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My friend always says that i am acting differently around these other girls that i act around her. but she cant give me ANY examples of how i am being like that! i just dont understand! she gives me this whole speech about how i should be the same around everyone and be yourself...but i have no clue what she is talkin about!
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I can't quote this perfectly...but I know the jist of it. You are only yourself, when you're by yourself. I sometimes even doubt that. But for the most part. I think it's true. You will be different around everyone. Seriously. It is part of who you are. You are different around everyone. For instance. My three best friends are completely different in every which way. One is serious and really deep. One is shallow and hyper and concieted. And one is self absorbed ad gorgeous. With one, we talk alot and tell each other what matters most. With another I pretend i'm pretty and strut down the side of the highway getting beeped at by strange men. And another I sit and listen to everything and give him advice, and acknowledgement. And I'd never do any of these things with anyone different. The point is. You are SO complex. You have SO many sides. You don't show them with everyone. As long as you aren't "pretending" with them...then you are being yourself, the only way you know how with that person. Your friend is wrong. She likes how you are with her. She just has to accept it. :D
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well if u think ur not cool enuff for some ppl nd u change ur self to fit in wit them..then dunt hang around them ne more bc they dunt like u for who u r..they like u for who ur tryin 2 b.. nd thats not good..its better to b hated for who u r then to b loved for wat ur not..<33
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ok to me this sounds like ur friend is jealous b/c ur hangin out wit other ppl. hope i could help! if u needa talk more leave one n my inbox or u can IM me blondii14697
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You need to talk with your friend. Tell her you don't think you act any differently around [names of the girls] and you don't understand why she says you do. Ask her (again) for an example. If she really can't come up with one...tell her you do want to change your behavior, but you can't if you don't know what you're doing. She might actually be jealous, so maybe you should do more stuff with her alone, then gradually start including her when you go places with the three girls. Bonne chance!
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once i felt like my friend was acting differently around her boyfriend....and i felt like i could see it plain as day and it was so obvious. yet everytime i tried to come up with a concrete example, i drew a blank. maybe your friend isnt seeing specific things, but just feels that something isnt right. if she knows you really well, its easier to see if you're acting even a little different. maybe next time you are around the other girls, try to look at yourself from the outside and see if you are acting any different. if you still dont see where she is coming from, sit down and have a heart to heart with your friend about it. maybe she is just jealous that you are hanging out with other people. anyway, try talking to her about it and see what happens!
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