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should i let my husband bring in another woman into our relationship
i would like to know wut to do
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It all depends on you.
Are you attracted to other women? Are you attracted to this woman in particular? Is your marriage strong? Have there been good ground rules set up as to what you're comfortable with and what you aren't? Are either of you the jealous type? Is this a one time thing, or is he going to expect it again later?
You have to ask yourself and him these questions. It can be an amazing thing to share your partner, but only if it's right for both of you and your relationship.
If you aren't into women, I would say to just call it quits right there. It wouldn't be a sexy experience for you. It would be awkward and uncomfortable, and just no fun at all. If you're not into this woman, ditto.
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I'm going to agree with Marley22 and Zane in that this is not something you do to please you man.
If you have ever read my views on consensual sex you will see that the operative word is CONSENT. I don't believe anything is strange or weird between two loving adults in the privacy of their bedroom. Just as long as both partners are WILLING PARTICIPANTS.
My definition of willing is: that you agree to what the other wants without reservation, that BOTH agree this is something they both want to do or try. If either partner has any reservation at all then by my definition they are not a willing participant.
If you do not wish to bring a third person in to your bed, be they man or women, then don't. Your unwillingness to do so is the basis for regret afterwards if you do so. When it comes to something so intimate as sex you should never enter into it in any manner that can end with regret. That is a prescription for disaster.
Should you find yourself in a situation where you have no choice but to participate; that is rape, even by your husband.
My advice is if your writing us for advise you have reservations. Then by my advice in sex say no.
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Honey I'm not gonna agree with the rest of the people and say "it's up to you" because you deserve better than that don't do it just because you want to "please" your man NO you are a strong beautiful women who deserves way much better!!
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While others will tell you it's all up to you, I'm going to say No.
I have heard many stories and seen a couple completely fall out from having a 3 some. In fact I recall a couple that were good friends with me and my spouse ended up filing for divorce and they knew the other person pretty well.
Involving another person in your sex lives is a risk, Even if you talk it over and come to an understanding or agreement that it's strictly what it is. Sometimes people develop feelings even without intentions. In my personal opinion your sex life should be between you and your husband and kept that way. Involving someone else is allowing them into your marriage, Your personal life. I would never take that chance, I am not wiling to sacrifice my marriage for my curiosity. Threesomes have been known in the past to destroy relationships between people even without intentions. It can be fun don't get me wrong but everything comes with consequences. Is your marriage worth the risk?
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It is completely your choice. If you don't feel comfortable with it then tell him. The only thing is it might bring problems in your relationship. Hope this helped :)
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