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Umm he wants to kiss me but i have a bf
Ok so I have a Bf and we are in a great relationship atm. But currently another guy has been talking to me on MSN. And Im on vacation and the other guy keeps saying he loves me and is asking me to dump my Bf for him. I dont know what to do because the other day, the other guy told me that he's going to kiss me and asked me if I'd kiss him back. I made the mistake of saying sure and I dont wanna cheat on my Bf since he's my first Bf. Plz help i dont know what to do!!! I dont wanna break up with my Bf but I kinda do wanna kiss the other guy (He's the player type) But my Bf isnt a kissing kind of guy, he's more of the hugging type. HELP ME!!! I need advice pronto! I like both but dont wanna break up with my Bf but wanna kiss the other guy :( HELP!!
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So, the guy who wants to kiss you is the player type, eh? Hmm... Well, if you don't want to break up with your bf then don't kiss him and tell him you're not interested. But, if you want to kiss him, kiss him. Tell yourself it's just a kiss, and you aren't cheating. It's just a kiss. :)
I hope I helped!!!:)
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You can't have your cake and eat it too. Life doesn't work that way. Whom do you like better your boyfriend or this other guy? I was in the same predicament and it was hard as hell let me tell you. I couldn't decide if I wanted to be with my boyfriend (at the time) or this other guy who was always on my mind. Finally I realized that things happen for a reason and then I made my decision. Who do you like best? Who cna you be yourself around? Who makes you happy? Think about it and make your decision. Do you want to be with this other guy or do you want to stay with your boyfriend? Good luck!
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Guys want what they can't have. I have been in this position many times.. You should stick with your BF bc think of the situation the other way around. You wouldn't want your BF kissing all over other girls. I think you should stick with your BF bc all players do is break your heart... Trust me i know </3
Just have an OPEN conversation with your bf.. and what i mean by that is pick a night and be HONEST about EVERYTHING the other ones asks you about. Me and My BF will sit in my room and i will ask him questions and hes completely 100% honest with me and i am the same with him.
We tell each other everything that can build up our relationship .
DO NOT kiss the other guy. He is probably up to NO GOOD anyway. I once dated this guy who talked me into kissing him and the whole time my boyfriend (at the time was) was in on it... So not only did i get dumped, but i felt really bad afterwards... I hope you make the right decision on this one...
But b4 You make your FINALE decision think about how your BF is going to feel if he finds out... I hope this helps and write me back and let me know how things go(:
If you ever need ANYTHING you know where to find me!!(:
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Are you happy in your relationship? If you are then don't do it.
Imagine how your boyfriend would feel if he ever found out that you kissed another guy. What would you do if your boyfriend went and kissed another girl? You'd be hurt wouldn't you?
If a guy tells you to break up with your boyfriend don't you think that's wrong of them to say? If you allow someone to come between you and your boyfriend then you aren't exactly a very good girlfriend. Cheating is not cool, It's wrong and if you can't be faithful then please don't be in a relationship at all.
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Don't cheat on your bf. Trust me. Right now, it sounds fun and exciting and rebellious, but if you go through with it, it's not something that you'll be proud of. You'd have hurt your boyfriend, and kissed a guy who you say is player.
If he really is a player, he doesn't want to kiss you because he likes you. He might claim he loves you, but if he really loved you, he wouldn't ask you to dump your boyfriend for him. He would want you to do what is best for you, and he wouldn't put you through the emotional pain of making such a decision.
Your best bet would be to politely tell him that you're not interested anymore because you need to do what you think is best for you, and cheating on your boyfriend would make you upset.
What you SHOULD do, though, is work on your relationship with your boyfriend. All boys are kissing kind of guys, not just hugging. He just needs to practice a bit and get some confidence.
Kiss your boyfriend instead. And if you need some advice on how to get your boyfriend to be more in the kissing mood, let me know. (:
Update:
If you want to get him more in the kissing mood…
-Make it really clear that you like to kiss, and you really appreciate it when you two do kiss. Since he cares about you, he'll likely learn to like kissing more to make you happy. Maybe to make the both of you happy, start with a hug and then kiss. Or start with a kiss and then hug. Then it's a compromise.
-Make sure that when he does kiss you, you show that you really appreciate it and it means a lot to you. If you're criticizing him or pointing out what he should do while kissing, you'll make the experience something he doesn't want to repeat.
-It could be that he's not confident in his ability to kiss. Or that he's nervous. Again, compliment him so he continues to kiss you. Eventually, he'll learn and he'll improve (:
-Ask him how he wants to be kissed. Just in case he is put off by how you might be kissing him. Not all guys like the same sort of kisses, so, it could be worth asking him about.
-Don't be afraid to make the first move, but don't force him into a kiss either.
-If he's worried about not feeling comforted by it, start slow. Don't begin by making out. Start out with passionate, regular kisses.
-Kiss him hello or goodbye. Even if it's just a peck on the cheek to accustom him to the idea that you want to kiss and you like to be kissed.
Good luck! And if those don't work, I might be able to come up with some more (:
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