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Is my now ex boyfriend Bi- curious?
My now Ex boyfriend suddenly became suspicious of my where abouts, and even started accusing me of ridiculous things.
So, I went through his phone, and found a number under "18 year old bi guy" in his contact list, and a strange message he sent to an unknown number "Requesting a blow job for $150". The language used in the text indicated he was communicating with a guy.
My ex is a typical Man- a mechanic, loves trail bikes, and hunting. I once told him my gay cousin was coming up too stay and he responded "I fucking hate faggots".
I finally hit him up and he laughed at me, and told me him and his work mates always mess around like that. But Im still suspicious...
What do you guys think?
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Interesting that he all of a sudden became suspicious with you. Sounds like projection to me... he knows he's being unfaithful, so he starts assuming that you are, too.
There are two scenarios that would explain this. Either he's exploring his sexuality and very uncomfortable with it, or he's leading on a guy in hopes of attacking him and beating him up. Someone who's so vehement in their hatred of homosexuality isn't just having a laugh.
Chances are, he's exploring and uncomfortable. My brother-in-law (my husband's twin, actually) is a manly man. He works on a horse farm in the summer, he likes video games, etc. He`s also gay. You`d never know unless you met his husband. He was extremely uncomfortable with his first few relationships with men because of the environment he`d grown up in. In fact, his father told him he`d break both arms if he ever found out that one of the boys was gay (for the record, he didn`t... he`s actually been very accepting). If you`re raised in an environment of intolerance, that`s all that you`re going to know. You can`t change who you are, though, so even if you were raised in an environment where it`s dangerous to be gay, you`re still going to be gay if that`s how you are.
Since he`s your ex now, all you can really do is tell him that you`ll be supportive of whatever lifestyle he leads so long as he`s not putting himself in danger`s way. Get yourself tested because of the possibility that he was cheating on you near the end of your relationship. And never, never think that you `drove` him to be gay!
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It's hard to tell, However if he had a guy under his contacts labeled as (18 year old bi guy) I wouldn't think it was much of a joke. Sounds like the guy may be in denial of his sexuality. Also, To put it out there as I'm sure you are already well aware of the fact that charging someone for a sex act is considered prostitution. Text messages can be traced as once sent it stores data into the cell phone just like a computer stores hidden files in a computer. Deleted or not, The evidence is still there. Would I be concerned? Yes. A guy that messes around with his buddies does not have a contact listed as a bi guy...That right there pretty much says all. You could try talking to him but there is no guarantee he is going to come out willingly and tell you how he feels. The guys response to your cousin is ignorant and says denial in his case.
I'd be suspicious of cheating, Lying....and prostitution. If he can't come clean with how he feels then I would think it over, It's uncool to lead someone on and then lie about it.
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