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i dont know what to do
16/f so i have this boyfriend, and he understands about waiting and he always says until your ready when we talk about it. like i really want to have sex with him; but i dont know if i should we have been going out for awhile now. and we would be eachothers first. i really like him but all the boys in my school are like this. they go out with girls for awhile for sex then break up with them after and say like "shes bad" "she needs to clean down there" "i smelt fish" and that happened to my best friend. and i dont know if i should because i want to but i am scard and dont know if hes different. please help!
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First you are still to young to be thinking about having adult sexual relations. While your body is capable of the physical act of sex. You are still needing to mature to the point of accepting the responsibilities that go along with having sexual relations. My use of the word you means any 16 year old, male or female.
Your concern with your boyfriend is very valid. Boy his age are generally a love them and leave them type. Once they get what they want they move on to someone else. Generally it is they got what they wanted and it is time for someone new. Not all boys are this way but the majority of them are.
Worse teenage boys are the biggest gossips ever placed on this earth. They cannot keep a secret. They will tell their best friend(s) that you and him had sex. Next thing you know every boy in school knows as do their girlfriends. You get a reputation you really don't want.
Adult sexual relations are best waited for until you are an adult in a committed relationship. Your present boyfriend is most likely not going to be the person you marry. Especially if you both plan to go to college and different colleges at that.
I may be old enough to be your grandfather, though I remember what it was like to be a teenage boy. Teenage boys goals are to have sex with as many girls as possible. Among them is to find at least one virgin to deflower.
Don't give up your virginity to keep a boyfriend who will in all likelihood leave you once he has taken your virginity. Your virginity is more valuable than that. Save it for a man, an adult who will value this gift when you are older.
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It sounds like you are just not ready. When you are ready you wont have any doubts. If you feel he might do that to you then maybe you should wait. That way you dont get hurt. Good luck
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You are too young to be thinking of having sex, Sure everyone is doing it at your age but it still doesn't make it right. I always tell everyone, If you aren't ready for a possible parenthood then you aren't ready to be having sex. Accidents happen and condoms, birth control are not always guaranteed. I really think you should try and wait as long as you can, Sex is not everything in a relationship. If you are feeling the urge to have sex you can do other things blow job, hand job but you do not have to actually have sex. If you are worried that your boyfriend will go and spread rumors then hun you aren't ready. Sex is something that should be with someone you trust 100%, If you have to second guess his behavior then he might not be the right one. I know it's probably not what you want to hear but wouldn't you rather know for sure then take the risk? Please, Wait until you are entirely sure this is what you want too do. Even just go with I suggested and do other things instead of intercourse. It's way better to be safe then sorry and if you ever do always wear a condom! Don't let some guy talk you otherwise because things are always possible and you don't want a pregnancy at 16 years old.
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