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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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Can you get pregnant 3 days after oval action day
You can get pregnant at any time, There is no "safe" day.
You can get pregnant on your period, off your period, during ovulation etc.
My friend said whitney houston died! is that another rumor (she is bad for rumors) or is she really dead? if she is, then how did she die and when?
Yes, Whitney Houston has passed at 48
Her death isn't yet confirmed to how she died but I wouldn't be surprised if it were related to drugs.
Me and my girlfriend have been dating for ten months. Half way through are relationship we broke up because my parents did not like the fact that she was 15 and I was about to be 18 in two months, but then we got back together secretly so that my parents would not know. I told my parents I was dating my girlfriend a month ago but I still treat my relationship with her like a secret. When me and her are around other ppl that we don't or do know, I step away from her, thinking they might accuse me of something and send me to jail. The things is it's not illegal to date her. I just can't have sex with her. I'm allowed to hold her hand and hug her in public , but I am still scared to. "How can I over come my fear and show my girl I truly do love her and only her? " I really love her please give me some advice.
I am going to be a bit critical
You are pretty much an adult, Why are you dating someone who is only 15 years old? Sure, It may not be illegal to date her but in the eyes of most people they are going to wonder what your intentions are of being with someone much younger than you. Yes, It seems like only a 3 year age difference but there is a big gap of maturity between the age of 18 and 15. While you are soon to graduate, Your girlfriend still has another 2-3 years of High School.
Really, You should be a little paranoid. You are dating a minor. If I were the parents and I found out my 15 year old daughter was dating an 18 year I don't care how secretive it was I would make sure it didn't happen. You are 18, You should technically be dating someone more your age. Also, Lying to her parents about keeping the entire thing a secret is of course no way to gain their trust.
Sorry it's not what you want to hear, but that's my opinion and I stick to what I said.
i am a 44 yr old woman and i am finally in a place i feel at home.i'm single disabled and have the biggest heart anyone could ask 4. But my problem is my youngest daughter 22w/child i addore so much that lives with me for the forth time and her daddy raised her in nc,where i'm from and he stole her from me when she was 2 but she came back to me when her stepmother left to 4 the same reason i did,, drugs...he was on and 4 me physical and mental abuse. i left my home state because he threatened me and my land lord that he was going to burn my house down if he didn't get shed of me.well that was 13 yrs ago and 2 wks ago he called my daughter and asked me if he could stay here temporarily and of course i said yes. well now 3 wks later he caused me and my babygirl got in a fist fight today. i have fybromyalgae and now have bruises on me and then she left with him but said theyd be back tomorrow. well my pt. is i don't want to live anymore because stress brings alot of pain to me and they are taking over my home and won't help clean all they do is ask for money that i have not gottten so i'm miserable i want to kill myself cause well my child told me to die today that it would make her
life so much better well i am sick and tired of being sick and tired.signed MISERABLE
You phone the police, You tell them the situation and have him arrested. This is assault and is domestic violence. Remember one thing this is YOUR HOME. You have every damn right to say who comes and goes in your house. Sometimes we can only be so kind before we need put a foot down and keep it down. This man has crossed the line, He has no right and you need to fight for your rights. Have him arrested, YES press charges against him and go through with him. This man had his chance and he blew it, Sometimes we need to show our children tough love in this case I would tell your daughter that she is going to have to find another place to stay. This is completely unacceptable, You can be there mentally but it's time to take to the next level. Move her out and don't let her back in she obviously needs to learn things the hard route.
Suicide isn't the answer, You are miserable because you are putting up with other peoples shit in your own home. I would too be miserable and stressed. You call the police and you have him arrested and I promise you the stress will no longer be there. Everyone goes through tough times but your safety is what comes and should always come first!!! You have rights, You use them.
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So I have been bestfriends with this guy for like three years. We are literally as close as brother and sister and I couldn't imagine life without him. I could go on and on about our relationship, but long story short, he gets me through everything. Until recently...
See there has always been a physical attraction between us. Can't help it, it's just there haha. We had never kissed, but we would hold hands, cuddle, I'd sit in his lap or kiss his cheek, even when one of us was dating someone else. Well, about a month ago he broke up with a girl he had been dating for eight months. He just didn't like her as much, and it was getting too serious (he didn't like that she wanted him to say "I love you" and stuff). Then, a week ago, we were joking around and somehow we started joking about hooking up (which isn't uncommon for us, inside jokes and stuff). And then all of the sudden, he got serious. He was telling me to come over, and it was like 1am. It took me like twenty minutes to finally believe he meant it. And I was pretty uncomfortable with it so I told him I wouldn't be able to sneak out. So he said, okay, I'll come over there. And I was like I don't know. And he just says "Look, yes, or no? Now?" and I said yes. He came over, we made out, and I gave him a handy. It was actually the most fun I'd ever had hanging out with someone. We would kiss then talk for an hour, then kiss somemore, till it was like five in the morning. When he left he texted me and said "bout time that happened. please don't tell anyone about this. I mean it was only a one time thing right?" And thing this I don't know. I'm so confused about my feelings for him now. And the week after was so confuing. He was a huge dick to me all week and we got in a huge fight and he said hooking up with me "wasn't the best decision he's ever made". That literally hurt. So. Bad. I started sobbing. I was a mistake to him. And I feel so stupid and confused. Like he used me, right? I was a rebound, why was I so dumb, why did I think I could hook up with him and it wouldn't change our friendship. He says he values our friendship more than anything in the world, so why did he do this to it?
Now its just weird. He asked one of my friends to this upcoming dance, who doesn't know anything that happened between us. She did feel weird and wanted to check with me before she said yes, make sure I knew she was just going with him as friends. And what could I say? So they're going together. He made it pretty clear he doesn't want to talk every day anymore. So we don't. He specifically told me "I know you don't wanna date me, but it honestly felt like we were at that stage. We would talk everyday and I don't want that." I just don't know what to do. He wants to pretend like it didn't happen but I don't think I can do that. I don't know what I want, and all I know is that this hurts me and I just want it all to be better. I don't like having to guess how I should act around him, I don't like feeling like a mistake, and I don't like feeling like shit.
PLEASE don't tell me all hope is lost. I don't think I could handle that. He's like my best friend. I can't lose him.
Me: 16/F. Him: 17/M
Some friend...
I would say he used you, He took advantage of your friendship. The guy just got out of an 8 month relationship and whether it was serious or not he was still in it for 8 months. Yes, It was rebounding
He went from being out of a relationship to fooling around with his friend without even hesitating about it then the guy has the balls to tell you to keep it a secret?! What is he hiding?....He must be hiding something. When someone goes about keeping something a secret then apparently they don't want others knowing for a reason either that or he is ashamed about what happened. My advise to you is to never do something like that again, Sometimes when we think we can put our trust into someone we can't. You got it right, He pretty much took advantage of you. Best friends don't use friends, Think about it..... 1, He asked to see you late a night 2, Straight out of an 8 month relationship and 3, Don't tell anyone 4, He doesn't want to talk to you as much anymore? Hun, This isn't much of a friend. I would just try and accept it and move on and if you DO decide to remain friends please take this as a lesson learned the hard way and never do it again. The guy is a jerk in my personal opinion and if I were in your shoes I'd move on and find other friends. Sometimes it takes longer with others but I'd say the guy showed his true colors.
what is a boner
A boner refers to an erection, When the penis is hard.
I'm from India and I live in Oman (it's a Middle-East country). I've liked/loved this girl since 6th grade (I'm in 11th now).
I'm not sure I love her because even though it feels like it, everyone says it's probably not (at my age).
Anyway, first off, I can't ever tell my parents because they're Muslims and I'm not sure they know of the existence of bisexuals. I think I should keep it a secret even though I feel guilty.
I've told a few of my friends and they're okay with it. Or at least they don't dislike ME, just the idea.
I don't have any problems about self-acceptance.
I guess the problem is that whether I love this girl or not, I'm definitely very obsessed with her and it's just not healthy...I think about her all the time. It feels like I'm sick or something. I want it to stop, but at the same time she and I are friends and we're even in the same class, so I've no idea what to do to get over her. I just know I have to because its hindering any possible productivity.
Also, I didn't mention this, she's straight and she'll never care about me. We're only friends because I'm entertaining.
Have you ever tried to talk to her? You stated she was straight but have you ever complimented her and see how she reacts? You do not have to come out and tell her that you have feelings for her not knowing how she may react. Sometimes you can easily test people just by complimenting and asking random questions.
If you both are good friends then you should be able to communicate with her and tell her how you feel. Again, You don't have to come off as if you are coming onto her. You could simply say that you've been thinking about your sexuality lately and you are curious to know what it's like to be with a girl and ask if she has any advice. See how she responds
If she doesn't seem to be all for the fact that you like girls then maybe your right, Maybe she just isn't into girls and isn't willing to try. All you can really do then is accept that there is nothing with this girl other then friendship. Becoming obsessed is not healthy and if you over do it you could end up creeping her out and it could ruin your friendship. My advise just talk to her and see how she responds. If she responds in a positives manner then there might be a chance and maybe you could even work up the courage to ask her if she would ever consider being with a girl. Sometimes actions speak louder then words ;)
I am not allowed on my laptop at night and when I even think about getting on, I feel as if God is next to me saying NO!!!! And when I do get on such as right now, I feel soooo badly. Also, a teacher got mad at me because of something she thought I did but it was really somebody else. When I got home I stressed so much that I had to lie down and couldn't do anything else for the next couple of minutes. When I was 6 I got shingles from stress and I haven't stressed like this for a while. Why is it coming back now?
Sounds to me like it's a mix of stress/depression.
Everyone sometimes needs moments to themselves. When you feel this way you should try to do something you enjoy doing. Read, Write, Watch a good movie, Go for a walk etc. Why do you feel stressed? Figure out the source of the problem and try to solve it. If you don't think you should go on the laptop then take a day off it, Do something else you enjoy doing.
How is your diet? Sometimes certain foods can cause our bodies to become more stressed. Make sure you are getting plenty of water, fruits and vegetables.
I know this sounds weird but the best medicine for stress is meditation. Meditation is known to help fears, anxiety, stress and in many cases it helps people stay calm and relaxed.
There are even some good healing music you can listen to online here is a good link: http://www.live365.com/index.live (Just type in mediation and a good list will pop up)
Give that a shot, See if it helps any.
16/f so i have this boyfriend, and he understands about waiting and he always says until your ready when we talk about it. like i really want to have sex with him; but i dont know if i should we have been going out for awhile now. and we would be eachothers first. i really like him but all the boys in my school are like this. they go out with girls for awhile for sex then break up with them after and say like "shes bad" "she needs to clean down there" "i smelt fish" and that happened to my best friend. and i dont know if i should because i want to but i am scard and dont know if hes different. please help!
I'm going to be honest
You are too young to be thinking of having sex, Sure everyone is doing it at your age but it still doesn't make it right. I always tell everyone, If you aren't ready for a possible parenthood then you aren't ready to be having sex. Accidents happen and condoms, birth control are not always guaranteed. I really think you should try and wait as long as you can, Sex is not everything in a relationship. If you are feeling the urge to have sex you can do other things blow job, hand job but you do not have to actually have sex. If you are worried that your boyfriend will go and spread rumors then hun you aren't ready. Sex is something that should be with someone you trust 100%, If you have to second guess his behavior then he might not be the right one. I know it's probably not what you want to hear but wouldn't you rather know for sure then take the risk? Please, Wait until you are entirely sure this is what you want too do. Even just go with I suggested and do other things instead of intercourse. It's way better to be safe then sorry and if you ever do always wear a condom! Don't let some guy talk you otherwise because things are always possible and you don't want a pregnancy at 16 years old.
i would like to know wut to do
While others will tell you it's all up to you, I'm going to say No.
I have heard many stories and seen a couple completely fall out from having a 3 some. In fact I recall a couple that were good friends with me and my spouse ended up filing for divorce and they knew the other person pretty well.
Involving another person in your sex lives is a risk, Even if you talk it over and come to an understanding or agreement that it's strictly what it is. Sometimes people develop feelings even without intentions. In my personal opinion your sex life should be between you and your husband and kept that way. Involving someone else is allowing them into your marriage, Your personal life. I would never take that chance, I am not wiling to sacrifice my marriage for my curiosity. Threesomes have been known in the past to destroy relationships between people even without intentions. It can be fun don't get me wrong but everything comes with consequences. Is your marriage worth the risk?
My now Ex boyfriend suddenly became suspicious of my where abouts, and even started accusing me of ridiculous things.
So, I went through his phone, and found a number under "18 year old bi guy" in his contact list, and a strange message he sent to an unknown number "Requesting a blow job for $150". The language used in the text indicated he was communicating with a guy.
My ex is a typical Man- a mechanic, loves trail bikes, and hunting. I once told him my gay cousin was coming up too stay and he responded "I fucking hate faggots".
I finally hit him up and he laughed at me, and told me him and his work mates always mess around like that. But Im still suspicious...
What do you guys think?
It's hard to tell, However if he had a guy under his contacts labeled as (18 year old bi guy) I wouldn't think it was much of a joke. Sounds like the guy may be in denial of his sexuality. Also, To put it out there as I'm sure you are already well aware of the fact that charging someone for a sex act is considered prostitution. Text messages can be traced as once sent it stores data into the cell phone just like a computer stores hidden files in a computer. Deleted or not, The evidence is still there. Would I be concerned? Yes. A guy that messes around with his buddies does not have a contact listed as a bi guy...That right there pretty much says all. You could try talking to him but there is no guarantee he is going to come out willingly and tell you how he feels. The guys response to your cousin is ignorant and says denial in his case.
I'd be suspicious of cheating, Lying....and prostitution. If he can't come clean with how he feels then I would think it over, It's uncool to lead someone on and then lie about it.
17/F
I'm not a virgin first off. But I am always so so so horny. I have no way of relief considering I don't have a boyfriend and I'm not into one nighters. I want to get a Jack Rabbit Vibrator but I don't anyone to know that I'm getting one. I can't send it anywhere and I cant walk into a store and get one. any advice. using my fingers doesnt help. I get to the point where I'm throbbing. Any advice is welcomed.
You can buy one online, They arrive at your house in a package box so nobody will have a clue what it is.
Okay I have had two children. You think I would know this answer but I don't. I was on the depo shot for a year. It was causing very bad pain in my stomach so I switched to the pill. I missed I think two pills one of the times I took it later in the day. I am continuing to take the pill. I got my period the end of January like the 21st. It lasted 2 days very light spotting and just stopped. It is to early to take a pregnancy test. Here are my symptoms.
-I have been going to bed earlier at night.
-Extreme headaches.
-nausea (no vomiting but pretty close)
-pain in breast.Around nipple doesn't look darker but mine never were when i was pregnant.
-When I stand up I will have to pee so bad I cant even hold it.
-I haven't weighed my self but I feel bigger or bloated.
- My stomach will feel like its stretching sort of.
Thank you for your time.
We cannot tell you if you are pregnant or not, You need to take a test.
41 yr old fem.
What do you do when you have an online crush that you are falling in love with? They are in another country. I think about them every day. I never met them in person & know that It could be the "idea" that attracts me. What do you think?
This is complicated as there is little detail
How long have you known this man? What do you know about him?
I do agree with the first user below me, I think you need to be more realistic. The man lives in another country and the chances of this relationship ever working is small. Are you attracted to this man or you attracted to the idea of this man?
I tell everyone, We cannot fall in love with someone we do not know personally. Sometimes people confuse love with lust. The idea of a dream guy, The attention he gives and other times people on the internet just tell others what they want to hear. I think you are thinking to far ahead of yourself and you allowing yourself to become obsessed. Online relationships are generally nothing but a fantasy, They aren't realistic. I'm always telling people to stay away from the internet as far as dating someone etc. There are too many fakes out there and more then I could possibly begin to count. If you want to meet someone I would start through mutual friends but the internet is the last place I would recommend.
I am in a complicated relationship.
I slept with my flat mate and two years later we are still together... fight, fight, love. fight, fight, love etc. I moved out too ease the strain, but its still the same pattern.
He treats me like shit. Lies, talks down too me, cancells plans, and contradicts everything he says. His friends and family have all said he is lucky to have me, which just makes things worse.
I am confident, bubbly and a happy young lass, but he just makes me feel sad.
any advice??
This relationship isn't complicated, There is a fine line between being complicated and just clearly not wanting to be in a relationship. Your boyfriend doesn't seem interested in making it work at all.
You being a girlfriend should be a main priority in his life. If he treats you like shit, talks down to you etc. Then why the hell are you sitting around waiting for him? You are wasting your time. The guy isn't the right one for you, He is a dirt bag.
You are confident but you don't have the confidence in you to move on and meet someone else. Seriously, If someone treats you like shit then that is a sign you shouldn't be with them.
Well my girlfriend has herpes on her lips. And she wants to.give me a blow job,though she hasnt got no out breakes or anything. Can she still give me a blow job and not contage me. Or she still can no metter with.or without the outbreaks? I need to know...
If your girlfriend has herpes, I don't suggest doing anything sexual with her. Herpes are highly contagious and something as simple as kissing her can cause it to spread. Tell her to see a doctor
21/F
So I started dating this guy that I've known for 7 years, we dated for about a month and everything was perfect we even told each other we loved one another because we obviously known each other long enough to really mean it. Well I knew he was having to go to Germany for the military and I was fine with that but the day he left I got really emotional because I didn't want him to leave, he's the first guy I dated that's actually made me forget about my ex who I had dated previously for 4 years... Before he left he asked me to wait for him it was only going to be a few months and when he got back we would get a place together and settle down i couldnt be more happy. Well two days after he left I checked on facebook just to see his pictures of me and him and it says add as friend... HE DELETED ME FROM FACEBOOK. I know that sounds incredibly immature but wtheck?? He even blocked me from sending him messages and he's been able to post stuff on tweeter about being in Germany and what not.... I just don't understand?? I think I deserve at least an explanation?? What did I do wrong? Is it him or maybe it's just me? I'm not some phsycho annoying girlfriend so I'm not going to be asking everyone of his friends I just want to know if I should just move on or what?
Sounds to me that he doesn't want to deal with a relationship right now. Maybe the guy didn't have enough balls to come out and tell you that it wasn't exactly perfect timing on his behalf to be in a relationship.
Sure, He told you that he wanted to settle down and get a place when he came back but did you ever think that maybe he just said that to make you happy? Sounds like it. To bad he didn't have the courage to do the right thing and just be honest about his feelings. Yes, I would say he led you on. Perhaps on his way to Germany he gave thought into the relationship and just decided to end things because it was inconvenient to him.
Coward I would say, If he removed and blocked you there is your answer on the status of your relationship. =/
I would just move on and meet someone who is right for you, Don't let a jerk get the best of you.
Ok so I have a Bf and we are in a great relationship atm. But currently another guy has been talking to me on MSN. And Im on vacation and the other guy keeps saying he loves me and is asking me to dump my Bf for him. I dont know what to do because the other day, the other guy told me that he's going to kiss me and asked me if I'd kiss him back. I made the mistake of saying sure and I dont wanna cheat on my Bf since he's my first Bf. Plz help i dont know what to do!!! I dont wanna break up with my Bf but I kinda do wanna kiss the other guy (He's the player type) But my Bf isnt a kissing kind of guy, he's more of the hugging type. HELP ME!!! I need advice pronto! I like both but dont wanna break up with my Bf but wanna kiss the other guy :( HELP!!
Are you happy in your relationship? If you are then don't do it.
Imagine how your boyfriend would feel if he ever found out that you kissed another guy. What would you do if your boyfriend went and kissed another girl? You'd be hurt wouldn't you?
If a guy tells you to break up with your boyfriend don't you think that's wrong of them to say? If you allow someone to come between you and your boyfriend then you aren't exactly a very good girlfriend. Cheating is not cool, It's wrong and if you can't be faithful then please don't be in a relationship at all.
I had a new guy date over to my house for dinner and wine for our third date.
We spoke of sex. I said that I wanted to wait. I am 39 he is 37 and we met in a dating site.
We had two great dates out previously. We have been very attracted to
each other. Is it a bad thing that when he came over he gave me
aassage and Oral and I gave him only a hand job. We came together. He seemed distant and sleepy. We fell asleep together but he never cuddled me. He got up and dressed to
leave. He said he will call me later. He was leaving I stopped him for a kiss and a hug and he left. Was it too soon?
My opinion you jumped the gun way to fast
You met this person over a dating site, A third date you don't even know this man at all. You know this man based on what he wants you to know and what you have briefly seen in the little time you've spent together. The first 6 months is when you are just starting to get to know someone, Did you move to fast? Yes.
Do you want this man to come out and think of you as easy? Getting to touchy with him can end up leading him to the wrong impression. You do not know anything about him, He knows nothing about you. The best way to go about the entire thing is to take it slow. Enjoy one another time, Go out and have fun but lay off on the sexual activity until you both know one another well enough to know that you can trust the person. Meaning at least over 2 months. If he doesn't call you, He isn't interested. Do you know anything about this guy?...How do you know he isn't lying?. These are things to think about. Do you know his past? Do you know if the man is married? Has kids? Divorced? Having sex with someone on a third date is forward and it's a great way to scare some people off.