a decade ago!) I'm happy to help fellow abuse survivors as well.
I'm a diehard SF Giants fan and also enjoy watching the Sharks and Niners. Addicted to music, especially The Gaslight Anthem. Oh, and my name is Krista. :)

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Can you have sex when you are pregnant??

Yes, although you have to be a lot more gentle.

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can you get pregnant 2 weeks before your period?

Yes.

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My friend always says that i am acting differently around these other girls that i act around her. but she cant give me ANY examples of how i am being like that! i just dont understand! she gives me this whole speech about how i should be the same around everyone and be yourself...but i have no clue what she is talkin about!

You need to talk with your friend. Tell her you don't think you act any differently around [names of the girls] and you don't understand why she says you do. Ask her (again) for an example. If she really can't come up with one...tell her you do want to change your behavior, but you can't if you don't know what you're doing. She might actually be jealous, so maybe you should do more stuff with her alone, then gradually start including her when you go places with the three girls. Bonne chance!

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hey there, ok my question is im 14 and ive been having my period for 2 years now. thing is that it is very irregular, i can get it today and not get till..october.. you know...like that.. but until im 17 thats supposed to be within the normal. anyway, for 2 weeks now, ive been drastically dirtying my panties..why is that? please explain detailed. thank you!!

Some girls have this due to genetics. You need to talk to your doctor, if it's bad enough you an be prescribed birth control, which will probably stop it or make it more regular. If you're sexually active, though, you should be warned that sinec you don't get your period when you have birth control, you might not know if you are pregnant. Good luck!

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My first day of high school is coming up .. what should i wear ??? i wanna look cute n trendy ! for ppl who have already survived there freshman year ... give me a hint on what to wear first day of school =D

Well, it really depends on your style, but here are some general tips.
- Ponchos are really trendy, I like the semi-transperant black knit kind. They have them at Macy's. Buy a bright colored (red, teal, etc.) camisole and wear it underneath with a pair of jeans.
- If you're into Dickies, they have a really cute new kind of dress. It's short-sleeved with a front side and collar, black with a little pocket on the left side.
- If you're preppy, you can't go wrong with a cute t-shirt (like from abercrombie) and jeans.
- One of the biggest trends are the "layered" skirts. Buy one in black and wear it with a cute tee.
Good luck!

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Okay, I have a problem with sweaty armpits. I'm sorry if this seems gross, but it's becoming a big issue. I always have to wear black shirts to hide it, but school is starting on Monday, and we have a uniform (a baby blue t-shirt) I don't want to wear a jacket, because I'll get really overheated! I even tried switching to men's deodorant and nothing changes! I'm really embarrassed about this... I don't know what else to do! Someone, please help me! Thanks sooo much, in advance!!

WEll, first let me explain. There are two types of underarm products:
- Deodorant covers up the smell of sweat.
- Antiperspirant eliminates sweat.
Some do both jobs, and I recommend that kind. For mild odor protection try:
Dove rollon- liquidm but feels really cold first thing in the morning.
Secret- kinda weird rollup thing, but comes in several scents and works well.
If these don't work try Adidas (women's kind). It's meant for athletes so it should work for you. Good luck! If none of these work, see your doctor. All products are available at Walmart.

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Should i have sex wid my bf for like our 1 year anniversary i mean it would be a nice present!! and i dunno ppl say im to young (i will be 14) but i kno pplz who r younger than me and have already done it i mean its not like he iz juss some guy he iz the love of my life and he means the world to me and i feel that im comfortable to have sex wid him but should i wait till im like 16 or juss do wat i feel iz right?!?!? thanx

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If you want to and you are comfortable with the idea (you sound like it) then go ahead, WITH PROTECTION. It wouldn't be a very nice gift if you got pregnant. Good luck!

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Alright. I'm fourteen-years-old and I'm a Freshman, this year, in High School; just to give you an idea of where I am, as far as maturing goes.

No one has ever really spoken to me about health and growing. And I suppose I'll end up learning about this in Sex Ed. but I figured I would get advice, now, anyways.

This afternoon, I started noticing a soreness on the sides and tops of my breasts. I'm not entirely sure what this soreness means or whether or not it's a good thing so that's where I need help.

Is it normal to have sore breasts? Do you get 'growing pains' as you mature, on your chest?

Thank you, in advance, for your help.

Yes, it's just because you're growing. You may also get stretch marks (red lines around your nipples) if you grow fast enough, but these will fade in time. Also, many girls have pains like that before their period, so I think you're perfectly normal.

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Does anyone know a site where I can ask a question on sex. I believe my question would be too graphic for this site because of how young most of the people here seem to be. :\ Or maybe a girl that would be old enough to answer my question (im 16)

Here is fine. It just won't be a featured question. Actually if you look around most people I've met are 15-16 so it should be okay.

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Well their is this guy that I have know since I was like 6 or older. we have always seen each other and I have always had a crush on him. he is like 20 turning 21 in feburary. I am only like 15 turning 16 in october. Is it bad for having a crush or like maybe a thing wit him even if he is a lil older then me? I like him so much but I don't know if my parents would like that he is older and I am so young for him. When we see each other too. we have so much stuff to talk about together and we are happy when we see each other and It hurts me when other girls hurt him. I don't want to do. well thank you Jenny,16,female

Well...I think maybe you should discuss it with your parents, but if you're not comfortable with that, think it over for a little bit and if you're abosolutely sure, go for it. You should know, though, that it's illegal for you guys to have sex and if you did then he could go to jail. Good luck!

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im not sure if this is the rite category but im a 14 year old male and i wanna run away. i dont like tthe way im being treated at home my parents r taking away my comps cuz they saw somethin on this site that they didnt like and they think i had somthin 2do w/ it. my mom is always yelling 4 no reason she thinx im always doin somthin rong my dad gives me no privacy and tries 2 read my messages. i hate having my life consumed by them. i want a life of my own.so should i stay or should i go?

Don't leave yet. You need to work this out. It may sound stupid but you need to talk with them and to a counselor, maybe even family counseling because it sounds like they have a huge distrust of you. First you need to discuss it, though. You need to inform your mom that you're not responsible for the content of advicenators because anyone can post on it, and you need to let your dad know that you don't think you've done anything to make him mistrust you. Do NOT run away, the situation isn't serious enough for that. Run away only as a last resort, like if they abuse you. GOod luck and hang in there!

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How old do u have to be to have sex?

There's no law, although it IS against the law or a minor (under 18) and someone over 18 years of age to have sex. Of course, most parents, etc. say 18, but it's really your choice. The most common age is 16.

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What are good stores to shop at for back to school shopping?

T.J. Maxx. It's a discount store that sells designer clothes, but unlike most discount stores you don't have to sort through total crap. They also have purses and shoes. If you don't have one near you, Macy's has a great sale rack. I once got a pair of Glo by J.lo sweatpants for $6.99. Good luck!

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I need to no is there any where i can go on the net and make my own homepage for free and can copy and paste pictures on it? pleez help and answer asap! thanx! i rate!

Try freewebs.com. They have a very easy to use editor that works like Word. Bonne chance!

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My mother treats me like I'm 5. I can't shop wherever i want to. She tries to hold my hand while crossing the street and at the mall. I needed new underwear and there were thongs and then granny underwear. She handed me the granny underwear!!! I told her I wasn't wearing them and then she was like, "Ok we're leaving here then." How can I tell her to back off a little bit??

Yow! Ok, you need to talk to your mom. Here's a general idea of what to say or write:
"Mom, I understand that you don't want me to become the next Britney Spears or dress too old for my age. But the thing is, I feel like you're treating me like a little kid. Maybe sometime we can go shopping for clothes we both like?"
Adjust it to sound more like you. Or you could make a deal- you each pick out some clothes for each other, then compromise. Bonne chance!

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i know this isn't really important, but im doing a poll for summer school.. im not in summer skool, but were supposed to be doing this to get ready for our upcoming high skool year, and well here's my poll...

Bush?
or
Kerry?

moderators, plz don't rate this low, it's for skool, also please don't delete this Q!!!!

Kerry. see spacefem.com for an excellent article on why not to vote for bush.

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Hi, my names liza im 14... i have this guy lets call him *Dave* and we were goin out for like 16 months, and then yesterday he calls me sayin "yeah liez i have a gurl her name is kelly and laughs and says i know its gonna piss you off, oh well bye" and i cryed for hours, im still crying right now. i know it was stupid and i dont know what love is... but i really did i was seriously in love with this boy and i cut my like my whole arm up, and did a bunch of stupid things. i really dont know what to do anymore with my life i dont wanna live, i wish i was dead. does anyone have any ideas for me to get him backk or something cause i REALLY wanna get him back... and i dont know how to. s0o pleaseeeeee pretty please someone anyone please help!!!!! :( ill rate you, just please help me... xo liza

Hon, he doesn't deserve you. What a jerk! You do not want an @$$ like that back. He purposely broke your heart, but you can't let him gte the best of you. You need to talk to a friend or family member, I think you just need to get your feelings out. And please, don't cut! It ruins your life, as cliche as it sounds. Bonne chance and hang in there.

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If your bf or gf got you a limo for a surprise for like 3 months of going out and it was a boxy kind of limo.. would you care?

No! It's very sweet of you to think of him, and if he deserves you he'll appreciate that.

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well i have a problem, i think that it is better if i admitt i have a problem. I cut, and i think i know why i cut, i cut to know i am alive and i think its so stupid..but i cant do anything about it. I cut and bleed my problems away. I always wear sweatshirts so people dont really know. But i think it is hurting my friends that know, because one time i cut so deep it was bleeding for like ever. im kind of scared.

I'm so sorry you have to do that. Just a few months ago I did the same thing, but believe me you can feel better. Google for a suicide hotline (i know ur cutting, but it's very similar) and call it- it's free and won't show up on your phone bill. There are other ways to get your feelings out. You've taken the first step by acknowledging your problem, now you can get better with some help. As hard as it sounds, you need to talk to your mom or dad. They can help you. Bonne chance, and hang in there.

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Okay I don't really know what it is...but I have a discharge in my vagina sometimes...is that what it is? and if so is it bad? and how do I get it to go away?

You don't get it to go away. This is perfectly normal and is a sign that your period will come sometime in the next year or so.

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