Hello! I am studying esthetics at an Aveda Institute after spending years in retail. I am proof that nothing turns out how you think it will, and that's a good thing. When you think you've got it figured out, you don't. Life would be boring otherwise, right?
Makeup, skincare, and psychology are my passions and I'm also happy to give advice on relationships, particularly for teenagers (so many things I wish I could have told myself a decade ago!) I'm happy to help fellow abuse survivors as well.
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is it true that while having sex you lose 10 pounds? my boyfriend told me that and im not the thinnest person i weigh about 120 and im 5'5 so i definetly wanna try this if its true!!

No, it isn't true. It sounds to me like your boyfriend just wants to have sex. The real way to lose weight is eat healthier and exercise. Hope I helped!


i tried to highlight my hair at home and it looks really bad. my parents won't pay for me to have it fixed at a salon. it looks awful. is there some way i can get it back to the original color? it's way too yellow.

You'll have to do it yourself. Go to Walmart and get a special shampoo and conditioner for colored treated hair- I recommend Garnier Fructis. Also get a deep conditioner, something like their "Intensive Moisturizing repair" to use once a week. Buy a box of temporary hair color (the kind that rinses out after a few shampoos) also, enough of it to last a week, in your natural hair color. Shampoo and condition every day, and deep condition every other day. Two days after you start doing that, apply the temporary hair color. Try to make it last a week, and continue shampooing, conditioning, and deep conditioning to make your hair as strong as possible. After a week, you can probably safely use a regular hair dye to fix your hair, in your original color. Continue the hair stuff for at least another week so your hair won't break and fall out (that happened to my friend once). You might want to save up a little bit, the total cost will be around $5 for temporary hair dye, $7 for permanent, $8 for shampoo and conditioner, and $2 for deep conditioner, adding up to $22, but you could ask your parents to pay for the regular dye so it's only around $12. Good luck!


i've liked this guy for a while, but he has a gf. when she isn't around he flirts with me! i like him so much, but is he just a player?

Honey, don't bother with this guy. You definetly don't want to go out with him, because all he'll do is flirt with other girls. He's very much a player, so don't chance it.


I really like this guy, and he likes me. He comes to my house a lot, but his ex still calls him. I told him to tell her not to call, and he said he doesn't want to. That made me mad, and then he got mad at me for bringing it up!

If he was your boyfriend, then you'd have every right to tell him to stop. But since he isn't, you shouldn't boss him around. Maybe he's just friends with his ex! If and when you two start dating, you can ask him (politely) to stop, but for now MYOB.


My mom wants me to tell her everything, like whether or not I have a BF but, when I confide in her, she tells my dad. I hate it! How can I talk to my mom without my dad finding out everything about me?

You need to talk to your mom and let her know that you don't like it when she tells your dad everything, and that there are some things you'd rather keep quiet or tell your dad yourself. Hopefully she'll stop a little. Also, why not tell your dad what's going on in your life? It can't hurt.


My BF and I have been going out for a month, and we haven't even held hands. I want to take it slow, but all my friends are already kissing their BFs. He and I talk a lot, but I don't know if I should make the first move.

You don't sound so sure, so I think you should wait and do what YOU wanna do, not your friends. If you want to hold his hand, go ahead, but don't do anything else unless you're completely sure.


i like 2 guys...nathan and michael. I think i would have a better chance asking michael out, but i barely see him at school, and i like nathan more. i eat lunch with nathan and whatever other guys we decide to go talk to. we always have so much fun and we're always laughing. i've liked him longer than michael...and every time i think about him i get all tingly inside. i thought about him alot in 3rd period today, and i did it so much that the tingling began to hurt :). but....anyway...should i ask out michael or nathan?

sorry that was so confusing.

if you need more info, let me know and i'll put it up.

It sounds like you like Nathan more, ask him out. He sounds really nice and funny. Try asking him on a group date first if you're nervous. Good luck!


In December my dad lost his job. But about a month later became self employed. By then my mom had been suspecting that hes cheating on her... now my mom has confroted him about it((about 3 months ago)) and he has admitted to having a "friendship" whith the lady.He tells my mom that hes nothin with her JUST friends. So my mom asked him to please tell her to stop callin and to just loose all contact.Thing is my mom tells me everything and my dad has always been a role model to me... well mom and i went to his work when he wasnt there and set up a caller id well we found out that shes still callin at like 1am and 2am when hes sopposly painting a car. Sometimes dad doesnt come home till 3 or so. I see how this effects my mom who literally does EVERYTHING in the house and it makes me ANGRY! She crys constantly only shes like me and shell hide before she crys. Well ive been catching her and it hurts me soo much soo then i get really mad at my dad and sometimes all i want to do is Scream in his face and kick him out of the house! I want to tell him to please leave the lady hes having an affair with but i dont know how i dont want him gettin mad at me. Thats when my whole "indenil" stage pops up! i start to think that hes not and when she brings it up i get fusturated and ignore her or justr say some rude comment. Which makes her cry more! I just wanna know what to do without making my dad mad and my mom cry... should i write him a letter telling him how i feel???? ALSO my mom says she doesnt want me talkin to him about it but its effect my relationship with him... WHAT THE HECK DO I DO?
Ps. i have a boifriend and hes really supportive about this he gives me a shoulder to cry on and a ear to listen to me with but i feel like i cant be happy with my mom goin through her problems cause i feel like im rubbing it in her face HELP ME.....

Backed up in a corner

I'm so sorry, I know exactly how you feel. My dad's had a girlfriend for 3 years and recently had a baby boy with her. (My parents are currently getting divorced.) You need to stand up to your dad. I was so afraid to for so long, but you need to write him a letter. Don't be purposefully rude unless you want to, but tell him what you told me:
"It makes me angry when I see what you've done to our family. It's not fair to lie to us. You're still my dad, even when you do wrong things, but I don't want to do ruin our family."
You might have to change it to make it sound a little more like you but it should work. Good luck and hang in there!


my friends parents didnt save up money for her to go to college and they tell her that she cant live away from home and has to go to community college or the one nearby even tho she wants to go away - shes smart tho, like she gets good grades and stuff just not high enuf to get a large scholarship and i feel bad bcuz she doesnt have much options and i do ~ is there any way to help?

Check out this article for all the options: http://spacefem.com/forum/viewtopic.php?t=17218. There are other ways besides scholarships and it details them. Good luck!


I am a 15 year old female, and i have been having a lot of sex in the past two years. Im not pregnant but i havent had my period in 2 months i have been throwing up in the morning. Im not sure i dont want to tell my mom but i don't know what to do PLEASE HELP!

Get a pregnancy test, you can buy them at the drugstore. If you are pregnant, sorry but you'll have to tell your mom so you can discuss your options. She'll be mad but will get over it. Good luck, and hang in there!


are those flirty skirts that go out like or have two layers... u know the popular ones? are those gonna be in this school year? i wanted to buy one tomorrow but i'm afraid that they will be out in a couple of months. what are your thoughts? i live in california.

They're in, but with a different twist. Different patterns, like this season's popular plaid or denim, are really trendy. Good lyck!


whats do most guys perfer a shaved or hairy vagina? im 17 very curious

Well, idk about guys but you'll be much more sensitive (in a good way) if you shave and it'll make it easier for oral.


the guy i am interested in told me that the only way he would consider going out with me is if i have sex with him 1st. i like this guy but i am a virgin i just dont know if it is worth it. what shoul i do? :(

This guy is a user and a jerk. Don't even bother with him- he'll probably dump you right after you have sex. You deserve way better than that. Good luck!


ok i just got my hair layered! looks better, now my hair is highlighted but fomr last jan. and i dont hav the money for more its 70 bucks for more!! to much! lol ne1 hav ne tips for makin my hair look better? cuz its dark brown at the top then light brown with blonde highlights... i need help asap!!

Buy your own highlighting kit! It's very easy to do. I recommend L'oreal Feria (around 7 bucks), it's easy to use and not too bright. If they don't have the shade you're looking for, try Herbal Essences. Both are available at Walmart, Feria is about $7 and and Herbal Essences is about $9. Good luck!


List what you think the top five fashion MUSTS to have in your closet will be this fall...I could use some tips on whats gonna be in fashion...!!! Thanks!

1. Ponchos- go with everything, they have all kinds from girly to punk.
2. Skirts- femme is in. Twirly skirts are great for fall!
3. Plaid- Preppy is very trendy, but don't overdo it.
4. Lingerie inspired tops- lacy and girly is tres fashionable.
5. Dressy jeans- the kind with pearls detail or sparkles look great with basic colored tees.
Hope I helped!


my mom's boyfriend slept over the other night and one morning i woke up early to my mom closing my door and then a few minutes later i heard her moaning continuesly. it was so nasty and i knew i couldnt move or else she would know that i heard everything, so i had to sit there and listen. it's so disgusting but i dont know if i should tell her what i heard or just keep it a secret? i have no idea what would be best and what would make me feel better. what should i do?

Well, like everyone's said, it really depends on your relationship with your mom. I think you should let her know by saying something like:
"Mom, it makes me feel uncomfortable when you sleep with [boyfriends name] in our house."
if shes really open you can add:
"Last night I heard you guys having sex and it kind of grossed me out. I know you're an adult, but it kind of grosses me out."
Then ask her to stop. Good luck!


okay heres my story..what should i do?

i have this best friend named Jerra..and last friday we went bowling and met these guys n hooked up with them! and then she promised me that night that me n her would go again this friday with the same group of guys..and that it would be JUST us..no one else! just me n her..and then the guys! well she went to camp for a week and came back today and called me and was like "well i met these girls at camp and they became some of my best friends and they are gonna come with us tonite bowling!" i was soo FURIOUS! i started crying and everything cause i worked so hard to earn the money so i could go bowling tonite..but now my plans are ruined! and i told her that if those girls she met where there that she would ditch me and she was like "i wouldn't ditch you completely" but here's another thing..i like this guy named charlie..and me n him were suppose to hook up tonite and makeout maybe..well guess what..she's bringing his EX girlfriend! and then she told his ex g/f that i liked him and was gonna makeout with him! some best friend huh?! well i don't know what to do! PLEASE HELP ME AS SOON AS POSSIBLE BECAUSE THIS WHOLE THING IS HAPPENING TONITE! I'LL RATE YOU A 5! thanks!

You need to calm down a little. There was no need for her to invite them, but who knows, her new friends could be really great! Give them a chance and get to know them. Don't worry about his ex, I mean Charlie might be a little annoyed but it won't affect his feelings about you. Good luck!


What does it mean when u wake up and find clear gel stuff on ur underwear (im a girl)

This is discharge, you body's way of cleaning out "down there". It means you'll have your period in around a year.


I need help witht this riddle please try n figure it out fo me ok here it goes....... there is a ,man on trial and a man steps up to the stand and asks to speak, the judge says who are u the man says brother n sisters i have none but the father of this man is my fathers son, how is the man related to the criminal. $M$

the man on trial is the guy's half-brother's son.


hey..im looking for CUTE school clothes..and i wanted to ask from everyone to name off a BUNCH of stores that i can check out!!


*i rate!:)*

Macy's is great (some of their stuff is really expensive but check out their ponchos and amazing sale rack) and TJ Maxx (disount designer clothes) is one of my favorite stores. Also, if money isn't an issue, Wet Seal and Nordstrom BP Juniors both have cute stuff. Good luck!


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