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my skin is extremely dry and flaky on my face. however, i am acne prone, so i dont' want to use a cream or something that could cause breakouts. however, the light moisturizers, such a cetaphil moisturizer (which do not cause my face to break out) don't help with the dryness much! any suggestions??

See a Dermatologist (skin doctor). You'll be able to get a perscription acne cream that keeps your skin moisturized and oil free. Dermatologists know what they're doing and you'll be really happy that you went. Good luck!

Iam 16 years old and I was wondering how old do I have to be to move out without a parent's permission in the state of georgia so I can move in with my boy friend?

Thanks in advice.

Well, your parents aren't giving you permission because it's not a good idea. Listen to them, they know what they're talking about sometimes. That said, you'll legally be an adult at age 18, so I'm pretty sure that's the age. Well, unless you get married, but PLEASE don't do that, that would be an even worse idea. I know that you love your boyfriend a lot and your parents are probably giving you a really hard time, but, trust me, moving out of your house is a huge step in the wrong direction. Sometimes it's the right thing to do, but it will cause so many problems for you in the future and a huge rift in your family that will never fully heal. Talking from personal experience, moving out against your parents wishes takes a huge toll on you financially, emotionally, and it will make your relationship with your boyfriend suffer too. Try to work with your parents and get things straightened out before taking such a drastic step when you turn 18. I'm not saying this to be mean or because I want you to suffer, I'm saying this because I've been through it and right now, my relationship with my entire family, not just my parents, is terrible. Those people were my life for so many years and it really sucks to not be able to see them or talk to them without them trying to get me to fix things that I can't fix. The damage has been done, the bridges have been burned, and even though I'm happy and I feel I did the right thing, I wish I didn't have to. You have two years to try to get things worked out and I really hope that for yours and your family's sakes that they do. Good luck.

okay so i am in 6th grade and tomorrow me and my boyfriend are planning on hooking up. It will be my first time, but the only problem is that i don't know how! i know what it is and all, i just don't know how to do it so that it's feels nice for him also. If you could please give me some pointers on how to do it, that would be greatly appreciated! i rate 5's! Thanks!

I think that you are TOO YOUNG to be on this site.

That said, you may know what "hooking up" means to you, but none of us do! Are you going to go on a date? Kiss him? Have sex? Dating him is fine. Kissing is fine. Make sure he knows that it's your first kiss and he will help you out. Kissing is really easy to pick up on and after just a few times you'll be a pro! Try not to worry so much. It's not that big of a deal and it will go great. If you're planning on having sex, that would be a very poor choice. You run the risk of getting pregnant at age what...11 or 12? Plus, you will regret it later in life for so many reasons.

If you are 13, my apologies. It just really bugs me when people try to get away with things by pretending they're something they're not.

i had this convo with my bestfriend and i feel like if my bf knew i said those things with my bestfriend that he would be mad... do you think that i was wrong to talk to my bestfriend like that even if it was joking. (the whole fuck thing is an inside joke with him) btw my bestfriend is a guy.

me: loserface
him: fuck you
me: fuck you better/more! HA!
him: haha
him: got me
me: of course i did
him: fuck you harder/faster
me: ugh. fuck you longer/hotter? haha
him: sounds good.
me: you know it!
him: you dont know nothing about sex.
me: maybe not.
him: haha you dont
me: is that bad?!?!?!?
him: yes
him: duh
him: these days you have to have sex 40 times before your 11
me: haha well i just broke the damn rules
him: oh goodness.
him: to the death pit for you.
me: haha well atleast im a virgin!
me: oooooo!
him: at least im not.
me: well your a bad boy.
him: sex is fun.
me: i bet.
me: and the only reason i dont before i get married is because if i do then ill be completely attached and if i was to break up with the person i did that with or they break up with me it would be bad... like heartbreaking bad... and all and it would end up being the on and off thing because were so attached to each other.... its not for moral reasons... its for....logical reasons.
him: haha yeah
me: i just dont want to be that serious with a guy right now.;
him: yeah i understabd.
him: i forgot you're only 14
me: if i was ready to be that serious with someone it wouldnt bother me to have sex before marriage. but the thing is... if your ready to be that serious with them your pretty much ready to marry them! haha.... so yeah. im sorry im only 14 :( i know i dont act it.
him: yeah you dont
me: well that cant be a bad thing
him: its not.
me: gooood
me: your the best bestfriend ever.

so my questions are:
1)is that wrong?

Not at all and it's as simple as that. You did nothing wrong and everything you said was quite mature. If that's what you really do believe then good for you. What is a best friend for if not to share all your thoughts, feelings, problems and all that good stuff with? Don't worry about this at all. Don't go blabbing to your boyfriend that you were talking about sex with another guy though. Not because it was wrong, but because he will get jealous and take it the wrong way. In other words he won't understand. Even if you like your best friend as a little more than a friend, nothing about that or what you did is wrong. I hope I helped and good luck!

My boyfriend of two years is really having some issues. We're both 15. And he has an obsession with a band about killing and it is plain nasty. I accept the fact that he loves his music, don't get me wrong, but it's seriously hurting our relationship. He has a MySpace, and I can't stand to see what is written on it. Tonight I looked at it and he was talking about how hott some chick was that his friend was dating and talking about how awesome weed is, and yet he seems to agree with me that weed is a really low and stupid thing to do. He is a completly diffrent person when he's with his friends. I know that he's not suppose to act the same as he does atround me, but it's really diffrent, I feel like I don't know him and we've been together for two years! I've talked to him about what he says on the MySpace, and he tells me that his friend got on his name and wrote it. Everytime I try to approach a serous talk with him about how his music and the way he acts damages us, he takes it like I hate his music and I want him to stop listening to it. I want him to stop acting out the music, and acting like an idiot when I know he's so much better. Can anyone give me advice? I understand that the length of this question is long, but I do promise that I will let you know how great your advice was. Thank you so much in Advance.

He's trying to be cool. The person you see is who he really is. It's great that he has opened up with you and shared his true self with you. I would say just try to be patient with him. He's only 15. Girls tend to mature faster than guys and in a few years he'll get better about things. I wouldn't pester him too much about myspace. There are a lot of fake people on there and if he wants to be fake too there's not much you can do. Him talking about other girls is kind of a problem. I mean, obviously he has every right to think about them, but being with you, he definitely shouldn't be talking like that out of respect for you and your relationship. If you wanna bother him about anything, bother him about that, otherwise, just let him make a fool of himself. He'll figure out how silly he's being on his own. Most anything you say to him he'll take the wrong way. It's not really hurting anything and if you don't let it hurt you it'll be fine. He will get better about this with age. Try to be patient. I know it's hard, but if the relationship is worth it, stick it out. Good luck!

hey

well i was wondering if ebay was real like do they take more money then there ment to and do they take the money adn not send the thing that you bought are they scammers or is it realy please tell me :):)

taek care every 1 love : hilda

It's very real! I use it all the time and have gotten some amazing deals. You'll find a lot of people selling in bulk so you get a lot more for your money. eBay doesn't scam you. If someone on eBay tries to, eBay will try to help you out and fix the problem. Kind of like Advicenators! There are moderators that run the site and keep everything going smoothly and fairly and you report any problems to them. Then there are all the people that use the site, interact with each other, and try to get good things out of it. It is very uncommon for people to get scammed and just as long as you read everything you'll be just fine. I've never had a problem with it before. I think it's a great way for people to buy and sell things in a very cost effective and time effective way. There are both used and new items and it always specifies. If something you want isn't sold in your area, you can get it for cheap and sent right to your door through eBay. I think it's a wonderful thing and more people should use it!

I'm fifteen years old and unhappy with the way I look. I've been considering cosmetic surgery and I know exactly what I want and how much it would cost and I'm aware of all of the risks. But my friends have convinced me not to make any final decisions until I'm eighteen years old because they say that my face hasn't finished changing completely.

But is it realistic to think that your face can really change that much in two years? When does your facial structure really finish growing and changing?

Your face might not change that much in two years but your body image will! Nobody likes the way they look when they're 15. Sure you can get plastic surgery now, but later in life you may think "goodness why did I do that?", in other words you may regret it because you did it when you were insecure about the way you looked. As you get older you may realize that you're fine just the way you are and that you wouldn't gain anything by changing yourself so drastically. If that isn't the conclusion that you reach and you still want to got through with it when you're 25, then sure go for it. It's a terrible thing to go through life with any kind of regret. You are only 15. This is a huge life decision. Take some more time to think about it. I know that 10 years is awhile, but plastic surgery isn't something you should be doing until at least age 25. In the meantime try to accept the way you look and realize that no matter how hard you try or how many plastic surgeries you go through you won't ever be what you see as perfect. Take one look at Michael Jackson and you'll see what I'm saying. You are perfect now. I'm sure you're really attractive and lots of people that know you think so too. Look up the lyrics to or listen to the song "What a Scene" by the Goo Goo Dolls. I don't know if you'll take it seriously or get anything out of it, but I hope that you do. Really, seriously, consider waiting before deciding to change yourself and do it for you, not for other people. I strongly suggest that you talk to a counselor before going through with anything. I really hope that you can learn to love yourself and the way that you look like I did. It took a long time and it was a really hard thing to do, but I'm really proud of myself for being able to do it. Don't give in to what you see around you and use the strength that I know you have to be able to say to yourself "I'm pretty just the way I am and nothing that I can see or hear can change that because I know that it's true." I'm not that attractive compared to society's standards, but really, who is? I'm beautiful because I'm different. If everybody looked the same the world would be pretty boring. A beautiful person is beautiful on the inside. Inner beauty radiates from you and whether you're that attractive physically or not, people will think that you are absolutely gorgeous. I wish you lots of patience, strength, and luck. Don't let the world get you down. Find happiness in the beauty around you and within you.

Okay, so I have a boyfriend. And I love him so much nobody would ever understand. Everything reminds me of him and he's always on my mind. Today he confessed that I'm all he ever thinks about no matter what he's doing. That means that he thinks about me a lot because he's always playing football or basketball or soccer or working out. My friends say I'm obbsessed, but I just can't help it. Is there anything I can do that will take my mind off of him or at least tone down my thoughts about him a bit?

Thanks so much!

Sorry, there's not much you can do. This happened to me and I was sooo upset about it. Thinking about someone all the time like that can really mess up your life. Sadly, the only thing that can cure that is good old fashioned time. Try to be patient and try not to change what you would normally be doing. Something that may help a little is writing. Write poems, stories, a journal, or anything like that to get your thoughts out of your mind where they're bugging you and onto paper or your computer or wherever. This helped me a little and hopefully you can find something to help you too. Good luck!

Me and my friend Olivia are making a DVD for my friend Heidi for a present for her 15th birthday this Saturday. Help! We need good suggestions of GOOD MUSIC to put on for the background of the slideshow. I will rate if you respond FAST!:)

So what is some good friendship songs that I could put on?

Thanks:)

There are a lot of Disney songs that are about friendship. "You've Got A Friend In Me" from Toy Story sung by Randy Newman is one. Another friendship song is "Lean On Me" and there are a lot of artists that sing it one of them being Bill Withers.

ok so this is so emberessing to ask but
the other day i was sitting down and i farted,
but.... not where i should have. im a girl by the
way, and i think i farted from my vagina? this
sounds so gross, and im sorry to ask but i'm really
curious what it is.. my friend said it's called queefing?

haha, whats that and why do we do it?

thanks

Yeah...I just learned about this like last week. It's not a fart, it just sounds like one. It happens basically when a pocket of air in your vagina gets pushed out. It's just odorless air and it doesn't come from inside your body. I think that it happens to most everyone every once in awhile. Some people can do it on command, but I don't think that's very common. You can try just for kicks, but you probably won't be able to. I believe that if you're sexually active it's more likely to happen because your muscles will be relaxing and contracting more. It's embarassing, but if someone hears it (or it happens while you're being sexual yikes), you can say it was a normal fart and nobody will know any different. So again, it's normal and try not to worry about it.

Hi, you might have seen my post before about how I didnt know how to tell my boyfriend that I dont like it when he flirts with other girls and hugs them. I told him last night online how i felt and hes like oh ok im sorry and i wont do it again. and hes like oh well its a good thing that you get jealous because then that means you love me. so today when he came in the class room to drop his bag off, he went out of the class, i kind of followed him and he was talking to someone and then when the bell rang he hugged her! and then i hear this morning that he was flirting with my good friend. I already told him how i felt. how do i tell him again without trying to sound like a freak like he cant do anything? Thanks!

It's hard for people to change overnight. Be patient and give it a little time. If he's not even trying to change and there's no progress in two weeks or so I think it's time to move on. He shouldn't have made a promise he couldn't keep. I hope that everything works out for you and good luck.

well i like or liked (i totally dont know what to think anymore? ) this guy named peter! and well i think he liked me back and he always smiled at me but i'm kinda shy so i never smiled back. so once in my bus he sat next to me and talked to me but i was in a bad mood and very mean to him! well not THAT mean but kinda mean lol so then he never talked to me again but sometimes he still looked at me. so i felt bad and i called him on saturday i was like
me: hi my name is cornelia can i please talk to peter
peter: yeah i'm peter
me: oh well hi its me you know that mean girl? uhm yeah so i just wanted to appologize for being so mean!
peter:uhuh
silence..
me: so is everythink ok again?
peter: uhh yeah
silence
me: ok than
silence
peter: bye
me: bye
and well that was it and it totally went wrong!and when he said bye it sounded like he didnt even wanna talk! i thought he would say like ok i except it or whatever but he said nothing at all? does he hate me now? i am really upset! i think he's gonna tell everybody now that i called him and then there all gonna laugh at me! but i dont get it! he even told me he loved me once (i was kinda mean then 2) but i tried to be nice now! he act like he didnt care! i need advice i'm really upset!!!! i dont wanna see him anymore and today ( i know its stupid so dont laugh) i even skipped school because of that cause i was really scared people would make fun of me cause i called a guy ( cause normally i'm like the person who dosnt even know what the word "love" means and i dont have any friends yet cause we just moved here so i'm alone than) im scared to go to school now and thats really weird! please help! oh and please dont delete this cause i really need advice and i dont wanna write the whole question over again.

I think it was just that you put him in a pretty awkward situation. Imagine a guy calling you and saying that they wanted to apologize for being mean. Peter just didn't know what to say. I think that you just caught him offguard. That doesn't mean that he didn't appreciate the apology or was being rude or anything. I doubt he's going to tell anybody about it and if he does, it's not that big of a deal. You had a guilty conscience and what you did took a lot of courage. If Peter is a jerk and tells people and they start picking on you, you can change everyone's opinions about you around to how nice and great of a person you are. Just use that same courage and initiative that you used while apologizing to Peter and people will gain a lot of respect for you! Good luck! :)

so, a random question bout sex. i was just wondering, since statistics show that the average teen loses their virginity by the age of 17. well.. is it possible to have sex (when the guy uses a condom) and NOT get pregnant? cuz like, other teens have done it and they havent got pregnant riight? but what im scared of is that my sister had an unplanned pregnancy and she already had a baby. she said she used a condom and i guessed it broke.

questions:
is it common for a condom to break?
can a girl get pregant if a guy uses a condom?

thanks in advance.

Condoms come with pretty explicit instructions. Read the instructions. They will tell you exactly how to use a condom. Don't say you already know. A lot of stuff in those instructions, most people don't do. There's some things you can do to prevent it from breaking and decrease your chances of getting pregnant even more. Condoms are 100% effective with perfect use. It's "impossible" to use them perfectly every time, but the more you know about them the safer you will be, so read those instructions! Using more than one birth control method also decreases the chance of getting pregnant. The calender method, spermicide, sponges, and all kinds of other forms of birth control are as available to you as condoms. Read up on birth control and you'll be quite protected. Read about how it and your body works. There's always the day after pill too in case of an accident. If a condom breaks I think that you can usually tell. The website www.coolnurse.com will be able to help you a lot. Good luck!

My girlfriend is almost a week past her period, and we're 16 and we're scared that she's pregnant. She doesnt have any signs of pregnancy, but she said she does have vaginal discharge and we're hoping that's not a sign... any help?

Pregnancy tests don't work until two weeks after the incident. So if it hasn't been two weeks the test won't work yet. If it has, get one right away. Remember also, that your girlfriend is young and her period isn't going to be completely regular. Lots of things other than pregnancy can lead to a missed period including stress. Next time don't just be more careful, be as careful as you can possibly be while you're doing anything sexual and you won't have to worry about this again. If something does happen or there's even a possibility that it did, having her take a day after pill is a good idea. It's effective for 3 days and it can work for up to 5. It doesn't cause an abortion, just prevents egg and sperm from meeting just like pretty much any other form of protection would. Good luck!

I have a slight problem. Sometimes when I get out of the bath/shower I feel like I am going to fall, my eyes change for some reason, and I get real dizzy. This has happened more than once and I have never been to a doctor over this problem because my family doesn't have much money. If anyone could tell me why these have been happening it would be much appreciated.

I thought of something else! If it gets really foggy when you're taking your shower that can make it harder for you to breathe. Open a window or put any kind of fan in the bathroom and that may help too. :)

When I'm lying or sitting down for awhile and I sit up too fast that happens to me. What you should do is, like others have suggested, try using less hot water. After you're done with your shower before you turn the water off, slowly turn the hot water down and let your body adjust to the cooler water. Don't make yourself completely cold, you're just trying to slow down the transition. Have your towel within reach of the shower and try to set it up on something so you don't have to bend down to pick it up. Once you've shut the water off, slowly reach for your towel and wrap it around you before getting out of the shower. When you do get out, move very slowly, as if you are really old or something. If you take cold showers, you should stop doing that if you can. The cold can shock your body too. Good luck!

In between haircuts I often cut my own split ends off. Like if I happen to see one I'll just grab a pair of scissors and cut it off. Is this bad? All my friends tell me I shouldn't do this, butI thought cutting them off was a good thing.

It's actually a GOOD thing to do that, but it may not be such a good idea with regular scissors. That may make your hair more prone to split ends. One of my friends never goes to a hairdresser and cuts her own hair. She has a pair of haircutting scissors. I think that if you're going to be cutting off your split ends yourself, you should invest in a pair of haircutting scissors. My guess is that you can get them someplace like WalMart, but if not, just ask your hairdresser where you'd be able to get them and how much they would cost. I don't think it will be very much. Good luck!

13/f. I know that around here there are loads of moronic girls saying stuff like "OmG diS gUy iS soOoOo hOT i wANt hiM! aM i iN luV???!!!" Now, I know that teenagers generally don't fall in love, but is there anything wrong with being
"infatuated" with someone? The way many people talk about it, they make it sound like a bad thing. Is it a bad thing? Because, I'm "infatuated" with someone right now. I try not to take it too seriously, but sometimes I can't help it...

Knowing that you're infatuated instead of confusing it for love makes you very mature for your age. It's not a bad thing unless it turns to stalking or something like that. Everybody has crushes and it's a part of life to either act on them or get over them. These infatuations will help you grow and have a better understanding of love in the future. You're completely normal and there isn't a sure way to deal with what you're going through. Just go with it. Whatever the outcome, something good will come of it. Good luck!

Is it possible for someone to stop growing breasts at 13? i started when I was 8, and I'm 32A

Yeah, it's very possible. I started at a 34A when I was 12 and yeah, I'm still a 34A at age 20. I don't think they stop DEVELOPING until you're older, but that doesn't mean they'll actually get any bigger. Anyways, don't worry about how big your boobs are too much. Once you get older guys tend to care less. Plus, if you have kids when you're older, sometimes after pregnancy they don't return all the way to their original size.

i'm going back out with my boyfriend after he cheated on me. but i know he won't do it again! a lot of people tell me that i'm stupid.... "once a cheater always a cheater!" but i love him so much and know he won't do it again! WHAT DO I DO?!

Relationships don't usually work out the second time. "Once a cheater always a cheater" is true in some cases. In the others, the relationship will end because of jealousy and trust issues. Whatever you say, you're not going to trust him completely again and you probably feel a lot of jealousy towards the girl he cheated with. This will cause problems in the relationship. I'll give you a line from a song. "And you think of all of the things you've seen and you wish that you can live in between and you're back again only different than before." It can work out, but it will NEVER be the same and I don't think you're going to like it. You can try dating him again to prevent regret, but just be prepared for it to end at any time. There's no such thing as soulmates or there being only one person out there that is perfect for you. Even if you do break up with him you will find another love. I hope that everything works out for you and good luck!

i have a song on itunes i would like to put on myspace but i dont know how to. so can someone tell me how i can get a code for it so it plays on my myspace. thnx

You'll need to find a way to upload it to the internet. The song has to be on the internet someplace. My suggestion would be to make your own webpage and put it on there. I'm not sure what the code is once you've done that, but I'm sure someone will or you can look it up. Good luck!

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