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Ok so I have a Bf and we are in a great relationship atm. But currently another guy has been talking to me on MSN. And Im on vacation and the other guy keeps saying he loves me and is asking me to dump my Bf for him. I dont know what to do because the other day, the other guy told me that he's going to kiss me and asked me if I'd kiss him back. I made the mistake of saying sure and I dont wanna cheat on my Bf since he's my first Bf. Plz help i dont know what to do!!! I dont wanna break up with my Bf but I kinda do wanna kiss the other guy (He's the player type) But my Bf isnt a kissing kind of guy, he's more of the hugging type. HELP ME!!! I need advice pronto! I like both but dont wanna break up with my Bf but wanna kiss the other guy :( HELP!!
Don't cheat on your bf. Trust me. Right now, it sounds fun and exciting and rebellious, but if you go through with it, it's not something that you'll be proud of. You'd have hurt your boyfriend, and kissed a guy who you say is player.
If he really is a player, he doesn't want to kiss you because he likes you. He might claim he loves you, but if he really loved you, he wouldn't ask you to dump your boyfriend for him. He would want you to do what is best for you, and he wouldn't put you through the emotional pain of making such a decision.
Your best bet would be to politely tell him that you're not interested anymore because you need to do what you think is best for you, and cheating on your boyfriend would make you upset.
What you SHOULD do, though, is work on your relationship with your boyfriend. All boys are kissing kind of guys, not just hugging. He just needs to practice a bit and get some confidence.
Kiss your boyfriend instead. And if you need some advice on how to get your boyfriend to be more in the kissing mood, let me know. (:
Update:
If you want to get him more in the kissing mood…
-Make it really clear that you like to kiss, and you really appreciate it when you two do kiss. Since he cares about you, he'll likely learn to like kissing more to make you happy. Maybe to make the both of you happy, start with a hug and then kiss. Or start with a kiss and then hug. Then it's a compromise.
-Make sure that when he does kiss you, you show that you really appreciate it and it means a lot to you. If you're criticizing him or pointing out what he should do while kissing, you'll make the experience something he doesn't want to repeat.
-It could be that he's not confident in his ability to kiss. Or that he's nervous. Again, compliment him so he continues to kiss you. Eventually, he'll learn and he'll improve (:
-Ask him how he wants to be kissed. Just in case he is put off by how you might be kissing him. Not all guys like the same sort of kisses, so, it could be worth asking him about.
-Don't be afraid to make the first move, but don't force him into a kiss either.
-If he's worried about not feeling comforted by it, start slow. Don't begin by making out. Start out with passionate, regular kisses.
-Kiss him hello or goodbye. Even if it's just a peck on the cheek to accustom him to the idea that you want to kiss and you like to be kissed.
Good luck! And if those don't work, I might be able to come up with some more (:
Okay my bf birthday is coming up. and there is something on my mind.We do have sex a lot. But I was thinking that maybe in till I'm 18 to(he's 17 right now)we should not do have sex. But I don't know how to tell him this. Because we can only do it in his car and if a cop was to see us they might let us go with a talking to because we were both "kids" and under age. But I don't know what they would do him being 18 and all. And I won't be 18 till May. I don't want to get him trouble or anything.I know he's not even thinking about this because he's not one to hold thing up inside. He would have already said something. I don't know if I'm being a worrier. Or if this is something to think about. And how do I tell him if it is? Help!
As long as you consent and don't plan on suing him, it's legal. You are well past the age of consent-- which is loosely defined to mean that you've hit puberty and you're not in elementary school, basically. So, if you were having sex in his car, the cop could only bust you two for public indecency. Which, you know, isn't ideal, but isn't as bad as charging your boyfriend for statutory rape. So, if car sex is your thing, by all means, go at it and enjoy!
I'm 11 years old in fifth grade (I know I'm young don't say anything about that please) I am a cheerleader and I do softball I have been doing that for a while now but I don't see changes in my body shape I don't eat alot but I'm not on a diet can anyone tell me how long I should exercise a size and how long it will take days weeks months i need answers just to say I'm 5'3 and way 112.2 Im not skinny but slim but all my friend user be fat but they force there sect to throw up I don't want todo that cuz its bad please help..
When I was 12 and in sixth grade, I was 5'3'' and 125 lbs and also played softball. Like you, I was inspired of stories of other girls who had lost weight to be skinnier or prettier. In an effort to fit into my Bat-Mitzvah dress, I decided to take on the habit and become a bulimic.
And now I still am, over five years later.
So, if you can help it, I'd highly recommend seeing a nutritionist or finding other healthier ways to lose weight. Bulimia is a habit that you don't want to get into because once you start, you feel like you have to continue or you can't be the skinny and pretty person that your friends want to be with.
112 lbs is perfect, and is actually my favorite weight to be at. So, stick with it. You're fine, and you'll grow a little more and feel more accustomed to your body.
If you need any more help, message me.
What age do most girls loose their virginity? i am 13 is that ok?
If you can, you ought to wait. Unless you've been in a relationship for a really long time or you sincerely trust the person who you are with, it's best to wait. I lost my virginity at age fifteen but had already been dating the guy I was with for nearly two years. I don't regret it, but if I had had sex with him when I first started dating him at age 13, neither of us would have appreciated it as much or understood how meaningful it could be.
Either way, if you need more advice, let me know. Waiting is hard, and all girls know that.
i'm in 8th grade and have depression. the faculty said i couldn\'t go to school anymore bcuz they can\'t deal with me because i\'m too depressed to function. and if i killed myself, it would b bad on their record. at my school theres alot of kids with depression. it makes no sense. they hav a no child left behind policy and i feel they left a student behind. i don't know wat to do.
Control yourself at school, if you can. If you have cuts, wear bracelets over them. If you're going to cry, wear waterproof makeup. If you can't keep yourself calm in class, ask to go to the bathroom. You can feel however you want, but at school, you need to pretend you're okay if your school isn't willing to work with you.
In middle school I got sent to the office for cuts on my wrists, making myself puke in the girls' bathroom, piercing my own ear, and in high school for burning myself at school.
It's easier if no one at school knows. If they aren't going to help, it's best that they don't know. Get help from your parents and family and friends. Just keep the school out of it.
Do your best, head up, and someday it will get better. Or at least more manageable.
♥
18/f
I used to watch porn on occasion but now I've noticed that I've been wanting to watch it more often. I just feel dirty about it. Should I feel ashamed?
nope. unless you're skipping daily obligations to watch porn, you don't have a problem. most everyone has hornier phases.
21 Female. Boyfriend is 19
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 5 months now. We are so comfortable with each other when it comes to being sexual. He loves everything about me and I love everything about him. We've done just about everything, the only thing we haven't done is him eating me out because I'm not comfortable with that yet.
Anyways, I occasionally will give him a HJ. Some times it takes longer than other times for him to finish. Sometimes I'm thinking 'OMG will you finish already my hand is hurting!' And I know he is enjoying it by how he acts and what he says. I've only given him a BJ twice. The first time he finished and it wasn't that bad. The last time, which was last weekend, I had to stop because my neck was in so much pain & I was getting tired. I have bad neck problems (I go to the chiropractor twice a week) and I was doing it for about 20 min and I said sorry babe I have to be done I'm in pain. He didn't finish that time. I felt SO bad that I didn't make him finish. I offered to try and finish him with a HJ but he said no that was fine. Well that night when I went home I felt really guilty and so I texted him and said 'I feel like such a bad girlfriend for not letting you finish, but I got so tired and my neck was killing me' and he said baby don't worry about it, you're not a bad girlfriend at all I love you and it was still amazing.
I still feel really bad, what if my neck starts hurting the next time I do it and he doesn't finish again? I don't know if I'm doing it wrong or what. He just seems like he takes forever. Is there anything else I can do? I know he is enjoying it and I know what he likes but I don't know what else to do. I'm a little worried now.
Do it the other way around. Start out with an HJ, and then finish him with a BJ. Your neck will tire out a lot quicker than your hand will, and then you're splitting the workload.
Well hey everyone!(:
This is going to happen tomorrow night! So please answer(:
So my really good guy friend said he wanted to have sex with me. He's been flirting a lot lately and has asked a lot. I'm 14 and he's 15 but we have been friends forever! He said cause its a new year I should do something new?! So I agreed and all cause he's nice and stuff and like we've been friends for a while and idk if he's gonna get mad if I say no or something. He also wouldn't stop asking. I'm just worried I won't know what to do cause I'm a virgin and he's not. He said not to use a condom. So can I get pregnant? I don't think I want a baby! That'd be bad. I don't think I can get pregnant because I have two weeks until my period and I heard its the worst time to get pregnant or something. I am also really petite so I don't think I would be able to like have the baby. He also said because its my first time I can't get pregnant. Will I bleed? I don't want to cause I'm scared of blood! Will it hurt during and after? Please answer(: Any other tips/advice/help would be great! I don't know lots about this haha! Thanks!
Thank yaa all(: Please answer(: Don't be rude!
Hey. Sup? I first had sex when I was 15 and my boyfriend was 14. So, I know where you're coming from. And since you say it's going to happen anyways, I won't try to talk you out of it. And since everyone else exhausted every argument out there to get you to think otherwise, I won't bother. So, instead, I'm gonna tell you what you SHOULD do, rather than what you SHOULDN'T do.
If you're going to have sex, use protection. You can get pregnant on your first time, and just because you're small and it's not the best time of month doesn't mean you're safe. And as you said, you don't want a baby.
My first time when I did it was unprotected. That was bad. Even though I didn't end up getting pregnant, I got so worried that maybe I was that I actually got physically sick. It was terrifying. And completely not worth it. It's better to just be safe, because even though it's not quite as awesome for the guy at the time of sex, in the end, it's so much better for your own sanity. Trust me.
And you might bleed. That's just how it goes. But if you do, it likely won't be a lot. I didn't bleed, but some of my friends did. And whether or not you feel pain is about how your body is. Again, I didn't hurt. But some of my friends did.
Tips? Have fun. Don't worry. Be smart. And please, use protection. Being a mama wouldn't be any fun. Plus, babies mean no more sex for a while. And who wants that? Haha
-Erin (female/18)
This guy at school called me a b**** and I was with my friend who happens to be a guy and he fought him but the principle came and they both got suspended. When they were allowed back in school today I told my friend he didn't have to do that, but he said he did it for me and could'nt stand what that guy did to me, then after school he asked me out and told me that he's always like me, I didn't answer him I just said I had to go and kind of ran off. He's a really good friend and I don't want to rruin our friendship, but I think I may like him. I mean we go places and hang out and stuff but I have never considered us more than friends.
PLEASE HELP ! I rate 5's
Tell him next time you see him first apoligize, then tell him that you DO wanna go out, but maybe this time as friends. Be sure to let him know, MAYBE next time you can be more than friends...
ok.. there's my exboyfriend, Nick. and we went out for a pretty long time.. and we broke up because we never say eachother.. now i c him all the time and he still really likes me.. and i kinda still like him. but i like other people 2! and wen ever i go out wit ne1 he freaks out and says i hate him n that i put other people be4 him.. and i care cuz he's a really close friend.. i just got a newbf n nick's upset. wat do i do. so what do i do? please helf!
xoxo
well- first you gotta decide who you like. If you like them both, you obviously dont wanna tell nick its over, because then you cant really get him back. if you want nick, he obviously already likes you. If you choose your other bf, then just tell nick its over. You broke up- the concept of break up means- no longer together. just tell him something to nicely let him know that its over :)
xxmymatrixmanxx
what should i do.... today my boyfriend and i were fighting and i hit him... not to hard but he threw me down on the ground and hit me i think mabey 3 times... not hard... but enough to cut my ear open in 3 places... yea i know messed up... but ive been with him for 3 years and i love him to death and i cant leave him... thats not an option... what should i do?
you obviously cant be mad at him. If he punched you first, im sure you would have done the same thing. I answer every question saying this, but its true!!! you need to talk it out. You need to tell him how the fight is something in the past, something that later we may be able to joke about. You just need a fresh new start. Theres a chance that this wont work, depending on your boyfriend. But- never know till ya try
xxmymatrixmanxx
So. I'm with this guy, and him and I like eachother quite a bit. More than average teenagers, we're not just going out just to go out. But the thing is, his mom is not for us because we live about 45 minutes-1 hour away from one another. And told him that she's been trying to break the two of us up since the very beginning. And so him and I decided to break up, but realized that's not what we wanted, so two days later we got back togeter. And he's not gonna be supported by his mom about him and I until he's 17 (In a year). So I'm not sure if we should be together or not. But everyone says we should. And him and I love eachother very much so I don't think I should end us. Although I only see him about 2 times a month every weekend. So what should I do?
this may not SOUND very helpful, but it is. You just need to ask him what he thinks you should do. Guys always seem to have some advice that makes you know whats right. SO phone him up, visit him, or something :] just do what makes u feel right. If it didnt feel right when you broke up before, maybe its not the right thing to do. Sometimes the RIGHT thing doesnt FEEL right either. So, i still think the most important thing you need to do is talk to him about it :]
Im a single woman (no kids - one dog) recently moved to the area, dont know anyone here. How do I go about meeting Mr Right? How can I actually meet someone who is Genuine, honest, kind, honerable, intelligent with a sense of humour?
Ive tried online dating sites but nothing has come of that. I dont like to go out on my own.
Ive been told that Im attractive, funny, kind, caring, intelligent but if anything that seems to put guys off.
Im not desperate to find a partner - infact Id rather be on my own than go out with someone just for the sake of it. Its just that it would be nice to settle down at some point in time.
Any advice would be helpful
i think u need to make some friends- friends who first of all, know whats going on- and know some guys. second of all, can lead you to places where you can FIND guys. if that doesnt work, you may need to try some more dating programs...
okay so this has been really bothering me *hence, the subject*.. does anyone think it's weird that i'm going to be sixteen and i've never kissed a guy?
heck no! u kiss when u wanna kiss. kidzz these days are way too premature anyways
Im 13 and i really like this guy Brandon and hes a friend of mine but he liked my best friend until she said no when he asked her out. I have a boyfriend but I like Brandon more and hes really cute and i really want him to like me so what should I do? Im also a girl.
well- first you have a PROBLEM... hes not gonna like you cause of your other bf.. your TAKEN
Theres this boy that I met a while back, and I sorta like LOVE him! It's a weird feeling. When I got back that day from meeting him, I started imaginaing marrying him! He was so sweet, caring, and funny!! He was like my perfect boy! The thing is im 13/f and I don't even know if he likes me!! He's 14 and my family only sees his family once or twice a year!! Any advice on this situation?
try calling him a lot- so then he can get to know you a little bit
maybe once he gets to know u- and u get to know him... youll know more about whether or not it will work out
okay... i have a boyfriend named john. but like the thing is that he lives in cleveland and i am texas. well... the other night to be exact on friday night i made out with my ex and then fucked him. it was my first time so it was only like 5 minutes b/c we had to take a break b/c it hurt so bad but then as soon as my cherry was popped we were done b/c it freaked him out b/c he felt it. i love my ex and i THINK i love john but i'm not sure.i know i love my ex but john i just don't know. what should i do?? i want to still be with john but i also want to be with my ex. i want to talk with john about it b/c it was one of those spur of hte moment things. john has also started talking about getting realyl serious like marriage serious and i am only 14! he is 17. btw... both guys are 17.
Right now- i think your desperate for love. i bet if you SAW john again and talked to him in reality- you would totally love him again.. [ thats what happened to me anyways :) ]
i know i didnt help much... but i tried
ok... well i'm really good friends with a lot of guys in my grade... we are really close and two always say they love me and i love them back... but i never thought of it as more then a "plutonic" or friendly love... but i think i started to like one guy then he got a girlfriend and it halfway broke my heart... so then when i met this other guy i automaticly liked him from the start and both these guys were always and still are flirting with me. well they both have girlfriends now and they ignore me now... it's been making me depressed and i don't know what to do??
guy"friends"- so confusing... i think you should wait.. or meet some new guys. I guess your guyfriends decided you didnt make your move fast enough- so they moved on. i think you should check out some more guys.. if this doesnt work.. try engaging "FRIENDLY" conversations with your guy friends.. so then you still dont lose your friends :)
my best friend(sara) has a cousin that has these friends that we always hang out with and sara likes 2 of them (lu and greg). And well me and lu were like alwasy flirting and everything and we got like really close like friend wise, so then one night like 7 of us were gonna go to teh movies and me and lu were talking on the phone that day and he was like it would be really cool if just you and me went to dinner before the movies adn i was like sure that would be so fun! so we went and like the next thing you no we start making-out (alot). So then we went to teh movies and acted like nothing change and after it my friend sara was like lu was flirting with me and i am really starting to like him alot and i was like o cool, when really he wasnt flirting with her at all, so now i dont no what to do and lu is like i cant wait to see you agian when i am not with you i feel soo unhappy and all I can think about is you, and i feel the same way! so i really dont know what to do i would really love it if me and lu could be like public but i cant hurt sara's feelings we have been friends like scince we were in 1st grade! please help i will rate 5s for good answers!
You might need to tell Lu about it- say something like "how can we break this to sara without hurting saras feelings?"
you and Lu could also fake a getting together.. like right after Lu left or something, you could tell sara "Lu was kinda flurting with me.. what do u think?" for all we know, sara may have been noticing this as well. if she says no... then- i really dont know what to do... but if she HAS been noticing it, then you can just say something like ... "maybe we should ask him if he likes anyone" [ keep in mind that Lu knows this is going on.. ] and then Lu would say the truth... and if Lu likes you- Sara really cant be mad @ YOU.. and over time... sara should get over Lu anyways :)
i hoped i helped :)
xxmymatrixmanxx
okay, i really really need help!! this guy and i, were supposidly dating... i like him so much, and he said he liked me... well last night he called and he starting fighting with me over the fact that i never give him a straightforward answer... i dunno what thats supposed to mean, but i always tell him i dont care, and i guess that bothers him... well he told me everything was over... and then told me he was getting sick and needed to take a shower, so i told him to call me back after becasue we needed to talk about this... so he called back like 15mins later and was all calm and he stopped yelling at me... but he was like i hate how you cant tell me exactly what you want, and how you only do stuff to make me happy... im so confused... if theres anybody who can help me witht his please do!! are we still broken up? how can i get him back? what are smoeways i can get over him?? anything will help... but please!! soon! thanks
think of a question u answered with i dont care- or something... i would call him sometime- and say your true answer to the question... something like that, to show him how much you really care :)